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Discussion Online Ensues After This Bride-To-Be Shared A List Of 12 Rules For Guests At Her Upcoming Wedding
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Weddings are undoubtedly one of the most important occasions in life for a lot of people, which is why it is no wonder they have to be planned very well. Everything at a wedding has to be up to the bride and groom’s expectations to the very last details so that the event will indeed turn out as memorable as it could possibly be. Most of the time, people will follow very traditional guidelines for a wedding that have naturally evolved over many years. However, some people will want to have the event tailored to their specific ideas.
Sometimes people turn those ideas into certain rules, which can range from “small presents only” to what TikTok user cruzjasmine824 came up with. She decided that there will be 12 strict rules to be followed for her wedding so that everything goes as smoothly as possible. However, it could be said that the presentation of the rules paints a picture of a rather controlling bride. Scroll down for the whole story.
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It’s pretty normal to have rules for a wedding, but this woman’s rules take it to the next level
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Setting certain rules for an event as important as a wedding is, most of the time, very important. And even in the case of TikTok user cruzjasmine824, she doesn’t exactly go extremely overboard with how her wedding should look like. In an interview with Bored Panda, Jasmine explained why she shared the video: “It was a trend going around to post your wedding rules mostly as jokes. But I wanted to add mine since I’m getting married later this year” says Jasmine. She also adds that “The rules seem pretty straightforward, and thankfully my family and loved ones are willing to do anything to make the day special for me and my fiancé so I feel like it’ll go smoothly, I don’t think any of the “rules” are hard to follow.”
Her list starts out with a fairly standard entry
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Kids running around, causing a ruckus and distractions can certainly kill the mood of an event as important as a wedding, so it is no wonder the TikTok user lists this as a rule.
Although the rule itself is rather fair, the guests should get ready for the wine surprise
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Most of the time, bridesmaids will wear matching outfits. In Jasmine’s case, she wants them to feel free and wear whatever they want, according to some minimal guidelines of course. Jasmine said she finds that this rule is very important to her.
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Being interrupted as the bride during her own wedding wouldn’t make much sense, so the user’s mom will be the superhero of the day
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This is certainly a wholesome moment among the strictness of the rest of the rules. Having somebody manage your wedding is absolutely crucial. but having it be one of the closest people in your life is even better, as they’ll most likely know your most important needs.
In most ceremonies, vendors and event staff are typically slightly left out of the picture, but Jasmine decided that they will be part of the event
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Although these rules seem strict, they do seem like they will give the event a certain type of freedom. For instance, having vendors being treated as guests, who will, in a way, participate in the event, should create a more lively atmosphere. According to Jasmine, this particular rule is very important to her.
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When asked whether she would like to add more rules down the road, Jasmine said: “I have a couple more, I might want to do an unplugged ceremony, I wanted to add some covid safety rules and I wanted to add in that my fiancé and I will eat lunch together to enjoy our presence.” Furthermore, when she was prompted about the success of her TikTok video, she said: “I was very surprised to see the video go viral! I wasn’t expecting it at all, it’s been a wild experience, it feels like I’m dreaming. News sources and people I look up to are talking about it and. Even when there’s people disagreeing and being mean I ignore that because so many people understand and support.”
You can have a look at Part 1 below:
@cruzjasmine824 These are my very real wedding rules I’ll be doing at my wedding this year ! #greenscreen #wedding #elfitup #latinabride #latinowedding ♬ original sound – cruzjasmine824
The comments section was mostly supportive of the bride-to-be, although some thought she went a little overboard with the rules
All in all, setting some rules for a wedding is certainly part of a recipe for a good time, which is what most people in the comments section agree with. But others feel like a more relaxed event could be a better choice. What are your thoughts on the matter? Let us know in the comments section.
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angry_waffle 2 years ago
I don't get why this is extra? The rules boil down to don't be a jerk, don't purposely upstage the bride, the vendors are to be treated as humans, and have fun. There is nothing that is overly strict soooooo why??
Buren 2 years ago
I think it's some kind of sarcasm to show that it's not hard to be reasonable bride
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Daniel Mattock 2 years ago
This is actually quite reasonable by the standards of wedding rules set by the bride.
Lee 2 years ago (edited)
I was expecting some horrible, petty rules like "if my guest has blonde hair they need to dye it, I want to be the only blonde at my wedding". These all seem like perfectly reasonable requests. Especially the no white rule. Wearing white to a wedding is nothing more or less than a power move.
Arwen Whalen 2 years ago
I knew the no white rule, but I thought it meant not what a bride would wear. Ive been reading some things lately that say NO white. I have 1 dress nice enough to wear to a wedding. Its black teal & white, a little above the knee. I really hope having white as 1 of the main colors didn't ever offend any1. 😬 It isn't anything fancy at all just like a summer dress. I know all the brides well enough that they wouldn't have thought anything of it, but now my anxiety is worried that other people attending thought I was an ass. I just live under a rock. But I totally agree, this brides "rules" were awesome. She wanted people to have a good time. She was funny & responsible & more than reasonable in her requests! Making sure those working her event are taken care of? LOVE IT! & despite *Tom's* ridiculous responses, I DOUBT she is forcing anyone to drink, just letting people know the bar is open & to be responsible & enjoy!
