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Wife Asks Her Husband To Turn Down “Dream Job” For The Sake Of Her Career, Or She’ll Divorce Him
Wife Asks Her Husband To Turn Down “Dream Job” For The Sake Of Her Career, Or She’ll Divorce Him
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Wife Asks Her Husband To Turn Down “Dream Job” For The Sake Of Her Career, Or She’ll Divorce Him

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It’s quite a challenge to maintain a happy relationship with someone or even create a family and to have a full-on career. Having it all is not always easy, but for most of us, the help from our friends and family help us to keep moving on. But what to do if one day your significant other decides that their career is more important than your relationship?

This situation occurred to one Reddit user who asked whether she did the right thing by asking her husband not to go for this job opportunity because it would put her whole career at risk. The woman was very stingy with details about what she does and where but it only makes it sound more serious about how important her work is.

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    Dream jobs are important, but this woman wants to know if they are more important than family

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    The main concern in this situation was focused on her husband who decided to go work for a company that is her workplace competitor. Since the user works with sensitive information, she knows that if her workplace does a background check on her and finds out that her husband works at that certain company, it would be the end of her career. Of course, she explained the situation to her husband and asked him not even apply, but he did exactly the opposite of what was asked and of course, was offered the position.

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    Woman who has a successful carrier wants to know if she’s being right for not letting her husband to take his “Dream Job” because it may sabotage her career

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    Even before the situation escalated to him almost accepting the job, the wife already warned the husband that in case he agrees with taking the job, they will have to have a divorce, as she cannot risk losing her whole career when he can simply work for some other company. The husband didn’t understand this at all and called her selfish and carrying only about the money. He got into her head so bad that she asked people on Reddit to help her understand whether she really did a horrible thing by raising an ultimatum to her husband: either he accepts this job and loses her or shuts down the proposal and stays in the marriage.

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    The story got 35.3k points and 5.9k comments saying that she is being right for standing up for herself and something she was working on her whole life. One of the users brought up an interesting point about how the company that was about to hire her husband actually wants him just because of her being in a valuable position at her workplace.

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    No doubt that there are very different ways on how people manage to combine their family life with work in this sense. Some couples are happy to work together in the same field, some manage to be together not only as a family but as work partners too. I guess we can only be glad for those who manage to stay together through it all. But what is the right thing to do when family interests separate from your work goals?
    If you have any thoughts on how to work these kinds of situations in a less painful way, share your ideas in the comments!

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    Reddit users sharing their thoughts on the matter and it ‘s not something the husband would want to hear

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    ZombieGirl
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was ready to take husband's side when I read the headline...but the wife actually has very good reason for her "demands". It's amazing that her company will help her with her legal fees. The husband calls her heartless and selfish, but it is actually him that is......in my opinion at least

    Hooked
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Upvote ! One thing these headlines have taught me is to read the article. Never thought myself to be a quick judger but oh boy I am. The lady was right to be upset, and if the guy's reaction as portrayed accurately, she made the only correct choice

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    Commander Rex
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA, you set boundaries, he violated them, need I say further?

    Parmeisan
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sure what dukethedog said as he's already deleted it, but good on both of you for admitting your comments were rash/hostile and disagreeing politely. :)

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    huckleberry finn
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whoever wrote this title please fix it it's so misleading

    qwerty
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True, it makes her come off as shallow and selfish. It's a lot more complex than that.

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    Manuela Martins
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He knew exactly that going behind his wife's back was not correct and did it anyway. Whether you have to get divorced because of something like that depends on the people involved, but a breach of trust like that would be hard to repair anyway. It is not wrong to invest in oneself in a marriage, but him being willing to f*** up his marriage over a job shows that the woman is better off without him anyway.

    Mimi M
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And he snuck behind her back, even when she told him exactly how it would torpedo her entire career. Yuck.

    Catherine Kane
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    not only her career but their collective income. his income from a job he didn't actually have would not be enough

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    Truth Monster
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    4 years ago

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    I get he's probably emasculated by her having the breadwinning role, but sabotaging her is in no way acting out of love. He needs to work with her, not against her.

    Otter
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you're right, this is an idiotic, passive-aggressive, shitty way to deal with his feelings.

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    Stille20
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He has prioritized his job over his wife and their financial stability. If it is more important for him take the "dream job" then splitting up is the only logical solution.

