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“Building Gossip” Gets Put On Probation By HR After Groping Coworker For “Not Wearing A Bra”
Bras are often called a ‘breast jail,’ and if you wear one, you’d immediately know why. That’s the reason most bra-wearers try and pick more comfortable options for their bodies. Whether someone is at work or doing any strenuous activity, the comfiest bra is usually the best option.
But, apparently, some people have a problem with that. A young woman reached her breaking point after her older coworker insisted she wear push-up bras, as the normal ones she wore made it look like she wasn’t wearing a bra.
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Older woman keeps an eye on the bras her younger coworker is wearing, insists she starts using push-up bras and also touches her inappropriately
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The 22-year-old poster explained that she had a problem at her new job when her coworker asked if she was wearing a bra and went on a tangent about it
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The woman’s supervisor also told her that a normal bra “doesn’t count” because it’s not a push-up bra and she should wear one to “prevent saggage”
Image credits: freepik (not the actual photo)
The woman felt gross and told HR about the ordeal after netizens urged her to
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HR put the inappropriate coworker on probation and made the supervisor attend sensitivity training
The Original Poster (OP) explained that she had just joined a new job. One day, the office gossip confronted her in front of her supervisor and accused her of not wearing a bra. The woman had to prove that she was wearing one by showing the strap to her supervisor. The lady went even further and told the 22-year-old that she should wear push-up bras to prevent her chest from sagging.
These kinds of actions aren’t appropriate for the workplace. Bosses or coworkers should not comment on anyone’s body or touch them inappropriately. During such moments, professionals say that the person should keep a record of the inappropriate behavior, including when it happened and who else was present.
Even if the harassment happens once or multiple times, it’s important to inform management and Human Resources. Send a written complaint and keep a copy for yourself. In such a case, make sure to get a receipt from the authority. On the other hand, if you’re meeting with the supervisors, it’s best to have a witness present.
The woman said that she spoke to HR about the issue, and they recorded everything. The HR professional explained that this wasn’t the first time the older coworker had done something inappropriate like that. It’s good that the young woman decided to file a report because her action helped set a consequence for the older woman.
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Employers need to treat workplace harassment seriously and have certain protocols in place. All managers and supervisors should be given sensitivity training and taught how to handle such situations. Employees should be informed about how they can report inappropriate behavior and what action they can take. Everyone in the company should understand the consequences of doing something like that.
The poster eventually shared an update on the situation, and she told commenters that the “coworker was put on ‘probation’, but she still comes in every day. Instead of interacting with the rest of us, she gets to hang out in the HR office and do training on all kinds of things I’m not privy to. She’s going to be moved to a more solo position that doesn’t allow or require her to interact with anyone.”
She also explained that her supervisor had returned to work and attended sensitivity training. He apologized to her, and they discussed what was okay or not okay to do. Luckily, the woman was able to get the situation resolved, but in many cases, such harassment can have a negative impact on the victim. It often leads to increased stress, anxiety, depression, and, in some extreme cases, PTSD.
Some people definitely treat their workplace as their own home and think they can say just about anything to anyone. Luckily, the older woman was pulled up for her behavior, and hopefully, she realizes that what she did was wrong. All’s well that ends well, especially if it means the woman can wear whatever bra she wants.
How would you have handled a situation like this? Have you ever dealt with a difficult coworker in the workplace? You can definitely vent in the comments section.
Netizens were shocked by the coworker and supervisor’s behavior, they validated the woman’s feelings and assured her it wasn’t right for them to do that
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 4 months ago
I’m adopted, and my adoptive family is Hispanic. It’s true that it’s somewhat of a cultural “norm” that Hispanics have a very physical/“touchy” culture, especially amongst family members. It’s sort of expected that the older women in one’s family will feel like they have free rein to poke/prod the younger females, especially to “see” if they’re starting to “grow” in that area. This does NOT make it acceptable or okay, however, ESPECIALLY in the workplace!
tl gmc 4 months ago
I'm glad that although I'm Hispanic we are very much americanized then. I am much more an American than where my grandparents & great grandparents were born
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StrangeOne 4 months ago
Nah, that's not just sexual harassment. That's sexual assault. Why is the coworker still working there and not fired and in a jail cell, or waiting for court, yet. That senorita's fingers would be busted if she tried that with me.
notlikeyou1971 4 months ago
WTF!! I can't believe that anyone believes that it is okay to put their hands on someone else's breasts. Especially in front of a boss and him thinking it's okay. That's assault. I'd be uncomfortable too if it happened to me. The boss should have said something right there and then but he didn't. He's in the wrong as well because he allowed it. Then on top of that, what right do these ppl have to dictate if you wear a bra and what kind of bra you wear? Are they the Fashion Police?! You don't have to do what they say either. They don't buy your clothes and it's not a rule. Don't buy or wear a special bra or anything else to make others happy. You're there for a job. Not to put on a Fashion show. I'm glad you reported it but I would start staying out of the supervisor's office. It doesn't matter that they had Sensitivity training. By continuing to be in there it doesn't look right. It's like you accept inappropriate behavior. Now if it happens or escalated in the future, it won't be to your benefit spending time around 1 of the very ppl who allowed this kind of behaviors. Protect yourself.
Scott Rackley 4 months ago
Unless it's a handshake, putting your hands on someone else anywhere is a no no.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 4 months ago
I’m adopted, and my adoptive family is Hispanic. It’s true that it’s somewhat of a cultural “norm” that Hispanics have a very physical/“touchy” culture, especially amongst family members. It’s sort of expected that the older women in one’s family will feel like they have free rein to poke/prod the younger females, especially to “see” if they’re starting to “grow” in that area. This does NOT make it acceptable or okay, however, ESPECIALLY in the workplace!
tl gmc 4 months ago
I'm glad that although I'm Hispanic we are very much americanized then. I am much more an American than where my grandparents & great grandparents were born
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 4 months ago
Nah, that's not just sexual harassment. That's sexual assault. Why is the coworker still working there and not fired and in a jail cell, or waiting for court, yet. That senorita's fingers would be busted if she tried that with me.
notlikeyou1971 4 months ago
WTF!! I can't believe that anyone believes that it is okay to put their hands on someone else's breasts. Especially in front of a boss and him thinking it's okay. That's assault. I'd be uncomfortable too if it happened to me. The boss should have said something right there and then but he didn't. He's in the wrong as well because he allowed it. Then on top of that, what right do these ppl have to dictate if you wear a bra and what kind of bra you wear? Are they the Fashion Police?! You don't have to do what they say either. They don't buy your clothes and it's not a rule. Don't buy or wear a special bra or anything else to make others happy. You're there for a job. Not to put on a Fashion show. I'm glad you reported it but I would start staying out of the supervisor's office. It doesn't matter that they had Sensitivity training. By continuing to be in there it doesn't look right. It's like you accept inappropriate behavior. Now if it happens or escalated in the future, it won't be to your benefit spending time around 1 of the very ppl who allowed this kind of behaviors. Protect yourself.
Scott Rackley 4 months ago
Unless it's a handshake, putting your hands on someone else anywhere is a no no.
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