I rather doubt that Cleo was reading Playboy during recess, but in the extremely unlikely event that that ever happens, we'll talk about it then. Right now, it's just a figment of your imagination.

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no s**t idiot she was using it as an example

Glass houses. Stones. Do the math.

While I do agree with your statement, it's completely out of context for the OP's situation. We are talking about a 5th grader reading her mother's favorite childhood books. Not an 18 year old bringing Playboy Bunny Magazines to high school to share with other 17/18 year olds.while that's not allowed or right, it's not the context of the story. BTW... kids now days skip the Magazines which are almost non existent, and go strait to Pⲟⲅⲛ ⲏuⲃ on their cell phones. Guarantee high school kids look and share while teachers never find out. Not to say they never get caught... but calculaters that are actually secret files or secret files you could never find without being in the IT field, because the files have no icon. Kids are often smarter than their teachers lol.

Idk bro. When i was growing up playboy was seen as artistic and beautiful with only simple minded pent up immature man babies get aroused by it (much like depictions of Venus/Aphrodite, or even David). I was like 12 and found a whole room dedicated to playboy collections in my grandparents house (with magazines, lipsticks, and vaguely 40s like aesthetics). I never really saw it as actual porn until it hit me that without access to the internet or even tv/VHS porn that people actually used those magazines for that purpose. I highly suspect the more you try to police it and tell them it's taboo, the more they'll act like it is and become more obsessed not only with consuming it, but trying to break the rules/make sure other people know they're doing so

Completely out of context for OP's situation. A 5th grade girl between 9 to 10 years old reading her mother's favorite childhood books... from her mother's home collection. This is about a teacher being inappropriate, not a high school kid bringing inappropriate things to school. As I mentioned to the other person, high schoolers have the inappropriate things on their phones now. Magazines are really a thing of the past. 18 yr old boys in HS go to Pⲟⲅⲛ ⲏuⲃ on the internet... and it's free.

I find that as a general rule, most people who admonish others to "use some common sense" have little sense of any kind.

His podcast is everything! He reads short stories aimed at adults, ie those of us who grew up watching him, and even drops reading rainbow taglines. It's the most wonderfully wholesome thing perhaps ever. Also discovered some great new authors this way.

I was reading at an adult level pre-K because I was blessed with a mom who taught me to read before age 2. I was reading Stephen King around junior high. Koontz, Cook, Poe and Sir Arthur Conan Doyle were part of my preferences as well. Some kids in junior high thought they were being funny by giving me a book about Matamoros, Mexico because of my reading preferences, but I devoured it. I was a weird kid 😂😂

You weren't weird. Your mom was very wise to teach and instill the love of reading at such a young age. BTW, I still love King and Koontz. But read them as an adult. They weren't writing yet when I was young. LOL.

Your choice of reading material when you were young, showed a lot of wisdom. When I was in Jr high, our required reading was "The Ugly American" and "Sarkan." And this was on the mid 60s, before the US entered the war in SE Asia. I believe they are STILL banning books in some parts of the country.

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OMG. That was an absolutely rotten thing they did to you. By comparing you to your peers, they essentially "pit" you against other students. No wonder you were bullied. What were they thinking?? WTH kind of school system does that? So instead of encouraging your capabilities, they really used them against you. IDK how old you are, being intellectually above the other students, it seems like they could have placed you in an independent study program tailored to your needs. To be bright and stuck in classes that were boring, not challenging, was a complete waste of your time and intellect. There was no gifted and talented program in your school? Or AP classes? Or a chance to take college courses? Although I was never in your position, I can understand how the school system failed you. I hope you were eventually able to get past all of that, blossom, and live the life you really deserve. Never give up.

She would have had sat alone, book or no book. I'm an introvert myself. I hate mandatory party/events and don't like being forced to socialize that has nothing to do with my job.

That's untrue. My mom's a kindergarten teacher largely because she is an introvert and does not see interacting with the children as the same thing as interacting with people but more like training animals. She likes to have the power and be relatively left alone with it, but within a structure that gives her peers to relate to and occasionally socialize with/rely on for coordinating lesson plans/bathroom breaks etc. To her it's the right balance of not being allowed to just lock herself in her room because job, without the forced near constant social expectations you get from working a retail or service job where you constantly have to interact with new and different people who wash may or may not be out to make your job miserable or disappear. As a teacher you only talk to parents occasionally and can largely bully them into being easier for you. You can bully the kids basically all you want. And once you have tenure it's hard to have your job truly threatened.

Tbh she strongly identifies as an introvert, loner, and book lover. She might be. But she really just seems to have a very narcassitic type of anxiety. She is anxious and stressed out by interacting with anyone that is a peer or has power over her. She'll be overly pleasant towards them and bully everyone in her sphere to be likewise, and devastatingly crushed when rejected (often once her friends get a glimpse of the kind of abuse totally normalized by her. But totally not her fault at all. It's always the 5 children she chose to have that's to blame for pushing people away or making her look bad. Often by "forcing" her to lash out and punish them). And as you can guess, if she sees herself as being above someone else, she has no fear. No filters. More ability to just let the stress out and scream every little abusive thing that comes to mind, quickly reach for violence, and then acts like nothing happened and that no one should ever remember her outbursts beyond "you're bad"

NGL i have the same anxiety. But i choose to break the cycles and to condemn people that take their issues out on those with less power. I might be more scared of more authoritarian types (like managers or cops) but i 100% am more willing to screw those people up and even enjoy their suffering compared to even raising my voice at my dog or advocating that a child be dealt with via physical or psychologically violent means. I always promote gentle education and guidance and that grown ups get over their issues at least well enough to protect children from issues that aren't their responsibility to bear. So i do fully understand the mindset and the emotions and the easy appeal to that. I'm just disgusted by it and don't think i can forgive that kind of person/parent who chose to have kids (and become a teacher/otherwise any person with authority over others)

I agree that teaching attracts extroverts as a profession, (my mom is an extroverted teacher with no off switch) but it's not a hard rule. Not all introverts have trouble socializing. That's a fun trope to make memes about, but it's far from universal. There's a difference between being bad at something, and being just fine at it and simply not wanting to do it if there's a choice. Plenty of socially adept people who are actually introverts get jobs teaching. I'm a full on introvert, but I'm great at socializing, even better at public speaking, rock being on a stage, and tend to be loud at parties/in groups. I don't enjoy any of it for the most part, and I find it emotionally draining to an extreme, but nobody would guess. When the lockdown happened, I was totally fine not talking to anyone for a year. I was like ... Nope, phone calls don't count as six feet, don't even call me lol

I'm an introvert. Or maybe it's just a matter of being painfully shy, and not so much the introvert. IDK. To the point of being a "wallflower" at social events as a teen and young adult. I would often date men who were extroverts just so I would have someone to start conversations at parties. I've found you can be in a room full of people and still feel isolated and lonely. Maybe if I'd had the chance to see and be around people my age when I was a child, instead of adults, I wouldn't be so shy. And have more self confidence in social situations.