    Shelli Aderman
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA at all! Women have been secondary to men in their careers for SO long, it’s really heartless of him to do that to her! And also? Am I the only one wondering what she does? 🤫

    Aeon Flux
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am! I was thinking, "What's if she's CIA and the KGB wants him?!"

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    Amber Womack
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's complaining that she is prioritizing her career over their relationship, what does he think he is doing, and he doesn't even have the job. If this is how he treats her she is better off without him. If it is not this situation it will be something worse in the future qnd by that point they could be 8n deeper, with children involved. Get out NOW!

    denzoren
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like this is a conversation they needed to have earlier. Like, for him to get the offer, he applied. In a situation like this there should have been a "no no" list of places to apply, given her job. I feel like this is a combination of many things at once. I'm not disagreeing with her in anyway, I know what it's like to work in a very specialized field, but I feel like this just took a really bad turn, you know. She isn't wrong, he didn't want to meet her halfway...it's a lot of factors at play.

    Leodavinci
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Regardless... he's a jerk. IMO, he's intentionally trying to get her to stop working. Either by forcing her to quit or getting her fired. Considering her other conditions, this would make her utterly dependent on him.

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    ZombieGirl
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was ready to take husband's side when I read the headline...but the wife actually has very good reason for her "demands". It's amazing that her company will help her with her legal fees. The husband calls her heartless and selfish, but it is actually him that is......in my opinion at least

    Hooked
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Upvote ! One thing these headlines have taught me is to read the article. Never thought myself to be a quick judger but oh boy I am. The lady was right to be upset, and if the guy's reaction as portrayed accurately, she made the only correct choice

    Load More Replies...
    Commander Rex
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA, you set boundaries, he violated them, need I say further?

    Parmeisan
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sure what dukethedog said as he's already deleted it, but good on both of you for admitting your comments were rash/hostile and disagreeing politely. :)

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    huckleberry finn
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whoever wrote this title please fix it it's so misleading

    qwerty
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True, it makes her come off as shallow and selfish. It's a lot more complex than that.

    Load More Replies...
    Manuela Martins
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He knew exactly that going behind his wife's back was not correct and did it anyway. Whether you have to get divorced because of something like that depends on the people involved, but a breach of trust like that would be hard to repair anyway. It is not wrong to invest in oneself in a marriage, but him being willing to f*** up his marriage over a job shows that the woman is better off without him anyway.

    Mimi M
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And he snuck behind her back, even when she told him exactly how it would torpedo her entire career. Yuck.

    Catherine Kane
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    not only her career but their collective income. his income from a job he didn't actually have would not be enough

    Load More Replies...
    Truth Monster
    Community Member
    4 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    I get he's probably emasculated by her having the breadwinning role, but sabotaging her is in no way acting out of love. He needs to work with her, not against her.

    Otter
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you're right, this is an idiotic, passive-aggressive, shitty way to deal with his feelings.

    Load More Replies...
    Stille20
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He has prioritized his job over his wife and their financial stability. If it is more important for him take the "dream job" then splitting up is the only logical solution.

    Shelli Aderman
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA at all! Women have been secondary to men in their careers for SO long, it’s really heartless of him to do that to her! And also? Am I the only one wondering what she does? 🤫

    Aeon Flux
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am! I was thinking, "What's if she's CIA and the KGB wants him?!"

    Load More Replies...
    Amber Womack
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's complaining that she is prioritizing her career over their relationship, what does he think he is doing, and he doesn't even have the job. If this is how he treats her she is better off without him. If it is not this situation it will be something worse in the future qnd by that point they could be 8n deeper, with children involved. Get out NOW!

    denzoren
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like this is a conversation they needed to have earlier. Like, for him to get the offer, he applied. In a situation like this there should have been a "no no" list of places to apply, given her job. I feel like this is a combination of many things at once. I'm not disagreeing with her in anyway, I know what it's like to work in a very specialized field, but I feel like this just took a really bad turn, you know. She isn't wrong, he didn't want to meet her halfway...it's a lot of factors at play.

    Leodavinci
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Regardless... he's a jerk. IMO, he's intentionally trying to get her to stop working. Either by forcing her to quit or getting her fired. Considering her other conditions, this would make her utterly dependent on him.

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