“Wasn’t Raised Right”: 40 Red Flags That Signal A Lack Of Good Upbringing

Annie Bieber 2 years ago

Amen!!

2points

hitex 2 years ago

🤬 I live in national forest & ppl dump litters of pups & kittens out here like 'it's okay, it's the wild, they're going to be happier here!' - we've had to take in so many litters & stray dumps to shelters to make sure the animals don't starve or die in humanely that it's more than I can't count on 20 fingers & toes & I lived out here 9 years

9points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

As a bunny mom and someone who has volunteered in shelters with abandoned rabbits, I think that is the biggest mistake people make-thinking these animals will survive in the wild, especially babies. We don't have the term "Domesticated" for nothing.

7points

quentariel 2 years ago

And if you for some pressing reason can't take care of you pet anymore, find a loving home for them yourself, or bring them to a shelter that treats animals right and focus on finding them forever homes. Don't dump them on streets or nearest awful shelter.

6points

Hafida 2 years ago

This called taking responsibility

3points

Roger9er 2 years ago

I hate those idiots the most.

5points

the harbinger of doom (she/he) 2 years ago

*loads bazooka*

4points

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago (edited)

This is why my chickens are almost four years old and I still have them, I refuse to dump them or sell them

2points

Sandy Kavanaugh 2 years ago

Some of mine have lived to be over 12 years old. They are amazing creatures.

1point

Cee Mor 2 years ago

100% I should have seen my ex husband had a problem when he talked so casually about getting rid of their family pets (or rather that as a dog lover, we were NOT compatiable).

2points

Angeline Shalyn 2 years ago

This!!! There is a huge problem in the area I live in where people dump their pets ( we have lots of strays around here) and because of this we now have 3 pet kittens, who we love so much but please people don't dispose your pets like they're trash :(

1point

Tracy Wallick 2 years ago

Dude. I bawled my eyes out when I had to give back a dog I'd only had a few weeks (he was a lot needier than the shelter or I were expecting, and after trying many things I had no choice but to give him back to the shelter). I can't imagine thinking nothing of getting rid of a pet, let alone abandoning them the way some monsters do.

0points

Megalodon Meg 2 years ago

I had the opportunity to move and work abroad, a once in a lifetime thing. I learned the country wouldn't allow my pit mix in and turned it down. She's family, there's no getting rid of her.

0points

#2

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

254points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

I can't imagine ever doing that. They're trying their best mostly.

25points

Beeps 2 years ago (edited)

I know, right? What I find even more baffling is that usually the person being rude wants or needs something from the person they’re shouting at, be that in a restaurant, shop, or at the customer service desk: they’re usually in that situation, because they want a problem to be fixed. So what on earth makes them think that the other person would be more sympathetic towards them and thus more willing to help with the problem if they’re getting shouted at???

7points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

I like being rude to people that are rude to people in the service industry. It's fun, I get to say the things I cannot say to members of the public at work.

6points

Roger9er 2 years ago (edited)

It doesn't make them work faster or make them be more polite to you, you sweatsock chewing, poorly stitched voodoo doll.

6points

Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago

When I was online dating I walked out on 2 different guys for that very reason. Guy #1 was infuriatingly patronizing & condescending to our waiter, all the while smirking at me. I'm pretty sure he was thinking how impressed I'd be by his "Master of the Universe" attitude. I wasn't. I literally just grabbed my purse and walked out. Blocked him before I even started my car & left a really accurate review on his profile. Guy #2 wasn't quite as bad, but damn near. Walked & blocked him as well. I will NEVER be impressed by someone treating another person rudely without cause.

5points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago (edited)

Best way to judge someone's character is figuring out who they believe to be "less" than them and watching how they treat those people.

4points

Jessica Scott 2 years ago

Also if you don't treat them like c**p they will try harder to fix your order, and sometimes make it up to you if there were any mistakes

3points

Munchkin Premium 2 years ago

I have a friend like this who just so happens to also work in the service industry, go figure!

2points

Jumping Jellyfishes Premium 2 years ago

Punishment for being rude to someone in the service industry should be a timed sentence of having to work in the service industry

2points

Sharkie 2 years ago

My dad was always rude to people doing research, asking public opinion and so on. Sometime staff in shops, too... But always the kids asking questions. I did not know as a kid or teen how to help them as they were usually high-schoolers or younger doing it just for some little money or some community help... I remember how he rudely answered some girls asking: "What would you say about this year's Christmas decorations in this shop?" And he told her it's horrible, he hates it and he hates Christmas. He is really not a bad person but he really never sees other people as individuals...

-2points

Sandy Kavanaugh 2 years ago

No, he is a bad person.

1point

Tracy Hutchinson, Ph.D., LMHC, is a therapist with over 18 years of clinical experience, and her research on positive psychology, mental health, and emotional psychology has been published in various peer-reviewed academic journals and textbooks.

As hard as parenting is, she believes that every mom and dad should try to avoid the following seven mistakes, beginning with minimizing your child's feelings.

"Kids need to know that it's healthy to express and talk about their emotions," Hutchinson explains. "When parents tell their kids things such as 'don't be so sad about it' or 'it's not a big deal,' they're sending the message that feelings don't matter and that it's better to suppress them."

So if your kid, for example, appears fearful during a loud storm, consider saying, 'I know you're scared right now,' and asking them what they think would make them feel better instead.

#3

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

204points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago (edited)

When I was a kid I was friends with someone who liked to dismember different animals, from insects and spiders to opossums and cats. Also tried to get me to participate, which I refused. It's partly the reason I became a park ranger: it is my calling to keep animals safe from people like that.

61points

Roger9er 2 years ago

That's just so horrible and inhumane. I also had a friend who would do that when I was around 10, but he wouldn't go as far as bigger animals. Just insects. Cruel and sick, just the same.

15points

lily jones 2 years ago

Often, not always the first step for a serial killer. Not calling your ex-friend a serial killer, just sayin

13points

Content Wombat 2 years ago

Thank you for protecting animals. I can't stand people who are needlessly/unthinkingly cruel to animals.

9points

Spocks's Mom 2 years ago

Unfortunately, we have kinda similar stories. It's the reason I went into the animal care field, but I also have PTSD from what I went through and will start crying and freaking out if I see or hear about animals being mistreated. I can't even watch movies where fake animals get hurt.

7points

Tracy Wallick 2 years ago

Dude, that's a major red flag. Serial killers often get started by torturing/killing animals as kids.

3points

afia kooma 2 years ago

I was the Guardian face-slapper of all the long-legs and bugs in my neighborhood. I started with my three year older (m) cousin and didnt have to do more then show up with a glear after that. I was six (f) 😂

2points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago

We used to have a tree stump with a hollow in at the top of the road, we fill it with slugs, snails, woodlice, etc and smash them all up with a stick until it was a paste and then throw it at each other. Why? No idea! Who came with it? No idea. I look back and wonder if one of us was a serial killer. Wasn't me, I was the pyro.

1point

Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago

Was his name Dahmer?

1point

the harbinger of doom (she/he) 2 years ago

RUN MY FURRY FRIENDS

1point

François Bouzigues 2 years ago (edited)

Only recently has the FBI started to systematically register all the cases of cruelty to animals. "Surprisingly", 99,99% of serial killers share this as a hobby. No f**k Sherlock

9points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

The personal space thing is not necessarily a result of bad upbringing. People with large families (or anyone that had to share a room with siblings) can often struggle with personal space issues. It's hard to learn about personal space when there is none to be had.

5points

Helena R 2 years ago

Also people who are neurodivergent might not always realise they are too close or they aren't able to read the 'room' in social situations. It's not always so intrinsic

5points

Jude Laskowski 2 years ago

And people who take the last ice cube and don't refill the tray.

0points

Alan Jay Weiner 2 years ago (edited)

Little things tell you a lot about a person.

0points

Astrophile 2 years ago

Laziness to the point of creating more work for someone else to clean up/fix/do work where you couldn’t be bothered to is one of my biggest pet peeves. My coworker used the last of an item in a box yesterday and just…..threw the box into a corner. I said “you know the recycling is right outside right?” And he said “yeah nah I honestly can’t be arsed, the cleaners will do it.” I’m the cleaner, it’s my second job 🥲 like thanks bro yep just keep making more work for me to clean up for you.

0points

Xenon 2 years ago

Please get out, you deserve better. And so does every animal. Many folks love their critters enough to be mad

-1point

#4

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

158points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago (edited)

We have a campfire story called 'Jenny and the Night Women' about the dangers of always spoiling children. Creepy...

18points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Where I'm from, a 'night woman' is a prostitute. Just wondering if it's the same in your story...

6points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Okay, since a few of you are asking, here it is: A farmer and his wife were overjoyed when after so many years of trying, they were able to conceive a baby which they named Jenny. Because of how relieved they were, they spoiled the girl. There was nothing that she wanted that she didn't get. But they realised years later that no one would marry the girl if she acted like a princess when she was only a farmer's child, so they decided to stop. They taught themselves to deny Jenny of everything she asked. Jenny developed a cold anger, and so she ran off into the woods. She met a stranger, who listened to Jenny's story. The woman said that the parents deserved to be taught a lesson, so she should puncture her parents' feet with a needle, cover a rock in blood and bury it below their window to let the Night Women in who would give Jenny all that she deserved. Jenny returned home and did as she was asked, and then went to sleep. She woke up the next morning to see her parents beside her bed

5points

Adelina 2 years ago (edited)

I've heard of this story! Would that be from Tales from the Hinterland? By Melissa Albert/Althea Prosperpine?

5points

Astrophile 2 years ago

Will you tell us the story? :)

2points

colombian cat mcr <3 girl 🇨🇴 2 years ago

need to hear that story rnnnn

2points

Rustyn Birch 2 years ago

???

1point

Kandice Heiple 2 years ago

Wales?

0points

cerinamroth 2 years ago

Yes, it became super clear during the pandemic who had never been told "No" before!

3points

Snakeloverforever 2 years ago

I had a friend like this who got made when I said no to letting her borrow a pen or give her a chip, I am no longer friends with her though.

1point

Mini grizzly 2 years ago

This!

1point

#5

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

155points

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Donald 2 years ago

If I'm on an elevator and you barge in before I can get off I will walk right through you. Exceptions made for the elderly or disabled obviously, but it really is just common curtesy.

4points

Beeps 2 years ago

I don’t normally condone passive aggressive behaviour, but whenever that happens, I say in a condescending tone: “You see, if you let me get out, then there’ll be more room for you to get *in*.”

2points

Averysleepypanda 2 years ago

Same goes for people who just stop at the end of the escalator! The escalator doesn't stop just because you got off!

2points

Kika González 2 years ago

I have to admit, sometimes I do this on accident

2points

ILoveMySon 2 years ago

At least you are honest.🙂 We all make mistakes.

0points

sbj 2 years ago

How they think they're going to get on the bus/Tram/Train if we don't get off first. Also, they're not going to get quicker to their destination by doing this

2points

cerinamroth 2 years ago

Oh, Germany, this is where you really let me down! ;-)

2points

Hans Georg 2 years ago

I know what you mean.

2points

Ima Manimal 2 years ago

Elevator courtesy

1point

Jude Laskowski 2 years ago

Allow folks to exit the bus/train before boarding.

0points

Steven 2 years ago

There is more room outside than inside so just let people out before trying to enter. Also, don't stand in the doorway trying to hold the door open for others. Exit first, then hold the door from the far side.

0points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

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Em 2 years ago

This is talking about limited spaces with a single entrance/exit, like elevators or buses. It's pretty universally considered polite (not to mention logical) to let the people exiting do so before you enter, rather than trying to squeeze past at the same time.

6points

Then there's saving them from failure. "As parents, it's hard to watch our children struggle through challenges that we know we can easily fix for them," Hutchinson says.

"But think of it this way: if your kid is doing poorly in school, you know that telling them the homework answers will only backfire because you can’t be in the classroom when they have to complete those tests on their own."

Failure is part of success, and if kids never get the chance to learn that, they'll never develop the perseverance they need to rise back up after a setback.

#6

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

149points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

NORMALISE CHOOSING TO NOT HAVE KIDS!!

112points

Barong 2 years ago

Yes and provide the support, options, and information to allow people to make this choice.