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Charlie Taube 2 years ago
I really like the no drunk driving rule. It put a real damper on a wedding when someone dies.
BookCrazyTeen 2 years ago
These all seem super reasonable, love the one about drunk driving. And to be clear to some, she’s *encouraging* people to drink, not forcing them.
Dorothy Parker 2 years ago
Pretty great. I do like this bride. Smart, level headed. Nothing wrong here. Except maybe puking drunk guests.
Loki’s Lil Butter Knife 2 years ago (edited)
Americans making entire TikTok videos showing the world the rules for their weddings in really strange.
Load More Replies... aubergine10003 2 years ago
I don't... see a problem with this list. BP over here trying to make something out of nothing...
Mewton’s Third Paw 2 years ago
Who cares? This entire article is posted knowing people will go “huh? What’s wrong with this. Well EYE personally think it’s SMART, 😤” They posted it knowing that. And of course that’s what you guys did.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 2 years ago
I agree with all of rhese rules except 9. Don't try to force people to drink
Tris Hunt 2 years ago
She's not though, only that they take advantage of the bar and 9 goes along with the 'No drunk drivers'. They coincide with each other saying drink as much as you want but no driving drunk. No force whatsoever.
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Kiem Gallagher 2 years ago
Do you live in society? People need rules, they need to be reminded of the rules, or they will do whatever they want... and even after being reminded of the rules, they will still do whatever they want. People will dress inappropriately to weddings, people bring their 8 kids and the dog too even though the invitation only said John Smith +1, people will complain they're hungry even when you've specified the reception is hor d'oeuvres only, people will smoke because it's an outdoor wedding even though there are 10 NO SMOKING signs, etc., etc.
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Axolotl King 2 years ago
I like this. They're clear rules, none are over-the-top, I was a little concerned when she initially said all the bridesmaids had to be gay but when she pointed out that was just a coincidence that happened then that's fine. The drinking one is an encouragement, she wants people to not be afraid to have fun and be all formal, and she's not forcing anyone to drink. And most of these are just common respect for her and her big day anyways
Myr Lopez 2 years ago
adri_tellez sounds like they're mad because they don't get invited to a lot of weddings. Like if you want a big wedding then invite the world to yours, dear. But how many invitees a stranger has is none of your business and your aggression is a red flag~
John Dough 2 years ago
Clearly they've never been invited to anything. You need a headcount for seating, food, etc. Not only is bringing unexpected guests to a wedding unbelievably presumptuous and rude but if can also create a lot of problems with meals, drinks, and seating. Not to mention the extra costs they'll get hit with.
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Dirk Daring 2 years ago (edited)
I see nothing wrong with this list. I would even add #13: We already have a professional photographer/videographer. During the ceremony, please keep your phone in your pocket, or in your car.
Suzi Q 2 years ago
The only one I would object to is that, "You must be wasted." People drink what they want to drink, if people aren't getting wasted, it's not because they don't appreciate the open bar. Also she needs to consider that there might be some recovering alcoholics that aren't really open about it.
Linda Ward 2 years ago
I agree completely; whether or not someone chooses to drink alcohol should be their choice alone. In addition to the recovering alcoholics, some people may be taking medication that can dangerously interact with alcohol, they may have a medical condition for which they have been advised to avoid alcohol, or they may simply have a low tolerance. My suggestion would be for the open bar to include some non-alcoholic choices, so these people can still take advantage of it.
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Mad Mar 2 years ago
Got married at town hall. The following year had a reception with amazing food and open bar for family and friends at a restaurant we loved (luckily got it in before they closed). I wrote to the people w small kids that it is an ADULT party. Mostly because my nephews gf and him have a small child at the time they when they would go out they would basically not parent an assume everyone else would babysit their kid. I've seen them do it. So no kids. Teens, ok. Also I wish I had stated no bf if family hasn't met them or random dates. Got lots of photos w some guy my neice was dating an broke up with later that although was a great guy kinda sucked people ask who is that in all the family photos. Family pics should be immediate and spouse family. That's all.
