“AITA For Refusing To Take Down My Daughter’s Graduation Photo And Replace It With My Husband’s Graduation Photo?”
Don’t deny that all those pictures you’ve taken of yourself, your family, your pets, your kids, your vacations, your local architecture—whatever—will be revisited at some time in the future.
Chances are they’ll become a pain to manage, so you’ll put off sorting them, hence you’ll probably return to them maybe once or twice in your entire lifetime until you run out of storage space to support this endeavor.
And then they’ll be buried under more piles of photos.
But hanging them on the wall is definitely a solution if you want the memory to stay alive. Just make sure nobody starts threatening your mural feng shui. Speaking of which…
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Hanging a picture on the wall is a sure way for the memory to stay alive. Just make sure nobody starts threatening your mural feng shui
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A mother of an 18-year-old high school graduate recently turned to the Am I The A-Hole community on Reddit for some perspective.
The mother has proudly hung a framed picture on her living room wall, featuring her daughter at her graduation ceremony. Incidentally, her husband, the stepdad to the 18-year-old, has also had his graduation, albeit getting a Master’s degree from it, fairly recently. And he also had a picture that he’d like to hand on the living room wall.
Well, this wall’s feng shui got threatened by a 35-year-old husband who was “competing” for wall space, his graduation photo vs. that of his stepdaughter
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But here’s the problem. At first, the mother thought he’d want his picture next to the daughter. Apparently, he wanted his picture instead of the daughter’s. The odd request-turned-demand was immediately questioned.
Well, the husband thought that the two photos had “different weight and value”—one’s for high school and the other one’s for a Master’s degree. But, in the mother’s eyes, this did not justify the replacement. According to her, he can’t just claim the entire wall, shoving the daughter’s picture—which she deserves to enjoy, if anything, for encouragement—into the hallway. But he insisted. This quickly turned into a huge argument. One the mother considered a “hill” she’d die on.
Also, one that she’d also share on the AITA subreddit. Since its posting a few days ago, the post received love in the form of 13,900 upvotes and a handful of Reddit awards.
Apparently, the husband thought his Master’s graduation photo has more weight and value than that of his stepdaughter’s high school grad photo
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Image credits: Stanley Morales (not the actual photo)
Right off the bat, folks voted that OP’s not the jerk here, with the top-rated comment, coming in at 31,100 upvotes, suggesting OP hang the husband’s picture over the toilet “where his attitude belongs.”
Others took a jab at the husband’s fragile masculinity, and were just surprised by how he blatantly was against having a “family wall” altogether, pointing at other possible issues in the family dynamic.
Folks online were having none of it, asking if the husband is really 35 because his behavior makes him look 12
OP spent some time responding to commenters, where we also discover that this isn’t the first incident they’ve had. The husband is also critical of the daughter’s food, saying he’s not into vegan food, but she really loves to cook and that has caused a problem in the past.
Folks were suggesting to be realistic about it and said the beloved Master’s degree didn’t do much for the husband if he’s acting like that.
Whatever the case, you can check out the now-viral post here with all of the responses intact. But before you go, share your thoughts about who’s the a-hole here, or, if you’ve ever run into a similar situation, tell us how you resolved it in the comment section below!
He's asking you to choose him over your daughter and is pissed you won't.
Absolutely nothing comes above your child's self worth - children, regardless of age, feel good when a parent praises them for something / anything. Her graduation picture on that wall is her mom's way of saying, "Way to go, great job! I'm so proud of you!" - Husband is a loser and things are only going to get worse. Never stay with a person who is blantantly / unashamefully disrespectful to your child(ren), it'll bite you in the a*s down the road.
As a kid who's mother always put her husband first (and told me her husband would always come before her children), I can tell you it is very damaging mentally. I'm very LC with her, and now she wonders why. She isn't married at the moment, which is why she's bothering to try to talk to me at all.
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Absolutely nothing comes above your child's self worth - children, regardless of age, feel good when a parent praises them for something / anything. Her graduation picture on that wall is her mom's way of saying, "Way to go, great job! I'm so proud of you!" - Husband is a loser and things are only going to get worse. Never stay with a person who is blantantly / unashamefully disrespectful to your child(ren), it'll bite you in the a*s down the road.
As a kid who's mother always put her husband first (and told me her husband would always come before her children), I can tell you it is very damaging mentally. I'm very LC with her, and now she wonders why. She isn't married at the moment, which is why she's bothering to try to talk to me at all.
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