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Babysitter Is Completely Lost After The Parents Ignore Her Texts And Don’t Come Back In Time
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Babysitter Is Completely Lost After The Parents Ignore Her Texts And Don’t Come Back In Time

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When you work as a babysitter, two of the best qualities that your customers can have is honesty and communication. When you all know for a fact that you’re on the same page, everything runs smoothly. However, if you’re looking after the kids while their parents are changing the rules of your agreement or completely ignoring you, then it’s a disaster just waiting to happen.

Redditor u/poopfupa went viral on the r/mildlyinfuriating subreddit after sharing a babysitting story gone wrong. She explained how the kid’s parents were late coming back home and ignored her attempts to communicate. Not only that, there was the question of money, too… Scroll down for the full story.

Bored Panda got in touch with the author of the post, redditor u/poopfupa. She was kind enough to go into detail about what happened, gave us an update, and shared some spot-on advice for any babysitter who finds herself in a similar situation. Read on for the full interview.

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    A woman turned to the internet for advice when she realized that the parents of the kid she was looking after were ignoring her

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    Here’s how some people reacted to the situation. Some shared tips, others made jokes

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    The author of the post later gave a couple of updates on what happened

    Bored Panda reached out to redditor u/poopfupa to hear more about what happened and to get her thoughts on dealing with similar situations in the future. She explained what happened in more detail.

    “When the parents finally came home late the mother, who I was texting originally, had gone through the back door and straight upstairs and didn’t see or speak to me. I thought that was strange. At this point, the child I was babysitting was asleep and the dad came in and just asked me if I was going to be paid through the app or by cash. I reminded him that we agreed on cash,” the author of the post told us.

    “He walked out of the room and said he’d be back and honestly for some reason I got a little scared at this point. I didn’t know what he was going to come back with. He was very drunk and his face was red and his hair was a mess. He came back and pulled crinkled-up bills from his pocket and handed them to me. I counted it in front of him and I was just like, ‘Well what about the 2 hours?’ And I don’t really remember what he said, mostly because he was slurring and I couldn’t even understand him. Something about needing cash for the Uber and he’s ‘sorry’ and then just quickly switched the subject and asked if his daughter was good,” she explained what happened.

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    “I said, ‘She was great. Thanks a lot.’ And walked out of there. It was very obvious I was upset and why, but I wasn’t going to fight for it because I was just glad he came back with some cash and not a hammer to bash my brains in… I left and reported them immediately on the app for not paying me the full amount. I didn’t say anything to them afterwards. They didn’t say anything to me. Eventually, I just blocked them anyways.”

    According to the OP, her pay rate was $19 an hour to watch the child. She added that she “was great.” However, the three dogs in the house were “horribly behaved and scary.”

    “We agreed that they would be home by 10:30 latest, they knew that I lived 45 minutes away and needed to be up early the next day. They not only didn’t pay me the overtime hours but were also $13 short of the original agreed-upon amount.”

    The redditor said that she’s not sure why her post went viral. “I think it ended up being a very controversial subject due to all the different opinions and stories people were commenting on it. Some people called me a crybaby and said it wasn’t a big deal that I had to wait over 2 hours for them. It wouldn’t have been that bad had I gotten paid for those extra 2 hours, but I didn’t. Some people agreed that it wasn’t right for them to tell me that they would return at a set time and instead leave me waiting and wondering for hours,” the OP told Bored Panda about the wide range of reactions that her post got online.

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    “In no other job field is that considered okay. A surprising amount of people felt like I should have called CPS or the police. I wouldn’t have done that unless completely necessary, but I didn’t think a couple of hours called for extreme measure. I don’t know what to think of how Reddit reacted to my post, it’s a weird platform for sure. You get the weirdest people on here,” she said that some people messaged her directly asking her to babysit their children. Meanwhile, others asked her about things completely unrelated to the post, some of which weren’t something you’d hear out loud, in polite company.

    “Some people even offered to send me money to make up for it. Some people just bullied me but I didn’t take it too bad, it was entertaining me while I was stuck at a stranger’s house. I actually got banned from Reddit for a couple days after this post, it’s happened before on another post of mine that gained some traction. I think a lot of people thought it was fake and would report me so I wouldn’t get karma or something. Whatever. I don’t see how I could’ve or would’ve faked such a lame story,” she said.

