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Confessions Of A Retired(Semi) Cosplay Bully
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My name is Jay Wilson and I’m a (semi-former) cosplay bully. For those that do not know what cosplay is, it is the practice of dressing up as a character from a film, book, or video game, especially one from the Japanese genres of manga or anime. And it is something that I’ve wanted to do for many years but things beyond my control have prevented me from taking part in this hobby which is where the bullying grew from.
The reason I used to bully cosplayers is they get to do the one hobby that I want to do but can’t. The costumes are prohibitively expensive and the cons are so far away as to make it impossible for me to attend. Plus there is the problem of my weight making me to large to cosplay. So when I saw pictures of them on Facebook and Twitter, I went mad with jealousy of the highest order.
I would say the most hateful, mean and nasty things to them on Twitter no matter if I knew them or not; this hatred and bullying went on for many years until the tides turned against me and they started fighting back. They seemed to rise up against me and started blocking me enmass as well as getting my friends and followers to do the same. This did not bother me until I lost a couple of followers on Twitter that I actually liked/cared about.
Soon after this they seemed to kick it up a notch and started giving back to be times thrice what I gave to them. I could not put up with this and did the only decent thing; I quit Twitter. I concentrated on Facebook where my hatred/bullying of cosplayers did not stop. Again, I didn’t not care that people blocked me on Facebook until I was muted by someone that I actually really liked.
Since the start of 2019, I have tried to carry on with the hatred/bullying of cosplayers but my reputation as a cosplay bully/hater has followed me over from Twitter as no cosplayer is willing to talk to me or even listen to the reasons I do so throughly hate them and their hobby. This has also had the effect of causing certain people, who shall remain nameless, from refusing my custom on Facebook when I enquire about their business which I want to purchase from.
My hatred/bullying has caused certain actors/actresses from TV shows popular with the cosplay community to block me. I have tried talking to them to explain why but I have now come to accept that they will never speak to me again. The most recent one to block me said that if i “was nice to cosplayers, i might make a ‘special and loving friend’ who could help me”. She blocked me within a few moments of me telling her that her advice was a load of bollocks.
Telling her that caused many of my Facebook Friends to un-friend me and block me because they like her and now hated me for the way I spoke to this actress. And just a few months ago, I go at into a very heated argument with a cosplayer in which I said things that Facebook said were ‘racist’ which got the comment removed and me suspended from the site for a week or so; I also lost a chunk of my Facebook friends to.
In recent weeks, I have tried to restart my hatred of cosplayers but they now all seem t know all about me and have either blocked me or muted me; which I have taken as a sign that I should stop my online bullying of cosplayers as I surprisingly do not want to loose any more friends. The other reason I have given up on this is that I’ve found out that cosplayers from all over Facebook and Twitter are pre-emptivley blocking me, therefore making it impossible for me to hate on them.
My hatred recently flared up again and I had a brief argument with a female cosplayer before she to blocked/muted me.
I do not want/expect forgiveness from the cosplay community because I do not want it and I am not doing it for them, I am doing it for me so I do not loose anymore Facebook friends.
And so, there you have it, my confession that I used to be an online cosplay bully/hater.
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My name is Jay Wilson and I’m a (semi-former) cosplay bully. For those that do not know what cosplay is, it is the practice of dressing up as a character from a film, book, or video game, especially one from the Japanese genres of manga or anime. And it is something that I’ve wanted to do for many years but things beyond my control have prevented me from taking part in this hobby which is where the bullying grew from.
The reason I used to bully cosplayers is they get to do the one hobby that I want to do but can’t. The costumes are prohibitively expensive and the cons are so far away as to make it impossible for me to attend. Plus there is the problem of my weight making me to large to cosplay. So when I saw pictures of them on Facebook and Twitter, I went mad with jealousy of the highest order.
I would say the most hateful, mean and nasty things to them on Twitter no matter if I knew them or not; this hatred and bullying went on for many years until the tides turned against me and they started fighting back. They seemed to rise up against me and started blocking me enmass as well as getting my friends and followers to do the same. This did not bother me until I lost a couple of followers on Twitter that I actually liked/cared about.
Soon after this they seemed to kick it up a notch and started giving back to be times thrice what I gave to them. I could not put up with this and did the only decent thing; I quit Twitter. I concentrated on Facebook where my hatred/bullying of cosplayers did not stop. Again, I didn’t not care that people blocked me on Facebook until I was muted by someone that I actually really liked.
