Woman Is Shocked By Nephew’s Drawings, Demands He Be Punished
Interview With ExpertArtistic expression is an interesting thing. Especially when the artist is a teenager. Who’s to say what’s appropriate to draw at that age and what’s frowned upon? Is it okay for teens to draw life, especially when the figures they’re depicting are naked?
That was the discussion that this family’s disagreement raised online. A father recently asked people whether he was wrong not to punish his teenage son for his anatomy drawings. The aunt, his sister, said those kinds of drawings were inappropriate for a teenager to do, and she demanded he be punished. The dad, however, stood his ground, but he still wondered whether his stance was right.
Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Melanie McNally, a licensed clinical psychologist and brain coach, to tell us more about teenagers and their artistic expression. She’s an expert in teen mental health and the author of The Emotionally Intelligent Teen and Helping Your Unmotivated Teen. Read her insights below!
A teenager got in trouble with his aunt for sketching the human figure
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She claimed drawing human anatomy was inappropriate for a teenager, but his dad backed the young artist
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When it comes to children and teens drawing naked bodies, it’s more about the ‘why’ than the age of the artist
Teen mental health expert Dr. Melanie McNally tells Bored Panda that curiosity is innate to children and young people, and it can often include the human body. When kids are younger, they might start asking uncomfortable questions. When they become teens, the naked body might become an interest for the artistically inclined.
“They also might draw things from personal experience, and if they’re exposed to naked bodies, they might be more likely to draw them,” she explains. “So rather than focus on the age of the individual, it’s more important to consider the underlying reason why in order to determine if it’s appropriate or not.”
“Is the individual doing it because they recently started changing for gym class at school? Are they taking an art class and the teacher is encouraging them to draw the human form?” McNally says that adults who seek to understand why their kids start drawing human anatomy can ask open-ended questions so that the teen doesn’t feel judged or shamed.
McNally also has some advice for teens on how to broach this subject with adults who think such drawings are inappropriate. “When trying to discuss more challenging topics with adults, it’s always helpful if the young person first chooses a time [when] everyone is calm, undistracted, and receptive to a conversation.”
“I also recommend that the young person explain their underlying reason for doing these kinds of drawings, whether it’s for a class, because it’s challenging, or perhaps it was suggested to them by a more advanced artist,” McNally says.
“If the young person finds that the adult isn’t able to have a healthy conversation about the topic and this is a person who they need to understand their perspective, they might want to enlist the help and support of another trusted adult,” the psychologist adds.
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Life drawing can help teenagers have more grounded ideas of what “real” bodies look like
For aspiring artists and even people who like to draw as a hobby, life drawing can be an excellent practice. It can help hone one’s hand-eye coordination and observational skills, and it can even be a way to relax and meditate.
But for teenagers, it can have another surprisingly positive effect. The lead tutor at London Drawing, Anne Noble-Partridge, believes that life drawing classes for teens can have an immensely positive effect on their self-body image and their perception of what a “real,” healthy body looks like.
“Nudity has become very sexualised in our society, yet if you are drawing, it’s a safe space, and there is respect,” she explained. “Through life drawing, teens get a more rounded view of bodies; they see older, younger, heavier and thinner people and there’s no judgment. It’s a neutral setting.”
One study found that people indeed believe that life-drawing classes for adolescents can help them develop more grounded ideas of what “real” bodies look like and challenge the representation of perfect bodies in the media.
What people often get wrong (as the aunt in this story probably did) is thinking that nude sketches or drawings are inherently sexual. As writer Marinella Mezzanotte explains, “A life model’s nudity isn’t about sex, it is about attention.” Particularly, it’s about the fact that all types of bodies deserve this kind of attention and deserve to be drawn.
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Many people pointed out that this is what artists do and the dad was right to refuse to punish his son
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Your sister is ignorant, a prude, rude, lacks boundaries and needs to control her children. I would reassure your son, commiserate with him for having such crummy relatives, give him a door lock to pointedly use the next time they're round. And every time your sister/father goes on about the sketches, make a BIG point of enquiring how the punishment and training for the brats is progressing.
Some of these questions are secondhand frustrating to read. Why are YOU the AH? Your sister's kids SNOOPED in your house and found drawings your son did in his own house. Why isn't she embarrassed at her own kids? Naked drawings or not, no one has the right to snoop through another person's private possessions when they're merely a guest in the house. Teach your kids manners! The pictures don't matter. A teenager has the right to draw whatever he feels as long as he's not harming himself, anyone else - or being harmed.
Load More Replies...As an artist it is always always creepy when someone thinks (general classical) nude art is porṉ or inappropriate
Don’t let other people’s weird body hangups hold him back. Sounds like he is well motivated to self teach and that’ll take him far. Soon he will be drawing from live models, it is a normal part of the process.
Your sister is ignorant, a prude, rude, lacks boundaries and needs to control her children. I would reassure your son, commiserate with him for having such crummy relatives, give him a door lock to pointedly use the next time they're round. And every time your sister/father goes on about the sketches, make a BIG point of enquiring how the punishment and training for the brats is progressing.
Some of these questions are secondhand frustrating to read. Why are YOU the AH? Your sister's kids SNOOPED in your house and found drawings your son did in his own house. Why isn't she embarrassed at her own kids? Naked drawings or not, no one has the right to snoop through another person's private possessions when they're merely a guest in the house. Teach your kids manners! The pictures don't matter. A teenager has the right to draw whatever he feels as long as he's not harming himself, anyone else - or being harmed.
Load More Replies...As an artist it is always always creepy when someone thinks (general classical) nude art is porṉ or inappropriate
Don’t let other people’s weird body hangups hold him back. Sounds like he is well motivated to self teach and that’ll take him far. Soon he will be drawing from live models, it is a normal part of the process.
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