Scipio Africanus 2 years ago
I’m not married and none of my friends are either so my opinion may not be as valid but tbh I think these rules are more than fair
wild_mushrooms 2 years ago
Honestly... I could see myself having similar rules? Maybe not with the wearing white thing, but not wanting to be disturbed or having huge announcements (especially if said people haven't cleared it with me first)? Seems totally agreeable
Misterscooter 2 years ago
If you have an issue with reasonable rules, don't go. And if you have an issue with most or all of these rules, you're probably a reason they needed to be written at all.
that weird weeb 2 years ago
I want most of these rules at my own wedding (should I ever have one). Don't upstage the bride, don't do the garter thing, treat the vendors humanly, be responsible, be kind to all guests, and don't drink and drive. One rule I would add is to treat the photographer like a guest. I've heard so many horror stories about photographers that have just been doing their jobs and have gotten grope, molested, insulted, etc.
Ashley Rose 2 years ago (edited)
I'm sorry but all of these are SUPER reasonable and very common rules and I appreciate this bride encouraging guests to drink and pointing out the fact that, that is the point of of open bar and should be well taken advantage of as well as for allowing her braidsmaids to dress within their comfort zones and personal style (within reason yes) but still a completely understandable and very considerate rule/bride!! But I saw someone say somthing like "why don't you want extra people, the more the merrier" okay well A. No one wants random people at their wedding and B. because it's flipping expensive most venues and catering companies charge per person/per plate. Not to mention that's an extra person that could end up getting g plastered and ruining my day, which idk if they will or not because IDK THEM.... so if you're not a friend, a family member or the plus one, than you're not welcome - especially when she was considerate enough to allow the people she is PAYING to work to also stay and enjoy themselves on breaks as well as after, that's already being super thoughtful and that's enough extra people .. like how do people not get that?!?! Weddings are expensive enough, you really wanna be paying extra money for people you don't know or don't want there to begin with?! Ad far as the rest of these rules, they should go without being said and if you break any of them you're a straight up jerk who doesn't belong there! But this bride seems like a great person and I reapect the fact that she low key pointed out her bridsmaids being 🌈 it's a nice way of subtly letting people know to not make rude or offesive comments even if joking and don't waste you're time trying to get some if you're not their type, you'll just embarrass yourself trying and make them uncomfortable. I could see myself being friends with this girl and it erks me people are being so rude, they've clearly never experienced a REAL Bridezilla before...
Harry Balls 2 years ago
....sigh. Slow days in the world of news or stories now when tic tok crap makes headlines. Remember when articles and news was actually stuff that mattered
A Dasher Panda 2 years ago
Even when I was in high school I didn't want to go to a family wedding. Kids really don't want to go, so don't be selfishly mad you can't take them with you.
Mike Loux 2 years ago
Dang, I came here expecting to label her as a bridezilla, but her rules actually...make sense? I mean, honestly, I think she's a total badass. Also, the red wine doesn't have to be expensive. The bridesmaids could all be carrying bottles of Boone's Farm or Two Buck Chuck. Go nuts!
JuniorCJ82 2 years ago
Most of them are great. Don't see why anyone invited would have a problem.
Rob McLaughlin 2 years ago
Why is all her bridesmaids are LGBT on the list? Stop. Dividing. People. Into. Classes. Seriously her self back patting for calling this out is ridiculous.
Amber Bedard 2 years ago
Kids running around a wedding with all their cousins and stuff... That was always so fun growing up! We would meet new kids too. So, to me that rule is kinda bunk but whatever
Maggie Hood 2 years ago (edited)
I don't see anything wrong with these except that the bridesmaids are apparently chosen based on sexual orientation, it's just a little weird but if they're fine with it then ok I guess (it could be a joke though so if that's the case then my bad). The rest are very good rules to have in my opinion, especially the one about the vendors being treated respectfully and the no drunk driving one.
Chris Carter 2 years ago
Nope. She she realized that most were on the LGBT scale, not that's why they were chosen. It just so happens that they are.
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memyselfandI 2 years ago
I was expecting a bridezilla, why in the world would there be controversy over this? The “drink a lot” thing is a little odd if you’re not a drinker, but it doesn’t look actually required, just highly recommended.
FruityTootsieRoll 2 years ago
I dont see how this is bad, I personally agree with most of these rules-
Kayla Engle Lewis 2 years ago
PS do Your guess need to be drunk to be fun guests and make your special day fun? Guess at any event should be responsible for trying to have fun and make the party fun, but I was put off by the pressure to drink.
Kayla Engle Lewis 2 years ago
I found it to be a difficult decision when I was married, in 1994, to include +ones or only include dates of people that were in serious relationships… In order to save money, which can be really important since weddings can be really expensive. I decided to allow my single friends to bring a friend or date and respect for how it might feel uncomfortable to go to a wedding alone… Especially if you don’t know many people who will attend. Now 27 years later, I’m getting divorced. I have attended a few events in the past couple months, including one where I was in a show , and it was painful to not be with my spouse, to be on my own and single at a group event…
Kayla Engle Lewis 2 years ago
It can be a difficult decision about including “plus ones “friends or dates of single attendees. It’s difficult because it’s expensive to pay for each person and the wedding is expensive. At my wedding in 1994, we included +ones on our invitations just to be extra sensitive to our single friends who might feel uncomfortable coming to a wedding alone. 27 years ago I am unfortunately going through a divorce, and I can already feel how uncomfortable one might feel going to event alone, especially if you don’t know a lot of the attendees
Kayla Engle Lewis 2 years ago
Having single people bring +ones is a tough decision… If they are not dating somebody in a serious relationship, I understand that it’s tempting or even necessary to save money on the per person costs… On the other hand when I got married in 1994, we decided to allow people to bring a friend or a date be sensitive to how they feel coming alone to a wedding. And personally, I am just starting the process of divorce and the process of getting used to going to events alone. It’s not easy.
