People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning

Some of the habits that people currently have might be childhood coping mechanisms that they picked up as ways to survive. They might have lived in a toxic family environment and faced neglect or abuse. They might have had to deal with constant fear, stress, and anxiety. And it only occurred to them way later, when they grew up, that the habits they grew to rely upon aren’t ‘normal’ at all.

Reddit users revealed the childhood coping methods that they unknowingly developed in an incredibly honest and impactful thread. They wrote about being hyper-aware of people’s microexpressions, shutting down their emotions, and creating imaginative scenarios to make their situations more tolerable. Scroll down for the most powerful things you will likely read today.

Bored Panda had a very open conversation about hardship, mental health, and childhood coping mechanisms with the author of the thread, redditor u/GreggOfChaoticOrder. They were very candid about their own struggles, the massive impact their r/AskReddit thread had, as well as their thoughts on dealing with trauma. Their hope is that by shedding light on these topics, others can know that they’re not alone in their struggles and it helps make the world a better place.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I look for signs, such as micro-expressions, about what kind of mood the other one is in. My therapist told me not all people do this, and I do it a lot. He also told me I developed it because I was always on the lookout because of my often angry, drunken stepdad.

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Eb 2 years ago

Me too.

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Redditor u/GreggOfChaoticOrder, the author of the viral thread, was incredibly open about what made them ask the question on r/AskReddit. “I was inspired to make that post because I was at a low point. I was so depressed and I just wanted to feel better,” they told Bored Panda.

“I had been commenting encouragement on other people's posts in r/bipolar, telling them things I'd want to hear, but it didn't feel like I was doing enough. After some soul searching and self-reflection I just kinda realized that many of the things I do are actually just coping mechanisms. So I decided to make a post about it and reply to whoever commented. Which was easy… for the first hour or two.” The thread quickly went viral, mainly because of how supportive the redditor was of everyone. But the author was quickly overwhelmed by the massive response.

“I couldn't reply to everyone at a certain point. I'd be getting 100-200 notifications every thirty minutes for a few hours at a time. I think it really took off because of all the work I did at the beginning. I tried encouraging people and letting them know it was a safe place. A place you could just scream into the void and find others there doing the same thing. A place you could even find people you can relate to. I never expected it to take off at all. I was ready for 20 or so comments and maybe as many upvotes,” the redditor told us that they were shocked that their thread then spread to YouTube, TikTok, and the media.

People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I can cut people out of my life and stop caring about people at the snap of my fingers, and I do it far too often to people who sometimes may not deserve it to keep myself safe.

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

This is purely to protect your heart and your emotional well-being. It's almost better to slowly form friendships and see where it ends up and not get too emotionally attached too quickly.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Saying 'I am sorry' all the time.

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Eb 2 years ago

Or never. No one in my family apologised to each other and it was more about winning the argument by whatever means possible. Had to learn it later in the real world.

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The author, u/GreggOfChaoticOrder, said that it felt good to have helped people know that they aren’t alone.

Bored Panda wanted to get the author’s opinion on whether hardships always lead to resilience and greater emotional toughness. They told us that, in their opinion, it depends on the situation and the individual.

“The hardships everyone has endured can sometimes make them stronger. I personally believe that while it does make some stronger it can be absolutely devastating to others. For example, two people subjected to the same emotional traumas can develop differently. For one it can make them stronger and more resilient against future traumas. For the other person, it can make them weaker to future traumas and more accepting of said future traumas,” they said.

“Everyone is built differently. How someone deals with trauma can't be put in black and white terms. How they deal and cope is a spectrum. I myself feel like my traumas have made me weaker in some areas, yet stronger in others.”

People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Assuming people are mad at me based on their vocal tone.

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Nopety 2 years ago

Isn't that normal?

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Shutting down when faced with confrontation.

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Hawkmoon 2 years ago

Same here. I do this to avoid saying things in anger that I would regret later, so I go on "mute" mode till the storm is away and the confrontation can become a conversation.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Apparently, I do something called 'disassociating' where I get so deep in thought that I don’t hear anything else around me. It drives my wife nuts.

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Kim Kermes 2 years ago

Dissociation is a disconnection between a person's thoughts, memories, feelings, actions or sense of who he or she is. This is a normal process that everyone has experienced. Unless you developed this deep concentration to shut out an unpleasant environment, you have a rare gift. My ex and I had a similar problem because we both had hearing loss, so we had to learn to call each other by name and wait for an answer before speaking. Hope you guys find a solution.