4points

Lalalallal 2 years ago

THANK YOU I'm choosing to be child-free.

1point

Xenon 2 years ago

I am fine with that. My daughter is much loved and knows it. Spent a lot of time laughing, I enjoy her.

1point

Sven Grammersdorf 2 years ago

Sometimes they just happen

0points

colombian cat mcr <3 girl 🇨🇴 2 years ago

YES

0points

Stephanie Did It 2 years ago

I've posted this before, but it fits here. My mother bore and abandoned seven children. Seven. Two were locked into a Texaco station bathroom (I was one), 3 given up for adoption at birth and two given up to the state in their preteens. Yes, she was married (usually) and she was not mentally disabled...except when it came to procreation. P.S. We have all found each other and none of us have repeated the pattern.

11points

ILoveMySon 2 years ago

Wow. You are amazing for stopping the cycle.

0points

Roger9er 2 years ago

All children deserve good parents, but not all people deserve children.

7points

ScarletRos 2 years ago

Or just to exploit them for likes/ views.

5points

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago (edited)

Adoption is here for a reason! You may not be able to take of your child, but there is someone who is, someone who can love them and give them what they need

3points

Tracy Wallick 2 years ago

I was adopted, which means my parents had to pay a lot of money and jump through a lot of hoops to get me... and yet they abused me for my entire life until I got away from them by joining the military. I will never be able to comprehend why they went through so much trouble just to treat not 1, but 2 kids (my sister and I) like dogshit.

2points

ILoveMySon 2 years ago

I am sorry this happened to you. 😥 I hope all is well now.

2points

Mama Penguin 2 years ago

I've never had that parenthood urge. Lucky me, because I know I'm not going to be a good parent. I don't have the patience required. Although, my husband and I are fur parents.

1point

Dan St John 2 years ago

(See pet's meme)

0points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

People should have to pass a stringent test, post a bond and get a license to have kids. I've seen some things.

0points

#7

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

144points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Immediate disdain for anyone who does this.

27points

Astrophile 2 years ago

Yep! I grew up with strabismus (“wall-eye” or “lazy eye” colloquially) and the amount of times I’ve heard people say about me “she’s cool but it weirds me out that I can’t tell if she’s looking at me or the vending machine” broke my heart so many times. My eyes are surgically fixed now, they point vaguely straight, but it hurt a lot as a kid because I felt like there was nothing I could do to be good enough, my lazy eye would always outshine me.

4points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

And a lot of people don't even realize they are making fun because it is normalized. If you talk about someone's big nose, that is making fun. But less obvious things like saying women who don't shave their legs/remove facial hair are "gross" is just as wrong.

5points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago (edited)

I have to say I do this, it's a self defence mechanism, I also tear myself to pieces. It started when I was a teen and never really stopped, I kinda wish it would because occasionally I just blurt something out and hurt someones feelings, a lot of the time I don't even guage the full context of what I've said and the insult is far, far, far worse than my "quip". My friends accept that I'm an arsehole who puts his foot in it constantly but doesn't mean to be as big a douche as I am and that's why I love them.

2points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

If you like making jokes about physical appearance, make them about your own. They're just as funny that way - and in my case funnier. (See how it works?)

2points

Sandy Kavanaugh 2 years ago

I do this! When "a friend" remarked I had so many facial wrinkles, I merely said, " yeah, but I don't have to look at them, you do!"

1point

Mocha the Lion 2 years ago

yEP YEP YEP like bro why u mad that im ugly???

2points

René Sauer 2 years ago

If it is something bodily, I agree...

1point

AR 2 years ago

I mean, bad hairstyles are bad hairstyles…

0points

Rita Benkő 2 years ago

One exemption:the appearance is absolutely, 100% surely designed to make fun of. (Clowns, actors in mask.)

0points

Becky Samuel 2 years ago

That's a significant proportion of Buzzfeed's articles gone then.

0points

lunitavet 2 years ago

10000000% !!

0points

#8

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

135points

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Em 2 years ago

How to know you've worked in retail too long: you hold the door for someone and then thank THEM.

26points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Oh no. I forget this all the time. I'm just so absentminded

7points

Lyone Fein 2 years ago

Anyone who doesn't say "please" and "thank you" all the time.

4points

sbj 2 years ago

Even worse is when they pass through the door that your holding before you do

1point

HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago

I enjoy yelling after people with ‘well thank you too!’

1point

Elleon 2 years ago

I'll do a sweeping bow and say really loud, "YOUR MAJESTYYYYYYY". Or just say, "Youre welcome". Neither is well-received

0points

AR 2 years ago

🙄 It’s not the end of the world. Hold the door just to be nice.

0points

Chuckle Berry 2 years ago

Amd You're welcome

0points

Kat 2 years ago

or when they're playing a sport and their equipment hits you and they don't utter a simple 'sorry'

0points

Ben 2 years ago

I have noticed lately that elderly people do this a lot. Like they expect you to open the door for them.

0points

The next common mistake is overindulging your kids. Research shows that when you give your kids whatever they desire, they miss out on skills related to mental strength, such as self-discipline.

"You want your kids to grow up knowing that it's possible to achieve what they want — if they work for it," Hutchinson explains. "Parents can teach their kids [to] learn self-control by setting clear rules for things like finishing homework before screen time or doing chores to boost allowance (so they can buy things on their own while knowing they earned it)."

#9

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

131points

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Donkey boi 2 years ago

I borrowed a mate's jigsaw, when I gave it back he thought I'd bought him a new one. 'Nah, fella! You just haven't cleaned or maintained it since you got it. So I did it for ya.' Take good care of your own shite as well!

42points

Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago

Hahaha! My neighbor brought me a casserole when I was sick. The glass baking dish was so disgusting my husband & I refused to eat it. I scrubbed it with a brillo pad before returning it. I think she was embarrassed because she just kind of faded away after that.

2points

Jude Laskowski 2 years ago

You are a good person!

1point

Astrophile 2 years ago

Good on you!

0points

L H 2 years ago

How do you maintain a jigsaw?

0points

Kika González 2 years ago

Return something in better condition than you found it

5points

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

In junior high and high school, I would never lend out any of my clothes. Except for one friend: she had them dry cleaned before she returned them. Jennifer, if you're out there, kudos to you.

3points

Sonja 2 years ago

I loaned a friend some paperbacks when I was in elementary school. She returned them all with cracked spines. Apparently, she turns books inside out to read them, and nobody ever told her not to destroy other people’s things. My books look brand new after I read them! Sheesh.

3points

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

Ugh, book fringlers are the worst.

1point

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago (edited)

I lent someone my Rocky Horror audience participation double album. Got it back, both albums, both sides, scratched to hell

1point

Skip62 2 years ago

Take good care of your own stuff; take better care of any thing you borrow.

1point

#10

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

121points

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hitex 2 years ago

Dont keep your trash in your pickup bed! It will fly out & litter just like tossing out your car window!

22points

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago

This is how, accidents, fires, and injuries to wildlife happen

5points

More! 2 years ago

McDonalds eaters do this a lot

3points

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

Yeah, despite all the rubbish bins/trash cans that are provided for them in both the drive thru and the car park/parking lot.

1point

keyboardtek 2 years ago

This is normal behavior in many rural areas. People move to the country for the beauty of nature only to find dumped trash.

1point

Red Reilly 2 years ago

I walked past a guy easting chicken with the driver door open, car parked by the side of the road, when he finished, without missing a beat and no sign of thinking what he did was bad. He just dropped the whole box of chicken bones onto the floor. Whats wrong with you! there was even a bin a few minutes down the road.

1point

the harbinger of doom (she/he) 2 years ago

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH

1point

Lea Ward 2 years ago

My dad does it and it aggravates me but I've always been too scared of him to say anything.

1point

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

Ugh, I'm so sorry. If it's any consolation, I was 52 before I plucked up the courage to contradict my dad to his face. Never got the second chance, he died earlier this year. But man do I tell him off now, lol. In my writing, but still.

2points

ImATotalTina 1 year ago

BUT: YOU ARE MORE THAN WELCOME TO THROW OUT APPLE CORES AND OTHER PIECES OF FOOD! ANIMALS WILL THANK YOUUUU

0points

Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago

littering is a massive turn off. and, like it or not, cigarette butts are litter too. if you wouldn't throw a crisp packet on the ground, don't throw a butt on the ground either. it's still litter.

0points

Lene 2 years ago

You can just have a little plastic bag in your car for trash.

0points

#11

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

113points

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Chriss21 2 years ago

Our cleaner at work calls me madam, I told her not to because we are the same age. She said it's not a matter of age, it's a matter of respect because I am superior to her. I could not believe she said that. She is black and apparently was raised to believe she is inferior to white people. I am shocked and incredibly sad, this happened weeks ago and I'm still not over it

28points

PFD 2 years ago

Are you sure she didn't mean in employment / service hierarchy rather than racial terms? Obviously still problematic but widely built into many cultures and so normal enough. (Frankly, age-based formal respect is also pretty weird to me, but also widespread in many cultures so normal.)

11points

LizzieBoredom 2 years ago

Or maybe she thinks you own a Brothel?

2points

Wondering Alice 2 years ago

I work in a huge school, my closest staff room is shared with senior staff and cleaning crew but very few teachers. We are all on first name terms when children are not around. One a recent training day (no kids) I was 'reprimanded' in the morning for my lack of respect chatting to the head using his first name, and in the afternoon the same person said I was rude to call a cleaner by name. Same person was using my first name.

0points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

One of my rich kid students said "I'm always kind to my inferiors." I asked "Wherever do you find them?" (Thanks go out to Dorothy Parker.)

4points

deejak 2 years ago

Aka punching down, a specialty of the political right.

1point

Thomas Ewing 2 years ago

Under God and the US Constitution we're all EQUAL, so there is no social hierarchy except for manners. Do you behave yourself or need correction?

0points

Ralph Watkins 2 years ago

I have that face. People feel the needs to share their prejudices, hatred, & other forms of bigotry with me. Most people seem to just be unreasonably paranoid. Those people over there don't speak English, I know they are plotting against folks like us. Actually I understand their Spanish & they are talking about their kids going back to school & needing new clothes. No sinister plots. The ones I really hate is those who are the lowers dregs of society & believe they are superior to others b/c of their own skin color, religion, or economic status.

0points

Jude Laskowski 2 years ago

Aim to treat everyone with equal respect. Your office or work area would be a disaster if not for the housekeepers.

0points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago

Depends on the person, if they're an arsehole F 'em. My grandmothers used to take me on their cleaning jobs with them so I treat cleaners with respect. I've worked food service and bars so yeah. We hired a bar a couple of weeks ago, the barman refused to accept a tip because "you were all a pleasure". Eventually I persuaded him to take it based on all the times he'd had to deal with arseholes (this is UK and the tip was £20).

0points

Red Reilly 2 years ago

Treat everyone the same at work

0points

Parents shouldn't expect perfection, either. While it's natural to want your child to aim for big goals and be the best at everything, the truth is that's not how the world works.

Setting the bar too high can lead to self-esteem and confidence issues later in life.

#12

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

112points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

I can't stand deceptive people. Known a few in my day & I hope to never know them again.

19points

Roger9er 2 years ago

Parasiting.

3points

Astrophile 2 years ago

Omg same. If a friend calls me and says they’re in need of a ride somewhere or some food, I’d be more than happy to help. It’s lying and manipulation that makes me uncomfortable :( if you need help just ask, don’t invent stories and scenarios to make people feel bad for you, your friends will probably want to help

1point

Myra Groenewegen 2 years ago

An important subcategory of this is immediate family or supposed "friends" who call you only when they need something and then make small talk, as though this isn't the case. It's an understandable problem, but, if you're the person who does it, just know that folks catch on faster than you think and, soon enough, are rolling their eyes as soon as they hear your voice thinking, "Oh, what does he want NOW?!" Dropping the act and instead getting to the point with, "Hate to bug you, but I thought you'd be the best one to ask, if you have a minute" makes the whole exchange healthier and makes folks feel less used and manipulated. You still get what you want and you'll get more credit for being direct and honest, rather than pulling this social act.