SillyDragonfly4 2 years ago
I love her rules but it's sad you have to tell people how to behave. Maybe their parents never did?
Tygalily 2 years ago
Other than to take advantage of the free open bar as suggested, I'd see NO reason in hell to attend this nasty, entitled bridezillas wedding. Wtf do these bitches think they are??? U gonna threaten me with your diesel dike gestapo in the invitation??? Ang I'm supposed to bring you a present for it??? Good thing she's got plenty of dildos cuz she can go F**K HERSELF HARD
Shelley DuVal 2 years ago
I agree with all these rules. Sounds like everyone is going to have a good time and they all know who to talk to etc. I hope the wedding goes/went perfectly.
Teddy O'Malley 2 years ago
These are all really reasonable rules, and I'm someone who hates weddings.
Lisa Shaw 2 years ago
My stepson had a no children rule at his wedding, with only one exception, one of his groomsman wife was due to deliver the day of the wedding, she delivered two days before, she did not bring the baby to ceremony, but she did come for the dinner and some of the reception and the baby was awesome, slept through the whole thing! We just took turns holding the baby for her when she went to the restroom or to get cake. She was a real trooper who even danced with her husband twice, less than 48 hours after delivering!
Polly Pockets 2 years ago
Those are all very reasonable. I was expecting something bridezilla. Also, I love that she wanted her vendors to be treated like guests when they are on a break.
AngelWingsYT 2 years ago
Most of these are common sense....dont drink and drive, dont make the day about you, dont put more stress on the bride, dont wear white (common traditional move), no garter (i agree EW) Hell she lets the bridesmaids pick their OWN dresses! Thats nicer than most brides
Camilo Madrigal 2 years ago
Call me whatever you want, but I giggled a bit at the "all the bridesmaids are 🌈" (Just the way she worded it)
Linh Ngüyën 2 years ago
I love that somebody has the audacity to say "the more the merrier". Its. Not. Your. Wedding. The guest don't get to choose whose presence the bride and groom will enjoy.
Micah 2 years ago
This is all good. The only "problems" are a bridesmaid actually spilling wine on someone's white outfit, but then again, seriously don't wear white. Then the 7th rule isn't a rule, it's just a fact. Maybe she's saying don't come if you're intolerant of didn't sexualities? All in all, I'd go to this wedding and I don't even like weddings.
Elizabeth Molloy 2 years ago
What is the garter thing? I don't think there is any such thing in the UK.
Abby Harrison 2 years ago
I dont under under the garter rule. arnt garters, something u use to hold up ur socks? how is that gross?
deborah shealey 2 years ago
This is awesome! I love that the bridesmaids can pick what looks best on them and not have to wear something that doesn't just to all like alike. When I got married eons ago there was no such thing as a cash bar at a wedding . My dad paid for the amount of alcohol used at the end of the night, not a set price. I think it's an insult to the guests anyway to expect them to buy their own. Of course we all got trashed!; there was also no such thing as a DUI back then either. Made it easier for everyone to enjoy themselves.
Joseph Holtom 2 years ago
Please please can I come?!?! I will pay for my plate & bring a fabulous gift! I just need 2 meet this squad of bridesmaids that are apparently a version of MI6 or something - & I hope 2 High Heaven one rocks the pantsuit....as long as it's color appropriate! Seriously though - it's your wedding so your rules so don't give a toss about (within reason 😉) others....Congrats! p.s. - if & when he ever proposes (12 yrs & counting) I hope I have a team of LBGTQ+ 2 help me down the aisle .... you're a lucky gal & has a lucky fella!
Julianne Hannes 2 years ago
I'll be wearing a see through cream color lace dress with a 20ft train and light up rhinestone tiara
PanteraSilva 2 years ago
These are great rules, I live them. Nothing is extra, everything is thought of and just common curtesy, and I love the vender rules, so wholesome
Marco Conti 2 years ago
Compared to other bridezilla rules, this is pretty mild. I still hate weddings and wouldn’t attend anyway. It's my religion: No weddings, no funerals. My pretend god gets very upset if I break that rule.
