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Teen Struggles To Keep It Together After Medical Diagnosis, Mom Threatens To Get Rid Of Pets
Being a single mom is a lot of work, so it’s not entirely unreasonable to ask your kids to step in a bit if they are old enough. After all, learning to do chores and help maintain your space is also an important part of growing up, a skill that comes in handy when you are living on your own. But at the same time, even a teen still isn’t an adult, with adult responsibilities.
A woman asked if she was wrong for telling her teen daughter to keep up with her chores even though she was recently distraught by a medical diagnosis. We reached out to the woman who made the post via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
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But one single mom ended up in conflict with her teenage daughter after being more strict about her chores
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A type 1 diabetes diagnosis comes with a lot of lifestyle changes
For those who are unaware, type 1 diabetes is generally more common among children and adolescents. Symptoms include high blood sugar and frequent urination. However, generally, there are more issues, including blurred vision and skin infections, all of which make it a pretty hard condition to deal with, particularly for children.
Normally, type 1 diabetes is managed through an injection or an insulin pump, often multiple times a day. To make it worse, the dosage can change, based on food intake, blood glucose levels, and physical activity. So now the child has to keep track of all these things throughout the day while still trying to go about their daily activities.
It’s no wonder that the adjustment period can be difficult and stressful. The daughter is already suffering from the symptoms of the condition, and has to now manage her own injections, which include figuring out the right dosage, all while being asked to keep up with a bunch of household tasks.
While the mom’s position is perhaps understandable, after all, household tasks need to get done, it’s important that she is more understanding. Her daughter now needs to keep track of what she eats for the rest of her life and she has to always be aware of her insulin supply. There is evidence that there is a very real increase in kid’s stress levels as a result.
The mom missed a crucial opportunity to be there for her daughter
From the mom’s language, it does seem like she doesn’t quite grasp the stress her daughter is under and has not made adequate plans to help her ease into her new lifestyle. This is important, because it’s just not as simple as her taking some medication, she needs a lot of support early in the process. No health change of this magnitude is an easy adjustment.
This isn’t to say the mom doesn’t have a lot to do herself, with pets and other kids, but getting her oldest daughter back on her feet should have been the priority. Teens are quick to learn and are resilient, but they still need support, particularly with something as scary as a major medical diagnosis. This is a long term issue that needs to be managed and supported.
Instead, making threats and demands only aggravates her stress and makes her daughter feel like she doesn’t have a friend or ally at home at a time when she really needs it. This is perhaps why the commenters had very mixed feelings about this story, with the vast majority siding against the mom.
Many people thought the mom was too harsh
A few thought both of them needed to work it out
Some commenters saw the mom’s side of things
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Daniel Atkins 7 hours ago (edited)
All the yta people missed are unaware that this isn’t just two animals it is 6. Some of which the daughter took a job to help pay the expenses. This was a condition of them getting some of the pets. The op said they understood their daughter not having a job. The op is at her limit all she is wanting is for the daughter to help with the animals and to start taking a little responsibility. Yes it is a bad situation but the responsibility doesn’t stop. It is not fair to the animals or the op. If the daughter wanted the animals she should take care of them. Yes she may be depressed but this is not an excuse that means she does nothing. If she won’t take care of a little responsibility then the animals should go elsewhere for their and the family’s well being too.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
I'm not 17 (being 17 is difficult, I remember it well) but a chronic illness is not an excuse to neglect one's responsibilities towards helpless living beings that are completely dependent on you for their care (be they animals or human babies/toddlers.) I went through a REALLY rough patch before I finally left my ex (tl;dr I've struggled with chronic depression all my life, but I had a REALLY bad breakdown and became suicidal.) However, I have four pets, two cats and two dogs. On the days when I couldn't even feed myself or shower, I dragged my heiny off the floor to feed, water, play with/exercise, and scoop the poops of my pets. I imagine it's a nightmare to be a teenager on the cusp of young adulthood and get a diagnosis of a chronic, lifelong illness, but OP's daughter chose to acquire her three pets, and they are her responsibility, illness or not. If she cannot care for them, she needs to accept that they need to be rehomed to someone who CAN care for them properly.