1point

Lene 2 years ago

My mom has used me as an excuse not to accept invitations to see her parents. I am totally not ok with that but she does it anyway and just casually informs me afterwards. "Oh, if your granddad asks, I am visiting you at *specific date*. I told him cos I don't want to visit him". Then just say that you can't go, you have other plans. Don't include me, thanks.

0points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago (edited)

Supposed friends who borrow money and then ghost you...........Best $50 I've ever spent not to have to see them again.

0points

Moya Satterwhite 2 years ago

Rude!

0points

Em 2 years ago

I find this a fine line sometimes. Like if I need to go somewhere, I could easily call an uber...but it would be more fun to go with a friend. I both need a ride and want to hang out. Then I end up hoping that it doesn't come off like I'm using them.

0points

#13

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

111points

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nm 2 years ago

It's a quite new business. Entering in public buildings or standing in front of private ones and recording by the so-called "auditors" (aka frauditors). Aiming to provoke reactions and the police to be called, for the pleasure of their sick audience.

13points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago

If I see someone doing that I make sure to get in s**t and flip the bird.

1point

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Hmm, this is a difficult one. Where I'm from it's not only legal to do this, but it's encouraged. We have given up absolute privacy in favour of absolute safety.

1point

deejak 2 years ago

And did you achieve absolute safety? Color me skeptical.

1point

Moya Satterwhite 2 years ago

What or whom are they auditing?

0points

Lace Neil 2 years ago

Start singing Disney songs if someone does this to you.

0points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

We would even know the name George Floyd, if this didn't happen. I don't even live in the US and I know the name and what happened.

-2points

Reemerger 2 years ago

They documented police brutality. That's not what is meant by "random".

4points

#14

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

111points

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Garthus Andicus 2 years ago

This needs to be much much higher.

22points

CORGI QUEEN 2 years ago

my brother tricked me into saying it. he said say ger nig 5 times fast

9points

Bananananana(He/Him) 2 years ago

Why are you getting down voted, how old were you when that happened, if you were a kid and un-aware, you were totally innocent

9points

Chicken Nugget 2 years ago

Genuine question: When Black people say it, isn't it reclaiming the word?

6points

Megalodon Meg 2 years ago

Which is why it's only okay for them to say it.

2points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago (edited)

I said it once whilst talking to security after an Ice T gig (I was white bar staff he was black security, we used to rip the p**s out of each other). Anyway, every other word out of Mr T:s mouth was the N word. He asked me what I thought of the show and I referenced the N word in the context of the show to make the point it had been used to much. He looked at me and said I respected you but your useage of THAT WORD has really disappointed me and walked off. I did a what? Wait? Nooo...The shame I felt at that moment has never left me. I was trying to make a point about the useage of the word but I get his point.

4points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago

No, I haven't used the word since.

3points

Grammarly 2 years ago (edited)

I have a similar story... the other day, a boy in my class said the N-word (or something similar but meant it to sound like the N-word) and he obviously got the huge reaction that he wanted. A girl in my class asked what he said and so I told her. Then everyone was like "wOaH gRaMmArLy CaLLeD sOmEoNe ThE n-WoRd" and a black girl in the class walked out crying, up to the office so that she could dob me in. People haven't stopped harassing me for being 'racist' since - Edit: that includes people who I was friends with. They're more or less treating it like a joke but they know that I f*****g hate it

2points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago

Ridiculous thing was PE had played the night before and Chuck D had done multiple lectures about how using the word is disrespectful which was the point I was trying to make.

0points

afia kooma 2 years ago

I think when black and brown people say it, its more about showing a cultural, personal and spiritual identitet and growth that white people cant relate, and about sosially excluding white folks on one tiny part that cant be stolen, appropriated (tho they try) or made to mean something else. Every group has sosial signals that invoke belonging, culture and understanding, and to take intimate ownership of this word, means to break its power and to turn it into a powermove.

4points

Jude Laskowski 2 years ago

I have heard a lot of black people using the "n" word.

1point

Evelien Stijger Martens 2 years ago

Inhear childre saying this all the time, their 3xcuse: if black oeople can call themselves that, than i can do too. Nononononono, its totaly unnecessery and insulting it has nothing to do with you, so don't. I always tell them, they want someone to taech them the hard way, when they think its fun to do this out loud.

0points

Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago

Exactly. That's an ugly word, no matter whose mouth it's coming out of.

0points

Xenon 2 years ago

I have never heard that word.i think you think it's a lot more prevalent.

0points

Midoribird Aoi 2 years ago

Don't they call this "N-word Privilege"?

0points

"There are many things that might make your kid feel uncomfortable, especially when it involves doing something new: trying new foods, making new friends, playing a new sport or moving homes and having to go to a new school," the therapist continues.

"But just like failure, embracing uncomfortable moments can boost mental strength. Encourage your kids to try new things. Help them get started, because that’s the hardest part. But once they take that first step, they might realize that it isn't as difficult as they thought it’d be — and that they might even be good at it!"

#15

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

106points

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Say No to Downvoting 2 years ago

I have 2/3 kids with autism/ADHD/stutter (and the 1/3 always trying to be heard over their siblings) that find inside voices very hard to gauge and manage - don’t judge people too hard on this one.

46points

Ang Chiyoko/Koharu 2 years ago

I'm ADHD and sometimes I get told I'm yelling even when I don't think I am.

13points

AzzyIsHere (They/he xenos) 2 years ago

I have AuHD and yeah, I struggle with inside voice.

9points

M O'Connell 2 years ago

I work with someone who fell out of a tree and suffered a head injury at age 16 who is now in their 50s. Apparently the injury left them with absolutely no volume control at all.

7points

donnie supremacy (she/her) 2 years ago

Yes!!! I suspect I'm on the spectrum and I'm constantly yelling without noticing

3points

The Chronic Insomniac 2 years ago

Yes, this!! I am on the spectrum and am constantly told to lower my voice!!

3points

edward young 2 years ago

Ot also varies widely culturally. Persons from different cultures (foreign transplants or as born, bred and native to your home country as one's own culture is) may have different concepts of indoor voice. Also varies socioeconomically.

0points

Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago

I think she was talking about adults.

0points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Me, who's HoH :')

7points

WindySwede 2 years ago

HOH = Water :) /jk (sorry)

2points

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago

This is hard with people who have mental disabilities like me. (Autism and ADHD)

5points

MezzoPiano 2 years ago

Oof, this one's pretty ableist.

4points

Astrophile 2 years ago

Yes but definitely not in a malicious way. I think it just shows that more education is needed :)

2points

Mouse 2 years ago

My partner is a bit hard of hearing. This has improved since getting hearing aids, but he's still louder than many.

4points

hitex 2 years ago

Apologies from an aspie- I try but sometimes I forget

3points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago

People shouting/playing music on phones.

1point

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

I feel this one. I'm a very quiet Aspie that freaks out when people are loud. On top of that I have Auditory Processing Disorder. If everybody could make no noise and not all talk at once, that would be my ideal.

1point

rem rat 2 years ago

i have adhd and i have a hard time keeping my voice down and i just cant do it sometimes so dont jump to conclusions please we're trying our best

1point

Ralph Watkins 2 years ago

I scared the c**p out of guy the one day. Me & another guy were indoors talking face to face. This other guy walks in on his phone. He is loud so we talk louder. Now he is nearly on top of me, yelling into his phone b/c me & the first guy sitting there conversing too loud for him. I yelled & used lots of cusses. It was like I just woke him out of a daze. He had no idea where he was or that there were even other people around. If your phone time makes you lose all sense of reality, there is a problem.

0points

#16

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

103points

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jmdirks 2 years ago

Or at work in your break area, especially when the trash can is within reaching distance.

19points

Black Cat 2 years ago

Or cleaning up after themselves when out in public, leaving restaurants, cinemas, aeroplanes like a pigsty. Letting their bratty kids make a mess for someone else to clean up.

3points

Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago

Right? Inconsiderate house guests. When my husband & I visited my Dad & stepmom, I stripped the bed and started a load of laundry. We made sure all of our snack wrappers were thrown away & I vacuumed the room. Dad says, "You can come back anytime".

2points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

If they invite you to dinner, at least help washing the dishes.

1point

More! 2 years ago

Especially in my home. None of my people clean up after themselves, I’m borderline OCD (said psychologist many years ago) when it comes to cleanliness and I tell them all them time as well as show them. So no, again, it’s not about being raised right or wrong, these three entitled little beastie teenagers are just lazy, I know, I raised them and I did it right. They will clean up after themselves if they’re at your house, but not here in our house.

1point

D20 Games 2 years ago

I was like this at a teen, many decades ago. They will probably grow out of it. The not picking up for themselves at home. My own kids are doing this now, but sure enough, they are the first to volunteer when at a friend's house

1point

#17

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

102points

POST

Anon822209 2 years ago

When I tended bar, I would (half) jokingly tell customers that I wasn't a dog, but if they whistled/clapped/snapped at me again, I'd bite 'em. Said with a smile.

9points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

I don't even do that to my dogs.

7points

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

Ugh, my dad would do this. So much of my life has been "What would Dad do," and then do the opposite.

3points

Casey McQuade 2 years ago

This is actually how my mother raised me. If I interrupted her while she was on a phone call, or she wanted to get my attention in public without yelling my name, she would snap repeatedly. I still look around whenever I hear snapping, to see who is trying to get my attention.

2points

Alpacas_Are_Life 2 years ago

My boss does that way too often.

0points

Diana Pahule 2 years ago

I donno, clapping was pretty effective with my grandson the other day. He's 5.

0points

Demosthenes 2 years ago

Sounds like you are a dog? Red flags of a bad upbringing: zero grammatical instruction

0points

Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago

I hate this so much. When I see someone doing that to anyone, I give them a death glare.

0points

Gustav Gallifrey 2 years ago

Dont do it in a restaurant, unless you want some 'inclusions' in your order.

0points

Susan Reid Smith 2 years ago

I don't do that to my cats.

0points

#18

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

92points

POST

Captain Awesome 2 years ago (edited)

I will close the gap if we are approaching road work and a lane closure notice has been up for several miles.

22points

MezzoPiano 2 years ago

Research pretty consistently shows that the best way to deal with any sort of merge situation is the "zip it up" method", so by doing this, or merging super early, you are actually making the traffic worse.

10points

Roland Nijveld 2 years ago

Only reason I go to the other lane early is because people like you don't let me merge at the end like you're supposed to

5points

Amelia Jade 2 years ago

But you're supposed the utilize the open road that is available until it's not available. By merging earlier you create traffic. Everyone starts moving over early and wastes all the open available road that still exists before the actual merge. You're supposed to merge at the merge point. The signs are there to announce that a merge point is ahead. It doesn't mean you're supposed to move over immediately.

4points

Sven Grammersdorf 2 years ago

Zipper merge, man. You're doing it wrong.

3points

VNES101 2 years ago

I'm with you on this one. I'm pretty sure people are just thinking that they can drive on up and butt the line instead of thinking ahead and merging in a decent amount of time. Yes, people are going to have to let people cut them, but folks do this on purpose to skip the line and that's rude.

3points

Billy Maguire 2 years ago

What gap?

0points

David B 2 years ago

Yo, k**b head, learn what a ZIPPER merge is for.

0points

Sienna D 2 years ago

This comment has been deleted.

0points

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago

This is really a situation thing, generally I agree but I have done some of those things. Undertaking because the car in the outside lane is doing 50% of the speed limit with nothing on the inside of them.

2points

M O'Connell 2 years ago

Does not being raised right correlate with black BMW ownership?

1point

Roland Nijveld 2 years ago

Or an Audi or Tesla

0points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

I was on the freeway a couple days ago and there was a police officer with their lights on on the side of the rode. Dam truck next to me and the motorcycles behind him wouldn't let me over.

1point

Demosthenes 2 years ago

Going 10 miles/Km below the speed limit than punching it to 20-30 above when you try to pass them

0points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

Go watch parents at a pickup zone at a grade school.

0points

Norman Weatherly 2 years ago

The most efficient way to move traffic in a situation like this is what we call the zipper. Both lanes of traffic flow to the construction zone and then start to go left, right, left, right. It doesn't work so well when people assume they own both lanes and no one is getting in front of them. I frequently meet them again at the next red light, which goes to show how much faster they are getting to their destination.

