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Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It’ll Make Your Skin Crawl

Leaving an abusive partner is one of the most difficult choices a victim can make, but for some, telling their story afterwards is even harder. This woman decided to break the silence and share hers, and she’s been met with a viral round of applause.

The woman, an Imgur user who goes by the screen name krissykross, used screenshots of text conversations and written anecdotes to tell the world about ‘Adam,’ her physically, sexually and emotionally abusive ex-husband. “Strangers on the internet are better than keeping it inside for so long,” she wrote about her decision to open up 3 years after the end of it all. Her post has now been viewed over 600 thousand times, and has received an outpouring of support from commentators. “I upvoted because this is insanity and should be seen by more. Glad you’re okay,” one user wrote.

Though this woman was able to escape from her ordeal, it’s estimated by The Huffington Post that at least 3 women are killed by intimate partners each day in the US – over 1 thousand per year. Stories of survival are crucial for current victims who may be afraid to find help, and who may even still be unaware that they’re being abused. Read how krissykross found a way out of her toxic marriage below.

One brave woman decided to share the story of her abusive husband, showing some texts he had sent:

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“This is a good example of strings of texts I would get at work while on shift (I am not allowed my phone on the clock.)”

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“Tony was a coworker. I knew when he clocked off because it was when I was clocking on. Fella helped me change my tire one time and I was suddenly banging him (apparently.)”

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“I stayed the night with a female friend from work. He knew because he “set traps” for me”

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“I visit my mother one every couple years. I had a huge bruise on my arm from where my husband had bit me, leaving visible teeth marks. The bruise was so bad it hung around for almost a month. Long enough for a visit to my mothers and to still be photographed by NCIS when I finally turned him several weeks later.”

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She continued to share her whole story:

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If you or someone you love needs help, don’t be afraid. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233

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SusanS 7 years ago

Hardest part of domestic violence and abuse is that it is a slow and steady indoctrination into that world. Clearly if this man acted like that early on in the dating, she would not have moved forward. Even now, after all that, she refers to him as "kind, loving man" and she takes the responsibility on her shoulders for losing weight as the trigger point. That man was neither kind or loving. He was most likely an abuser from very early on blaming his actions on her behavior, and she thought she had some control, she didn't. His parents didn't see his behavior as criminal or abusive - probably mirroring their relationship. Leaving an abusive relationship is very hard. Even more so when there are children involved. The abuser will in a lot of instances be granted access to the children, and the children become the portals to continue to abuse, and or victims themselves. Then those children in turn are at risk to continuing the abusive patterns.

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Cesi Baca 7 years ago

That's a good point. Kind and loving people don't just flip and become abusers after someone loses weight. They were abusers from the start just not as overtly.

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Racquel Morr 7 years ago

So many pass judgement not realizing this. If my ex had revealed that side to me before we got married I would have NEVER even looked in his direction let alone married him.

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Lovely Dardompre 7 years ago

Yes ur certainly ryt about all that...hopefully she sees now that none of this was her fault...he has serious issues he needs to deal w

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lakitha tolbert 7 years ago

☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾Exactly! He was a suite when he met her, and because she was an overweight woman he planned to manipulate and abuse her when he got with her because he saw her as vulnerable. Some abusers like to pick women they think have low self esteem due to health issues, mental disabilities, or weight problems. They were always abusive, and planned to be that way Just looking for the "correct" victim.

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jevais 7 years ago

It's normal when you're a young couple to be hit and bashed about by your husband!? This what replied her husband's father who is a Pasteur???!!!! What kind of a father in law says such awful things to his daughter in law?!!! Her inlaws are mad as is her ex-husband. Shame on a man who is the head of a church. What kind of bible has he studied or not?! In what world does he live in this horrid man. F Son like father! It's OK to hit women since when? What kind of upbringing have these two men received?! This poor lady will phycological scares for the rest of her life. No can get over abuse, whether is done by one's parents, friend, or spouse. This young lady can be very proud of herself and I wish her the very best in life.

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Stacey Anastacia 7 years ago

She didn't say he was kind and loving, it was the people who were testifying for him

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Violaine LB 7 years ago

That was so brave to finally leave, because I guess many victims would be terrified about not being believed, not managing to leave, and them being "punished" by the violent partner when they find out they told someone what was going on. It's such a sad thing to go through and I can't believe she was told it was "normal" by her father in law. If I was being abusive, my mother would be the first to tell me I had a problem and need help to find ways to solve my own issues instead of being abusive and violent towards someone else.

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lakitha tolbert 7 years ago

When my sister was going through her abusive relationship with her now ex-husband, my mom and I kept with her about getting away from him. Never leading her to believe what was happening to her was safe or normal, and she should consider her life and her kids lives. We eventually succeeded in convincing her to divorce him. But he tried it. Tried separating her from us, and threatening us, and so forth. But no! We were trying to save my sisters life. He didn't stand a chance.

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Pete Barnes 7 years ago

Please just ignore "Robert Johnson". He's nothing but a troll, and all signs say he has a tiny d**k-that's his problem, not this brave woman's story. Poor guy. I wonder how long he's been single?

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Elina Kuusisto 7 years ago

Omg, this is so powerful! Thank you for sharing your story.

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SusanS 7 years ago

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Cesi Baca 7 years ago

That's a good point. Kind and loving people don't just flip and become abusers after someone loses weight. They were abusers from the start just not as overtly.

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Racquel Morr 7 years ago

So many pass judgement not realizing this. If my ex had revealed that side to me before we got married I would have NEVER even looked in his direction let alone married him.

12points

Lovely Dardompre 7 years ago

Yes ur certainly ryt about all that...hopefully she sees now that none of this was her fault...he has serious issues he needs to deal w

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lakitha tolbert 7 years ago

4points

jevais 7 years ago

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Stacey Anastacia 7 years ago

She didn't say he was kind and loving, it was the people who were testifying for him

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Violaine LB 7 years ago

53points

lakitha tolbert 7 years ago

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Pete Barnes 7 years ago

Please just ignore "Robert Johnson". He's nothing but a troll, and all signs say he has a tiny d**k-that's his problem, not this brave woman's story. Poor guy. I wonder how long he's been single?

3points