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Disabled People Are Sharing The Most Adorable Ways Their Partners Show Them Love And It Will Warm Your Heart
Imani Barbarin in a Paris-based activist who often draws attention to the problems that people with disabilities face, encouraging everyone to face them with a positive attitude. Recently, Imani has started one of the most heartwarming initiatives on Twitter. Under the hashtag #YouCanLoveMeButYouCantHoldMyHand, the woman asked people with various physical and mental illnesses, “What are some of the physical ways your partner makes you feel loved that are different from the way abled people show love?”
"I actually am disabled. I was born with cerebral palsy," Barbarin told Bored Panda. "I asked the question initially out of a desire to see more romances involving disabled characters and realized that to represent disabled romances correctly, the 'regular' romantic signifiers wouldn't apply. For instance, because I walk with crutches and use my hands heavily to get around, I can't hold hands in public spaces, but I'm just one person with a disability so I decided to post the question online."
"I think the love and companionship that disabled people need and desire is the same, it just manifests itself in different ways," Imani added. "Too often, we portray loving someone disabled as burdensome, but the people who have responded are joyous in the way they show they care. That's uplifting to see."
She thinks that the reason why so many people have resonated with the post has a lot to do with loneliness. "These stories are those of hope. We can be loved the way we are and the right person will make us feel more at home in our own skin."
"I specifically want disabled people to be hopeful in reading these stories. I want them to know, myself included, that we aren't a burden or abnormal to love.
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Isabel Care 6 years ago
I don't drop stuff, I just have a personal poltergeist following me around. Bought pretty plastic "glasses" so they bounce when dropped, less to clean up
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Raela beebe 6 years ago
Could be a sensory disorder. I had a friend when I was little who couldn't be touched a lot when she was a kid, I had to be really careful. She's gotten better with it over the years but if She's anxious unless you know her like I do it's hard to know when It's ok to touch her.
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Jacqui Baker 6 years ago
I usually just throw up anything I've taken for the pain but live with codeine/paracetamol tabs on my bedside cabinet , my hubby will get a bucket and put it on a towel next to the bed for me cause he knows any sudden movements (like a run to the loo) make me worse.
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katboxjanitor 6 years ago
Love and gratitude is not 'little' and neither is your expression of appreciation.
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Amanda Raynes 6 years ago
Thats so nice i am heat sensitive with my heart and my man acts like it is new to him constantly
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Sven Mom 6 years ago
I have undiagnosed neuro disorder. My left side sometimes jerks ans pills upward. My typically PASSIVE husband about came over the cart when people in line at Wally World check out were imitating and mocking me behind my back. Was especially proud to have him at my side that day. He is always there for me despite his own pain, missing one leg and preparing to have the other one removed.
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Amanda Raynes 6 years ago
I get left with kids and he looks at me crazy when i suggest he even leave the room. My heart is bad and i am stating to see he just doesnt care
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BarryAllenTheFlash 6 years ago
That is so sweet! It sounds like you guys support each other through a lot.
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Caroline Espenschied 6 years ago
It's good that you hear "I love you" when he says "Did you take your meds ?"... :-)
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Lisa DeJarnette 6 years ago
Me too about being a zombie. Lol. But that just sounds so nice, sweet,kind,reassuring and would make me feel safe and very loved. You're Blessed. Remember that on bad days may help. God Bless <3
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Liz Morea 6 years ago
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Hiroki Shimizu 6 years ago
I was recently diagnosed with a painful, chronic disease, and my fiancee has been amazing. He gets things for me all the time, takes care of pretty much all the cleaning and cooking now, pushes me when I have to use a wheelchair, and has been late to work so he could pick up my medications. The most important thing he does, though, is hold me and calm me down as I process the fact that this is my life now. He reminds me of the things I can do when I feel useless, tells me how strong I am still, and that this is just the beginning- I have options, and together we will find whatever treatment works.