0points

jmdirks 2 years ago

Drivers that pull into the safe driving space that you are legally required to have. It's like taking cuts in a line.

0points

Ben 2 years ago

Or when you get ready to pull out on to a street and you can totally tell they speed up just so they can honk or flip you off.

0points

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago

This happens a lot in Utah where I live. I constantly ask "where's a cop when you need them?"

0points

Pamela Blue 2 years ago

I'd love to stand by and watch people complain about the people who want to "zipper" the traffic at the merge point. I'd love to see their faces when the cop tells them they're SUPPOSED to zipper at the merge point! I can only assume that there isn't a highway code to read that tell people how to drive. Or, if they do have one, they don't read it. It makes them look stupid.

1point

Your family should also have clear parent-child boundaries. Yes, kids need to make their own decisions, but they also need to know that you're the boss.

According to Hutchinson, kids who are mentally strong have parents who understand the importance of boundaries and consistency. Caving in and allowing rules to be negotiated too often can lead to power struggles.

#19

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

91points

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More! 2 years ago

Absolutely! I do not like kids who come here and don’t say hi, most of them do though. It’s not about being ‘raised right’ it’s about shyness, but sometimes it’s just slyness

15points

justme 2 years ago

I was this shy friend, let me tell you getting cussed up one side and down the other fixed this issue. Now I will say hi when I enter a room because of that incident. That was close to 20 years ago and we still laugh about it.

3points

Fat Harry 2 years ago

My mum always told me to thank my friends' parents for having me, and I always did.

4points

Xenon 2 years ago

So you don't greet parents? Kinda jacked up imo.

1point

Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago (edited)

Depends on the parents, one of my friends growing up had a dad we were all terrified of, he was just grumpy (especially about his comics which I now get)

1point

Bmo 2 years ago

Must be an old school thing. I have hardly any memories of my friends ever doing this nor have I ever been told that this was a thing you were supposed to do.

1point

leetokofi 2 years ago

so you just walk into their house, past them to your friend bedroom or backyard or whatever? that's weird

1point

Myra Groenewegen 2 years ago

This is Interesting behavior., if oddly alienating and off-putting. I worry about these kids a bit. I think it really shows you who the kids are who regard adults as this strange other species and really can't ever see them as friends or interact with them normally. Even for parents who want to preserve a power difference and not get overly chummy with their kids, I think they need to balance that distancing with intentionally showing kids that they can partake of the adult world on equal footing in some settings, and that there are lots of kinds of social relationships where an age difference is useful. Sometimes I worry there's a bunch of kids who learn to see adults as irrelevant impediments to real social life at best, and predators at worst. It must make it deeply sad and terrifying to grow up.

1point

Thomas Ewing 2 years ago

Going into a store and not greeting the proprietors.

0points

Heather Talma 2 years ago

I was always afraid of other people's parents as a kid. They were never as nice as mine.

0points

Demosthenes 2 years ago

Meeting friends of friends and nobody bothers to introduce each other.

0points

DarkViolet 2 years ago

Word! If they can karaoke the Top 40, they can open their mouth and say hello.

0points

#20

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

87points

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lily jones 2 years ago (edited)

I always pick the cheapest thing possible when someone else is paying

45points

hitex 2 years ago

I know! I choose bw 3 cheapest items available & order glass of water or tea (in South that often comes free like water)

2points

ImATotalTina 1 year ago

I did that when I was a kid

0points

Diana Pahule 2 years ago

I remember once at a sci/fi convention a guy I met offered to buy me breakfast since I was without funds, and I ordered raisin bran cereal.

0points

BlindGirl UK 2 years ago

Same

0points

Jen 2 years ago

As a vegetarian, I don't always have a choice. Although the veggie options are often cheap anyway, where I am.

0points

Astrophile 2 years ago

SAME. Went out for dinner with coworkers last weekend, we all paid for our own so I had steak and some fancy virgin cocktail and even brought a dessert home. Couple days later the boss brought us out for dinner on his own dime and I had a Caesar wrap and fries and water.

0points

Brian Droste 2 years ago

Even though if someone else voluntary to pay I won't order something more expensive if I couldn't afford it myself.

1point

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

My now EX son-in-law would order the most expensive items on the menu, plus expensive craft beers, then order a to-go item all on my tab.

1point

Spittnimage 2 years ago

I wouldn't order a lot of food if someone else was paying.

1point

Persephone hates Pomegranate ️ 2 years ago

i always double check with the person paying if what I want is an okay price, and if dessert is an option. I don't want to order so much food that I'm not paying for.

1point

Xenon 2 years ago

free stuff!!

0points

Whitefox 2 years ago

I choose 2 items I might like one very cheap and one more mid range. I then let them order first, then order the item closest to that in price.

0points

LandAhoy 2 years ago

I don't see why you should have to settle for something you don't really want, just because someone else is paying and it's cheap. Otherwise if that was your rule, you might end up insisting they cannot pay for you so that you can choose what you want. If two friends take turns paying, then why should the person who is not paying have to suffer with something they don't want every time. If I offer to pay for someone it's with the understanding that they can choose what they fancy, other than maybe taking the mick with champagne and lobster.

0points

Julie S 2 years ago

Whenever someone says they are paying I always say I'm going to get the lobster, I don't even eat lobster but it's the same joke I make every time.

0points

SPARKIZE 2 years ago

yeah, very thirsty n rude

0points

#21

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

80points

POST

hitex 2 years ago

Temper tantrums aren't becoming on any person

23points

Astrophile 2 years ago

True, I have never seen a temper tantrum that I admired.

1point

Ralph Watkins 2 years ago

People with borderline personality disorder are infamous for this. These are people who drive the best of us nuts.

0points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago (edited)

Our US Congress

0points

Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago

Main reason I'm no contact with both of my sisters.

0points

Moya Satterwhite 2 years ago

The tantrum cut off age is three. That’s what age a child can start to remember, remember that it didn’t work the last time and mommy will just leave you there and start walking away.

0points

jmdirks 2 years ago

My mother.

0points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

"My mother only wanted one thing - her own way." - John Cleese

0points

Lastly, parents should remember to take care of themselves. "The older we get, the harder it becomes to maintain healthy habits (e.g., eating healthy, exercising daily, taking time to restore)," Hutchinson says. "That’s why it’s important to model self-care habits for your kids."

It's also crucial to practice healthy coping skills in front of your children. For instance, if you’re stressed about work, it could be a great idea to simply tell your child something along the lines of, "I had a very tiring day at work, and I’m going to relax with tea and a book."

#22

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

78points

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JammaCoast2Coast 2 years ago

Manners are free

17points

Thomas Ewing 2 years ago

And pay dividends.

0points

Xitxarel•lo Panda 2 years ago

Tiping is not a good manner, it's only a US thing. I tip of I want and I m happy for the service. Here is t that cultural thing and.i can t understanding why you consider tiping it's mandatory

5points

U_dontwanttoknowme 2 years ago

So about the tipping culture... It is not as common as you might think.

3points

Red Reilly 2 years ago

Me and my BFs motto is 'be nice and nice things will happen to you', we have got to do some really cool things just by being nice to people. It is really not that hard.

3points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

The flipside of this is being treated like dirt by wait staff, I tend to overlook when they're busy, but when I'm 1 of only 3 customers?

1point

#23

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

76points

POST

Mouse 2 years ago

Cultural differences at play with this one.

18points

Goose of the Ahonkalypse 2 years ago (edited)

Even regional differences. When I worked and lived in the PNW (Pacific Northwest, US) it was pretty normal for people to have seafood lunch at the office.

6points

Averysleepypanda 2 years ago

I don't agree with this one. People are allowed to eat what they want. The smell isn't ideal, but I feel people are more entitled to what they want to eat than you're entitled to not smelling something "yucky".

6points

justme 2 years ago (edited)

I eat leftovers for lunch almost daily, if I made fish for dinner, it's what for lunch...This is not poor upbringing or cultural anything, it's called fiscally responsible.

4points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

YUCK

4points

Kevin B 2 years ago

Then let me work from home.

3points

George Costanza 2 years ago

F that. Food is food. Your sensitive little nose shouldn't dictate what I can and cannot eat. Suck it up, buttercup.

3points

Jude Laskowski 2 years ago

This happened at my last job. Patients' families had access to their own microwave, but one woman decided to sneak into our break room (far away from the other one), and heating fish and some other nasty smelling food in our microwave. It took days to get the stink out, and our nurse manager had security put a lock on the door.

2points

sheetzy 2 years ago

What I have noticed with this one is people not realizing just how quickly the microwave will cook something delicate like fish. 30 seconds is usually enough to heat it up. Overcooking is when the smell starts to attack

2points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

So Surströmming wouldn't be a good choice? (Look it up, especially the videos if you don't know)

2points

Rob Williams 2 years ago

Or liver. Now, I love liver when it is cooked properly but the smell of it being microwaved is horrendous!

1point

#24

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

72points

POST

CORGI QUEEN 2 years ago

waiter comes up, waiter: do you want some water? Me: yes thank you Waiter: i'll also take those dishes when I'm done Me:thanks Waiter: Ok all done Me:thank you

20points

Billy Maguire 2 years ago

No, no, thank YOU!

0points

jmdirks 2 years ago

For me, saying please and thank you is so automatic I don't even have to think about it.

4points

Lizzie Brown 2 years ago

I usually thank them for things but like when they do it incessantly and just top it off I’m like ok lol I’m good

1point

Astrophile 2 years ago (edited)

It feels weird as a server too lol. I’d go refill glasses for an entire table plus go out of my way to bring some extra lemons and a jar of ice even though it wasn’t required, plus some crayons for kids that I’d bought for my own guests, and little colouring pages I made on Adobe Illustrator, and they’d completely ignore me. Sometimes I had little “trivia nights” with my guests (it was a hockey bar so I had Trivia questions about the teams playing, and if you answered 1 correctly without googling, I’d buy you a scoop of ice cream). Tried to do small fun extra things that wouldn’t take up too much time :)

1point

The majority of parents (62%) say that raising kids has been at least somewhat harder than they expected, with about a quarter (26%) saying it’s been a lot harder.

At the same time, most of them give themselves high marks for it, with 64% saying they do an excellent or very good job as a parent and 32% reporting they do a good job, while just 4% think their effort could be described as fair or poor.

#25

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

72points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago (edited)

If you're friends with someone who constantly talks about people behind their backs, how long do you think until they'll do it about you?

21points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

They're probably already doing it.

10points

Brian Droste 2 years ago

Today went to a Starbucks. There was another female customer in front of me. She order 5 drinks to go. She had 3 drinks in one carry out carrier and 2 drinks in another carry out carrier. Carried one carrier in one hand and carry the other carrier in the other hand. Would have a hard time to open the doors. I open the doors for her. Should went outside to open her car door to but didn't. Still was a help opening the Star Bucks doors for her. 't.

1point

BlindGirl UK 2 years ago

Regarding the door thing, I'm blind. I probably just didn't hear you behind me.

1point

Astrophile 2 years ago

People who just walk into a place and let go of the door without even realizing other humans exist and might be behind you lol. As someone with massive social anxiety, this thought gives me anxiety haha

1point

Kevin J. Henning 2 years ago

You mean like on Bored Panda??

0points

Astrophile 2 years ago

Besides the trolls, I find BP and it’s pandas to be a lot more respectful than the cultural norm when it comes to social dialogue. We downvote and ban anyone who’s going to act like a POS. Much cooler than Twitter/X and other platforms.

2points

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago

I was carrying a big box the other day and the person in front of me didn't hold the door, so I had to use my leg to open it

0points

lily jones 2 years ago

The last one grrrr

0points

Data1001 2 years ago

I'll hold a door for someone elderly, disabled, or struggling somehow -- if they're right behind me. But people who are perfectly capable of operating a door themselves can operate the door themselves. And if I'm that stranger behind someone, I really would rather you didn't, especially if I'm more than a step or two away, because then it puts the burden on me, like, "Oh, I'd better hurry up so the person holding the door isn't put out!" No man, that's on you. There's simple kindness and considerate behavior, then there's going too far with it and getting mad about it (whether you're the door holder or the door holdee).