Since the start of 2019, I have tried to carry on with the hatred/bullying of cosplayers but my reputation as a cosplay bully/hater has followed me over from Twitter as no cosplayer is willing to talk to me or even listen to the reasons I do so throughly hate them and their hobby. This has also had the effect of causing certain people, who shall remain nameless, from refusing my custom on Facebook when I enquire about their business which I want to purchase from.
My hatred/bullying has caused certain actors/actresses from TV shows popular with the cosplay community to block me. I have tried talking to them to explain why but I have now come to accept that they will never speak to me again. The most recent one to block me said that if i “was nice to cosplayers, i might make a ‘special and loving friend’ who could help me”. She blocked me within a few moments of me telling her that her advice was a load of bollocks.
Telling her that caused many of my Facebook Friends to un-friend me and block me because they like her and now hated me for the way I spoke to this actress. And just a few months ago, I go at into a very heated argument with a cosplayer in which I said things that Facebook said were ‘racist’ which got the comment removed and me suspended from the site for a week or so; I also lost a chunk of my Facebook friends to.
In recent weeks, I have tried to restart my hatred of cosplayers but they now all seem t know all about me and have either blocked me or muted me; which I have taken as a sign that I should stop my online bullying of cosplayers as I surprisingly do not want to loose any more friends. The other reason I have given up on this is that I’ve found out that cosplayers from all over Facebook and Twitter are pre-emptivley blocking me, therefore making it impossible for me to hate on them.
My hatred recently flared up again and I had a brief argument with a female cosplayer before she to blocked/muted me.
I do not want/expect forgiveness from the cosplay community because I do not want it and I am not doing it for them, I am doing it for me so I do not loose anymore Facebook friends.
And so, there you have it, my confession that I used to be an online cosplay bully/hater.
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Lynda Momalo 4 years ago (edited)
I'm not sure what you hope to gain through this "confession." But here -- if you're unhappy about your weight, do something about it. Becoming an obnoxious jerk because you're unhappy with your weight won't make you happy. Cosplay, especially beginning cosplay, doesn't have to be outrageously expensive. In all the time you now use hating on people, teach yourself to sew -- or craft -- or build, whatever's going to give you the costume you want. There are masses of YouTube videos teaching these skills. Try and fail 1,000 times -- it's called practice and it makes you better. While you're doing that, research where the closest cosplay events are held. England's pretty freaking small, dude. You can get just about anywhere that's likely to hold an event pretty easily. Don't have money? Earn some in the time you're not learning. Save up. Basically, stop bitching, stop criticizing, and take positive steps.
Jay Wilson (Post author) 4 years ago
Believe it or not, i have tried sewing, building and crafting. The first two failed miserably every time and crafting is going down that way as well. My employment opportunities are somewhat limited if not not existent due to the afore mentioned medical problem; I mean who would want to hire a man with severe clinical depression with a memory like a f*****g sieve? Researching where cons are held only yields cons that are to far/expensive for me to go to. And I have to point out that being an "obnoxious jerk" to these people did and still does on occasion bring me some small amount of pleasure.
Load More Replies... Lynda Momalo 4 years ago (edited)
I'm not sure what you hope to gain through this "confession." But here -- if you're unhappy about your weight, do something about it. Becoming an obnoxious jerk because you're unhappy with your weight won't make you happy. Cosplay, especially beginning cosplay, doesn't have to be outrageously expensive. In all the time you now use hating on people, teach yourself to sew -- or craft -- or build, whatever's going to give you the costume you want. There are masses of YouTube videos teaching these skills. Try and fail 1,000 times -- it's called practice and it makes you better. While you're doing that, research where the closest cosplay events are held. England's pretty freaking small, dude. You can get just about anywhere that's likely to hold an event pretty easily. Don't have money? Earn some in the time you're not learning. Save up. Basically, stop bitching, stop criticizing, and take positive steps.
Jay Wilson (Post author) 4 years ago
Believe it or not, i have tried sewing, building and crafting. The first two failed miserably every time and crafting is going down that way as well. My employment opportunities are somewhat limited if not not existent due to the afore mentioned medical problem; I mean who would want to hire a man with severe clinical depression with a memory like a f*****g sieve? Researching where cons are held only yields cons that are to far/expensive for me to go to. And I have to point out that being an "obnoxious jerk" to these people did and still does on occasion bring me some small amount of pleasure.
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