Monica Michelle 6 years ago
My husband waits for me to ask me to get wheelchair pushes. He praises me for all the things I do in a day even if it was one thing. He tells me Every night all the things that he loves about me. BTW we will both completely say we lucked out with each other
InwardSignificance 6 years ago
They are very lucky to have such partners and it's sweet to see that they appreciate it a lot. Although i think the majority of us handicapped people usually don't have that much luck in love.These day's it's difficult to find a partner even if you're 'normal', you can imagine how hard it is for people like us than.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Watch the tv series 'Love on the spectrum', it has some great true stories about people on the Autism spectrum dating, both other people with disabilities and ones who don't
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BoredDragonfly 6 years ago
My SO helps me in every way possible. He does all the housework and cooking while he works and I can't work or study and am at home all day. The only thing I do is the laundry. If I can do more, I will, but he takes the rest on his shoulders. When I had had an incredible tremor attack/episode and can't do anything for 1 - 2 weeks after and he needs to work, he makes sure there is food and drinks in my reach. So I do not have to go get it myself downstairs. And then also does the laundry. He never pushes my wheelchair because I want to do it myself, but if I ask, he's happy to push me. I don't have to tell him when I'm not okay, he knows / feels it. And asks me if I want to talk or what he can do. He knew from the start what he was getting in to. So I am very grateful he wanted and still wants to be with me, despite all the things he can't do because of me. For example, travel. And long hugs, every day! I love him endlessly!
Tor Rolf Strøm 6 years ago
These are all nice and stuff, but I gotta say, a lot of them seem kind of obvious. Like something everyone should do. But you can't expect too much from people I guess.
Caroline Espenschied 6 years ago
Of course, in a perfect world, everyone would do everything for others as for themselves. But we live in an imperfect, YET BEAUTIFUL, world. So, a little appreciation of simple niceness goes a long way. And I bet that seeing the glass half full would make you happier too. Besides, if we never notice and appreciate other people's niceness, they soon stop being nice...
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Caroline Espenschied 6 years ago
This thread has led me to ask my SO which of my little gestures he perceived as daily love. He said it was the yogurt he gets every morning at breakfast : every morning he finds a yogurt at his place although myself i'm not having one. He said "You don't have to give me one, I could get it out of the fridge myself, but every morning you put it on the table for me." I was startled, it's soooo nothing fo me. My conclusion is that what makes it a love gesture for him is that I don't have to do it, yet I do it anyway. Kind of a gift. Tomorrow, I'll ask him what I used to do that he loved and I don't do anymore. I want to love him well :-)
The Archer Frog 6 years ago
I wish I could find a guy like this. I'm disabled, with one that people (even bfs) take advantage of. I have a spinal disability where, if someone taps or presses my back, I lurch forwards and fall down, sometimes not able to move for a minute. It's even worse due to having a leg inturned, so it's hard to get up. Dang, I guess in my case, it's too easy to take advantage of me, due to some phobias and mental disabilities. At least some people actually try to help, instead of hurt! I just wish some people like that were in my area!
Lisa DeJarnette 6 years ago
Niall Mac Iomera. We do WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. .... but then there is this thing called reality. And that usually mean that a disabled person is gonna cause the nondisabled s/o more of everything. Work. Compassion. Understanding. Verbalization of your love Care. Doctors Visits Help. Well really you could go on for quite a while and the list will vary between all. Everyone is an original even if they have the same disease or disability. These story's show love for doing those things. Gratitude is a Great thing to feel and a great thing to show and a wonderful thing to voice. You may be nice and kind and compassionate and WILLING to do these things for someone you love. But mate you are a rarity. A gem. A pearl. A wonderful human being. And that in itself is very rare today. If you've noticed this human world has become extremely inhumane. Thanks for being you. I pray that you find your special one to care for and to be care by <3. Lis
Lisa DeJarnette 6 years ago
Tor Rolf Strom seeing a glass full is not just bs for stupid people when you really think about it. It is up to you how you perceive the things that happen in your life. You can stand stomp cry and do nothing to change your situation or you can see the glass half full and know there is a way to deal positively to change whatever the outcome is going to be. We receive whatever we believe that we are going to receive. I swear. Positive thoughts are extremely important especially if you have a disability. It's what puts us back on even ground with those who do not have any disabilities. I think that you really need to get a smaller glass and dump the contents of the 1/2 full glass into it. So you will know and believe that your personal glass is always full or even overflowing. It will help I promise. <3lis
gannem 6 years ago
He, He, He, most of the stories were about men helping women, this is suspicious
Laura Athena 6 years ago
Maybe it's more likely for women to share stories about their partners on social media, ever think of that?
