I was actually shocked to see YTA comments 😳 How could anyone think criticism, however it is worded is the proper response to a gift?! If a gift recipient is more concerned with finding fault than being grateful, I do not believe the mistakes made were, as one YTA phrased it: ".....so glaringly obvious that someone who does not crochet can find them......" I feel the gift recipient is just rude. Rather than engage in discussion, my response would be: In this country we say "Thank you."

I don't make mistakes in my knitting or sewing. I create artistic choices and unique stylizations that make a piece truly my own. The fact that I don't do them *on purpose* changes nothing about my stance, LOL. Seriously, though, what kind of a person receives a gift and immediately starts searching it for flaws? I hope OP never ever ever crochets so much as a coaster for that ungrateful snob again.

I'll bet $100 she was planning to sell it or give it to someone else & claim she made it.

"...she wouldn't be able to use it because she wouldn't be able to focus on anything but the mistakes." That woman needs therapy. And some instruction in manners.

I love zoras post lmao yup we are in the greatness of assholery she is top of that class that sil ! handmade stuff isn’t ment to be machine perfection that’s the dam point of it n to that YTA one get over yourself ! if someone made me something like that I wouldn’t even dream of nit picking it over like that entitled mare did pfft id love to be able to crochet im 60 n left handed and i just never got the hang of it I can kinda knit mainly squares lmao and often with holes in n I can’t read patterns to save my life mind u I was good on a knitting machine decades ago made a good few cardis n jumpers on that but never crochet they are beautiful items n op your NTA at all she can go do one as we say in uk n like others say send her a pack of how to crocheting stuff n tell her when she can make one as well as you then come back nd moan until then keep it shut n no she’s not having it back as she threw it back in your face so rudely she is not worthy of it ! blessed be op

I dated a woman who was cursed with perfectionism. If we went to a play, she monitored for miscues and mispronunciations; if we went to a musical event, she counted the off beats and wrong notes; if we went to a baby's birthday, she focused on the mismatching clothes... Perfectionism is a curse I wouldn't wish on anyone.

The recipient is definitely the problem here. I crochet (and for those people who say the OP is the A**hole because "why didn't you fix it when you were crocheting?") -- those people obviously do not crochet. You don't always notice the mistake until much later when it is too late to go back and undo all that work you've done. Also, no matter what pattern you use, from the easiest single crochet to a very difficult pattern using a variety of stitches, who wants to see a mistake back on row 15 when you're on row 239? It's not easy (nor always possible) to go back and fix a problem. I'd definitely take the blanket back and keep it. Enjoy snuggling up in your hard work!

Several times I've commissioned drawings from a client of mine who does amazing things with coloured pencils. I always pay him much more than he asks for, but even so, I feel like an asshóle when I ask for him to adjust the drawing slightly. I can't imagine making demands on someone who is gifting me their creativity for free. That said, if there are errors, it's possible that the recipient will just shove it in the back of a cupboard until the end of time which would also be sad.

Amish quilters deliberately make a small mistake as they believe attempting perfection is presumptuous and close to blasphemous as only God can achieve perfection. For her next gift, make a list of therapists who specialize in OCD, though she doesn't have it, but there are no therapists that treat azzholery.

If I were OP, I'd hang that blanket on my wall so people can comment on how beautiful it is. Hopefully while SIL is also there visiting.

Does she return her PC/Phone every time it crashes? You know making a processor has some overlapping concepts with crocheting. No two processors are the same. "Weaving" all the wires connecting the logic gates which makes up layers of interconnects is NOT a perfect process! There are a lot of errors that can happen in each step and even a classification and grades based on that... Would this ungrateful b***h return her computer/phone if she learns o this fact? If she knew that she got a 95% efficient processor because a random particle got in the way in the chemical deposition process of nano chipset number 5163165 and some other errors like that? Where does she stop? This is conjecture but I think this has nothing to do with the gift. Probably wanted to humiliate her SIL for other reasons.

She's not selling it, she's giving it to a family member. SIL overreacted and now she's caused a strain in their relationship over something petty and silly

OMG with the YTAs!!!

My sister made my son (her nephew) an amazing blanket in the old nostalgic millennial school colors (the blue green yellow and red colors) and I have no idea any mistakes she made (if she did) but it is literally my sons absolutely favorite blanket. It was such a nice gift and I love it.

As someone who knits, crochets and does various other crafts my response would be to go to a store and spend £7 on a cheap artificial fibre fleece (preferably with a hideous design), gift wrap it and tell her you got her a perfect one. Then either keep the heirloom one or give it to someone who will appreciate it.

Tell her she can wipe her a*s with it for all you care, but that s**t is complete.

Someone didn't watch Bob Ross growing up or they would know those are very happy accidents that you work with as an artist. Handmade anything has imperfections, it is one of the ways you can look at something an it is automatic that we know that it was done by a human. SIL should just buy a cheap factory made item.