-1point

jmdirks 2 years ago (edited)

When I was a kid/early teens and we would go somewhere as a family, My oldest brother would walk way ahead of everyone else and go in wherever it was and never wait for the rest of us. It would totally pi$$ me off.

-1point

Jessica Scott 2 years ago

When they all but close the door in your face when you're holding a crying 2 year old

-1point

#26

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

71points

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Snorky The Pig 2 years ago (edited)

Popsicles were actually invented when a kid left his unfinished cup of lemonade on the porch overnight😂

10points

Heather Talma 2 years ago

Well, that was his own house.

0points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

They probably do.

2points

Deep One 2 years ago

The worst are people who leave cold food items like raw chicken on a random shelf.

1point

Sera 2 years ago

Used to live with someone who left half-finished coca-colas all over until they got moldy. Atrocious.

1point

jmdirks 2 years ago

Yes, yes they do. You can bet on it.

1point

Jessica Reitzell 2 years ago

Yup. They sure do.

1point

Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago

YES. I was brought up that if you were eating or drinking you had to finish it before you went into a shop. my mum would literally get me to open my mouth if I'd been eating something to check I'd finished eating. to this day I feel rude if I'm even sucking a mint while I'm in a shop. eating and drinking in shops is such bad manners.

0points

Alan Jay Weiner 2 years ago

Well what are we supposed to do with it? Do you think there's a waiter going to come around to take our half-eaten muffin and water bottle? Would be nice, though - they can refill my coffee, too... (and yes, that's sarcasm of course!)

0points

Robert Beveridge 2 years ago

Both the bedroom and the office in my house are littered with half-finished water bottles. (by loaded I'm going to estimate two dozen per room). So in my girlfriend's case...yep,definitely

0points

Myra Groenewegen 2 years ago

This is just people embarrassing themselves. It's is the definition of more money than you know what to do with. You paid for a beverage, got too immersed in browsing to buy other things and now it's garbage. Surely nobody MEANS to do this. You just know that all the strangers are seeing it and feeling sorry for you and your sad, sad absent-mindedness.

0points

#27

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

70points

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Eva Kašu 2 years ago

Well, I know that I´m better that certain people..

21points

Grammarly 2 years ago

real

1point

deejak 2 years ago

Isn't this whole thread about that?

5points

Fat Harry 2 years ago

Doesn't this depend on who the next person is?

4points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

It's not the next person I want to be better than . It's me.

1point

Elchinero 2 years ago

but but but what if I AM?

1point

Thomas Ewing 2 years ago

I'm only better than people who misbehave.

0points

Ralph Watkins 2 years ago

I've been around people who see every person at the same job level as them as the competition. They simply cannot sit down & work together on a project. They feel the need to one up the others. There is no collaboration, only competition.

0points

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

Just the reverse; I often think that other people are definitely better than me, because a) I know all the bad things I've done, and b) low self esteem. I really have a hard time understanding people who think they are better than others, and that includes a big portion of my immediate family, too.

0points

Those numbers are pretty interesting. But I guess, even if we see someone behaving rather badly, we can't immediately blame their parents for not doing their part. Research shows us that identical twins who grow up in the same home with the same parents often turn out very differently. So maybe the signs discussed in the thread tell us more about those people's character rather than their parents' commitment to raising them?

#28

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

68points

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hitex 2 years ago

Or at least appreciating that your perspective isn't the right one for them

15points

Lea Ward 2 years ago

I'm riddled with depression and anxiety. I don't even understand my own point of view..

5points

Ralph Watkins 2 years ago

That is a massive issue in the world today. Just look around. So much collective narcissism.

2points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

This thread is making me feel so much worse about myself...

2points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago (edited)

Recognizing your personal flaws is the first step to becoming a better person. It's never too late to change. (Unless you're dead)

2points

Sahil Islam 2 years ago

Question. What if I sympathize with a grieving parent despite not having children of my own but I lost 3 cats in on fell swoop?

1point

caro 2 years ago

what if their perspective is genocide

0points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

If you can explain it using logic, I can get it. I might not agree but I'll understand your perspective. If you just tell me you 'feel xyz', I can't understand, I can't relate. I'm not wired that way.

0points

Michelle Reynolds 2 years ago

It's Open Season on anyone who is conservative, Christian etc by the "tolerant left" LMAO the hypocrisy is staggering.

-1point

ILoveMySon 2 years ago

Yes, true.

-1point

#29

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

68points

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SPARKIZE 2 years ago

Special kinda person

12points

Astrophile 2 years ago (edited)

My poor 7yp nephew tried to be kind and clean the microwave plate when he spilled food on it :) he had such bad anxiety about the fact that he couldn’t put the plate back properly (he’s too short to see properly lol) and was very upset about it. Let’s be patient! Necessary exceptions are often less obvious than they seem. If you’re neurotypical/tall enough to see inside the microwave, you should definitely keep it clean lol

2points

Mila Preradović 2 years ago

I've done this a couple of times when I first started working at my job, not because I wasn't raised properly but because I've never had a microwave and no one taught me proper way to use it.

3points

DarkViolet 2 years ago

Your case is an exception.

2points

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

Totally understandable.

0points

LizzieBoredom 2 years ago

I wanted to see if the popcorn would be loop-sided.

0points

AgingBull 2 years ago

When they spill all over the plate and just leave it

2points

Marissa Voleta 2 years ago

Bonus Point: Not clearing the time you didn't use and leaving :12 flashing. I had a roommate that would leave one or two SECONDS on the microwave. Like, "who is anyone to leave that resposibility to the next guy who uses the microwave?!"

1point

Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago

You know there's a lot of people out there that feel they need to stop the microwave before the ending beeps, but fr at least clear the time you beepaphobe.

1point

Jason Curry 2 years ago

Preach!!!

1point

Billy Maguire 2 years ago

I HATE it when that happens.

0points

Elleon 2 years ago

This is specific LOL

0points

David Hopkins 2 years ago

Gotta admit, when it came to bad attributes in others, rotating microwave platters didn't occur to me. Why it occurred to you brings up all kinds of questions.

0points

Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago

This is an odd one lol

0points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

They don't have that necessary mechanical engineering degree.

0points

#30

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

63points

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Jared Robinson 2 years ago

Some people just want to watch the world burn

7points

Michelle Reynolds 2 years ago

It's job security for the cart kids!

1point

Steven 2 years ago

They already have enough to do just bringing them in from the corrals without having to chase them down in random parking spaces. Those cart wranglers usually have responsibility for cleaning spills and emptying garbage cans, too.

0points

Jude Laskowski 2 years ago

Especially when they leave the cart in a disabled parking space. Ggrrr!

0points

AR 2 years ago

I kind of understand if a cart is left by a disabled space. I had to do it once when my hips were too painful to walk on anymore that day, and my kid wasn’t with me. But healthy people with mobility have no excuse. I even make it a point to return the motorized carts when I’m done with them.

0points

Nicola Koh 2 years ago

its crazy to me that people will leave their cart in the middle of a spot RIGHT NEXT TO THE CART AREA, but you use the threat of having to give up a quarter and they'll trek the cart back from the end of earth

0points

Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago

Ugh, even worse when it's in a handicap spot.

0points

Brocken Blue 2 years ago (edited)

Honestly, as a person who uses a handicap placard whenever my neurological issues get too painful, it’s intensely annoying how rarely there are cart returns near the handicap spots. I often end up leaving the cart in an awkward place because if I’m hurting too bad to walk further to a normal car spot, I’m sure as heck not about to walk even longer to return my cart. It’s an annoying situation for handicap folks kinda regardless of who left the cart there ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

0points

jmdirks 2 years ago

ARRGGGHHHH!!!!

0points

#31

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

63points

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Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

As long as you're actually invited and didn't just walk in off the street into some random persons house.

17points

LastButNotLeast 2 years ago

Come on, in Italy you can't go away without rating or drinking something even of you were not invited... Nobody Will die...

4points

Tobias Reaper 2 years ago

when i was younger i stayed at my friends house and i was told by his parents i shouldn't expect to get fed like dude wtf

9points

tmw 2 years ago

i have social cue issues. I have a very hard time having people over to my house and I often don't think of their needs. I have learned, b/c i've been told i'm a bad host (good friends who told me nicely) to ask them to let me know if they need anything. maybe i'm on the autism spectrum? I am learning, tho!

4points

SageHare37 2 years ago

Or you weren't taught, which isn't your fault. Your friends sound very kind, it is much better to be told your guests don't feel welcome instead of your friends simply refusing to come hang out.

4points

AR 2 years ago

Who does that to guests they invited?!

1point

Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago

Or if you go to a friend's house when you're a kid, you're only gonna be there for a few hours, but the parents expect you to do chores while you're there. I can understand them wanting you to clean up after yourself, but cleaning up after everyone else too?

1point

Karen Lyon 2 years ago (edited)

A young lady I have known most of her life visited her father often, as her parents had been split up since she was three years old. Once she went to visit him after he'd moved into a new place. He knew she was coming, but the best he could offer her was the coffee table and a pillow. I wanted to slug him. He was PISSED when I went off about it on her Facebook post. She was treating it lightly and making a joke of it, to keep the peace. He did not like that I basically had a WTH moment and "embarrassed" him on social media. As if he didn't have it coming. That young lady and her father, are totally NC after one too many times where he showed what a narcisstic jerk he is. I have nothing but contempt for him.

0points

ILoveMySon 2 years ago

ABSOLUTELY! And don't show up empty handed in my experience.

0points

Diana Pahule 2 years ago (edited)

Sorry I don't snack so don't think to offer snacks, and don't expect snacks. I'll offer a beverage sure.

0points

Chuckle Berry 2 years ago

Leave. Pretty simple

0points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

Just grab a floor.

0points

#32

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

63points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

How they talk to ANYONE.

40points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

Especially men, and how they talk ABOUT women when they think nobody is listening.

10points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

I can't respond to Glenn Schroeder because of the downvotes, so I have to reply to my own comment. To answer his question, OF COURSE it is not okay if women talk bad behind mens' backs either. However, this is much more prevalent among men-hence the term "Locker Room Talk"-to talk about women in a disparaging and objectifying manner, glorifying her "tits" or "@ss." If a woman trash-talks a man, it usually (not always) tends to be because of his behavior. That is why I specifically addressed men.

2points

Ralph Watkins 2 years ago

Many young men in a group with some girls with them will call themselves "bros & hoes". If that isn't bad enough, the girls will smile & seem to be proud of their status in that social group.

0points

#33

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

61points

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lily jones 2 years ago

Idk about this one sometimes it comes unexpectedly

12points

John Murphy 2 years ago

if yawning is impolite to you, you had too much privilege growing up

8points

donnie supremacy (she/her) 2 years ago

I don't understand the cover your yawn thing. Is that really a social rule?

5points

MaximumKarmaSaint 2 years ago

You need to cover your mouth...to yawn?

5points

Khall Khall 2 years ago

I cover my mouth when I yawn because it's polite. But...it still bothers me. Like...why do we do this? Why is it polite? You're breathing in. There's no danger of germs or infecting others like coughing or sneezing. I think it's like a baboon threat gesture of opening your mouth/baring your teeth and that's why it is rude. But it's weird.

1point

ILoveMySon 2 years ago

Like you, I cover for yawns.

0points

Billy Maguire 2 years ago

I've NEVER sneezed through my mouth - what am I doing wrong?

0points

Janine Randall 2 years ago

Or eat with an open mouth while talking.

0points

Brian Droste 2 years ago

A lot of my sneezes come so quickly that I don't have time to cover my mouth.

0points

AR 2 years ago

Yawning doesn’t bother me, but cover up a sneeze. I don’t want your germs.

0points

U_dontwanttoknowme 2 years ago

Covering a yawn? Maybe at school or at work? Or in general?

0points

#34

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

58points

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Say No to Downvoting 2 years ago

Oh, wow - that is such a point of cultural difference.

93points

hitex 2 years ago

Yes this is cultural - I realized this rule quickly in engineering uni & took a bit to make habit of asking as entering

9points

Furbaby Kip's Mom 2 years ago

This is definitely a cultural thing. I was taught to never take your shoes off in someone else's home because I would be making myself too 'at home' and therefore being disrespectful.