Evil Little Thing 2 years ago
A thigh strap used to hold up a stocking. They used to be functional, now they're just decorative thigh scrunched. "The garter thing" is a game where the bride sits in a chair and the groom sticks his head under her dress and pulls the garter off with his teeth while the attendees witness and applaud. It's dumb, but not as humiliating as the "dollar dance", where the people pin a dollar to the bride's dress for a turn to dance with her.
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Barbara Bavier 2 years ago
The only thing I have an issue with is the “no kids, except…” rule. Either let all of them come or none of them come.
that.bitch.mae 2 years ago
I think it'd be different if she were letting a few friends' kids come but if it's just family, that's fine. I don't like kids and wouldn't want any at a wedding period but I understand wanting to bring family, and sometimes family is under 18
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Vincent King 2 years ago
Tik-tok is for r******d and self proclaimed idols. China will own America if it keeps the same Trajectory within the next 10 years. My biggest question is why would a country make an app that none of there people take part in? Oh that's right, China LITERALLY developed tik-tok to weaken the Americans. I know I'm not the only person that knows this so when we get raided and taken over I don't wanna hear about it!
John Dough 2 years ago
No one asked for your opinion on someone you don't knows sexuality.
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K Witmer 2 years ago
Basically these rules were please be respectful of my boundaries. At no time were they unreasonable. It's expensive per plate and open bar so having random people show up to your wedding is a horrible thing to do to the people paying for the food and drinks just as well f you say you'll attend and then don't show up you still have to pay for that plate. If you tell the caterers 200 people you have to pay for that even if only 100 show up. If the attendance goes over 200 you still have to pay per plate for the extra food. Open bar you have to pay for all the liquor up front and the bartender and bar back. If you run out you have to pay a certain amount for more. Most venues will not let you bring your own. Example I had 230 people it was 78$ per plate. I forget the bar tally but it was expensive. My mom paid for that bc she wanted some top shelf liquor to be served
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angry_waffle 2 years ago
I don't get why this is extra? The rules boil down to don't be a jerk, don't purposely upstage the bride, the vendors are to be treated as humans, and have fun. There is nothing that is overly strict soooooo why??
Buren 2 years ago
I think it's some kind of sarcasm to show that it's not hard to be reasonable bride
Load More Replies... Daniel Mattock 2 years ago
This is actually quite reasonable by the standards of wedding rules set by the bride.
Lee 2 years ago (edited)
I was expecting some horrible, petty rules like "if my guest has blonde hair they need to dye it, I want to be the only blonde at my wedding". These all seem like perfectly reasonable requests. Especially the no white rule. Wearing white to a wedding is nothing more or less than a power move.
Arwen Whalen 2 years ago
I knew the no white rule, but I thought it meant not what a bride would wear. Ive been reading some things lately that say NO white. I have 1 dress nice enough to wear to a wedding. Its black teal & white, a little above the knee. I really hope having white as 1 of the main colors didn't ever offend any1. 😬 It isn't anything fancy at all just like a summer dress. I know all the brides well enough that they wouldn't have thought anything of it, but now my anxiety is worried that other people attending thought I was an ass. I just live under a rock. But I totally agree, this brides "rules" were awesome. She wanted people to have a good time. She was funny & responsible & more than reasonable in her requests! Making sure those working her event are taken care of? LOVE IT! & despite *Tom's* ridiculous responses, I DOUBT she is forcing anyone to drink, just letting people know the bar is open & to be responsible & enjoy!
Load More Replies... Charlie Taube 2 years ago
I really like the no drunk driving rule. It put a real damper on a wedding when someone dies.
BookCrazyTeen 2 years ago
These all seem super reasonable, love the one about drunk driving. And to be clear to some, she’s *encouraging* people to drink, not forcing them.
Dorothy Parker 2 years ago
Pretty great. I do like this bride. Smart, level headed. Nothing wrong here. Except maybe puking drunk guests.
Loki’s Lil Butter Knife 2 years ago (edited)
Americans making entire TikTok videos showing the world the rules for their weddings in really strange.
Load More Replies... aubergine10003 2 years ago
I don't... see a problem with this list. BP over here trying to make something out of nothing...
Mewton’s Third Paw 2 years ago
Who cares? This entire article is posted knowing people will go “huh? What’s wrong with this. Well EYE personally think it’s SMART, 😤” They posted it knowing that. And of course that’s what you guys did.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 2 years ago
I agree with all of rhese rules except 9. Don't try to force people to drink
Tris Hunt 2 years ago
She's not though, only that they take advantage of the bar and 9 goes along with the 'No drunk drivers'. They coincide with each other saying drink as much as you want but no driving drunk. No force whatsoever.
Load More Replies... Kiem Gallagher 2 years ago
Do you live in society? People need rules, they need to be reminded of the rules, or they will do whatever they want... and even after being reminded of the rules, they will still do whatever they want. People will dress inappropriately to weddings, people bring their 8 kids and the dog too even though the invitation only said John Smith +1, people will complain they're hungry even when you've specified the reception is hor d'oeuvres only, people will smoke because it's an outdoor wedding even though there are 10 NO SMOKING signs, etc., etc.