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What’s more, the incredibly supportive redditor shared something that they think everybody should hear. “You are not alone. Many have experienced situations similar to you, and many will experience those situations too. You may be too harsh on yourself, or think you are not enough. Yet you are here and that means you want to do better,” they said.

“You have even a small hope that it will be better. Whenever the lows start coming in and beating you down remember that at least you tried your best that day because that is all you can ask of yourself.”

Psychologist Lee Chambers also believes that not everyone reacts to hardships the same way. Some might get stronger because of them, others become weaker. However, we all have the choice of embracing what has happened to us and growing as individuals.

"Post-traumatic growth isn't always simple to explain or utilize, but often the adversity we face can create a precedent for what we can overcome, help us to see what we need to be grateful for, and give us an understanding of the support we do have. A big part of opening the door to grow from our struggles is finding acceptance and taking ownership over what you can control and finding healthy ways to express the negative emotion that comes with challenges that test us," the mental health expert told Bored Panda during an earlier interview.

People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning My parents were emotionally and often physically neglectful and cold. I was expected to stay out of the way and raise myself within the household. No mealtimes, bedtimes, bath times, nothing. The attention in the house was always negative. We lived way out in the country, too, so there were no playmates in the neighborhood — and my only sibling was 10 years older and of the opposite sex. I had this weird mental game from a young age — I must have gotten it from a book somewhere — where I would pretend I was in an orphanage (one of those old-fashioned ones, kinda like from Annie). The school bus dropped me off there. Then the evening was regimented. We lined up for dinner, sat and did homework, had a church-type service, and then were given baths and put to bed. I would pretend that I was one of many children doing these things. I would lie in bed and imagine myself lying in a row of identical twin beds.

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Susie Elle 2 years ago

How incredibly sad

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I don't know if it was a coping mechanism so much as a survival tactic. I walk on the balls/toes of my feet all the time. If I'm barefooted, my heels never touch the ground unless I'm standing still. Quietness was the objective.

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Jacob Nunez 2 years ago

Same, I still do that even though there is no reason to do it.

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I talk to myself, like full blown heart felt conversations. I'd keep things to myself because I would get in trouble for saying the wrong thing. I lie because people couldn't know certain things. I'd day dream because it was better then reality. I observed the room, their gestures to know if it's safe to interact. I don't say things about myself because I can't trust easily.

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Diana K 2 years ago

This sounds an awful lot like me when I was a kid....

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"As human beings, we have a desire for certainty and routine that keeps us feeling safe and able to plan what lies ahead in an organized manner. When unpredictable situations or accidents impact us, it can be traumatic, and we will likely feel a sense of disappointment, frustration, and loss," psychologist Lee said.

"It is important however that we embrace the fact that the world can be unpredictable and uncertain, and become more tolerant of this being a reality. Understanding that things are sometimes out of our control helps us to accept that not everything goes to plan, and accept when things happen to us that are negative. This acceptance allows us to embrace the change and difference, and manage our expectations so we can become more resilient to the ups and downs that all our lives lead."

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Shutting down emotional responses and forcing myself to 'not care' about any perceived loss. Apparently, this made it pretty annoying to discipline me because I would suddenly stop caring about anything that was threatened to be taken away. Nobody really taught me how to properly cope with loss when it started happening, and I guess my response was emotional repression.

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Bad Humor 2 years ago (edited)

I do this too

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Over apologizing and always questioning if I come off annoying, mean, or disrespectful. Having little to no self esteem. And self neglect.

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musical-trash 2 years ago

I do this. I thought it was normal, huh.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I learned to lie rather convincingly. I was petrified of getting in trouble for the smallest things that I learned to hide quite a bit. I had such high anxiety as a kid.

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AngelWingsYT 2 years ago

I do this to sometimes learned how when i was young n would get screamed at over the SMALLEST mistakes/screw ups. That also caused my anxitey of making mistakes/messing up

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The psychologist shared that he himself had to learn to walk again. There were certain things that helped him with his struggle.

"Using journaling and talking about how I felt played a significant part in my recovery when I had to learn to walk again, and gave me the space to grow to become mentally stronger as a result. It is also important to reflect on all the hurdles you've overcome, so you can see what skills and lessons you've learned to apply in the future, and adversity often helps us to see what really matters, and gets us closer to knowing our values and purpose."

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Not doing anything till the last minute so I feel pressured to do it — and when I finish doing it, I feel useful.