24points

Kaa 2 years ago

Yes, definitely. It's something you only do at close friends' or family. At least here in Northern Germany.

5points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

Also anyone wearing shoes on a bed, ever. Nobody I know personally, but seen it in youtube videos/movies. Gross 🤢

20points

Red Reilly 2 years ago

When I first met me bf, he would wear shoes on the bed. noooooo. He also would just put his towel on the bed when he got out the shower, that's gross! that towel is wet!

9points

Becky Samuel 2 years ago

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Cindy Mauch 2 years ago

I don't agree with this one. It's not typical in America to take shoes off indoors, so it should be incumbent on the home owner to let the person know, not the other way around. Plus, I hate being barefoot, personally.

15points

Pamela Blue 2 years ago

I have arthritic feet and knees, and walking barefoot, or in socks (or even in soft slippers) is excruciating for me. When I visit others, I bring another pair of shoes to wear. I still get looks from other guests that I'm wearing shoes. I feel like saying "you are SO lucky to be able to walk shoeless. Enjoy it!"

6points

Esther Wijnen 2 years ago

It is so not normal to take off your shows in The Netherlands, we don't even know the concept of guest slippers....

7points

Skip62 2 years ago

Honestly I never think of doing this though I take my shoes off when I get home and leave them in the garage. But I would gladly take my shoes off in someone else's house if they asked. And I would remember it for the next time.

5points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago (edited)

And some people say it is "rude" to ask. I have debates with other Asian friends about it. I tell them, well, it is your house.

5points

Kathy Dragonfly 2 years ago

this is a constant battle between me and my partner - he was brought up that getting dressed includes shoes also indoors and i find it unhygienic to carry outside dirt into the house (also gives you smelly feet if you wear shoes all day)

5points

Rita Benkő 2 years ago

Houseshoes (instead of slippers)

6points

L. Murphy 2 years ago (edited)

This is a cultural difference. Many Americans do not do this, even though it keeps things cleaner. Even though we are obsessed with how everything smells and germs, we never think about shoes. I think it comes down to convenience and habit. If you were not raised to take them off, you don't take them off.

4points

HolyDiver 2 years ago

Uh.... this is not a thing in many parts of the world.

4points

#35

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

53points

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Lea Ward 2 years ago

Yep. I live with someone like that. It's pure laziness. People keep telling me "maybe he doesn't notice". When there's pee and poo stains on the literal toilet seat I'm sure he fricking notices. If it were just me and him I'd leave it on the toilet seat for him to deal with whilst I use a bathroom elsewhere. It's so infuriating :(

7points

ImATotalTina 1 year ago

HOW TF DO U GET S**T ON THE TOILET SEAT 🤢🤢🤢🤢

0points

Sonja 2 years ago

Can’t, or won’t?

2points

Diana Pahule 2 years ago

Or do such a poor job of it you want to strangle them.

0points

Barbara Kayton 2 years ago

Most part agree, but like a few things, neurodiversity and/or mental health issues can impact a person’s ability to handle tasks. But other times, it is just expecting someone else will do it, or poor behavioral upbringing.

0points

#36

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

50points

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hitex 2 years ago

Yes this is weird & awkward.

5points

Goose of the Ahonkalypse 2 years ago

I really hate it when home invasions aren't polite. Like where are your manners? Back in my day they said please and thank you when tying us up and stealing all of our stuff.

2points

Data1001 2 years ago

Is it okay if I just quickly nod at the people but spend a few quality minutes saying hello to the dog?

1point

Diana Pahule 2 years ago

Again could be a neurodivergent thing.

0points

jmdirks 2 years ago

I just don't understand how someone can visit and not greet the people there?????

0points

Red Reilly 2 years ago

a had, HAD, a friend who came to visit me when I was back at my parents once, he never acknowledged my parents. It was the rudest thing ever. He did not get invited back.... and then he turned out to be really crazy and toxic and did not get invited back into my life.

0points

#37

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

49points

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Donkey boi 2 years ago

I'm sorry but, if you stop suddenly while I'm walking behind you, I'm probably going to go through you. I'll help you up afterwards, but it's important that you learn that lesson.

13points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

I'm a bit higgledy-piggledy on the sidewalk. Whoops.

4points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

As long as you don't do it to purposefully block people I think youre okay.

1point

jmdirks 2 years ago

People that stand at the end of an isle, with their carts, in the store and talk. THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!

3points

Data1001 2 years ago

Sidewalk etiquette is something I was just thinking about this week. In the USA, you should treat a sidewalk like a roadway -- that is, walk on the right, pass on the left, and don't go over the center lane when there's oncoming traffic. I keep seeing 3 or 4 teenagers walking side-by-side, and barely making room for me coming the opposite way. At that point, I just want to have a conversation with their parents and ask why they never instilled that basic etiquette in them.

2points

Lsai Aeon 2 years ago

Yup, you stop suddenly in front of me I'll run you over. My wheelchair doesnt stop like that. You'll either end up bowled over completely or in my lap. Ask my son, he's learned this lesson the hard way

2points

A girl 2 years ago

This!!!! And stopping at the top/bottom of an escalator. Pull over please

2points

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago (edited)

This but in hallways of buildings

1point

Lace Neil 2 years ago

Stop dead in front of me, and you'll get a flat tire (stepping on someone's heel so their shoe comes off).

1point

A girl 2 years ago

Lol. I use a walking stick so i get away with a rap on their ankles all the while appearing to be a sweet old lady:)

0points

deejak 2 years ago

My dog does this!! Such a jerk!

1point

A girl 2 years ago

I forgive cats and dogs for this but my pets do now answer to JFC in long form.

0points

JammaCoast2Coast 2 years ago

Add airport to this, not just the sidewalk. So many people just stop for seemingly no real reason. Move to the side and get out of the way!

1point

#38

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

42points

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Donkey boi 2 years ago

2 of these can be a result of learning difficulties or disabilities. Asperger's & Autism are just 2 examples.

31points

PixxelDust 2 years ago

Yep. Took me until the start of high school to understand the general range of personal space, and I still say the wrong things at the wrong times. It's not for a lack of trying.

2points

Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago

I don't consider my autism a learning difficulty or a disability. I've actually been pretty advanced educationally most of my life. that's not a brag, just a fact. this is quite common with autistic people. SOME autistic people also have learning difficulties. just like some non autistic people do. but autism in itself isn't a learning difficulty

0points

Jude Laskowski 2 years ago

Not that many people have asperger's, autism or "the spectrum". Too many people use this as an excuse for bad behavior.

0points

Grammarly 2 years ago

I thought Asperger's was another word for autism ;-;

0points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

I can't read the room. How do you even do that?

13points

Lyone Fein 2 years ago

You observe your surroundings, and draw logical conclusions from the information presented.

18points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Well, I get that, but I can't seem to deduce what everyone else seems to.

3points

CORGI QUEEN 2 years ago

t-h-e r-o-o-m see I can read "the room" /s

3points

LizzieBoredom 2 years ago

Braille walls and furniture.

1point

hitex 2 years ago

Once again, apologies from aspie here - I really try & don't mean to violate this rule. Politely let me know and I'll make sure to double check myself. It's unintentional

10points

Jeevesssssss 2 years ago

This!!!

3points

howdylee 2 years ago

So this person doesn't respect others that may be neurodivergent.

7points

Goose of the Ahonkalypse 2 years ago

Not everybody who sucks at these are neurodivergent. Some people are just entitled. Also being neurodivergent is not an excuse to ignore boundaries or personal space. It's quite obvious some of that is enabled when looking at the consistently different expectations for neurodivergent men/boys vs neurodivergent women/girls. Women/girls in general have higher social expectations than men/boys. It's part of the reason why many autistic women fly under the radar well into their 30's-40's. Because they work harder to acknowledge these boundaries. It is more difficult to learn but its still possible to learn. Being social awkward or socially struggling is understandable. Being an unmitigated a-hole who consistently ignores others boundaries is not. Obviously those with intellectual disabilities will have a harder time.

1point

Sahil Islam 2 years ago

My older brother does this but in his defence he is autistic

7points

François Bouzigues 2 years ago

Social skills is something really hard to pick up if it is not natural to you. I am quite good at it. But i don´t hold grudge to people who are not

6points

Kelly Scott 2 years ago

If you have Asperger Syndrome, trying to read the room is like going to a party where everyone is wearing sunglasses.

2points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

could be ASD in this case

1point

Meh 2 years ago

That's often autism

1point

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago

As an autistic it is harder for me, so don't be too hard, but I agree with the fine line of personal space, I may tap your shoulder or your arm, that's it

1point

#39

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

42points

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lily jones 2 years ago

Okay the first one but who washes their hands before opening the fridge? Am I the only one who doesn't?

47points

kissmychakram 2 years ago

This is a new one on me too!

16points

Billy Maguire 2 years ago

Be of good cheer - you're NOT the only one!

0points

ILoveMySon 2 years ago

Perhaps OP is referring to retrieving ice if a dispenser is not available? My dispenser broke but I have a container with an ice scoop. Just a thought.

0points

jmdirks 2 years ago

How OCD do you have to be to wash your hands every time you open the fridge??

8points

Javelina Poppers 2 years ago

Not just the fridge....... 5aef5757-4...c3c53.jpeg

2points

MotherofGuineaPigs 2 years ago

I had a friend in high school that was always at our house. After a while of asking if she could have something to eat, we just said help yourself. So it wasn't a suprise when she would.

1point

Roland Nijveld 2 years ago

You got mysophobia it seems. Washing your hands before getting something from the fridge...weird

0points

#40

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

30points

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NetworkMan 2 years ago

Apart from the no one at the end there, I wouldn't consider this proof someone wasn't raised right. I don't litter in the streets, but I'll leave my empty packets on a table in my own home. I'll leave my pots in the sink because I've just eaten, and can't be bothered cleaning them straight away. This thread is, to me, more about how we treat people and the places in the world we go, what you do in your own home is up too you.

25points

Trillian 2 years ago

Well if you do it in your own home people won't notice and complain about it online. I assume the above examples refer to shared spaces, like office bathrooms and kitchens.

2points

Captain Awesome 2 years ago

Pooping and leaving streaks in the toilet? I think that depends more on the person's diet then how they were raised unless you think everyone should carry toilet cleaner and a brush everywhere they go

11points

Michelle Reynolds 2 years ago

We should really start carrying portable toilet brushes so we don't leave those pesky streaks eh???

4points

Lea Ward 2 years ago

I live with someone who pees and craps ON the toilet seat. What's he doing, standing on the bloody thing?

1point

3Hs 2 years ago

It is NOT always the fault of the parents! Sometimes the kid is just a bastard at heart. My wonderful parents raised a boy who grew up to be a wife abuser and deadbeat dad. He considers us traitors for supporting his ex and kids over him

0points

Groaver Andout 2 years ago

Some people can read s**t streaks like tea leaves.

0points

Roland Nijveld 2 years ago

People who use too many abbreviations and no capital letters... What does "shxt" even mean?

-2points

#41

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

20points

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hitex 2 years ago

& demeaning other viewpoints that don't align

4points

Becky Samuel 2 years ago

You mean, being a Boredpanda commenter.

2points

Captain Awesome 2 years ago

I can everyone a dumbass. You are until proven not. To many dumbasses to go the other way

2points

#42

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

18points

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#43

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

17points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

I'll respect her when she respects me. Just because they're family doesn't mean they're not toxic.

33points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

THANK YOU!!! I'm not randomly disrespectful to them, but I will stand up for myself and my other loved ones. If that comes off as disrespectful, oh well. They should've kept their mouth shut in the first place.

12points

Fae (he/they) 2 years ago

you get it.

4points

gremlin-king 2 years ago

this

1point

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Depends on the mother. Not everyone is as lucky as some us are.

6points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

But you don't have to do it in front of others.

-2points

The Chronic Insomniac 2 years ago

My mother was horribly physically abusive to me as a child. Also, emotionally and mentally abusive as well. She's a toxic malignant narcissist who scarred me for life and still treats me like a red-headed step-child. I'm so glad the OP had a normal, loving mother, but some of us were not so lucky.

