Ooooh. Need another roommate OP?

Yeah... OP is definitely not the AH here. Pretty sure that the roommate is just feeling jealous and insecure. I mean, the roommate has no issue with OP cooking and sharing his food with him. But then the GF stays with them and then there's a problem? The roommate is definitely insecure with his relationship.

I'm a bit baffled by "He's not a friend or anything.... He's good to live with and we watch shows and movies together. We hang out and go out for drinks sometimes". What is a friend then? Why can't he just pull his "not friend" up and ask if something's bothering him, and just talk it out?

First, ask your roommate in private what the issue really is. Could be many things but others I think hit on it... You make him look bad and seem less like a good partner. Perhaps it's time to find another place to live. Who needs that negativity? During my time in culinary school, I lived exclusively with other culinary school students. It was amazing! We collaborated really well and I learned so much from each of them

Some folks don't need anyone else's help to look bad.

It seems pretty clear that OP’s NTA, but he might be wise to back off the sharing until he has a serious conversation with his roomie, who seems to be clouded by insecurity that won’t go away on its own. The two need to have as deep a discussion as necessary to figure out what happened here and how to resolve it without ruining a friendship. Beyond that, I think the roommate might benefit from a bit of therapy to learn how to cope with fears that may have a completely rational basis but don’t make sense in this situation. And I send my best wishes for good luck to all three. A boyfriend whose place I shared for a time had abirthday that happened while I was between jobs, so I decided that my present would be a homemade cake. In retrospect, that was a good decision (although it seemed otherwise at the time). He told me his mother’s (from a box) was better. I was so hurt! Other oddness drove me away, and I’m so relieved.

NTA big time!!! If roomie is worried about losing his GF to you, then it's HE who needs to "step up" HIS game!! From my personal experience with southerners, having grown up with a couple of them (aka my late parents), they tend to be more friendly, hospitable, and willing to help out! My guess is roomie is from the East Coast, where folks tend to be more cynical. If he feels threatened by OP's cooking skills, he should ASK OP to teach him some basics just enough to impress GF. If OP offers to wash his car, he should accept with grace.

I'm from the south as well and I think that for some of us that was just how we were raised. You are supposed to treat your guests with respect and make them feel welcome. If the roommate thinks that by being nice the OP is trying to steal the girlfriend, then the roommate has a problem. Being polite is not the same thing as flirting. I am very polite to my customers, that doesn't mean that I am romantically interested in them.

Are we sure his roommate isn't actually trying to lose his GF and this guy is making it difficult? 😅

I have an extra room, do want to live with my husband and me?

The roommate is just mad because the OP looks like better boyfriend material.

As a Louisiana native, I can confirm that we are much friendlier than most people, which can be taken the wrong way depending on who you're dealing with. I've learned to scale back my niceness because most people seem to think you have some sort of hidden agenda when you're naturally just a nice person.

She’s telling all her friends and when they around his friends how great of a cook he is. His friends are telling him the roommate is trying to steal her. Or she’s always talking to him about how great a cook his roommate is then asking why he doesn’t cook for her, wash her car etc.

NTA... If you ever come to Alabama would absolutely love to have a roommate like you. It sounds like he is intimidated, that you mow the lawn, cook and offered to wash both of their cars. Most men can be intimidated by other men that are more rounded and show that they can be kind to others. Don't stop being kind but I wouldn't offer food or be helpful unless asked.

I will say NTA as I totally relate because I m like you however being a girl I have to say you overstepped by making her her favorite cake which gave her /them the message that you are interested. The way to a man's heart id is through his stomach that works both ways as you did something extra special for her. And you got her attention. That being said he is insecure by probably not going out of his way to give her special treatment and thus feels threatened by you. The nice guy. And girls go for nice guys. Don't go overboard. Just be u and leave it at that. For now go ghost unless u like her 🤷

nta however I had 2 roommates an friend hit on me. One bf roommate slipped me a note . I couldn't even be in the same room after that.

Yeah, the roomie here is someone with deep insecurities and likes the victim role. I am dealing with something similar to this, in my workplace. The other person involved has self esteem issues as well. When she likes how things are going, I'm a great supervisor. When she's not feeling well, or she's emotional about something else in her life, she flips to the narrative that I'm undermining her. No one else who has had her job has complained about the things that get under her skin, and the people I've talked to about this have pretty much told me I'm NTA. We will be having a conversation very soon that basically boils down to her having to make a choice. Either she decides to trust that I am not purposely undermining her/stepping on her self esteem, or we stop working together. That's the same kind of conversation this poster needs to have with his roomie, IMHO.

He's scared he's gonna take his girl.

Cooking is always a way to spread love, whether friendly, familiar, or romantic. But if he's making a bunch of stuff, it sounds more like he's definitely doing southern hospitality. That's ALWAYS "get full, have a nap, go have some fun". Romantic cooking is more about the time and presentation of the dish than the amount. This guy should really research different cultures, then ask for help so he can better himself, not try to drag those around him down his own self-pity hole.

The roommate could learn a lot from this guy. Or else he better do a better job of isolating his gf from every guy that has talents he does not. No television, social media, gym is definitely out of the question......🤣

I'd just tell him he'd better up his game, that you're not going to change the person you are and that you were brought up to be because he's insecure about his own self perceived short-comings. Generosity and helpfulness are something to be commended, there's little enough of it to be found as it is without him trying to curb yours for no good reason

I'm petty as heck. I'd say "sorry roommates gf, he doesn't want me feeding you anymore, so you can't have any. He's never complained about me feeding him though, so he can have the leftovers."

NTA but also not a wise move to cook a desired meal for someone who's someone else's special person without request. To you it's just what you do, and even under normal circumstances it's normal to your roommate but since she's around he's viewing you as a rival. Which is true whether you want it to be or not, definitely being so young. I've stolen girls from their bf for cooking things for them, texting them regularly and just being nice and I've also been dumped for other guys for similar reasons. It's not your fault and you shouldn't change but pay attention. I wouldn't be surprised at all if she has a crush on you. People tend to get temporary crushes when they experience a good difference from their usual experiences. Age and self esteem play a big role in behavior here.

Dodge the roommate and Ram the Girlfriend

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I'd actually go for a very, very mild ESH for both roommates. Obviously OP's roommate is the biggest AH; he's jealous and out of line. But I don't agree with OP's justification that he was just being hospitable to a guest. The roommate was the host, OP was not the host. Roomie's girlfriend coming over doesn't have anything to do with OP. And it would better de-escalate to step back when OP realized his roommate was crazy jealous, rather than continuing to engage by being so friendly.