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Ben Aziza 5 hours ago
A bit off-topic but I find this shocking "To pay for her insulin". Holy F*****g s**t what a nightmarish dystopia... Excuse the language but to someone born in a pathetically poor Third World country... This is unbelievable to me... Because in my original country INSULIN IS SUBSIDIZED!!! 3 generations of people living under a literal dictatorship... YET Every single diabetic person who needed insulin got it for a symbolic sum of money... Like 5 dollar equivalent... HOW is this logical??? You know at first I did not believe this... I thought it was an internet rumor especially when I was a kid and teenager... I could not fathom that this could be real for the richest country in the entire world...My country revolted against said dictatorship... So why is it that Americans who got it worse is so many other ways are passive to this degree? You have the guns that we did not... It makes no sense... Now you are told the guy is a "terrorist"? Yeh sure...It is very sad in a way. luigi_s_we...5b51a5.jpg 
XenoMurph 1 hour ago
Because they agree with it. They honestly believe that "their" taxes shouldn't go to someone who didn't "earn" it.
Load More Replies... Becca not Becky 6 hours ago
Tough one. I think it's good to have an upfront discussion but there should have been a more gentle approach. Something more like "[daughter] I can't imagine how hard the diagnosis is for you, and I realize it's a lot to adjust to. However, I'm seeing these issues and we need to come up with a better way to go about this, especially for the pets." Then reiterate that the pets need to be properly cared for. The daughter needs time and compassion, but the animals need to be cared for too.
Daniel Atkins 7 hours ago (edited)
All the yta people missed are unaware that this isn’t just two animals it is 6. Some of which the daughter took a job to help pay the expenses. This was a condition of them getting some of the pets. The op said they understood their daughter not having a job. The op is at her limit all she is wanting is for the daughter to help with the animals and to start taking a little responsibility. Yes it is a bad situation but the responsibility doesn’t stop. It is not fair to the animals or the op. If the daughter wanted the animals she should take care of them. Yes she may be depressed but this is not an excuse that means she does nothing. If she won’t take care of a little responsibility then the animals should go elsewhere for their and the family’s well being too.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
I'm not 17 (being 17 is difficult, I remember it well) but a chronic illness is not an excuse to neglect one's responsibilities towards helpless living beings that are completely dependent on you for their care (be they animals or human babies/toddlers.) I went through a REALLY rough patch before I finally left my ex (tl;dr I've struggled with chronic depression all my life, but I had a REALLY bad breakdown and became suicidal.) However, I have four pets, two cats and two dogs. On the days when I couldn't even feed myself or shower, I dragged my heiny off the floor to feed, water, play with/exercise, and scoop the poops of my pets. I imagine it's a nightmare to be a teenager on the cusp of young adulthood and get a diagnosis of a chronic, lifelong illness, but OP's daughter chose to acquire her three pets, and they are her responsibility, illness or not. If she cannot care for them, she needs to accept that they need to be rehomed to someone who CAN care for them properly.
Load More Replies... Ben Aziza 5 hours ago
A bit off-topic but I find this shocking "To pay for her insulin". Holy F*****g s**t what a nightmarish dystopia... Excuse the language but to someone born in a pathetically poor Third World country... This is unbelievable to me... Because in my original country INSULIN IS SUBSIDIZED!!! 3 generations of people living under a literal dictatorship... YET Every single diabetic person who needed insulin got it for a symbolic sum of money... Like 5 dollar equivalent... HOW is this logical??? You know at first I did not believe this... I thought it was an internet rumor especially when I was a kid and teenager... I could not fathom that this could be real for the richest country in the entire world...My country revolted against said dictatorship... So why is it that Americans who got it worse is so many other ways are passive to this degree? You have the guns that we did not... It makes no sense... Now you are told the guy is a "terrorist"? Yeh sure...It is very sad in a way. luigi_s_we...5b51a5.jpg
XenoMurph 1 hour ago
Because they agree with it. They honestly believe that "their" taxes shouldn't go to someone who didn't "earn" it.
Load More Replies... Becca not Becky 6 hours ago
Tough one. I think it's good to have an upfront discussion but there should have been a more gentle approach. Something more like "[daughter] I can't imagine how hard the diagnosis is for you, and I realize it's a lot to adjust to. However, I'm seeing these issues and we need to come up with a better way to go about this, especially for the pets." Then reiterate that the pets need to be properly cared for. The daughter needs time and compassion, but the animals need to be cared for too.
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