Load More Replies... Axolotl King 2 years ago
I like this. They're clear rules, none are over-the-top, I was a little concerned when she initially said all the bridesmaids had to be gay but when she pointed out that was just a coincidence that happened then that's fine. The drinking one is an encouragement, she wants people to not be afraid to have fun and be all formal, and she's not forcing anyone to drink. And most of these are just common respect for her and her big day anyways
Myr Lopez 2 years ago
adri_tellez sounds like they're mad because they don't get invited to a lot of weddings. Like if you want a big wedding then invite the world to yours, dear. But how many invitees a stranger has is none of your business and your aggression is a red flag~
John Dough 2 years ago
Clearly they've never been invited to anything. You need a headcount for seating, food, etc. Not only is bringing unexpected guests to a wedding unbelievably presumptuous and rude but if can also create a lot of problems with meals, drinks, and seating. Not to mention the extra costs they'll get hit with.
Load More Replies... Dirk Daring 2 years ago (edited)
I see nothing wrong with this list. I would even add #13: We already have a professional photographer/videographer. During the ceremony, please keep your phone in your pocket, or in your car.
Suzi Q 2 years ago
The only one I would object to is that, "You must be wasted." People drink what they want to drink, if people aren't getting wasted, it's not because they don't appreciate the open bar. Also she needs to consider that there might be some recovering alcoholics that aren't really open about it.
Linda Ward 2 years ago
I agree completely; whether or not someone chooses to drink alcohol should be their choice alone. In addition to the recovering alcoholics, some people may be taking medication that can dangerously interact with alcohol, they may have a medical condition for which they have been advised to avoid alcohol, or they may simply have a low tolerance. My suggestion would be for the open bar to include some non-alcoholic choices, so these people can still take advantage of it.
Load More Replies... Mad Mar 2 years ago
Got married at town hall. The following year had a reception with amazing food and open bar for family and friends at a restaurant we loved (luckily got it in before they closed). I wrote to the people w small kids that it is an ADULT party. Mostly because my nephews gf and him have a small child at the time they when they would go out they would basically not parent an assume everyone else would babysit their kid. I've seen them do it. So no kids. Teens, ok. Also I wish I had stated no bf if family hasn't met them or random dates. Got lots of photos w some guy my neice was dating an broke up with later that although was a great guy kinda sucked people ask who is that in all the family photos. Family pics should be immediate and spouse family. That's all.
Scipio Africanus 2 years ago
I’m not married and none of my friends are either so my opinion may not be as valid but tbh I think these rules are more than fair
wild_mushrooms 2 years ago
Honestly... I could see myself having similar rules? Maybe not with the wearing white thing, but not wanting to be disturbed or having huge announcements (especially if said people haven't cleared it with me first)? Seems totally agreeable
Misterscooter 2 years ago
If you have an issue with reasonable rules, don't go. And if you have an issue with most or all of these rules, you're probably a reason they needed to be written at all.
that weird weeb 2 years ago
I want most of these rules at my own wedding (should I ever have one). Don't upstage the bride, don't do the garter thing, treat the vendors humanly, be responsible, be kind to all guests, and don't drink and drive. One rule I would add is to treat the photographer like a guest. I've heard so many horror stories about photographers that have just been doing their jobs and have gotten grope, molested, insulted, etc.
Ashley Rose 2 years ago (edited)
I'm sorry but all of these are SUPER reasonable and very common rules and I appreciate this bride encouraging guests to drink and pointing out the fact that, that is the point of of open bar and should be well taken advantage of as well as for allowing her braidsmaids to dress within their comfort zones and personal style (within reason yes) but still a completely understandable and very considerate rule/bride!! But I saw someone say somthing like "why don't you want extra people, the more the merrier" okay well A. No one wants random people at their wedding and B. because it's flipping expensive most venues and catering companies charge per person/per plate. Not to mention that's an extra person that could end up getting g plastered and ruining my day, which idk if they will or not because IDK THEM.... so if you're not a friend, a family member or the plus one, than you're not welcome - especially when she was considerate enough to allow the people she is PAYING to work to also stay and enjoy themselves on breaks as well as after, that's already being super thoughtful and that's enough extra people .. like how do people not get that?!?! Weddings are expensive enough, you really wanna be paying extra money for people you don't know or don't want there to begin with?! Ad far as the rest of these rules, they should go without being said and if you break any of them you're a straight up jerk who doesn't belong there! But this bride seems like a great person and I reapect the fact that she low key pointed out her bridsmaids being 🌈 it's a nice way of subtly letting people know to not make rude or offesive comments even if joking and don't waste you're time trying to get some if you're not their type, you'll just embarrass yourself trying and make them uncomfortable. I could see myself being friends with this girl and it erks me people are being so rude, they've clearly never experienced a REAL Bridezilla before...