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Aishwarya Lahiri 6 years ago
I was battling depression when I just stopped eating. I lost like 15 kg in a month. Became a skeleton with skin. My then-boyfriend (now husband and father of our daughter) practically force fed me boiled eggs. He dressed it with mustard and what not. I was in such a bad place that I doubted our relationship. But no matter how hurt he Was, he still made me drop that knife while on phone. If he wasn't there, if he didn't help, I wouldn't have been here today.
BoredDragonfly 6 years ago
Not at all. Having a relationship with someone who is disabled often means much(!) more work for the non-disabled person in the relationship. In housework and taking care of the other person. Not every person is willing to do this. Because it means 1: working from home so you can take care of your SO. Or 2: working at work, but having to do much more or all housework after work, and taking care of your SO. While sometimes the SO (the disabled person in this case) can not even work. So the so is home all day. But despite that, you have to do everything. If you truly love someone, of course you’ll do it. But not everyone is willing to go into such a relationship. No matter how nice and loving that person is. Or it can mean the end of a relationship when the SO gets disabled during the relationship. Of course the amount of housework and care varies from person to person.
Load More Replies... Hiroki Shimizu 6 years ago
I was recently diagnosed with a painful, chronic disease, and my fiancee has been amazing. He gets things for me all the time, takes care of pretty much all the cleaning and cooking now, pushes me when I have to use a wheelchair, and has been late to work so he could pick up my medications. The most important thing he does, though, is hold me and calm me down as I process the fact that this is my life now. He reminds me of the things I can do when I feel useless, tells me how strong I am still, and that this is just the beginning- I have options, and together we will find whatever treatment works.
Monica Michelle 6 years ago
My husband waits for me to ask me to get wheelchair pushes. He praises me for all the things I do in a day even if it was one thing. He tells me Every night all the things that he loves about me. BTW we will both completely say we lucked out with each other
InwardSignificance 6 years ago
They are very lucky to have such partners and it's sweet to see that they appreciate it a lot. Although i think the majority of us handicapped people usually don't have that much luck in love.These day's it's difficult to find a partner even if you're 'normal', you can imagine how hard it is for people like us than.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Watch the tv series 'Love on the spectrum', it has some great true stories about people on the Autism spectrum dating, both other people with disabilities and ones who don't
Load More Replies... BoredDragonfly 6 years ago
My SO helps me in every way possible. He does all the housework and cooking while he works and I can't work or study and am at home all day. The only thing I do is the laundry. If I can do more, I will, but he takes the rest on his shoulders. When I had had an incredible tremor attack/episode and can't do anything for 1 - 2 weeks after and he needs to work, he makes sure there is food and drinks in my reach. So I do not have to go get it myself downstairs. And then also does the laundry. He never pushes my wheelchair because I want to do it myself, but if I ask, he's happy to push me. I don't have to tell him when I'm not okay, he knows / feels it. And asks me if I want to talk or what he can do. He knew from the start what he was getting in to. So I am very grateful he wanted and still wants to be with me, despite all the things he can't do because of me. For example, travel. And long hugs, every day! I love him endlessly!
Tor Rolf Strøm 6 years ago
These are all nice and stuff, but I gotta say, a lot of them seem kind of obvious. Like something everyone should do. But you can't expect too much from people I guess.
Caroline Espenschied 6 years ago
Of course, in a perfect world, everyone would do everything for others as for themselves. But we live in an imperfect, YET BEAUTIFUL, world. So, a little appreciation of simple niceness goes a long way. And I bet that seeing the glass half full would make you happier too. Besides, if we never notice and appreciate other people's niceness, they soon stop being nice...
