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Man Says He Wishes His Daughter Was A Son Instead, Has His Life Ruined After She Overhears It
Some say that a parent’s love must be unconditional. Sadly, it’s not the case for all children — some receive very limited love (if any at all). A good example is today’s OP, who learned that the reason her father didn’t put much effort into growing a relationship with her is because she was a girl. And well, this newly learned knowledge caused some wild and heartbreaking drama for the whole family.
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How should you react when you learn that your father doesn’t appreciate you just because of your sex?
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A teen overheard her father saying he didn’t put effort into building a relationship with her just because she was a girl
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This broke the girl’s heart, so she told all this to her mother, who kicked her father out
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He came back after some time and tried to guilt-trip both the daughter and the mother into forgiving him
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He did it a couple of times, but the guilt-tripping didn’t work
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So, he ended up slapping his daughter and getting charged with violence against a minor
The post’s author was never very close with her father, as he didn’t spend that much time with her. He only properly spent time with the daughter during her birthday and the holidays, if you’re not counting the times he took care of her by giving her food or comforting her.
Then, one day, the teen overheard her dad talking on the phone in their backyard. She didn’t pay any attention until she heard her name. It was the dad telling his friend that he wished his daughter was a son, and since she wasn’t, he didn’t really try to build a relationship between them.
Luckily, after the girl told this to her mom, she comforted her, saying that it doesn’t matter that she’s a girl — she would love her either way. Later, the mom confronted the dad, and it ended up with him leaving to stay at the OP’s grandma’s house.
But the story didn’t end there. After some time, the dad came over to talk with the mom and the daughter. He apologized for his words and expressed the intention to be a better father from then on. But this didn’t satisfy the post’s author, as she was confused about how he was planning on ignoring all the damage he had done throughout the years. After all, she’s going to turn 18 in a couple of months. So, he left again.
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Of course, after some time, he came back again. This time, the dad tried to guilt-trip his daughter and wife into forgiveness. As it didn’t work, he dropped a bomb, saying that he wasn’t interested in building a relationship with his daughter because she wasn’t actually his daughter. In his words, if she was his, she would have been a boy.
This left the teen dumbfounded, as it wasn’t how things actually worked. Well, Bored Panda did some research and found out that, in a way, the dad wasn’t that far off — it’s actually the man’s sperm that predetermines the baby’s sex.
At the same time, just as his daughter thought, he was also very far off. While, yes, the sperm is something that determines a baby’s sex (not to be confused with gender!), the man himself can’t be sure whether he’s going to produce boys or girls. After all, men tend to carry both X and Y chromosomes.
Coming back to the story, the daughter told her dad that his theory wasn’t right, and that angered him to the point that he slapped her. The girl didn’t hold back, as she pushed him, and he fell from the porch. The mom called the police, and the dad was taken away to a hospital and later arrested for violence against a minor.
It’s no wonder that people were shocked after the last update of the story, which ended in violence. In fact, some even stated that they stopped believing that it was true, as it went way too far, way too fast. Others just wished that the OP would be able to move on from such a horrific turn of events, as it must be quite damaging to go through.
So, whether this story is true or not, it’s still quite a wild one. One day, you’re living with an emotionally absent father, and just a little bit later, he’s being charged with assaulting you. At least the mom in the story seems to be a normal parent.
“I no longer believe any of it is true”: After several wild turn of events, some people started doubting the story’s validity
What do you think ?
Ron Baza 9 months ago (edited)
The OP’s dad has a point. He was a man. His father was a man. His father’s father was a man. And so on. All males, throughout the family line. /sarcasm/
Binky Melnik 9 months ago
I was about to ding you for the “sarcasm” tag (it’s so obvious that the tag was redundant), but then I remembered the audience and realized you *had* to do it lest you be buried in comments suggesting you’re wrong. 🙄😞
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Donteatme666 9 months ago
You people do realize facts are stranger then fiction right? Also when I was growing up I saw some guy yelling at his daughter saying how she never was his and never could be just because he has a history of son's. Don't ever underestimate the stupidity of men ever
Zedrapazia 9 months ago
The OG sounded believable but the further down this goes, the more it seems like a fairy tale. Like, did the mother never wonder herself why her husband ignored their child? It's unfortunately more than common that people get upset when their kid has the "wrong" gender. Plus, if she tolerated her husband ignoring the child for almost 18 years, why would she suddenly throw him out because the why is out? Plus, there's a bunch of attention grabbing details that just don't fit in there, such as being hit by a car or watching the Mandalorian. I'm not buying this one.
Tyranamar 9 months ago
I don't know. I kind of believe this one. Humans do all sorts of non rational things. Maybe this was just the final straw for mom. And dad sounds stupid. So I believe he would think she wasn't his kid. That's the part that actually makes me believe this story. That idea is so ridiculously stupid that it's something like I've actually heard people say. Like she couldn't make that up it's so dumb. I vote this story true.
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Huntress of Artemis 9 months ago
That was an absolute train wreck.If the story is real .The mom is amazing .I glad Op has her mom in her life.Parents should love their children regardless of their gender ,sexuality ,disabilities ,etc.
