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Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned
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Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned

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Healthy boundaries are very important in romantic and family relationships if we want everyone to thrive. On the flip side, a lack of boundaries could lead to someone walking all over us and doing us harm (even if they don’t mean to). Now, setting these boundaries up means having some honest heart-to-heart communication when you see someone you love doing something that grates you. These conversations might be tough, but they’re absolutely vital.

Redditor u/FredWalker37 opened up about the intense situation that’s currently going on in his family. A father with a 13-year-old son, he turned to the AITA community for advice about what he should do after he confronted his new wife about how she spoke to his son, who is slightly more on the introverted side. It all culminated with the dad canceling the Mother’s Day celebration they’d all planned.

Scroll down for the full story in u/FredWalker37’s own words, and let us know in the comments what you think about what happened, dear Pandas. If you have any great insights or useful advice on how to proceed, we’re all ears.

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    A father with a slightly introverted son ended up taking a very firm stand after he overheard what his new wife told his boy

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    The dad opened up about everything in a very candid post on the AITA subreddit. Here is his story in full

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    The crux of the issue was that the author of the post’s wife and stepdaughter were pressuring his son to stay at home during the Mother’s Day celebration. The stepmom felt that his “socially inept attitude” would make her own family “uncomfortable and will ruin the mood.”

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    After overhearing this, the dad asked the kids to let him speak to his wife alone. He took a firm stand and canceled the celebration. There was no changing his mind. However, his wife threw “tantrum after tantrum” and then went to stay at her folks’ place with her daughter. That’s where the situation leaves us. We can only hope that everything will turn out fine in the end for the redditor and his family.

    Relationship coach Alex Scot explained to Bored Panda earlier that it’s necessary to have boundaries in any relationship, romantic, familial, or otherwise. However, the closer someone is to you, the more flexible you should make those boundaries: strict boundaries are unsustainable in close relationships where there’s a need for compromise.

    “Without them [boundaries], we live our lives at the expense of ourselves. The mindset for many when it comes to setting boundaries is that they feel selfish, or that they aren’t being a good partner when they implement them, so they avoid doing it altogether,” Alex told us during an earlier interview.

    “This only causes resentment to build and overwhelm to set in both within the individual and the relationship as a whole. Boundaries are there for us to be able to take care of and to protect ourselves so that we can show up and operate within our lives as successfully as possible.”

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    Meanwhile, very recently, Suzanne Degges-White, a Licensed Counselor, Professor, and Chair at the Department of Counseling and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University, explained to us that introversion isn’t the same as antisocial behavior which, in turn, differs from antisocial personality disorder.

    “During the pandemic, people who tend towards introversion were able to grow more comfortable in this identity and were able to disconnect from life’s requirements for ‘extroverting behaviors.’ While many extroverts had to spend more time alone, they didn’t necessarily grow more introverted, but found more ways to connect to others,” Suzanne told Bored Panda about how the pandemic affected people.

    “In fact, research indicates that while the isolation offered ‘comfort’ to introverts and may have stressed out the more extroverted, it was actually the extroverts who ended up coping more effectively with the emotional distress of the pandemic. They stayed in contact with their typically larger social networks so they still were engaging socially even though it was done virtually,” the counselor told us.

    “Introverts, though, while enjoying the ‘lifestyle of their dreams,’ suffered from isolation more acutely because they had smaller social circles to begin with and fewer opportunities to connect with others as well as less skill in doing so due to their introverted patterns,” she said.

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    “Introverts have interest in connecting and engaging in social relationships whereas antisocial folks tend to just prefer to avoid people at all,” she explained the difference between introverts and antisocial people to us.

    “Folks who prefer not to be around people are typically just ‘wired that way,’ and prefer the company of themselves, pets, or simply solitude. While these people are relatively rare in comparison to those who identify as introverts, the pandemic quarantines would have created no stressors whatsoever for those who would be labeled as antisocial,” the professor said.

