Remember those perfect attendance awards they would give out sometimes in school? Did you know they are still alive and kicking? On the surface, it does sort of seem like a participation award and not anything alarming. Until you remember how often kids get sick. So to get this award, you would have to come in no matter how ill you are that day.
TikToker and educator, the Speech Prof shared his surprise that at his son’s school, they were still giving out awards for not missing any classes. He went viral for asking a very pertinent question, namely, why have we learned zero lessons from the pandemic and are still incentivizing kids to come to school sick?
Schools often give out awards to different students for achievements like best reader and funniest jokester. Somehow, the perfect attendance award is still around
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A Dad shared his disbelief that schools would incentivize never missing class even though we now know the risks
“My son won an award for being a good reader. And at that ceremony, they also gave out perfect attendance awards. And I was like, ‘How? How are we still doing this after what we just went through and are still going through?”
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He wonders what is the lesson kids are taking away from this award
“How are we rewarding students for something that’s beyond their control?’ And I realize that it all comes down to funding, but in the current state of the world we live in, should we really be encouraging parents to send their sick kids to school? Is that the message we should be sending? Or should we be rewarding the students that are responsible citizens for staying home when they’re ill, instead of coming to school and getting their classmates sick? Because what’s the lesson that we’re teaching children? That they should feel guilty for getting sick that they’re somehow less than? They’re not worthy of an award? Simply because they caught a cold?”
Image credits: Taylor Flowe (not the actual photo)
You can watch the dad’s full video here
@speechprof #stitch with @jayrscottyy can we get rid of perfect attendance awards? #parentsoftiktok #stayhome #gettingsick ♬ original sound – The Speech Prof
The experts actually agree with the dad and say sick children should stay home
This dad in this video isn’t actually alone in wondering what are the risks of having sick kids come to school. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention also states in its guidelines for school administrators, that sick children should stay at home for their own safety and the safety of others. Now, I am not an expert on this, but I think it’s safe to say that the CDC kind of is, so school administrators really do need to consider exactly what they are promoting.
Many adults do still go to work when sick. Sometimes, they don’t have a choice, particularly if their job doesn’t provide adequate sick leave. But there are many adults who come in sick even if they have every right to stay home. Psychologists and virologists call this presenteeism, where a person feels the need to be present at work just for the sake of it. And where did the adults learn this? Some researchers believe that the social pressure to always attend school follows the person into adulthood and creates literally unhealthy behavioral patterns.
We reached out to the creator of the video, The Speech Prof to ask some follow-up questions. To start with, we inquired about alternatives to perfect attendance. “I think awarding children for actual positive things they have control over would be a good start. Good citizenship (for things like helping a friend, standing up to bullying, etc), effort, improvement, etc. Awards that don’t inherently exclude children with chronic illnesses or who have non-Christian religious holidays. So, additional awards that actively reward students for things that they do have control over so they can feel like they had agency in the accomplishment and that are separate from the academic awards so that every child can still feel like they have a chance to win.”
Humans sometimes don’t understand how to take care of themselves, with potentially dangerous results for those around them
“I think it all comes down to money. For some inane reason, the formula for school funding remains identical in most states as it did pre-pandemic and is tied directly to attendance. Don’t get me wrong, I firmly believe attendance is important and should be encouraged, but not in a way that teaches children to devalue their health (and their mental health),” he added when we inquired about the root cause of such awards.
Presenteeism isn’t necessarily always a negative sign. In smaller workplaces, even when there is no managerial pressure to show up, employees will often stay at their station longer than they need to be or come in sick. These same employees will not have this sort of behavior at a larger company. Researchers believe that people who feel closer to their coworkers, which is more common in small companies, don’t mind being at work as much. Similarly, in small offices, coworkers might be more accommodating of a sick colleague, even allowing naps and other actions to assist with their recovery while not taking a sick day.
But that aside, teaching kids that it’s okay to be sick around others is truly not a great idea. The most common place for a person to catch a disease in most developed countries is the workplace. A 2014 survey by Canada Life Insurance found that over 80% of ill respondents got infected at the workplace. Now, remote work may have lowered these numbers, but we need to remember why we were all working remotely in the first place. So let’s pass on good behaviors to our kids, it might literally save lives.