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    “I did however enjoy the attention that my online shop got after my post went viral so that was pretty cool. It brought a lot of people to my page and from there they found my artwork and I gained probably over a hundred followers from that alone. So I can’t complain too much. It wasn’t like it was my whole job, I just needed quick money. I didn’t get what I was owed from them but I’m not worried about it anymore. I’m just simply never going to watch strangers’ children again.”

    Meanwhile, Bored Panda asked u/poopfupa about what advice she’d give someone who’s stuck in a similar situation as her while babysitting. “I would suggest getting payment upfront and having like double overtime charge. Maybe that would encourage parents not to run over someone else’s valuable time. I wish I did these things prior to the job, obviously, but I’m not really in the ‘nanny field’ so I’m not an expert on these things. I didn’t expect to be treated less than by people who are trusting me to watch their child. I don’t ever plan on nannying again for a stranger, just family if they needed because I know I can trust them,” she said.

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    “If I did stick to nannying as a real job then I’d definitely have a double overtime charge. I’m sure I’d learn more lessons if I did it more but that experience left a bad taste in my mouth, so I’d rather just not deal with that again. I think it’s very telling if they are willing to hire a stranger, because then they will just move on to the next nanny and do the same to them. I feel bad for that child because she probably has a revolving door of strangers watching her, and not a good solid relationship with a reliable nanny.”

    The OP also wanted to clarify one part of her story, regarding the do-not-disturb feature on the kid’s mom’s phone. “A lot of people made it a point to say that the do not disturb feature on iPhones can set automatically at a certain time, she was texting me periodically throughout the night checking in, up until I sent that message and it went on do not disturb and I was very clearly being ignored.”

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    The author of the post had found herself in quite a pickle. The kid’s parents were running very late. She was pressed for time. It’s not like she could just leave the child without supervision. And the couple completely ignored the message she sent them, trying to verify when they were coming back home.

    But the cherry on top? The fact that the couple underpaid the babysitter by $13 once they finally came back home, drunk, two and a half hours late. All in all, it wasn’t a great night for the redditor. However, her story got a ton of attention online. At the time of writing, her post already had over 87.3k upvotes.

    Reactions were mixed. Of course, there were plenty of people who completely sided with the OP. Some of them shared their own powerful personal stories about babysitting gone wrong.

    Not all internet users were impressed, however. Some accused redditor u/poopfupa of making things up for attention online. Others thought that the OP may have overreacted.

    It’s hard to know how to react in situations like these. Probably the best approach is that everyone’s on the same page before the parents leave. ‘Kidsit’ suggests finding out what time they plan to be home, whether there’s a chance that they’ll be late, and what the absolute latest time they might come back will be. The latter is important because that’s when you can officially start to worry and can reach out to the emergency contacts they left behind, if need be.

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    All in all, try to be as specific as you can about all the details. If the parents are answering your questions with general statements like, “We won’t be late,” try to diplomatically press them for a concrete time. And if they do end up running late, don’t be scared to give them a call. You are working a job after all. The parents expect you to show up on time; and you should expect them to honor their side of the deal. However, this story shows that even if you do agree on the details, not everyone will follow through on their promises.

    Meanwhile, here’s what some internet users said in the aftermath of the babysitting drama

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    Some people had similar stories to share. Here’s what they said

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    OmBoyGanesh
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Commenter “Paddy fo Faddy” said the most useful thing outside the context of the post. It’s inevitable when an issue of safety or care of children come up on these posts, some commenters go right to “CALL CPS CALL CPS.” That’s just not how they work and it’s also not how the law works. First off, the time OP agreed upon with the parents isn’t contractual by law, it’s very much a civil agreement that doesn’t have penalties & as a private party agreement isn’t enforceable by police. Let’s say OP called the cops for “abandonment” as some have said. Where’s the legal evidence? The kids were in the temporary custody of OP. Cops show up. Where’s the crime? OP found kids abandoned? No. OP was watching them but agreed to stop at specific time? No. It was an estimate, it was agreed upon in private communications that could have finished verbally. There’s no law broken. If OP bright kids to the county to relinquish custody after unreasonable time of them being in their care, that’s ok.