Harry Balls 2 years ago
....sigh. Slow days in the world of news or stories now when tic tok crap makes headlines. Remember when articles and news was actually stuff that mattered
A Dasher Panda 2 years ago
Even when I was in high school I didn't want to go to a family wedding. Kids really don't want to go, so don't be selfishly mad you can't take them with you.
Mike Loux 2 years ago
Dang, I came here expecting to label her as a bridezilla, but her rules actually...make sense? I mean, honestly, I think she's a total badass. Also, the red wine doesn't have to be expensive. The bridesmaids could all be carrying bottles of Boone's Farm or Two Buck Chuck. Go nuts!
JuniorCJ82 2 years ago
Most of them are great. Don't see why anyone invited would have a problem.
Rob McLaughlin 2 years ago
Why is all her bridesmaids are LGBT on the list? Stop. Dividing. People. Into. Classes. Seriously her self back patting for calling this out is ridiculous.
Amber Bedard 2 years ago
Kids running around a wedding with all their cousins and stuff... That was always so fun growing up! We would meet new kids too. So, to me that rule is kinda bunk but whatever
Maggie Hood 2 years ago (edited)
I don't see anything wrong with these except that the bridesmaids are apparently chosen based on sexual orientation, it's just a little weird but if they're fine with it then ok I guess (it could be a joke though so if that's the case then my bad). The rest are very good rules to have in my opinion, especially the one about the vendors being treated respectfully and the no drunk driving one.
Chris Carter 2 years ago
Nope. She she realized that most were on the LGBT scale, not that's why they were chosen. It just so happens that they are.
Load More Replies... memyselfandI 2 years ago
I was expecting a bridezilla, why in the world would there be controversy over this? The “drink a lot” thing is a little odd if you’re not a drinker, but it doesn’t look actually required, just highly recommended.
FruityTootsieRoll 2 years ago
I dont see how this is bad, I personally agree with most of these rules-
Kayla Engle Lewis 2 years ago
PS do Your guess need to be drunk to be fun guests and make your special day fun? Guess at any event should be responsible for trying to have fun and make the party fun, but I was put off by the pressure to drink.
Kayla Engle Lewis 2 years ago
I found it to be a difficult decision when I was married, in 1994, to include +ones or only include dates of people that were in serious relationships… In order to save money, which can be really important since weddings can be really expensive. I decided to allow my single friends to bring a friend or date and respect for how it might feel uncomfortable to go to a wedding alone… Especially if you don’t know many people who will attend. Now 27 years later, I’m getting divorced. I have attended a few events in the past couple months, including one where I was in a show , and it was painful to not be with my spouse, to be on my own and single at a group event…
Kayla Engle Lewis 2 years ago
It can be a difficult decision about including “plus ones “friends or dates of single attendees. It’s difficult because it’s expensive to pay for each person and the wedding is expensive. At my wedding in 1994, we included +ones on our invitations just to be extra sensitive to our single friends who might feel uncomfortable coming to a wedding alone. 27 years ago I am unfortunately going through a divorce, and I can already feel how uncomfortable one might feel going to event alone, especially if you don’t know a lot of the attendees
Kayla Engle Lewis 2 years ago
Having single people bring +ones is a tough decision… If they are not dating somebody in a serious relationship, I understand that it’s tempting or even necessary to save money on the per person costs… On the other hand when I got married in 1994, we decided to allow people to bring a friend or a date be sensitive to how they feel coming alone to a wedding. And personally, I am just starting the process of divorce and the process of getting used to going to events alone. It’s not easy.
SillyDragonfly4 2 years ago
I love her rules but it's sad you have to tell people how to behave. Maybe their parents never did?
Tygalily 2 years ago
Other than to take advantage of the free open bar as suggested, I'd see NO reason in hell to attend this nasty, entitled bridezillas wedding. Wtf do these bitches think they are??? U gonna threaten me with your diesel dike gestapo in the invitation??? Ang I'm supposed to bring you a present for it??? Good thing she's got plenty of dildos cuz she can go F**K HERSELF HARD
Shelley DuVal 2 years ago
I agree with all these rules. Sounds like everyone is going to have a good time and they all know who to talk to etc. I hope the wedding goes/went perfectly.
Teddy O'Malley 2 years ago
These are all really reasonable rules, and I'm someone who hates weddings.
Lisa Shaw 2 years ago
My stepson had a no children rule at his wedding, with only one exception, one of his groomsman wife was due to deliver the day of the wedding, she delivered two days before, she did not bring the baby to ceremony, but she did come for the dinner and some of the reception and the baby was awesome, slept through the whole thing! We just took turns holding the baby for her when she went to the restroom or to get cake. She was a real trooper who even danced with her husband twice, less than 48 hours after delivering!