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LeighAnne Brown-Pedersen 2 years ago

☝️ - how to tell if you have ADHD ( takes one to know one)

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning My house is spotless. Everyone is surprised my house is so clean when I have three kids. It's totally a coping mechanism. If I'm upset or stressed, I clean, and with a baby, I'm stressed a lot.

This behavior comes from my dad throwing epic fits if the house wasn't clean and tidy. He would yell that he has four daughters, so why aren't things clean? I thought if the house was clean, it was one less thing to be yelled at about.

I'm slowly learning that it's OK to leave dishes in the sink or have an unmade bed. A mess still makes me extremely anxious, but I'm doing my best not to pass it on to my kids.

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Susie Elle 2 years ago

Your dad thought his daughters were born with brooms and vaccuums in their hands, because women? I'm sorry you were treated that way, OP.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Eating too fast. I remember noticing this even as a child still. I was always done first. And I never out grew it. Neglect and abandonment issues.

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Mark Howell 2 years ago

I learned at an early age, if I didn't eat my food quickly, my younger sister would pinch it. She was never repremanded for it, but it didn't go both ways.

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Meanwhile, childhood independence expert Lenore Skenazy explained to Bored Panda why there are so many ‘helicopter’ parents who are overprotective, overbearing, and anxious to let their kids have freedom.

She told us that it’s a result of “our catastrophizing culture” which has scared some parents senseless. By controlling kids to make them safe, some parents force them to live in anxiety.

“The result is not safety, it’s anxiety—kids who absorbed the message that everything is too much for them to handle. When you’re anxious, a simple slip-up doesn’t seem so simple. It seems huge—even life-threatening. How can you avoid those awful threats? That part is simple. You avoid doing anything,” she said.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Always being okay having your decisions overridden by others and believing they know best. Examples: For birthdays, we’d get to pick a restaurant to eat at. I’d pick a place and usually my sister would complain and my parents would override. Being asked what I’d want for Christmas and being told 'No, you don’t' when you tell them what you want. I was super into astronomy growing up, so when I asked for a telescope, I was told more than once I didn’t want it. So I started to believe I didn’t want one.

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Susie Elle 2 years ago

I feel this. My family has the tendency to kind of take my opinion into consideration but they never do anything with it.

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#17

Self depreciating jokes. If I make fun of myself first it wont hurt as bad when someone else makes fun of me.

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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 2 years ago (edited)

AND the jokes are funny

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Constantly trying to preempt or diffuse situations. I'm always checking the mood of the room. I'm pretending to laugh to lighten up my parents interactions.

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

Would go down to get a glass of water to remind them "I'm here and listening" but that made them angry at me for "interrupting their argument."

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Or shutting down because you have to work out the 'perfect response' in real-time. And no, screaming at me for being quiet will not make this process go any faster or help to resolve the mind-numbing panic that triggered it in the first place.

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Sareaesque 2 years ago (edited)

I had an ex who admitted to purposely pressing buttons he thought would make me angry to get a response out of me, because this (shutting down) is my response to being overwhelmed/in confrontational situations.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I do this, too — and I terrified co-workers when I materialized behind them like a ghost at the copy machine or café counter. They called me 'The Ghost,' and I laughed along, but kept to myself that I also knew where the exits were and what was between them and myself at any given moment.

Both of my parents had terrible tempers and three out of my four grandparents were abusive (of every kind you could name) people. You are absolutely right to call it a survival tactic.

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END WAR!!!! -(the quiet Kid) 2 years ago

Same :(

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#21

Daydreaming for me. Fantasizing with being loved, cared for, and finding the greatest everlasting unconditional love. This has f**ked me up when attempting relationships as an adult.
Having this conundrum today. Wondering whether this is good, problematic, achievable or even realistic, considering my experience and how I see people relate sentimentally to each other around me. Holding on to it or throwing it away for... what? I don't know what I'd want instead.

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Sareaesque 2 years ago

It's funny, I used to write a lot and one of the characters I used to talk to as an imaginary friend to feel safer/less lonely was a long haired metal head named Rick. My fiancé is a long-haired metal-head (who is also a huge geek for extra credit) named Ricky.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I keep track of where people are in the house. Since you can usually distinguish who is walking by how they sound, you can easily tell where they are. I still do it to this day even when it isn't necessary.

The sound of my mom or dad walking down the stairs always made my blood pressure spike. It was my only warning that they might open my door because they were really bad about not knocking and that meant they were pissed or wanted something. Unfortunately, they could also be walking downstairs for laundry or something else. So I would get worked up for no reason.