    OmBoyGanesh
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But all the parents have to say is that the texts were original plan, but OP offered to watch them overnight while the celebrated in a hotel or something. Prove they didn’t say that. After all, they took responsibility for the kids. It’s all so very much not contractual. There’s no real legal issues here. Now, CPS and their averages: for 1st complaint, which is usually made over phone, they review 10% & of those 10% investigate 1%. That’s the national average for first time complaints, often made during heated custody issues by proxies of parents. If they’ve found evidence of abuse or neglect by primary custodian, they recommend a course of action. The county or more likely state signs off on action. Only for immediate criminal findings can an officer remove the child/children. There has to be a pattern of abuse and neglect for CPS to get involved. They’re not the most funded resource out there. A babysitter calling CPS because parents are two hours later? Not criminal nor pattern.

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    madbakes
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I babysat a couple times for friends of my aunt. I wasn't older than 12 babysitting a 2 year old, and I really didn't know what I was doing. They stayed put until 2 am, and I had called them about 4 times with no one answering. Looking back-- what the hell is wrong with them? I was scared being alone late at night and not experienced with kids that young.

    Aisling Raye
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd drop the kids at the police station. Officers don't have to waste time coming out. You can explain that parents cut off communication and you have no way to contact anyone to take over care of the kids and you have somewhere to be. They're not your kids. They're not your responsibility after the agreed upon time. Without the parents communicating with you, you can't assume when/if they're coming back. The kids were abandoned. Police can figure it out. That's what they get paid for.

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    OmBoyGanesh
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Commenter “Paddy fo Faddy” said the most useful thing outside the context of the post. It’s inevitable when an issue of safety or care of children come up on these posts, some commenters go right to “CALL CPS CALL CPS.” That’s just not how they work and it’s also not how the law works. First off, the time OP agreed upon with the parents isn’t contractual by law, it’s very much a civil agreement that doesn’t have penalties & as a private party agreement isn’t enforceable by police. Let’s say OP called the cops for “abandonment” as some have said. Where’s the legal evidence? The kids were in the temporary custody of OP. Cops show up. Where’s the crime? OP found kids abandoned? No. OP was watching them but agreed to stop at specific time? No. It was an estimate, it was agreed upon in private communications that could have finished verbally. There’s no law broken. If OP bright kids to the county to relinquish custody after unreasonable time of them being in their care, that’s ok.

    OmBoyGanesh
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But all the parents have to say is that the texts were original plan, but OP offered to watch them overnight while the celebrated in a hotel or something. Prove they didn’t say that. After all, they took responsibility for the kids. It’s all so very much not contractual. There’s no real legal issues here. Now, CPS and their averages: for 1st complaint, which is usually made over phone, they review 10% & of those 10% investigate 1%. That’s the national average for first time complaints, often made during heated custody issues by proxies of parents. If they’ve found evidence of abuse or neglect by primary custodian, they recommend a course of action. The county or more likely state signs off on action. Only for immediate criminal findings can an officer remove the child/children. There has to be a pattern of abuse and neglect for CPS to get involved. They’re not the most funded resource out there. A babysitter calling CPS because parents are two hours later? Not criminal nor pattern.

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    madbakes
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I babysat a couple times for friends of my aunt. I wasn't older than 12 babysitting a 2 year old, and I really didn't know what I was doing. They stayed put until 2 am, and I had called them about 4 times with no one answering. Looking back-- what the hell is wrong with them? I was scared being alone late at night and not experienced with kids that young.

    Aisling Raye
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd drop the kids at the police station. Officers don't have to waste time coming out. You can explain that parents cut off communication and you have no way to contact anyone to take over care of the kids and you have somewhere to be. They're not your kids. They're not your responsibility after the agreed upon time. Without the parents communicating with you, you can't assume when/if they're coming back. The kids were abandoned. Police can figure it out. That's what they get paid for.

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