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Finding a good deal is a skill. Some people compile coupons, compare prices and scrape together any and all possible discounts, promotions, and other sales. But for every educated buyer, there is a person whose strategy boils down to “give me things because I said so.”

The “Single mom is not a coupon code” Facebook group documents and shares all the unhinged encounters sellers have had with women who tried to leverage motherhood into free stuff. So get ready to roll your eyes as you scroll through and be sure to upvote your favorites. And don’t forget to comment your own “choosing beggar” stories below. 

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"My daughter wants to learn violine, so give me your Stradivari, bitchh!"

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Let’s get it right out of the way, single mothers do often have a lot to deal with. It’s not easy, looking after kids alone and trying to fend for themselves at the same time. However, as the old adage goes, if you make the bed, you lay in it. So trying to have random people subsidize the consequences of your own actions is deeply entitled.

Unfortunately, a feeling of entitlement is very often wholly unrelated to the things we might think would make someone entitled to benefits, station, ability, or even disability. Instead, particularly entitled people tend to have very poor social skills, which means that everyone who has to deal with them ends up getting unreasonable demands from the most undeserving people. Entitlement is linked with poor emotional regulation skills, so many of these single moms do sincerely believe they deserve what they are asking for and are more likely to get angry at a refusal. 

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

$250 for babysitting during a date? I guess the babysitter also does the groceries at this place. Creative scam though...

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Sometimes entitlement can come from the belief that the universe owes you something. After all, being a single mom is unlikely to be the main choice of lifestyle for these women. So they may rationalize their situation with the belief that because they have gone through hardships, they are owed a break by karma, God, or some other cosmic arbitrator. This tends to cause some amount of anger when it crashes into the reality that a seller won’t just give away free things. 

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DrumKat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d like a kitchen alliance as well. The bedroom furniture is starting to act up and I could use some help.

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This behavior isn’t just limited to single moms, in fact, they at least have a reason to try and ask for a discount. But there are just as many random people online who simply decide to get free or discounted things because they feel like it. Entire online communities are dedicated to sharing and documenting these encounters, for example, the “Choosing Beggars” subreddit. The risk of being shamed and immortalized online doesn’t seem to stop most of these individuals, so at least we can get a nice laugh out of the situation. 

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No idea who this is. Just some random lady.

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Caro Caro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't send money but if I see people struggling and in need of food I would help for sure.

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If you are not familiar with the term choosing beggar, it’s just a play on the old saying that “beggars can’t be choosers.” Simply put, if you are asking for a free thing, you should be grateful for what you get and not start making demands. Unfortunately, as this list and the aforementioned subreddit demonstrate, there are people who believe they absolutely can and should be choosers and will try to negotiate from a position of zero power. Brave, misguided, but you can’t knock their confidence. 

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Corvus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Getting a tattoo is as much of a "struggle" as getting a fancy haircut.

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There is a sort of twisted logic to just trying to guilt people into free stuff. Normally, begging has some shame attached to it, but doing it online creates a bit of a barrier. Similarly, digital communication lets people reach a much larger audience, so many of these choosing beggars seem to believe that if you just cast a net wide enough, someone will send you money. I’m not sure who they are envisioning, as I have never sent a random person money or free stuff, but statistically, there must be a few individuals who do it. 

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Downunderdude
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How does the logic work when the person politely declines and the beggar insults them. 'Oh, sorry, now that you put it like that, yes, I realise I am an a*****e and tell you what - you can have the car I was selling for free!'

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I imagine 99% of a FaceTime princess' job takes place on a child's birthday... the other 1% is telling them someone died.

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So instead of trying a normal barging approach or accepting the (limited) help someone might give you, a lot of these people adopt a gambling strategy and just try to win big. This could be the result of overconfidence, as our brains, unfortunately, often overestimate our own role in our success while underestimating just how often we are to blame for our failures. So without sufficient self-awareness, people build up a massively inflated sense of self that translates into a breathtakingly misguided self-confidence. 

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So in the case of these moms, we can see the interaction of a number of forces. First, the entitlement, the belief that they should just get stuff because they are forced to shoulder the burden of motherhood alone. Remember, entitlement also limits emotional regulation skills, so these types of people will at the same time likely suffer the overconfidence and inflated sense of self that could lead a person to truly believe they deserve free things and that any who stand in their way must just be greedy and evil. So remember to keep some Facebook marketplace sellers in your prayers. 

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s called ‘contraceptive’ lady, you can’t just have kids and expect to rave like you’re in your early 20s chewing your face off like a zombie 😆 you grow the f**k up when you have kids. (I chose raves, parties and drugs over kids, I don’t believe having both is responsible, I was also raised by idiots like this, kids need responsible parents not party animals.)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'm poly and he's mono" is one way of saying, "I cheated on him & got caught."

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I'm not sure I'd trust anyone to watch an infant for $40/day, over 12 hours a day.

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Vasana Phong
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So far with this thread, the first thing I’ll be doing is going to court to make sure they pay child support

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Kobe (she)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly - it is not a very bad deal. It is not like she offered 500 or 1000. Usually, people will try to underbid a bit - that is how the marketplace works. Don't like her manipulating it, further down the story. Don't like his reaction either. Yet,basically, wanting 3000 and getting 2500 ( in cash) offered is not that entitled.

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My gf and I are moving 14 hours away and selling things we don’t need or don’t care about to fund the gas. I had to beg her to send me a screenshot. She was MUCH nicer than I would have been. I wanted to screenshot this group name. Lol. Y’all ruined me. jk I’m here cause I’m already a kindred spirit. But the audacity. 200 dollar frame. 30 bucks.
Oh. For my gfs privacy. I cropped her. She explained why it’s 30. And said if no one buys sure. Single moms response?
“K” lol

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DiscoqueenJ
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't see how this is entitled. It's a bedframe being offered for $30 and she's just simply asking if she could have it for free for her kids. When told, basically, no unless no one buys it, she didn't clap back with insults like the rest of these posts. She just said ok.

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