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Geeki Nikki 2 years ago

I did this ALL THE TIME when I was a kid. I still kind of do it but the need isn't there as much.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I just found out I have a binge eating disorder. I eat in secret sometimes and overeat. It comes from my childhood and not knowing where my next meal would come from.

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Blackadams 2 years ago

Reading this,i think i just discovered mine

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Sometimes I wonder if I'm indecisive for similar reasons. Mine isn't anything malicious. Just being the youngest of three, your opinions generally fall in last for a long time. I became very easy-going/go with the flow, but now I do this thing where I'll be like, 'sure whatever' — and stifle my own desires for others.

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Eb 2 years ago

That and the eternal 'no one cares what you think/want', so eventually you lose touch with that.

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#25

This. Gone through my whole life like it, am 24 now. When I say I'm not all here, I'm REALLY not all here. I'm not anchored, I'm constantly slipping into my head in crazy adventures with consistent characters, settings, universes, and themes. It's like constantly slipping out of reality and into a trippy TV show. I guess it's kinda nice sometimes, but it gets in the way of school, work, and EVERYTHING I try to do.

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Izzy Curer 2 years ago

Story of my life. Or rather, the story of my characters' lives. I'm the one who's not real.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Making my voice as monotone as possible to prevent people (my parents) from picking up on any tiny hint of emotion. My parents would lose it if I had 'a tone' or sounded upset in any way. It's taken years and years of practice to regain some emotion in my voice again.

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Rage of Aquarius 2 years ago

The "Watch Your Tone With Me" speech! Half my childhood right there.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Having three or four different responses ready for every conversation in advance just to prepare for what might come. My therapist told me this isn’t as normal as I thought it was and apparently other people don’t prepare this much for regular, everyday conversations.

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Rachknits 2 years ago

This can be a coping mechanism for autistic people

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Trying to think/mentally prepare myself for every possible horrible thing that could happen to me, so that if it did, I wouldn’t be blindsided. It didn’t work. I want to add that my mother died in a freak accident when I was young, and I was blindsided. My coping mechanism was to prepare for situations where a friend or family member is killed out of the blue, so I wouldn’t be caught off guard again. It caused me severe stress and the inability to relax ever. I am older now and therapy has done wonders for me.

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ᴇᴅᴇɴ 2 years ago

I do this too

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I can’t have an aspiration or a dream because I don’t want to disappoint myself. I can’t even say that I am gonna get a good grade on a specific subject out loud, because I'm scared I will disappoint myself. Same thing happens with other things in my life: when I apply for a specific college, I will just do it and ignore it until I get a result, because I don’t want to get my hopes up and end up not getting accepted. I can’t even have a New Years resolution because somehow I think I would fail, and I would rather already expect that than get my hopes up and fail. I am scared of being disappointed in myself.

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Mixed Reality Portal 2 years ago (edited)

So many times I've avoided my creative projects as I know they'll never be good enough and the constant fighting myself is so exhausting :-(

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Listening for the smallest sounds. Before I was old enough and had enough money to move out, I could hear the faint sound of the garage door opening because it would always squeak when it opens. I would then bolt upstairs to my room because the garage opening meant that my mom was home. I can distinguish her footsteps easily. I developed a hypersensitivity to sound because of her.

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Jacob Nunez 2 years ago

Same, I can literally distinguish the sounds of my dad or my mom knocking on a door, walking down or up steps, when my mom or dad closes car doors, the lot basically.

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Shutting down emotionally. I learned from a young age that if I felt some sort of way about something, it didn't matter because I was "too young to have real problems". Also, being invalidated all the time by being told it didn't matter or wasn't a big deal. So any time something bothered me, I'd just shut down and not want to talk at all. I was trying to sort my emotions myself and not offend anyone, but I was really just hurting myself.

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Enlee Jones 2 years ago

OMG I remember once telling someone I was stressed out and he just said “What do YOU have to worry about?” Yeah, thanks for completely invalidating my feelings there, j@ckass.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Having to laugh and smile every time you make a comment to your parents so they don’t immediately start getting offended over everything you say — it’s exhausting.

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Iggy 2 years ago (edited)

If you are now an adult, let them get offended. About time they grew up.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Laughing at pain, if I get hurt I laugh. I do it because I don’t want the people around me feeling uncomfortable. I do it even when people aren’t around. It hurts.

