"See nothing bad happened?". By that reckoning , get drunk, do drugs and survive the experience = See nothing bad happened. Rob, lie, rape, murder and don't get caught "See nothing bad happened". It is a fundamental violation of the moral and spiritual integrity of another being to tempt or trick them from their path because well heck "nothing bad will happen to you for doing so". It goes against and violates a person's right to make and be respected for their choices. I could not be more disgusted by what this MIL did. I am a Gnostic with a proud Christian background, I respect the sacred where it does no harm in whatever religion or belief it presents in. This woman disrespected not only her guests but her own God by using trickery to make them break their own preferred vows before that same God.

That's a hate crime. I've never understood religion but I have even gone ahead and used freshly cleaned equipment when Muslims would order a pizza where I worked.

I hate that the PIL did this because they think they own the moral high ground as "good" christians.

Thankfully the in laws weren't testing your nut allergy

PIL are the protagonists straight out of a horror movie. They are the ones who should apologize for the disgusting thing they have done, just to prove their point. Luring your daughter to ‘the other side’, feeding you things you’re not allowed to eat… sounds like pure evil to me. On the bright side, you never have to go over there again. I wouldn’t, because they obviously can’t be trusted. I also feel sorry for the wife though, finding out your parents are such vicious people … super sad.

NTA. Apologize? Absolutely not. If anything, MIL should be apologizing. Your wife siding with the parents is messed up. Do none of them get how disrespectful MIL's actions were?

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I'm Jewish by heritage, and an atheist. I think religion is a useless anachronism. And even I think PIL are disrespectful asshøles. May Yahweh smight them with his wonders.

I recently did a lunch for work, checked with coworkers if there were dietary issues, one person out of 10 said no pork for religious reasons. So I made alternatives, that catered for everyone. It never fails to amaze me how nasty and petty religious zealots are. I'm agnostic and can't imagine being as hateful and hurtful as the ones I've encountered.

"We told you nothing bad would happen" What did the stupid woman think would happen if a Jewish person ate pork? That their head explodes? I agree with the posters saying messing with other peoples food choices without them knowing is assault-whether their choice is religious, medical, allergies or just plain taste preferences, a decent host honours those the best they can. You don't deliberately sabotage a dish to prove a point-the only point it proves is that you're disrespectful, untrustworthy, abusive and insulting. Is that the sort of person they think their god wants them to be?

Unbelievable. The lack of disrespect is mindboggeling. No, the son should not apologize. He's a kid, he's allowed to freak out if someone does something this sinister to him. It's a pity for the daughter, but, yeah, no more meals at that house. And I'd also talk to their pastor and ask him if this is what he preaches to his congregation. Personally, I think religion is a mass psychosis and a scurge to humanity. But you do not smuggled substances into people's food or drink!

I was raised Catholic. Went to a catholic school until 6th grade. Then transferred to public school. But I stopped believing in god after I my bad experience w/ a Sunday school teacher in 7th. anyway.... I've dated people of all religions... but I have NEVER met a person that is more in your face & disrespectful towards other religions than a person who follows the catholic or christian religion. Their entitlement & assumption that they're the only ppl whose beliefs matter... their complete disregard for others & their cultures is disgusting... the way that they do s**t like this but then if you're say... gay or had an abortion or divorce they act as if you personally slighted them... when it has nothing to do w/ then & they have no business having any opinions about who you are & what you do w/ your life/body... the hypocrisy is another reason why I left the church n never looked back. Obviously not everyone who follows this religion is like this. But INE it's most of them.

I do eat pork. I'm not vegan/vegetarian/ religious in any way and love most kinds of meals with pork. I would never ever serve that meat to people in any way knowing, they didn't eat it. Disrespectful! Nuff said.

They would never apologize or make changes for their own religion... they should not ask that of others. Appalling behavior. The very god they believe in would likely look down on them for what they did.

This is why Christianity is falling in popularity. They pay no attention to their own holy book. It's just an excuse to do whatever they want.

HIs family was assaulted. He's lucky he has no biological children with this woman because I don't see a happily ever after for them. He should take advantage of his being young enough to leave her and find another mate.

I am a devout Catholic who has friends across the whole religious spectrum. This story is beyond repulsive. "Jesus wept".