April Dancer 7 months ago
My cousin was adopted. (F61). She & a boy child were taken in at the same time. As soon as she was old enough to understand she realised that her mum didn't really want her. She'd treat her like dirt & scream at her that she'd send her back if she didn't do as she was told. The son was the golden child despite being an awful bullying kid who constantly broke the law. (He drunk himself to death in his 50s) My cousin, tragically, had a still born baby & my aunt managed to make it all about her. Years passed & my aunt died. Then my uncle developed dementia. My cousin was devoted to him as he was the only one who gave her any love. One day, she was visiting him & he was in that place in his illness that he didn't recognise that it was his daughter he was speaking to. He started telling her how he and his wife had adopted two children but his wife soon realised that she only wanted one, the boy. She'd wanted to give the girl back but didn't want anyone to think badly of her.
Spencer's slave 9 months ago
Some day, maybe a gazillion years from now, males will accept what science has proven - sperm dictates sex/gender/genitalia. Just because your male relatives produced male offspring does not guarantee you will.
Evion Soreso 7 months ago
I agreed with RobIreland's comment on her post. I was able to believe it all until the last edit.
Lara Verne 9 months ago
It escalated so quickly that it sounds like story from r/thatHappened.
TheBlueBitterfly 9 months ago
It might have started out with a grain of truth, but I think the rest is pure fiction.
Hoshi Reed 9 months ago
You DO know that not everyone knows it is inappropriate to say nowadays, right? If her parents and community haven't taught her otherwise, she wouldn't know. For all we know she lives in a community that votes for the likes of Todd "legitimate R victims can't get pregnant" Akin, or voters of the politicians who wrote the Ohio bill that required doctors to Remove and reimplant ectopic pregnancy (a procedure that doesn't exist) as if the proceedure were possible. Do you think children that live in anti-woke communities are learning that the R-word is no longer acceptable, or do you think they are being taught that being PC/woke is bad?
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Ron Baza 9 months ago (edited)
The OP’s dad has a point. He was a man. His father was a man. His father’s father was a man. And so on. All males, throughout the family line. /sarcasm/
Binky Melnik 9 months ago
I was about to ding you for the “sarcasm” tag (it’s so obvious that the tag was redundant), but then I remembered the audience and realized you *had* to do it lest you be buried in comments suggesting you’re wrong. 🙄😞
Load More Replies... Donteatme666 9 months ago
You people do realize facts are stranger then fiction right? Also when I was growing up I saw some guy yelling at his daughter saying how she never was his and never could be just because he has a history of son's. Don't ever underestimate the stupidity of men ever
Zedrapazia 9 months ago
The OG sounded believable but the further down this goes, the more it seems like a fairy tale. Like, did the mother never wonder herself why her husband ignored their child? It's unfortunately more than common that people get upset when their kid has the "wrong" gender. Plus, if she tolerated her husband ignoring the child for almost 18 years, why would she suddenly throw him out because the why is out? Plus, there's a bunch of attention grabbing details that just don't fit in there, such as being hit by a car or watching the Mandalorian. I'm not buying this one.
Tyranamar 9 months ago
I don't know. I kind of believe this one. Humans do all sorts of non rational things. Maybe this was just the final straw for mom. And dad sounds stupid. So I believe he would think she wasn't his kid. That's the part that actually makes me believe this story. That idea is so ridiculously stupid that it's something like I've actually heard people say. Like she couldn't make that up it's so dumb. I vote this story true.
Load More Replies... Huntress of Artemis 9 months ago
That was an absolute train wreck.If the story is real .The mom is amazing .I glad Op has her mom in her life.Parents should love their children regardless of their gender ,sexuality ,disabilities ,etc.
April Dancer 7 months ago
My cousin was adopted. (F61). She & a boy child were taken in at the same time. As soon as she was old enough to understand she realised that her mum didn't really want her. She'd treat her like dirt & scream at her that she'd send her back if she didn't do as she was told. The son was the golden child despite being an awful bullying kid who constantly broke the law. (He drunk himself to death in his 50s) My cousin, tragically, had a still born baby & my aunt managed to make it all about her. Years passed & my aunt died. Then my uncle developed dementia. My cousin was devoted to him as he was the only one who gave her any love. One day, she was visiting him & he was in that place in his illness that he didn't recognise that it was his daughter he was speaking to. He started telling her how he and his wife had adopted two children but his wife soon realised that she only wanted one, the boy. She'd wanted to give the girl back but didn't want anyone to think badly of her.
Spencer's slave 9 months ago
Some day, maybe a gazillion years from now, males will accept what science has proven - sperm dictates sex/gender/genitalia. Just because your male relatives produced male offspring does not guarantee you will.
Evion Soreso 7 months ago
I agreed with RobIreland's comment on her post. I was able to believe it all until the last edit.
Lara Verne 9 months ago
It escalated so quickly that it sounds like story from r/thatHappened.
TheBlueBitterfly 9 months ago
It might have started out with a grain of truth, but I think the rest is pure fiction.
Hoshi Reed 9 months ago
You DO know that not everyone knows it is inappropriate to say nowadays, right? If her parents and community haven't taught her otherwise, she wouldn't know. For all we know she lives in a community that votes for the likes of Todd "legitimate R victims can't get pregnant" Akin, or voters of the politicians who wrote the Ohio bill that required doctors to Remove and reimplant ectopic pregnancy (a procedure that doesn't exist) as if the proceedure were possible. Do you think children that live in anti-woke communities are learning that the R-word is no longer acceptable, or do you think they are being taught that being PC/woke is bad?
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