Load More Replies... Caroline Espenschied 6 years ago
This thread has led me to ask my SO which of my little gestures he perceived as daily love. He said it was the yogurt he gets every morning at breakfast : every morning he finds a yogurt at his place although myself i'm not having one. He said "You don't have to give me one, I could get it out of the fridge myself, but every morning you put it on the table for me." I was startled, it's soooo nothing fo me. My conclusion is that what makes it a love gesture for him is that I don't have to do it, yet I do it anyway. Kind of a gift. Tomorrow, I'll ask him what I used to do that he loved and I don't do anymore. I want to love him well :-)
The Archer Frog 6 years ago
I wish I could find a guy like this. I'm disabled, with one that people (even bfs) take advantage of. I have a spinal disability where, if someone taps or presses my back, I lurch forwards and fall down, sometimes not able to move for a minute. It's even worse due to having a leg inturned, so it's hard to get up. Dang, I guess in my case, it's too easy to take advantage of me, due to some phobias and mental disabilities. At least some people actually try to help, instead of hurt! I just wish some people like that were in my area!
Lisa DeJarnette 6 years ago
Niall Mac Iomera. We do WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. .... but then there is this thing called reality. And that usually mean that a disabled person is gonna cause the nondisabled s/o more of everything. Work. Compassion. Understanding. Verbalization of your love Care. Doctors Visits Help. Well really you could go on for quite a while and the list will vary between all. Everyone is an original even if they have the same disease or disability. These story's show love for doing those things. Gratitude is a Great thing to feel and a great thing to show and a wonderful thing to voice. You may be nice and kind and compassionate and WILLING to do these things for someone you love. But mate you are a rarity. A gem. A pearl. A wonderful human being. And that in itself is very rare today. If you've noticed this human world has become extremely inhumane. Thanks for being you. I pray that you find your special one to care for and to be care by <3. Lis
Lisa DeJarnette 6 years ago
Tor Rolf Strom seeing a glass full is not just bs for stupid people when you really think about it. It is up to you how you perceive the things that happen in your life. You can stand stomp cry and do nothing to change your situation or you can see the glass half full and know there is a way to deal positively to change whatever the outcome is going to be. We receive whatever we believe that we are going to receive. I swear. Positive thoughts are extremely important especially if you have a disability. It's what puts us back on even ground with those who do not have any disabilities. I think that you really need to get a smaller glass and dump the contents of the 1/2 full glass into it. So you will know and believe that your personal glass is always full or even overflowing. It will help I promise. <3lis
gannem 6 years ago
He, He, He, most of the stories were about men helping women, this is suspicious
Laura Athena 6 years ago
Maybe it's more likely for women to share stories about their partners on social media, ever think of that?
Load More Replies... Aishwarya Lahiri 6 years ago
I was battling depression when I just stopped eating. I lost like 15 kg in a month. Became a skeleton with skin. My then-boyfriend (now husband and father of our daughter) practically force fed me boiled eggs. He dressed it with mustard and what not. I was in such a bad place that I doubted our relationship. But no matter how hurt he Was, he still made me drop that knife while on phone. If he wasn't there, if he didn't help, I wouldn't have been here today.
BoredDragonfly 6 years ago
Not at all. Having a relationship with someone who is disabled often means much(!) more work for the non-disabled person in the relationship. In housework and taking care of the other person. Not every person is willing to do this. Because it means 1: working from home so you can take care of your SO. Or 2: working at work, but having to do much more or all housework after work, and taking care of your SO. While sometimes the SO (the disabled person in this case) can not even work. So the so is home all day. But despite that, you have to do everything. If you truly love someone, of course you’ll do it. But not everyone is willing to go into such a relationship. No matter how nice and loving that person is. Or it can mean the end of a relationship when the SO gets disabled during the relationship. Of course the amount of housework and care varies from person to person.
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