Polly Pockets 2 years ago
Those are all very reasonable. I was expecting something bridezilla. Also, I love that she wanted her vendors to be treated like guests when they are on a break.
AngelWingsYT 2 years ago
Most of these are common sense....dont drink and drive, dont make the day about you, dont put more stress on the bride, dont wear white (common traditional move), no garter (i agree EW) Hell she lets the bridesmaids pick their OWN dresses! Thats nicer than most brides
Camilo Madrigal 2 years ago
Call me whatever you want, but I giggled a bit at the "all the bridesmaids are 🌈" (Just the way she worded it)
Linh Ngüyën 2 years ago
I love that somebody has the audacity to say "the more the merrier". Its. Not. Your. Wedding. The guest don't get to choose whose presence the bride and groom will enjoy.
Micah 2 years ago
This is all good. The only "problems" are a bridesmaid actually spilling wine on someone's white outfit, but then again, seriously don't wear white. Then the 7th rule isn't a rule, it's just a fact. Maybe she's saying don't come if you're intolerant of didn't sexualities? All in all, I'd go to this wedding and I don't even like weddings.
Elizabeth Molloy 2 years ago
What is the garter thing? I don't think there is any such thing in the UK.
Abby Harrison 2 years ago
I dont under under the garter rule. arnt garters, something u use to hold up ur socks? how is that gross?
deborah shealey 2 years ago
This is awesome! I love that the bridesmaids can pick what looks best on them and not have to wear something that doesn't just to all like alike. When I got married eons ago there was no such thing as a cash bar at a wedding . My dad paid for the amount of alcohol used at the end of the night, not a set price. I think it's an insult to the guests anyway to expect them to buy their own. Of course we all got trashed!; there was also no such thing as a DUI back then either. Made it easier for everyone to enjoy themselves.
Joseph Holtom 2 years ago
Please please can I come?!?! I will pay for my plate & bring a fabulous gift! I just need 2 meet this squad of bridesmaids that are apparently a version of MI6 or something - & I hope 2 High Heaven one rocks the pantsuit....as long as it's color appropriate! Seriously though - it's your wedding so your rules so don't give a toss about (within reason 😉) others....Congrats! p.s. - if & when he ever proposes (12 yrs & counting) I hope I have a team of LBGTQ+ 2 help me down the aisle .... you're a lucky gal & has a lucky fella!
Julianne Hannes 2 years ago
I'll be wearing a see through cream color lace dress with a 20ft train and light up rhinestone tiara
PanteraSilva 2 years ago
These are great rules, I live them. Nothing is extra, everything is thought of and just common curtesy, and I love the vender rules, so wholesome
Marco Conti 2 years ago
Compared to other bridezilla rules, this is pretty mild. I still hate weddings and wouldn’t attend anyway. It's my religion: No weddings, no funerals. My pretend god gets very upset if I break that rule.
Evil Little Thing 2 years ago
A thigh strap used to hold up a stocking. They used to be functional, now they're just decorative thigh scrunched. "The garter thing" is a game where the bride sits in a chair and the groom sticks his head under her dress and pulls the garter off with his teeth while the attendees witness and applaud. It's dumb, but not as humiliating as the "dollar dance", where the people pin a dollar to the bride's dress for a turn to dance with her.
Load More Replies... Barbara Bavier 2 years ago
The only thing I have an issue with is the “no kids, except…” rule. Either let all of them come or none of them come.
that.bitch.mae 2 years ago
I think it'd be different if she were letting a few friends' kids come but if it's just family, that's fine. I don't like kids and wouldn't want any at a wedding period but I understand wanting to bring family, and sometimes family is under 18
Load More Replies... Vincent King 2 years ago
Tik-tok is for r******d and self proclaimed idols. China will own America if it keeps the same Trajectory within the next 10 years. My biggest question is why would a country make an app that none of there people take part in? Oh that's right, China LITERALLY developed tik-tok to weaken the Americans. I know I'm not the only person that knows this so when we get raided and taken over I don't wanna hear about it!
John Dough 2 years ago
No one asked for your opinion on someone you don't knows sexuality.
Load More Replies... K Witmer 2 years ago
Basically these rules were please be respectful of my boundaries. At no time were they unreasonable. It's expensive per plate and open bar so having random people show up to your wedding is a horrible thing to do to the people paying for the food and drinks just as well f you say you'll attend and then don't show up you still have to pay for that plate. If you tell the caterers 200 people you have to pay for that even if only 100 show up. If the attendance goes over 200 you still have to pay per plate for the extra food. Open bar you have to pay for all the liquor up front and the bartender and bar back. If you run out you have to pay a certain amount for more. Most venues will not let you bring your own. Example I had 230 people it was 78$ per plate. I forget the bar tally but it was expensive. My mom paid for that bc she wanted some top shelf liquor to be served
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