Commenters agreed that schools really ought to stop and how this award punishes disabled children
Not just sickness, but holidays. Im a muslim, and I will never be able to achieve the award, becuase of Eid, and the lack of time off for my holidays.
I'm in the USA but in my area there is 40% of the population that are South Indian. Because there are so many Hindus now, they are petitioning to get Hindu holidays off at schools. I signed the petition because even though I'm an atheist I do believe people should have every right to practice their religion as much as the horrible Christians that force Christianity on everyone in this damn country. It makes no sense to lie and say we have freedom of religion when only Christians get that freedom. If a person is religious their religion is very important to them and no one and nothing should stand in the way of them practicing it to the fullest extent. Obviously that wouldn't include things that harm other people or the environment but those are quite rare religions anyway. But being "allowed" to take time for you holidays should be the bare minimum!
Load More Replies...Anyone with chronic disease/disability knows that this is full b******t. You need to rest to be efficient. Rewarding attendance discourage you from learning how to pace your work according to your habilities. It makes you ready to obey, not work or learn.
exactly! I have epilepsy and if I have a seizure, I need to go home and sleep, I wouldn't be able to function the rest of the day. Sometimes people don't understand this, sometimes my family doesn't even understand it. It frustrating because in elementary school I always had perfect attendance. By middle school I was diagnosed and having around one seizure a month. Now I'm having about one a week and I'm being homeschooled. As mu seizures have been getting worse, so has my mental health. It's so hard to have to prioritize these things that I seriously have no idea what to do anymore lol
Load More Replies...Yes absolutely. Sending kids to school when they're sick should be discouraged, not encouraged. I also believe in letting kids take a day off from school even when they're not sick once in a while. Self-care is important.
Exactly - our boy knows he can ask me or his mother if it's okay to take mental health day on days he's just not feeling it. No more than one every week or two, but sure. Also, even a little sick, stay home. He pulls down 90+% in every class, so it obviously doesn't impact his schoolwork and there's no stress about "you're not sick enough to miss school" discussions. I pushed against it a bit when his mother started agreeing to them, but I have to admit she was right - his grades are fine and the work's getting done.
Load More Replies...Not just sickness, but holidays. Im a muslim, and I will never be able to achieve the award, becuase of Eid, and the lack of time off for my holidays.
I'm in the USA but in my area there is 40% of the population that are South Indian. Because there are so many Hindus now, they are petitioning to get Hindu holidays off at schools. I signed the petition because even though I'm an atheist I do believe people should have every right to practice their religion as much as the horrible Christians that force Christianity on everyone in this damn country. It makes no sense to lie and say we have freedom of religion when only Christians get that freedom. If a person is religious their religion is very important to them and no one and nothing should stand in the way of them practicing it to the fullest extent. Obviously that wouldn't include things that harm other people or the environment but those are quite rare religions anyway. But being "allowed" to take time for you holidays should be the bare minimum!
Load More Replies...Anyone with chronic disease/disability knows that this is full b******t. You need to rest to be efficient. Rewarding attendance discourage you from learning how to pace your work according to your habilities. It makes you ready to obey, not work or learn.
exactly! I have epilepsy and if I have a seizure, I need to go home and sleep, I wouldn't be able to function the rest of the day. Sometimes people don't understand this, sometimes my family doesn't even understand it. It frustrating because in elementary school I always had perfect attendance. By middle school I was diagnosed and having around one seizure a month. Now I'm having about one a week and I'm being homeschooled. As mu seizures have been getting worse, so has my mental health. It's so hard to have to prioritize these things that I seriously have no idea what to do anymore lol
Load More Replies...Yes absolutely. Sending kids to school when they're sick should be discouraged, not encouraged. I also believe in letting kids take a day off from school even when they're not sick once in a while. Self-care is important.
Exactly - our boy knows he can ask me or his mother if it's okay to take mental health day on days he's just not feeling it. No more than one every week or two, but sure. Also, even a little sick, stay home. He pulls down 90+% in every class, so it obviously doesn't impact his schoolwork and there's no stress about "you're not sick enough to miss school" discussions. I pushed against it a bit when his mother started agreeing to them, but I have to admit she was right - his grades are fine and the work's getting done.
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