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Woman Calls Out Discrimination After She’s Forced To Cover For Colleagues With Kids On Xmas
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Woman Calls Out Discrimination After She’s Forced To Cover For Colleagues With Kids On Xmas

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Many of us have had to work over the holidays at some point in our careers. Depending on your industry, company, and workplace culture, you’re either kicking back and relaxing over Xmas or it’s just a regular work week for you, albeit one with higher pay, tasty food, and cozy decor… hopefully. However, one thing that grinds people’s gears is workplace inequality.

If a handful of your colleagues get special treatment, this will lead to a lot of resentment and tension. One anonymous woman went viral on Mumsnet after venting about how she’s forced to work long hours on Christmas week while those of her colleagues who have children get to take off early. You don’t have to have kids to want to spend the holidays with the people you love instead of at the office. And discrimination has no place in any workplace. It’s also illegal. Scroll down for the full story, as well as how various internet users interpreted the situation.

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    A British worker shared she’s forced to work over Xmas while her colleagues get to finish earlier because they have kids

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    Discrimination at work, in education, and elsewhere is outright illegal in the UK

    Labor laws in the West are fairly solid when it comes to fighting back against discrimination. The law is very clear.

    According to the British government, in the United Kingdom, where the author of the viral post works and lives, it is against the law to discriminate against anyone because of:

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    • age
    • gender reassignment
    • being married or in a civil partnership
    • being pregnant or on maternity leave
    • disability
    • race including color, nationality, ethnic or national origin
    • religion or belief
    • sex
    • sexual orientation

    These are all so-called protected characteristics and they protect people at work, in education, as consumers, when using public services, when buying or renting property, and as members or guests of private clubs or associations.

    You aren’t powerless; there are different things you can do if you think that you’ve been unfairly discriminated against. For example, you can complain directly to the person or organization (e.g., your manager, HR department, or whoever is at the top of the corporate ladder).

    Be sure to read your work contract in detail, get to know your local labor laws, and consider talking to a legal representative for advice

    Alternatively, you can look for mediators. For instance, you could talk to your trade (labor) union representative or seek out a solicitor’s advice. If things don’t improve, you always have the option of going to court.

    No matter the trouble at work, it’s always helpful to take a close(r) look at your contract, your company’s policies, and the local and national labor laws. If your contract specifies that your manager can ask you to work over the holidays, you should also make sure under what conditions you’re allowed to say ‘no.’

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    Of course, what happens ‘on paper’ and behind closed doors at businesses can be very different. Even companies that claim to treat all of their employees equally can play favorites. But if that information gets out to the wider public, the company can land in hot water and end up damaging its reputation, as well as its profits.

    That’s not to say that every company is going to be mustache-twirlingly ‘evil’ or anything like that, but it takes constant work for a culture of transparency, responsibility, and support to remain strong. And every employee is a part of that culture. If one person plays favorites or discriminates against their colleagues who (don’t) have children, it’s a big step toward toxicity. There are many business practices that are outright illegal.

    If you want the holidays off, you need to bring the topic up with your superiors. Being told that you’ll be working because ‘you don’t have kids’ isn’t an excuse. It’s not valid and it’s grounds for a chat with your lawyer.

    How would you handle this situation if you were in the woman’s shoes, dear Pandas? Have you ever had to work the holidays while people with kids get an easy pass? Or maybe you’ve experienced the reverse where you have children and you’ve been discriminated against in the workplace? When was the last time you had to work over Xmas? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments. Happy holidays!

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    Jonas Grinevičius

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Gabija is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Before joining the team, she achieved a Professional Bachelor degree in Photography and has been working as a freelance photographer since. She also has a special place in her heart for film photography, movies and nature.

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    Ellinor
    Community Member
    14 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm really sorry for OP, but even if she didn't had children by choice, she still wouldn't deserve to be deprived of Christmas. People who don't have children shouldn't have to be forced to live by other people's choice to have them.

    Queeqec
    Community Member
    14 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's, unfortunately, very standard here (Austria/Europe) I decided early that I will never have kids and was punished in every workplace to take the holiday shifts, never could use a Thursday or Tuesday holiday to have a long weekend by taking Friday or Monday off. Always with the same 'reason': 'You don't have family'. Well, guess what.... I am married to someone I'd call family and I wasn't delivered by UPS, I've got parents, grandparents, cousins, nieces and double that by the in law family. Just because my choices went against giving my DNA to the next generation, doesn't mean I don't have family. I even have a bunch of friends that I happily call family and I'd like to spent time with. Pathetic, but that's how it is.

    Roland Nijveld
    Community Member
    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. Been there as well but always stood my ground. Told them the reason to want to be off is irrelevant. Also on holidays. And that other people have children is their choice and they should carry the consequences, not the one without children.

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    Roland Nijveld
    Community Member
    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "They should pay a higher rate for bank holidays and the problem would correct itself" That not the case in the UK? Here in the Netherlands it's 200%, like every Sunday or holiday. And even then you get these situations because most just want to be off with Christmas

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    6 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes in the UK it's the same, the unsociable hours, plus the holiday pay would put you to double time or more.

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    Ellinor
    Community Member
    14 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm really sorry for OP, but even if she didn't had children by choice, she still wouldn't deserve to be deprived of Christmas. People who don't have children shouldn't have to be forced to live by other people's choice to have them.

    Queeqec
    Community Member
    14 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's, unfortunately, very standard here (Austria/Europe) I decided early that I will never have kids and was punished in every workplace to take the holiday shifts, never could use a Thursday or Tuesday holiday to have a long weekend by taking Friday or Monday off. Always with the same 'reason': 'You don't have family'. Well, guess what.... I am married to someone I'd call family and I wasn't delivered by UPS, I've got parents, grandparents, cousins, nieces and double that by the in law family. Just because my choices went against giving my DNA to the next generation, doesn't mean I don't have family. I even have a bunch of friends that I happily call family and I'd like to spent time with. Pathetic, but that's how it is.

    Roland Nijveld
    Community Member
    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. Been there as well but always stood my ground. Told them the reason to want to be off is irrelevant. Also on holidays. And that other people have children is their choice and they should carry the consequences, not the one without children.

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    Roland Nijveld
    Community Member
    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "They should pay a higher rate for bank holidays and the problem would correct itself" That not the case in the UK? Here in the Netherlands it's 200%, like every Sunday or holiday. And even then you get these situations because most just want to be off with Christmas

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    6 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes in the UK it's the same, the unsociable hours, plus the holiday pay would put you to double time or more.

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