Y'day my 18yo was followed by a 40+ yo on a bicycle who at 10am in the main st. He was persistent in trying to talk to her, despite her rebuttals. He made comments abt her & her dress, waiting for her to leave a shop & keeping pace then riding in front to block her path with his bike. My daughter who ALWAYS wears 1950's dresses is buying jeans & doesn't want to go to town anymore. WTF won't they just leave females alone?

Wouldn't we all feel the same way?

I know it is mainly women that this happens to, but a small percentage of these types of people happen to men as well. I had an obsessive stalker through a good part of my 20s that would call me, my wife and my work. She put flowers on my stoop three times. It wasn't a "Fatal Attraction" scenario, she was a post-grad at the university where I was an IT engineer. Talked to her twice, once to help her with her network settings, then after I spotted her following me several times to tell her to stop. I was ignored by the university because (and I quote) "You are a big strong man, what is the issue". I told my wife immediately because I didn't want anything misconstrued and I was so glad she was on my side. After almost a three years of opening a door and seeing her watching me, getting letters on my car and her harassing my wife, I quit my job and we moved out of state. I am glad that was before the days of social media, but I still catch myself looking over my shoulder once in awhile.

My would be stalker is dead too. I did not kill him.

Reminds me of a time when I was 17 and volunteering for the public library...I would bus back after I was finished, and for about a month everything was fine. But then this older guy I suspect may have been homeless, he seemed to be 50+, asked me for a cigar, to which I shook my head as I didn't smoke. But he kept asking me more and more weird questions, one of them was asking me if I was a virgin. I regret so much that I responded yes because he went on and on talking about how desperately he needed a virgin in his life. I was afraid I would be rude if I stopped talking to him or just suddenly up and left the bus stop. It was so creepy and I wish I had just left. I saw him waiting by the bus stop the next few days after I finished volunteering but I never took that bus again. I was a naive 17 year old girl who hadn't been taught anything about this side of humanity. I didn't know situations like that happened, or how to deal with them properly. When I explained what happened a few

Its unfair that people have to put up with this behavior. Ladies, (And men in some cases but not nearly as many) Don't put up with this s**t, ever! Tell anyone that you think can help, and don't think that you're annoying or paranoid just because you're seeking help. And if you do this to someone you deserve arrest and going to prison, because you are a filthy waste of oxygen.

LGBTQIA2S? You’ve got to be kidding (before any of you reply to let me know, yes I’m aware that’s not the point of the article)

Police are no help in these situations. I tried getting a restating order against my ex husband. But since I dint have any bruises on my body from him I could not get one. Even through he was threatening to kill me, I had the messages to prove it and he was following me everywhere. All they said was for me to change my number and ignore him.

Never be so afraid of "looking dramatic" that you don't trust your instincts. Better safe than sorry. If people look down on you for it, f**k them.

This is horrible and frightening, but I'm not sure why she's taking it to a racial place. Men of all colors are guilty of doing this to women of every ethnicity. This is a male/female problem, not a racial one.

I grew up in a small town so when I was 13 I could almost walk from one side of town to the other easily. I was on a path one day when when a guy in a pick up truck was coming towards me than turned away and started following me. Thankfully I was wearing ear buds and knew that there was a Solon not to far up. The guy kept pace with how fast I was going not the traffic speed. It was scary I told the people to lock the door when I got in. They did the guy pulled up than left and turned around the exact way he was going. I am not sure what would have happened if I didn’t notice. Then when I was old I had a group of friends and they had this one friend who I didn’t really like. I was nice to him because he was my friends friend. He asked me out a few times. I said no. Than he started showing up at my work with flowers. Than I couldn’t be as polite anymore. He went away but I started getting crazy, rude, ugly calls from someone who seemed to always know where I was and what I was wear

People just don't get how terrifying being stalked can be, having it be a stranger would just heighten that sense. My ex husband stalked & harassed my kids & I for almost a year. He kept finding ways to get into the house (yes, the locks had been changed immediately). We got home from a friends wedding and my jewelry box was sitting on the toaster, just his little way of letting me know he's been in my house. I went to get in my car (in my LOCKED garage) and a shoebox full of all the cards I'd given him was on the driver's seat. He would send flowers to my office, etc. - despite the fact that I had a restraining order. This went on for ALMOST a year. The cops would show up just after he left and because he hadn't actually harmed me or my kids, there wasn't much they could do. Until he left death threats on my answering machine - calling from his parents house and leaving proof on my caller id. That got him 9 months in jail. We moved in the meantime (not just out of the house that I loved) we moved to a different county.

I had a guy call me at work one day when I was 16. He had bought something at the register next to me and thought I was cute. I vaguely remembered him cause he kept staring at me and not answering my coworker as he was checking out. He looked to be in his 30’s. I said thank you but I have a boyfriend. So for the next few months every day he would call me at work and taunt me and breathe into the phone and laugh. A couple times he said he was going to meet me after work. So I had to be escorted to my car and worried I was being followed constantly. He came in a couple times and would just stand and stare at me from different departments. Managers made him leave. It got really crazy. I ended up quitting that job just to get away from him. Thankfully it worked. Zachary. That was 20 + years ago and I still think about how scared you made me and how I had to quit a job I really enjoyed because I was scared to answer the phone and you would be there or go to my car after work by myself.

I had a stalker/harasser once. I had dated him for about 4 months. Couldn't shake him for the next year and it was escalating. I went to the police station, wanting to file charges or whatever you call it, as it seemed it did meet the criteria for criminal stalking or harassing. I thought they would sit down with me and ask for an accounting. But instead, the police officer at the front desk heard a statement about why I was there, asked no details, then told me I should pick better boyfriends. He did finally leave me alone. I still can't stand having a tiny sliver of uncovered window anywhere in my house at night. Will never feel completely comfortable at home or especially in the yard.

No woman is ever responsible for attracting a stalker. One thing I would advise is to learn some basic defense moves, whether it's vulnerable places to strike or items that will make a loud noise. It's terrifying to be stalked, but fighting back mentally (while hoping it never becomes physical) is one way to take back some control over your life. Hope for the best, but be ready for the worst.

I've had six stalkers and I wouldn't even stalk me. I'm glad she posted this.

Is there any sign we should look out for in case there is a stalker problem?

At first i thought this was just someone over reacting, based on the click bait. I was wrong. But, I would like to add one note: Men get this as well....it is not just women. (maybe not as often, I do not know the statistics in this case, but don't downplay the effects...regardless of gender)

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This stalker had horrible taste

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Not sure how your story has anything to do with the Bianca murder. It's completely different...

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The world isn't easy. One person has a stalker, the other is a little kid getting raped & murderd. One is being sold in sex trafficking, the other brain washed & controlled in a church cult while at the same time some person is being ate by a shark. The next day a girl murders her mom because her mom kept her captive & lead her and the rest of the world to believe she had a bunch of health issues that were fake. All awhile 2 doors down someone is getting robbed and murdered & the next day a dad shoots his daughters 17 year old bf & kills him because they smoked pot at a party. And around the corner someone is grieving because they had a miscarriage. Then the teen that didn't show up to school that week is grieving and messed up because their mom shot herself in the head. While a war is being fought across the world and many are losing loved ones in that fight. It's a never ending constant struggle. Everyday there is something.

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This actually makes me glad that i fathered two boys.