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Mom Asks Family To Make A List Of Gifts They Want For Christmas, Daughter Starts Anti-List Instead
Ah, Christmas…the time when your gift-giving skills are put to the ultimate test. From the heartfelt to the downright bizarre, gifts have a way of sparking joy, or complete bewilderment. Nothing captures the holiday spirit quite like the frantic hunt for something meaningful that doesn’t end up collecting dust and regrets.
Sometimes, you nail it with a present that’s both thoughtful and practical. Other times, you’re stuck with socks so outrageous even your dog won’t touch them. So, what do you do when the holiday cheer turns into an avalanche of clutter? One Reddit user had a bold solution.
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One woman had a bold idea to stop receiving useless stuff for Christmas, creating a “Things not to buy me list” for the family, but not everyone was happy about it
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The woman’s mother asked the family to write things they want as gifts, but the woman is not excited about any presents, as she always ends up with too much stuff she can’t use
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The woman created an “anti-list” of things she doesn’t want for Christmas, starting a trend within the family but upsetting her mom
Our Reddit storyteller, a 33-year-old woman, found herself at the center of a holiday debate that’s got her family divided like it’s the North Pole versus the South Pole. Her crime? She created a “Christmas anti-list.” Basically, a list of things she doesn’t want to get. I’m not sure if it’s genius or just a Grinch move.
Instead of sticking to the tried-and-true wish list format, aka a Google doc designed by mom for the entire family, the OP (original poster) decided to sprinkle in some helpful “Do Not Buy” items to steer her well-meaning family away from the usual suspects.
Among the no-go items: throw blankets, jewelry, “fun” socks, and pretty much anything that screams “assemble me.” She’s over it with getting things she doesn’t use, like slipper socks destined for the Island of Misfit Gifts.
Her mom, however, a holiday shopping enthusiast who starts planning Christmas like she’s running Santa’s workshop, was not amused. According to mom, the anti-list was a Grinch move. Worse, she felt personally attacked because, as it turns out, she’s been the chief culprit behind most of the anti-list items. Slipper socks? Check. Throw blankets? Double check.
And if that wasn’t enough to ruffle her tinsel, the anti-list trend started spreading. Soon, the brother, his wife, an uncle, and a cousin all joined in, even joking about a secret anti-list for their kids to dodge noisy, messy toys. The family is now split: some see the anti-list as a holiday hero while other view it as a Christmas catastrophe. So, is the anti-list naughty or nice?
We can’t start that debate without addressing the elephant in the room—or in this case, the pile of unwanted Funko Pops. Making an anti-list isn’t about being ungrateful; it’s about communication. Think of it as a roadmap for more meaningful gifting, where everyone saves money, time, and closet space.
Gift-giving is more than just exchanging stuff; it’s one of the five love languages, alongside words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch and acts of service. People whose love language is giving and receiving gifts prefer to show their love (and be shown) and affection through gifts.
For some, the perfect gift is a tangible symbol of their love and attention to detail. But when the socks don’t spark joy or the jewelry feels impersonal, it’s easy to see how miscommunication can happen. Understanding someone’s taste can be tricky, but when done right, a thoughtful gift can make someone feel truly seen and appreciated.
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You probably didn’t know this but, the tradition of Christmas gift-giving goes way back. It’s said to be inspired by the biblical story of the Three Wise Men presenting gifts to baby Jesus, as well as ancient Roman festivals like Saturnalia, where people exchanged tokens as a sign of goodwill.
Over time, this evolved into the modern frenzy of holiday shopping, which defeats the original purpose. While the sentiment remains—spreading joy and showing appreciation—sometimes the practice can feel more about crossing items off a list than creating meaningful connections.
Then there’s the dark side of holiday gifting: clutter. The pros say that clutter can elevate stress levels and negatively impact mental health. When your home starts to resemble a storage unit, it can feel overwhelming and hard to relax. By reducing unnecessary items, like those “fun” socks and quirky knickknacks, you’re not just saving space, you’re also creating a more peaceful, functional environment that’s easier on the mind.
Mom’s reaction to her daughter’s anti-list, however, isn’t uncommon, as gift-giving can feel deeply personal, especially for parents. When a gift is rejected, even indirectly, it can feel like a rejection of the relationship or effort behind it. For mom, the anti-list might have hit a little too close to home, given her track record with past gifts.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t think the OP is the bad guy here. She’s trying to make everyone’s life easier, including her own. Plus, her anti-list isn’t some Scrooge-like decree to cancel Christmas—it’s a helpful guide with a sprinkle of honesty. And let’s not forget, her family did start hopping on the anti-list bandwagon, so clearly, she’s onto something.