Though I agree with MIL that nothing "bad" will happen because of some bacon I would never ever do that myself. But It says "conservative Evangelicals" so I am not surprised at all.

if the wife isnt on his side even after knowing what happened and knowing how important the dietary requirement is to him and his children then he should instantly file for divorce,

Idiots like these forget that Jesus is Jewish, and Jesus said that those who want to keep the laws and follow the Torah should. Finally, the best way convert someone isn't to shove your faith down their throat, nor disparage other faiths. It is to live your best life in love and faithfulness, helping and caring for all regardless of their beliefs or lifestyle, not judgemental at all, pray for them, and finally, if they ask questions, answer in loving non-judgemental ways. Everyone, and I mean absolutely everyone, is a work in progress. God wants all of us to improve, but what God wants an individual to work on is between God and that individual. A believer needs to get the plank out of his own eye before trying to remove another's splinter. And it'll take a lifetime to remove all the planks.

Luke 17:1-4 NIV. 17 Jesus said to his disciples: “Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come. 2 It would be better for them to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their neck than to cause one of these little ones to stumble.

Not messing with somebody's food is like the first rule of not being a total douchebag. It's not even about possible harm to their health, as dietary restrictions are not always of medical nature, it's about respecting a person's boundaries and choices. Even if they simply don't like the taste of a certain product - don't try to sneak it into their dish.

"Apologize now for being poisoned!" Whoa?

I attended a dinner party once, the host put elk meat in the lasagna and didn't tell anyone until dessert. I was offended because I simply choose to not eat wild animals. But in the host's defense he didn't know. I cant imagine being duped as the OP was. The PIL knew what they were doing was literally wrong based on the SIL's faith which is as important to him as theirs is to them and they did it anyway. Unbelievable.

Tell the parents spiritual guider. If he is any kind of a man of the cloth he will call them out on it. Might even get them removed from their church. They aren't Christians at all they are what is wrong with the Church. Hypocrisy knows no bounds.

There are different approaches in Christianity towards Judaism. Some are very respectful towards Jews, and believe that the Jews have their own covenant with God. Others believe that Jews need to be converted to Christianity to be fulfilled - is difficult to have relationships with people who feel this way. The vast majority of religious Christians, would never be so rude to another person's religious beliefs.

OH NO this is not the right way to go!!!!! please forgive her, not all christians are like this!

Definitely NTA. Also, for supposedly being a pastor, the FIL sure doesn't know his Bible. In Matthew 5:17, Jesus specifically said he DIDN'T come to change the [Old Testament] law.

Just another example of toxic Christianity. This is totally in keeping with a theology that demands that its adherents constantly proselytize despite repeated rejections. They are indoctrinated to overstep boundaries because they are commanded to do so. This is the highest form of disrespect, and he is right to go NC. Not every Christian would actually do something so heinous, but trust me: a surprisingly large number of them would think about it and likely have no big problem with it. They'll claim otherwise, but self-deception is strong within certain groups.

Absolutely disgusting!

You can always grind up some maggots and put them in an apology cake. Nothing bad will happen then either. Yes this is ASSAULT, and could probably be prosecuted.

Do not mean to "hog" the comments, but wanted to finish my thought, since what I wanted to say about your Wife is she too was blind-sided by this event just as you, your Son and Daughter we're. I believe there had to have been a few discussions about your differences when you first met your future Wife and at least a few things that being of the Jewish Religion entailed. I was married to a "non-practicing Jew", as she referred to herself for a couple of years, but would later go our separate ways as friends due to 'differences of opinions', can't know everything about someone until you've been with them for awhile; BTW, none of which were about religion, only some poor choices which were made. I hope you and your Wife can find a way to get past this situation and find a way to reach an understanding as to how much you respect and adhere to the teachings in the Torah, the same as your in-laws embrace in the Bible. I hope your family can find a solution to this situation.

First of all, No you are not the Azz here, but permitting your son to use obscenities towards his (step) grandparent should have been stopped as soon as it happened; one problem which exists now is the use of vulgar language in our Society is primarily because of the medias constant glorification of obscenity in practically every movie, podcast, and many of the books we read. So with that being said, too many here failed to note that your Wife stayed behind to help 'clean up' more than likely to address what had occured due to your in-laws disrespect for the requirements of Jewish Law. My advice would be speak to your Son re how to learn how to better speak to others without having to use obscenities but how to make his point with a better choice of words - and Yes there are times when they could be appropriate, but this was not one of those times. I hope you can resolve this situation with your daughter since she had developed a bond with her "grand parents" and your Wife - (cont.)