2points

Sahil Islam 2 years ago

In my friend group I have one rule. Don't disrespect my mother. We may have been friends since kindergarten but I will not hesitate to drop ur a*s on the concrete. Annoyingly tho one ex-friend did and I charged at him like a bull

2points

MezzoPiano 2 years ago

I caught my daughter being rude to my mother once. I tend to be a very calm sort of parent, but I charged into the room and told her I better never hear her talking to my mother that way again. Thankfully, she never has.

1point

Jeannie Miller 2 years ago

Not helping elderly/ grand parents. OMG i saw a teenager allow her grandmother to sit on the floor instead of giving up her seat. I could t stay quiet.

1point

rem rat 2 years ago

my mother is a horrible person and she never respects me or my family and she's abusive and stuff why should i respect her if she has never respected me

0points

starkey [he/him] 2 years ago

what about dads though? i don't mean to be sexist, but i feel like being mean to your dad too is also a flaw.

0points

NetworkMan 2 years ago

I 'curse' at my mother all the time, but it's never in a malicious way, we're just a family that swears at one another. People hold words to too high a value. If I'm doing some handy work around my mam's house, and she's sat doing nothing, I'll tell her to get her lazy b*tch a*s up and help me, and she gives as good back at me.

0points

#44

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

16points

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#45

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

16points

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NetworkMan 2 years ago

Again, disagree with this one. I'm out and about too much to be taking my shoes on and off all day, plus I have a weird bone in my foot, so tying my shoes takes a few minutes because I do it a certain way.

13points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

I think this is more a personal preference thing, when it comes to your own house. Just because I don't like it doesn't mean others don't have a right to do as they please in their own home. I don't think what you do in your own house says anything about character/problematic upbringing like this post says.

4points

realenancy170 2 years ago

I have very arthritic feet and need to wear shoes for support and protection. I will scream like a banshee if I stub a toe, the pain will be that bad. I also never heard of taking your shoes off to enter a house until recently.

2points

Captain Awesome 2 years ago

My wife does this because she has special insoles she has to wear. No biggie to me, but I do take my shoes off by the garage when I get home

1point

Michael Largey 2 years ago

As discussed earlier in this thread, this is very cultural.

0points

John Murphy 2 years ago

ill take my bad manners, hop in the car and leave you because you had to take your shoes off and werent redy to go

0points

Annie Bieber 2 years ago

We live in the mountains, there's Scorpions that get in occasionally, we tell visitors and guests to NOT take off their shoes, they may be very sorry.

0points

David Henderson. 2 years ago

As someone who grew up in Australia,leaving your shoes on is pretty normal to go inside. It was a foreign concept to me when I moved to Canada. Makes sense in a snowy country so you don't walk it all through the house but in the summer it's just weird especially if you're in and out a bit. Just make sure there's no dog poo on your shoes first.

0points

Goose of the Ahonkalypse 2 years ago

We don't wear shoes in our home but I do know people with insanely clean homes that do. And yes I know they can't "see" the germs or whatever but they also clean floors several times a week. Beyond the possibility of mud or gross stuff being tracked in the allergens being dragged in is what gets me. Especially grasses.

0points

ChillDystopia 2 years ago

I realy don't understand the point with n-word, it seem a very american (puritanism culture inspired) conception of words. Basically if you don't want a word to be spread, don't use it. Words doesn't belong to people/community, they are vector of communication. Also, words are words, there is not reason to self-censure when it's contextually appropriate (like a when read a very old / historic text), it's not Voldemort.

0points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

I believe you meant to comment on a post a bit above this one. Just pointing that out so people don't downvote you.

2points

#46

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

16points

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hitex 2 years ago

I give food, water & necessaries to beggars, but not cash - & ppl who harm animals have a special place in hades where they hopefully get treated similarly

11points

Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago

This, I miss the days of the Mickey Dee's $1 gift certificates. Used to keep a bunch in the glove box of the car that homeless folks could take in for food. Damn the gift cards!

1point

realenancy170 2 years ago

We have actual documented grifters who pay a fee to an enforcer to work the "good" corners in our city. Some are real homeless, some are professionals. I donate to a local food bank and a shelter .

5points

JammaCoast2Coast 2 years ago (edited)

Years ago I was out with a couple of gals from work, we went to a martini bar (we had also just been paid that day). One of my coworkers asks us to buy her a drink. I had one I wasn't particularly fond of after taking a sip of it and offered it to her. She declined. No one bought her a drink, but with the mood soured, we ended the night. On the way back to our cars, I gave a homeless man the last of my cash, at most it was $10. Coworker said, "He's just gonna buy booze with it." I turned to her and said, "So were you."

3points

cerinamroth 2 years ago

But you don't know if they give money to homeless charities - which, in my opinion, is the better option. They are organised, they can benefit from economies of scale, etc etc.

3points

More! 2 years ago

I agree with both. And if they want to use the money for drugs, smokes or alcohol then let them. What other joy do they have in their life if they’re living on the street? And I’d never hurt an animal on purpose. Never. Neither would my children (those three lazy teenagers who never clean up after themselves)

1point

Dolevaal 2 years ago

I give money sometimes but I also live in a big city - there are just too many, I can't afford giving money to all of them.

0points

Roland Nijveld 2 years ago

Well, I don't. Why? Because it is used for booze or drugs. And in my country it's not necessary to live on the street. There are many other option if you get that low

0points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

sorry I can't resist. Folks who harm animals are bad... but if you pay someone to harm animals that's ok...? just asking.

0points

#47

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

16points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Does this include someone who can't feel empathy? Like, I don't know... me?

4points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

Being unable to feel empathy and choosing not to are two completely different things. There are people who are literally unable to feel empathy, and it's nothing they did wrong, but it's also not something they can change no matter how hard they try (at least from what I've heard). It's just how they are, and it is not their fault in any way whatsoever.

5points

Rita Benkő 2 years ago

Does not matter, if it is an emotional or a conscious response, if it is respectful.

2points

Becky Samuel 2 years ago

And then when we do try to empathise by using an example from our own lives that we find relatable we get judged for it too. So we're damned if we do and damned if we don't.

1point

MaximumKarmaSaint 2 years ago

So....empathy? I have a high level of both.

0points

More! 2 years ago

I can’t relate to Palestinians, but my level of sympathy is excessively high right now. Was I raised wrong then?

0points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Empathy is our ability to understand how someone feels; While sympathy is our relief in not having the same problems.

0points

Sahil Islam 2 years ago

Question. What if I sympathize with a grieving parent despite not having children of my own but I lost 3 cats in on fell swoop?

0points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago (edited)

The definition of sympathy is feeling sorry for someone while not fully understanding what they're going through because you've never been through it yourself. Empathy is understanding what someon is going through because you've been in that same (or very similar) situation yourself. You can definitely sympathize with someone even if you can't empathize with them.

2points

#48

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

15points

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censorshipsucks 2 years ago

in africa we talk loud so people can hear we are not gossiping.

2points

Angela B 2 years ago

There will always be one loud AF asshat and there will always be one that laughs like a hyena at the top of their lungs.

1point

Julie S 2 years ago (edited)

We call these Americans! This is a joke please don't downvote me Americans

0points

#49

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

15points

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Donkey boi 2 years ago

Or any other form of social media... I'm all for discord, debate and discussion, but arguing for sake of arguing, or to just upset people, is uncalled for and unnecessary.

3points

Lily Braunekatze 2 years ago

Arguing, spreading misinformation and spreading hate is what twitter is designed to encourage.

1point

Michael Largey 2 years ago

And people who post s**t just for the downvotes, thinking they're "owning" the whatevers.

0points

Red Reilly 2 years ago

I had this on Youtube, I mentioned something about my favourite superhero team and this guy was like, NO! you are wrong! I was like, umm I'm really not I just finished re reading the complete collection for the 40th time. Didn't matter, I foolishly tried to explain my point, NO! You are wrong!... I just walked away from my laptop. ok dude you 'won' this round..

0points

#50

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

14points

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Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

I wouldn't say their cleanliness. Obviously, cleanliness is important, but lack of hygiene could mean depression or homelessness or other things and doesn't say anything about the person's heart.

6points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

Be compassionate to those who have a problem with cleanliness.

0points

#51

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

14points

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lily jones 2 years ago

Or rather, lack thereof

4points

Jared Robinson 2 years ago

manners maketh man

0points

#52

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

14points

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Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

I actually respect the poor people a lot- they held out so long in the hopes things will get better. They are a prime example of perseverance and strength in adversity. Besides, if I wouldn't respect them, I would be disrespecting myself 😂

5points

hitex 2 years ago

No one likes a boot-licker

2points

caro 2 years ago

rich people don't give a damn about you

0points

El Cucuy 2 years ago

I don't know anyone that respects rich people. But I know a lot of folks that suck up to rich people.

0points

Chriss21 2 years ago

They don't respect them either, they just SHOW respect to gain something

0points

#53

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

14points

POST

Donkey boi 2 years ago

I'm not sure what this one means. Are they asking me to do the washing up? How do you even make a mess in a restaurant? Everything is on a plate, you eat it, then you're just left with a plate and cutlery.

9points

VioletHunter 2 years ago

Some people make an incredible mess, leave everything strewn out everywhere and the tablecloth drenched in sauce.

4points

Skip62 2 years ago

Wipe up your spills. Stack your plates. Don't just leave a mess everywhere on the table.

1point

LB 2 years ago

Exception: If you break a glass/bottle at a restaurant/bar, certainly notify someone and position yourself to stop others from stepping on it if necessary, but don’t try to clean it up yourself. I will need to get out the broom and sweep regardless (you’re not gonna get all the small shards of glass with your hands), so you are not lessening my workload by picking up glass. But if you accidentally cut yourself, I will need to pause sweeping, get you bandaids, possibly give you additional help, and then finish sweeping. Plus I just don’t want you to get injured regardless because that sucks. When you try to pick up the broken glass there is no chance of you reducing the amount of work required by the staff no matter how hard you try, but there is certainly a chance of you further increasing the amount of work required by staff.

1point

Jared Robinson 2 years ago

"it's their job" and you're not a f*****g animal Karen, wipe up your spot takes two seconds and their are napkins on the f*****g table.

0points

Lea Ward 2 years ago

My boyfriends dad says "leave it, it's not our job, it's theirs". I just wish he could wind up with my fist in his face. He's arrogant and narcissistic.

0points

#54

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

13points

POST

Lea Ward 2 years ago

It's funny when some people are wrong. Poor sense of hygiene also happens when people get really depressed. As someone with depression I'd know. :( some people are just lazy in that sense but perhaps be considerate to those who can't help it

10points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

I agree with you 100% about the hygiene. I actually commented on another post about hygiene higher up. And laziness shouldn't be criminalized either if it is not affecting others.

5points

Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago

What's it like, living in Utopia?

1point

#55

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

12points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Don't understand this one. Clothes are clothes.

12points

Lyone Fein 2 years ago

Jackets, hats, shoes, etc. often have dirt, leaves, rain, snow, car exhaust and other things you don't want in your bed.

9points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

Depends where you wore them. I live on a farm, and ain't no way I'm wearing outside clothes on my bed. But I think the real ticker-offer is shoes. I will never understand people who wear them on their bed. I mean, their bed, their choice, but personally I find it extremely repulsive.

3points

Sahil Islam 2 years ago

Ye but I do have a problem wearing home clothes when going out. Ig it's a personal preference or something

1point

PFD 2 years ago

That's you being raised with a particular (probably highly culturally dependent) attitude to cleanliness. I think there has to be a difference between "not raised right" and "not raised with my cultural norms and expectations" or the question just becomes snobbery.

6points

Becky Samuel 2 years ago

Why is this so high but animals on the bed isn't even mentioned?

2points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

I guess it depends on what you've been doing. After walking the dogs or mucking out the animals, I'd agree. But if it's just the clothes that I travel to and from work in (I change into scrubs at work) I don't see why that would be a problem... Unless you mean shoes, in which case they should be in the porch or by the front door anyway.

1point

Roger9er 2 years ago

Gross.

1point

The Chronic Insomniac 2 years ago

THIS. My late husband would work out in his shop (he was a carpenter) be covered in sawdust or smell like wood stain, and then come in and lay down on top of our bed for a nap. I'm allergic to all sorts of various stuff, especially chemicals like paint, thinner, etc. and will break out in hives if I marinate in that stuff. I had to wash our bedding several times a week at bare minimum.