Sure, the execution might need a little finessing (maybe a pre-anti-list pep talk with mom), but the idea is solid. After all, the holidays should be about giving gifts that make people smile, not stress over where to store yet another throw blanket. And, if mom really wants to avoid the dreaded “boring” gift cards, there’s a simple way around that: opting for experiential gifts instead of material ones.
Concert tickets, cooking classes, or escape room vouchers would make cool Christmas gifts. Also, subscription services, like wine of the month, book clubs, or even a streaming service upgrade would be great ideas.
So, what do you think of this story? Is this Redditor a genius or a Grinch? Drop your comments below!
Netizens were divided on this one, some saying that the woman is not a jerk for creating the anti-list while others suggest she could have found a better way to do it
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Mark Childers 21 hours ago
I think it's a completely rational thing to do. I get it's "not in the holiday spirit," but it's in the spirit of saving hurt feelings, waiting in lines to return it, donating it, or throwing it in the trash or a corner somewhere to be forgotten. Adults, typically, have enough things, and they accumulate. People don't know what to buy others because they already have what they need. This is exactly why my family stopped exchanging gifts and have a meal together and enjoy each other's company. That's what the holidays are for. It's been so stress free since then. A lot cheaper, too. And I agree that holidays are for kids, but no kids in our family. Just adults.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 17 hours ago
I'm all for a "Do Not Buy" list. I cannot tell you how many times my mom has gifted/bought me things that she KNOWS I won't wear/use (and that I've told her I will not wear/use) and then over the next few months, she'll ask me things like "Why don't I ever see you wearing the sweater I got you???" [the ludicrously thick, heavy, and fluffy sweater that is completely unnecessary because we live in Southern California and it's rarely colder than 60F even in December] - or she'll gift me perfumes, which trigger migraines in me (she knows this) and then will ask for months why she never smells the perfume on me. I would be SO happy to have a "please don't get me any of the items on this list" list. I really don't understand why a family member would be offended that you don't want (for example) a pair of slipper-socks or "fun socks". That feels an awful lot like said family member is trying to push THEIR likes/wants onto you and not respecting the things that YOU like/want XD
Load More Replies... Gwyn 11 hours ago
I don't have a take on the issue at hand but will say if she's that hard up for space she should donate and free up space just for her own comfort. Give away 3 of those 4 pairs of slippers. And consider just taking what Mom gives you (or asking for jackets, sweaters) and donating that as well. There are a lot of people who have almost nothing out are homeless in need of keeping warm and fed, and you can do some good for them.
William Teach 13 hours ago
On one hand, I understand. I kept getting nice sweaters, but, I rarely wear them. I'm a static cling monster, so, they can be uncomfortable. I told relatives "no sweaters" this year. On the other hand, just take the gifts in the spirit they were offered and donate them.
Mark Childers 21 hours ago
I think it's a completely rational thing to do. I get it's "not in the holiday spirit," but it's in the spirit of saving hurt feelings, waiting in lines to return it, donating it, or throwing it in the trash or a corner somewhere to be forgotten. Adults, typically, have enough things, and they accumulate. People don't know what to buy others because they already have what they need. This is exactly why my family stopped exchanging gifts and have a meal together and enjoy each other's company. That's what the holidays are for. It's been so stress free since then. A lot cheaper, too. And I agree that holidays are for kids, but no kids in our family. Just adults.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 17 hours ago
I'm all for a "Do Not Buy" list. I cannot tell you how many times my mom has gifted/bought me things that she KNOWS I won't wear/use (and that I've told her I will not wear/use) and then over the next few months, she'll ask me things like "Why don't I ever see you wearing the sweater I got you???" [the ludicrously thick, heavy, and fluffy sweater that is completely unnecessary because we live in Southern California and it's rarely colder than 60F even in December] - or she'll gift me perfumes, which trigger migraines in me (she knows this) and then will ask for months why she never smells the perfume on me. I would be SO happy to have a "please don't get me any of the items on this list" list. I really don't understand why a family member would be offended that you don't want (for example) a pair of slipper-socks or "fun socks". That feels an awful lot like said family member is trying to push THEIR likes/wants onto you and not respecting the things that YOU like/want XD
Load More Replies... Gwyn 11 hours ago
I don't have a take on the issue at hand but will say if she's that hard up for space she should donate and free up space just for her own comfort. Give away 3 of those 4 pairs of slippers. And consider just taking what Mom gives you (or asking for jackets, sweaters) and donating that as well. There are a lot of people who have almost nothing out are homeless in need of keeping warm and fed, and you can do some good for them.
William Teach 13 hours ago
On one hand, I understand. I kept getting nice sweaters, but, I rarely wear them. I'm a static cling monster, so, they can be uncomfortable. I told relatives "no sweaters" this year. On the other hand, just take the gifts in the spirit they were offered and donate them.
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