    “Some folks, for whatever reason, don’t want to invest the time or energy into forging a significant number of non-essential social relationships. They are truly okay being the ‘odd person out’ and prefer time alone than time to socialize. Introverts like to have friends, romantic relationships, happy collegial connections with folks on the job, etc. Antisocial folks, though, eschew relationships and engage only when circumstances require it,” she said.

    A lot of redditor’s were horrified by what they read. Here’s how some of them reacted and the advice they gave the dad

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Kotryna is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Graphic Design. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a freelance graphic designer and illiustrator. When not editing, she enjoys working with clay, drawing, playing board games and drinking good tea.

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    June
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you think being an extrovert gives you the right to bully introverts for being introverts, then you are not an extrovert, you are an ASSTROVERT.

    TonyTee
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm an extrovert. Yet I'm mostly drawn to the introvert crowd, as from experience, they can be much more pleasant than extroverts; and they're more genuine. I myself was an introvert from around 12-18, I'm still amazed that now I'm an extrovert, it's like "how tf did that happen??" xD People are people nevertheless, I'm kind of puzzled as to how many labels there are now in regards to the human race when at the end of the day, we're all the same kind. We're skin flesh and bones. We're "people", and nothing else.

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    June
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had a evil stepmom when I was 15 to 18. As soon as my dad was not around she was so nasty to me. Long story short, my grandma died and my dad and I were devastated. She demanded that my dad kick me out, so he did. It was the middle of the winter, graduation year, and I was homeless. My relationship with my father is permanently damaged. I am damaged. You don't recover from such things. Stand for your kids, people.

    JillyMack
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so sorry you've been through that trauma. It's so awful. I hope you're doing ok now xx

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    CLG
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know what truly does NOT help an introvert come out of his shell -- being singled out for his introverted and socially inept attitude.

    Bunzilla
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Introverts do NOT need to be "helped" to "come out of their shell". We're introverts, we are not extroverts, there is nothing wrong with us. Extroverts love being around other people, and that's fine. But for goodness sake, stop forcing introverts to act like extroverts. Extroverts, remember how miserable you all felt during quarantine when you couldn't go out and be around other people? That's a bit like how an introvert feels when you force them to act like an extrovert. Don't do it.

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    June
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you think being an extrovert gives you the right to bully introverts for being introverts, then you are not an extrovert, you are an ASSTROVERT.

    TonyTee
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm an extrovert. Yet I'm mostly drawn to the introvert crowd, as from experience, they can be much more pleasant than extroverts; and they're more genuine. I myself was an introvert from around 12-18, I'm still amazed that now I'm an extrovert, it's like "how tf did that happen??" xD People are people nevertheless, I'm kind of puzzled as to how many labels there are now in regards to the human race when at the end of the day, we're all the same kind. We're skin flesh and bones. We're "people", and nothing else.

    Load More Replies...
    June
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had a evil stepmom when I was 15 to 18. As soon as my dad was not around she was so nasty to me. Long story short, my grandma died and my dad and I were devastated. She demanded that my dad kick me out, so he did. It was the middle of the winter, graduation year, and I was homeless. My relationship with my father is permanently damaged. I am damaged. You don't recover from such things. Stand for your kids, people.

    JillyMack
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so sorry you've been through that trauma. It's so awful. I hope you're doing ok now xx

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    CLG
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know what truly does NOT help an introvert come out of his shell -- being singled out for his introverted and socially inept attitude.

    Bunzilla
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Introverts do NOT need to be "helped" to "come out of their shell". We're introverts, we are not extroverts, there is nothing wrong with us. Extroverts love being around other people, and that's fine. But for goodness sake, stop forcing introverts to act like extroverts. Extroverts, remember how miserable you all felt during quarantine when you couldn't go out and be around other people? That's a bit like how an introvert feels when you force them to act like an extrovert. Don't do it.

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