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BorPand8 2 years ago

Spooky picture

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Learning about dissociation is a game-changer. It's so hard to explain what you feel when it's happening. Being able to see other people try to explain it helps us understand it and not feel so broken.

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BRODOOLERINGO 2 years ago

Feeling like your life is a game, but you're watching yourself playing on the couch from outside the window. Losing time. Losing thoughts. Losing connections. Losing friends. Not noticing it all until it's to late. Coupled with derealization it can really unalive your whole social construct.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning My mom used to take away things I enjoyed when she was thinking I was behaving badly. At some point, I started to ignore it, finding something new or just lying in bed doing nothing. Now I'm curious if despite all other problems this also had an influence on me being indifferent about other people's presence and emotions.

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Bethany Heller 2 years ago

Isn't it normal to lose privileges over misbehavior?

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Yes, and when someone says, 'You don’t have to say sorry' and/or gets mad at you for saying sorry, and you get in a loop for saying sorry. Nowadays, it’s a lot better than it was. But whenever I feel bad, I just keep repeating it.

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Izzy Curer 2 years ago

Practice by saying thank you instead of sorry

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning Cleaning or doing things behind the scenes for my family so they're always happy, life goes smoothly, and my life is serene. The latter isn't the case unfortunately; I'm exhausted and always on edge.

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JJ 2 years ago

I never considered this as a coping mechanism. I do this all the time and I get extremely stressed out when my husband comes home from work early because I didn't have the time to tidy up yet. He never said something about it, neither does he expect me to do all this but now I understand why it's making me so, so, so nervous...

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#38

People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning I know that...it's like flipping a switch. It's most noticeable to me when I'm watching a movie and a scene comes on that triggers some kind of memory and so I mentally switch from being in tune with the movie to staring at the box on the wall while the pictures on it move. It completely removes all emotion.

Christmas_Panda , Nothing Ahead Report

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

Can totally relate.

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People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning My dad would get snippy with my sister and me to watch our tone when we wouldn't have one. And then in high school and college, the slightest friggin shift in demeanor of my friends toward me sent me into a damn worry spiral.
My boyfriend likes to speak frankly and clearly, and my mind makes it sound like he's upset, which makes me apologize and actually annoy him since I apologize too much to begin with.

lovabilities , Hello I'm Nik Report

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Hamilfan 2 years ago

I have issues with maintaining friendships because I would randomly convince myself that they found me annoying and just leave them alone

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#40

People Share 40 Habits They Have Had Since They Were Kids That They Now Realize Have A Much Deeper Meaning My sister and I both do this. Every minute spent at the table increased the likelihood that we would get yelled at for something unrelated, so the only strategy was to get out of there as quickly as possible. I have to make a conscious effort to slow down around other people now.

Rennarjen , Алекке Блажин Report

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Rage of Aquarius 2 years ago

I do the opposite. Too panicky to eat, I freeze completely and only unfreeze once everybody's done. Even eating alone it takes me a long time.

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Beth S 2 years ago (edited)

I have been in and out of therapy for a long list of things that I do not want to go into right now. I don't want to seem like I'm trying to compete with others in this thread. However during times that I cannot afford therapy I use some channels on YouTube that offer me some tools to better my mental health. Therapy In A Nutshell is a good resource. There are many others depending on what you struggle with. Good luck everyone

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GirlFriday 2 years ago

Thank you!!!!!

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Carol Emory 2 years ago

Thanks for the info! Good Luck to you too!

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Lenny 1 year ago

Patrick Teahan's channel is a great source for anything childhood trauma/CPTSD related

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Melissa Mckenzie 2 years ago

Can you share some of those channels?

A Jones 2 years ago

I'm growing concern that I can relate to more than 10 posts here. (>_>)

Amanda Long 2 years ago

Same...I need some therapy

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Izzy Curer 2 years ago (edited)

I was 30 when I finally learned that screaming at unexpected noises, or unexpected people behind you, or even jolts during car rides when you're not the one driving, is a symptom of cptsd. Unfortunately, most people either laugh or get angry. Very few people are understanding. It's also definitely not something most people do

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Beth S 2 years ago

Hypervigilance. I can relate.

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

Complex PTSD is my diagnosis, too. I relate in ways that are bone-deep. It's insane that our sanity relied on these mechanisms, and even worse that anyone laughs, etc. Hugs to you.

Just saying 2 years ago

I do this but I'm spectrumy - I can jump at the toaster popping. If my husband comes quietly into the room and then speaks, I shriek.

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