Since the internet provides people with a certain sense of safety and anonymity, many take this as a chance to be mean or gross.
Model Paige Woolen got a chance to experience this herself. After she started posting bikini photos, many people took it as an invite to slide into her DMs. And while some of the messages were pretty harmless, others were quite disturbing. So, Paige took it all and created the Instagram page "dudes in the dm™," where she exposes what kind of people message her and how she sometimes replies to them.
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If you’re up to date with modern slang, you likely know what "sliding into the DMs" means. Well, if you don’t, let us briefly introduce you to the term.
It’s an act of sending a casual direct message (DM) to someone you have no prior conversation with on social media. Some sources say that it has different functions, from personal reasons to networking and business opportunities. Others, like the Urban Dictionary, say it’s a message with the intention of a hookup. Well, we guess it’s up to everyone to decide for themselves what the key aim is.
She’s clearly doing a successful business id say her dad would be proud.
There are plenty of suggestions online on how the action of sliding into DMs can be done. Here, Cosmopolitan suggests putting some effort into it instead of writing a simple “hey.” For instance, by asking a question or using icebreakers. Of course, being respectful is important too.
Apparently, the latter doesn’t cross the mind of everyone who decides to slide into DMs. Some decide to go with overly stupid jokes, thoughtless remarks, or even straight-up insults. The Instagram page “dudes in the dm™” has plenty of examples of attempts like that.
This page is run by model Paige Woolen. On her account, she likes to post photos in bikinis and lingerie as it makes her feel empowered. Since she started posting these pictures, many people, mostly dudes, hence the account’s name, started messaging her.
While some of the messages were pretty sweet and encouraging or a little funny, others were appalling. So, sometimes Paige answers them and then shares them on the aforementioned account. This way, she raises awareness of how harsh and gross people can be in private messages. She says she shouldn’t be harassed because she posts a photo in a bikini.
It's sad, but quite a lot of men indeed view bikini photos as an invitation, when usually it isn’t. Just as Paige said, she posts them to feel empowered. Other women want to express themselves or boast about their bodies or the fact that they’re on vacation. Even if they post these photos for attention, it doesn’t mean they deserve to be harassed publicly or privately.
So, it’s fun to see the harassers put in their place. That’s why accounts like “dudes in the dm™” are so successful. This one currently has over 78K followers.
Granted, the last post appeared almost a year ago, so the number of followers might not be growing as fast, but it’s still a pretty successful page. Maybe, with time, the account’s owner will start posting again, or perhaps she feels that the account has already served its purpose.
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I think that they are the one that actually needs help
Telltale sign that they’ve never talked to girls irl before…
She was a... perfectly pretty girl? That is sad she thought otherwise
Both of these people sound like idiots, or they at least sound like they need to re-think their ideas of beauty.
looks fine to me. Probably looks fake now, but you do you.
Why do people feel obliged to write means comments they people they know nothing about? I mean come on! I know that’s what social media is all about but really??? Would you say anything that stupid to a person seating next to you at a restaurant?? Cowards feel strong behind a small screen…
Imagine scolding a woman for making money off of guys jerking off to her while also jerking off to her.
I was thinking the same thing. Like the guy who asked if her whore money bought a house. WTF ? It s men like him that enabled her to get that house.
Load More Replies...I think one of my favourite slapdowns that I've seen is from a woman who was streaming some game when a dude told her to go make him a sandwich. She immediately popped off with "i'm going to f#$k your dad and give him a child he'll actually love". I nearly snorted my coffee out of my nose.
One I liked was the young woman (only 18, I think) who had walked to the South Pole. While she was there some bloke messaged her on her Instagram or Twitter that he wasn't impressed and told her to "make me a sammich". Her next post was a photo of her stood in the snow holding a sandwich, with the caption 'Here it is. Fetch it yourself'.
Load More Replies...I think this counts as "owning it". She knows who she is and what she's about, and doesn't care. Why any bloke thinks he can ever score with a woman like this is beyond me.
Some dude from high school told me I got real fat, so I told him that it's because everytime I f****d his Dad, he gave me a cookie.
Adult film actor Sasha Grey is reportedly one of the richest women in her field. She used it to make some quick cash (while indulging in an area she wanted to explore) but invested it very smartly and now travels the world while sharing her experiences online. And, she's a total nerd who has a channel dedicated to playing games. And it's obvious that she doesn't take herself too seriously.
I've had unsolicited d*ck pics sent to me in the past... I usually reply - "My phone zoom function is broken atm so unfortunately I can't see it... My block function works though! 👍😃"
When will people realize other peoples' opinions don't matter? I mean, you're welcome to your opinion. Not gonna change how I live my life though.
Imagine scolding a woman for making money off of guys jerking off to her while also jerking off to her.
I was thinking the same thing. Like the guy who asked if her whore money bought a house. WTF ? It s men like him that enabled her to get that house.
Load More Replies...I think one of my favourite slapdowns that I've seen is from a woman who was streaming some game when a dude told her to go make him a sandwich. She immediately popped off with "i'm going to f#$k your dad and give him a child he'll actually love". I nearly snorted my coffee out of my nose.
One I liked was the young woman (only 18, I think) who had walked to the South Pole. While she was there some bloke messaged her on her Instagram or Twitter that he wasn't impressed and told her to "make me a sammich". Her next post was a photo of her stood in the snow holding a sandwich, with the caption 'Here it is. Fetch it yourself'.
Load More Replies...I think this counts as "owning it". She knows who she is and what she's about, and doesn't care. Why any bloke thinks he can ever score with a woman like this is beyond me.
Some dude from high school told me I got real fat, so I told him that it's because everytime I f****d his Dad, he gave me a cookie.
Adult film actor Sasha Grey is reportedly one of the richest women in her field. She used it to make some quick cash (while indulging in an area she wanted to explore) but invested it very smartly and now travels the world while sharing her experiences online. And, she's a total nerd who has a channel dedicated to playing games. And it's obvious that she doesn't take herself too seriously.
I've had unsolicited d*ck pics sent to me in the past... I usually reply - "My phone zoom function is broken atm so unfortunately I can't see it... My block function works though! 👍😃"
When will people realize other peoples' opinions don't matter? I mean, you're welcome to your opinion. Not gonna change how I live my life though.