0points

caro 2 years ago

i just don't really have the motivation to change usually

0points

SPARKIZE 2 years ago

mmhm, pass the blow torch 🔥

0points

#56

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

11points

POST

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

arguing with police? You mean that's bad? Of course you should argue with them. They're fascists, not god. Not standing up to authority is how you get nazis in power.

0points

caro 2 years ago

did you remember to kick a nazi today?

2points

#57

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

10points

POST

#58

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

9points

POST

#59

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

8points

POST

#60

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

8points

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Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago (edited)

I'll be nice until they're mean to me. Respect is earned, not given, no matter who it is. Edit: I won't be rude if I dont repect them. I'll just avoid them as much as possible and be cordial when i have to interact with them.

7points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Being an "Elder" does not entitle you to anything. The approach should be proportionate to how approachable you are. Respect should act like a mirror.

6points

#61

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

8points

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Nina 2 years ago

Again, culturally.

6points

Em 2 years ago

Used to live with friends who had a rule that they didn't tip if they had to go downstairs for the food. Tips were only for those who delivered directly to the apartment door. It was such a d**k move, but they were weirdly proud of it.

0points

Roland Nijveld 2 years ago

Good question. Why would I when he makes a normal wage? And the only way to get it changed in the US is by stop giving tips

-1point

#62

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

8points

POST

Captain Awesome 2 years ago

This can be psychological and not related to how they were raised.

4points

rem rat 2 years ago

this is something that people can't control. one of the sweetest people ive ever met had a lot of anger issues but it wasnt her fault, she wasnt raised like that, it was just a byproduct of psychological stuff

1point

Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago

Says the person who intentionally baits people FOR the reaction, then points and says "see, that's what..." Oftentimes, they deserve what they get.

0points

gremlin-king 2 years ago

well sorry that i have anger issues and can't handle it

0points

realenancy170 2 years ago

I was at an anniversary party when this guest had apparently had an argument with her husband. She sulked and visibly fumed the whole time they were there. I was incredibly uncomfortable, it ruined the evening for us and others at the table.

-2points

caro 2 years ago

you when someone has an explainable problem and develops a reaction to it:

1point

#63

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

7points

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Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

Can't it just be opnions on people who are different than them?

12points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

I agree with 3/4.

3points

lily jones 2 years ago

Reading an earlier comment I understand the first one might not apply to people who just can't feel empathy

5points

Chickens are fluffy 2 years ago

My opinion on them is that they are all very pretty

0points

#64

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

7points

POST

lily jones 2 years ago

Hey leave us oversharers alone

10points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

yeah

1point

#65

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

7points

POST

Thatkamloopsguy 2 years ago

My wife leaves lakes everywhere. Drives me crazy.

0points

#66

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

7points

POST

Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago

Unless said person is standing in front of the mashed potatoes at Golden Corral...move, b***h get out the way, get out the way, b***h get out the way! 🤣🤣🤣

1point

#67

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

6points

POST

#68

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

6points

POST

lily jones 2 years ago

???

4points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

Usually it's considered rude to answer a phone call with something like "what?"

2points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

What?

0points

LastButNotLeast 2 years ago

Yes, elderly people... This Is and old issue, but I think is an important thing of good manners that were thaught from our parents and now... Not so common

0points

#69

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

4points

POST

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Ahem, it's 'Vocabulary'.

14points

GlixDrap 2 years ago

Surely vocabulary

2points

Rita Benkő 2 years ago

Only in their mother tongue? Or only in your mother tongue?

1point

#70

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

4points

POST

Tobias Reaper 2 years ago

whats wrong with denying food if offered what if your not hungry or its food you cant eat

18points

Glenn Schroeder 2 years ago

In some cultures I believe it's considered rude to not eat food that you are offered. I don't understand it myself. If I'm not hungry I don't want to eat.

6points

LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 years ago

People have food allergies and everyone should be permitted to decline food, albeit gracefully.

4points

Charlie the Cat 2 years ago

What does OU fan mean?

3points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Open University? Orange Umbrellas? Otherworldly Ukuleles? Over-acting Unicorns?

8points

Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago

it's okay not to want food you've been offered. it's far ruder to expect someone to eat something even if they don't want to.

0points

Jason Curry 2 years ago

Horns down! J/K

0points

#71

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

3points

POST

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

I have a friend who once stepped on a leaf and said sorry to it. He's the best person I know.

15points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

It may get slightly annoying after a while, but I dont know any "bad" person who does this. If you mean their parents constantly put them down and blame them for stuff they didn't do is them not being raised right, I completely agree. No parent should treat the child like that.

10points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

In my case it wasn't my parents, it was many other people, but the list says "signs of a problematic upbringing," not of a bad person, and in this case it is a sign of problematic upbringing, just not the person's fault.

5points

Alethea Fletcher 2 years ago

This one shouldn't be here. I have a couple of very good friends who constantly apologise, even for things not remotely their fault, and both are due to being raised in abusive households. I know, because I used to do the same, due to the same reason. Therapy has helped me.

7points

Brainmas 2 years ago

I think that's the point though. They aren't bad people, but they certainly weren't raised right if their parents were abusive.

5points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

This is often a sign of a problematic upbringing, but not one that makes you a bad person.

6points

hitex 2 years ago

I can't help it, I'm sorry

5points

Paulsible deniability 2 years ago

My wife is like that. Still better than someone who never apologizes.

1point

Lsai Aeon 2 years ago

People who were abused as children will be overly apologetic. It's ingrained into them. Yes they were raised wrong, they were abused, not something those of us that were abused can help, it's automatic.

0points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

nah

0points

#72

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

3points

POST

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Ah social anxiety, you unbelievable bastard.

7points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

I'd rather ignore people than have an anxiety attack in public. If they say hi to me and I don't know them, the best they're getting is a smile and a nod.

2points

#73

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

2points

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Nina 2 years ago

Culturally this one. If you try to tip in Italy, you can actually offend the people

10points

Xenon 2 years ago

Japanese find tipping a bit offensive.

0points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Or... Sorry if this idea is a bit too radical... Get the restaurant to pay you a decent wage so you don't have to rely on tips, like other civilised countries.

6points

More! 2 years ago

We aren’t obliged to tip in Australia. Our hospitality workers earn a decent wage.

0points

#74

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

-2points

POST

lily jones 2 years ago

Again what?

10points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

Do they mean, like, under the quilt/comforter? I have a duvet cover and it is 1000 times better than a flat sheet.

5points

hitex 2 years ago

Well I'm apparently raised poorly. I don't like flat sheets, I find them constricting. Fitted sheet only for me

5points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

As opposed to a corrugated one?

4points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Or a sharp jagged one?

3points

More! 2 years ago

Oh Emily, is this your best answer to the question ‘What Immediately Tells You That A Person Wasn’t Raised Right?’ Or are you having a laugh?

1point

LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 years ago (edited)

Pretty sure OP meant fitted on the the bottom, flat on the top, blankets and comforters above the flat sheet. Edit: spelling.

1point

Jared Robinson 2 years ago

lol look up a comedian named Godfrey he has a wonderful bit about the flat sheet.

1point

Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago

what's wrong with that? fitted sheets are much easier.

0points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

A condom is much safer.

0points

Spittnimage 2 years ago

That says OP is a snoop IMO.

0points

#75

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

-6points

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Snorky The Pig 2 years ago (edited)

I wouldn't say that is a sign of a problematic upbringing per se. But yeah, flossing is important.

5points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

Adults don't always follow what their parents taught them to do.

1point

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

The dance move, surely.

3points

MaximumKarmaSaint 2 years ago

You can tell if they don't because if they don't floss then they will be constantly bleeding - A dentist somewhere

1point

#76

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

-10points

POST

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

B******t. Cussing doesn't disprove a person's intelligence or vocabulary. Sometimes it's just fun!

17points

hitex 2 years ago

Yep, it's part of my basic vocabulary. I try my best, but sometimes a good curse word is better than any other adjective available

5points

Donkey boi 2 years ago (edited)

Stay the f**k away from Irish people then. It's a legitimate form of expression.

5points

LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 years ago

It has been scientifically proven that saying a curse like "f**k" after banging an elbow, stubbing a toe, or some other randomly painful incident actually decreases the pain response. Also, don't f*****g police my damn language.

4points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

Of course, time and place, but I HAVE to disagree with this one. They are literally just made-up words, stop judging people so harshly for using them.

3points

Glenn Schroeder 2 years ago

How about cussing out loud in public, especially if there are children present? I see nothing wrong with doing it when you're among friends and you know they won't be offended.

2points

gremlin-king 2 years ago

that sh^t relieves stress, thank you very much

1point

Poké Man 2 years ago

She dis-cussing

1point

lily jones 2 years ago

Ok, Jealot titusson

1point

Michael Largey 2 years ago

Some people simply shouldn't curse. They know the words, but they just can't carry the tune.

0points

Julie S 2 years ago

My mum hates swearing and I was bought up to never use swear words. I chose to swear so has nothing to do with how I was raised.

0points

#77

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

-16points

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Mila Preradović 2 years ago (edited)

No, they are supposed to slave themselves untill they fall off their feet instead of getting some sleep so they can function tomorrow, and...oh wait, here's revolutionary thought...clean the damn kitchen when they are actually capable 🙄 what is the kitchen going to do, run away? (I always clean before going to bed BUT I'm a nighthawk and I see how most people aren't, so why should they torture themselves?)

23points

Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Exactly! It's not like the kitchen is gonna be somewhere else by tomorrow morning.

5points

VioletHunter 2 years ago

Are we supposed to just never sleep if we can't manage to clean up the kitchen perfectly every day?

8points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

I never take my kitchen to bed!

7points

VNES101 2 years ago

LMAO

0points

Julie S 2 years ago

I think what you do in your own home is completely up to you.

1point

#78

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

-20points

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Ranger Kanootsen 2 years ago

Oh, so we're judging people's fashion choices now, are we?

15points

lily jones 2 years ago

idk man half this list is b******t

10points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

Obsessively judging other people's fasion when it doesn't hurt you is a red flag for me.

4points

P J 2 years ago

Literally has nothing to do with manners

2points

P J 2 years ago

Or how someone was raised

2points

Jared Robinson 2 years ago

That's so sad. I love my hood but it gets hot. So sleevless hoodies it is.

1point

#79

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

-22points

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lily jones 2 years ago

What if you have a toxic family though

12points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago (edited)

It is SO not your business what people have/don't have on their walls. That's like North Korea where they make them have pictures of the "dear leaders." My house, my decisions.

8points

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Again, depends on the family. Some people don't wish to be reminded. I think we need to add this to the list,' people that assume that everyone is as lucky as them to have a family worthy of respect'.

5points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

I...hate...pictures? And I live in an apartment. I ain't attatching anything to the walls.

5points

kath morgan 2 years ago

I know what they look like

2points

Jared Robinson 2 years ago

This is weird to say

2points

Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago

I've got a few, but I prefer art and fandom stuff. I know what my family look like

0points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

I once briefly dated a woman who had loads of personal photos hung in her apartment - all of them of herself. Now you understand the "briefly".

0points

Thatkamloopsguy 2 years ago

The only picture in my house is of my dog. None of me, none of my wife or her's family or my family.

0points

Spittnimage 2 years ago

That's a choice, nothing to do with how a person is raised.

0points

#80

Clear-Signs-Problematic-Upbringing

Final score:

-26points

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Mila Preradović 2 years ago

So, she got pregnant by herself, I suppose?

11points

hitex 2 years ago

He probably got someone pregnant in high school...🙄

5points

Snorky The Pig 2 years ago (edited)

OOOOOOOOOOOooooooooooooooooooookay... Let's stop sIut shaming. Enough is enough.

5points

Lyone Fein 2 years ago

Or getting someone else pregnant at that age

3points

Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago

Or getting someone that age pregnant.

4points

Michael Largey 2 years ago

The OP goes by "I STAND ALONE". And now we know why.

1point

Spittnimage 2 years ago

Lemme guess - you're religious, right?

1point

Donkey boi 2 years ago

Nothing to do with how the kids were raised. Pubescent teens don't heed advice.

1point