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Woman Takes Action After Friend’s Creepy Behavior Leaves Her Shaken: “Went To The Police”
We all like to believe that our friends will always be there for us and that we can trust them completely. But for one woman on Reddit, a seemingly solid friendship took a shocking turn.
After four years of knowing a man who was also her boyfriend’s childhood friend, she discovered he had been spying on her in her own home with his phone and smartwatch. When she confronted him, he admitted to his actions and quickly offered an uneasy apology. But the woman knew she needed more than that. Keep reading to find out how she handled the situation.
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The woman noticed that her friend of four years had been spying on her through his phone and smartwatch
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Shocked by this betrayal, she decided to confront him
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The hidden spy camera epidemic across the world
The evolution of technology is truly fascinating. We now have devices—from smartphones to wireless headphones—that make our daily lives easier with so many features at our fingertips. Unfortunately, this rapid advancement also has a darker side, as seen in the Reddit story.
People are increasingly becoming victims of digital sex crimes, especially through secret recordings. And it’s no longer just phones being used for these acts; there are countless creative ways that perpetrators misuse technology for harmful purposes.
South Korea is at the epicenter of this troubling trend. In 2021, Human Rights Watch identified the country as a leader in spycam usage for digital sex crimes. Throughout the 2010s, these hidden cameras became widespread, often tucked away in small holes or cracks in walls, especially in women’s public restrooms and motel rooms. Disturbingly, the recorded images and videos are often sold online on various platforms, including popular social media sites like X (formerly Twitter) and Tumblr, without the knowledge or consent of the people being filmed.
Sadly, many victims, particularly women, find that seeking help can lead to even more distress. Instead of receiving the support they need, they often face harsh treatment from the police and are unjustly blamed for what happened to them.
“I cried all night. I couldn’t sleep. I had to take medicine to soothe myself,” recalls Lee Ye-rin (not her real name), who discovered that a watch her boss gifted her had a hidden camera. It had been recording her in her own home for over a month.
While Lee’s boss was ultimately convicted and served a seven-month sentence, the journey to justice was anything but easy. She describes being interrogated for hours by male police officers who grilled her about what she had been doing in her bedroom while being spied on.
“What happened took place in my own room. So sometimes in regular life, I feel terrified without reason,” she shares.
These incidents aren’t just happening in South Korea; they’re a global issue. Recently, many lawsuits have emerged from people finding hidden cameras in Airbnb rentals. Airbnb has acknowledged receiving tens of thousands of customer support tickets related to surveillance devices over the last decade. Since anyone can rent out their property, there’s no guarantee that the owner hasn’t secretly installed a hidden camera. It’s no wonder that a survey by property investment firm IPX1031 found that 58% of over 2,000 Airbnb guests worry about hidden cameras in vacation rentals.
Even more unsettling, victims can find themselves being spied on by those closest to them. A woman in the US reported that her husband had installed spying software on her devices, frequently mentioning private details she had never shared with him.
“Really private things that he shouldn’t have known about,” she explains. “If I asked how he knew these things, he’d say I told him and accuse me of losing it.”
Now divorced, Amy lives miles away from her ex-husband and has a restraining order against him. Yet the trauma from her experience continues to affect her life in significant ways.
Gemma Toynton from the domestic abuse charity Safer Places sees the long-term effects of these invasions of privacy regularly.
“It reduces someone’s trust,” she says. “It makes them see a phone or laptop as a weapon because that’s what it’s been used for.”
“It really does impact your whole life.”
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In the replies, the woman admitted she was nervous about addressing the situation legally
The commenters urged the woman to take action and report her friend to the police
The woman took the advice to heart and filed a police report to protect other potential victims
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The users were genuinely sorry for what she had experienced and offered their support
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Beak Hookage 2 months ago
You can bet your booty this creep isn't going to stop at "just" violating a woman's privacy like this. It's going to escalate, if it hasn't already.
BeesEelsAndPups 2 months ago
Even if he doesn't, this behavior is bad enough. What satisfaction could you possibly get from this that would be worth risking prison and ruining a friendship? Porn is free, go download it. You have some voyeurism fetish, I'm sure there's an OF model willing to make that work for you.
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Isobel Stevens 2 months ago
It starts like that... Dominique Pélicot, a French perv, is on trial for taking pictures and films of his sleeping wife being abused by dozens of men. He was caught by a security guard in a supermarket, he was taking pictures under women's skirts. And the police found out that he used to hide his phone in the bathroom while his grand daughters were using it. The trial is unbelievable. So ... Yes. Police report. Not a friend anymore (never been a friend actually).
Noname 2 months ago
His wife wasn't sleeping - - he drugged her and invited other men to rape her, for 20 years.
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The Phantom Stranger 2 months ago
I used to think the whole concept of "incels" was just a bunch of made-up pop culture nonsense, but when I see stories like this, or the one a few weeks ago about idiots trying to take up skirt shots of Shakira while she was performing at a nightclub, it really makes me question the future of humanity. Even during my h******t teenage years, I can't imagine thinking this kind of behavior would be acceptable. Glad OP is pursuing this with the police--even if no charges are filed, at least this guy will end up being publicly outed as a creep.
Rayne OfSalt 2 months ago
Incels are very real and are extremely dangerous to women, mate. Andrew Tate is Prime Incel No.1, Elmo Muskrat is another. Some of the worst mass shootings in the US, as well as uncountable femicides and the physical/sexual assaults of women have been done at the hands of incels.
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FreeTheUnicorn 2 months ago
Even if nothing moves forward this time, the complaint will be on file. He has done this before and will do it again. It will be easier next time if there's already been a complaint. There's a good chance he has complaints already on file, and that will help your case.
Pencil McGovern 2 months ago
Absolutely. Worst case at the moment is that they don't press charges. But months or years from now, when another victim comes forward, OP's police report may help her immeasurably. It's 100% worth doing.
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ॐBoyGanesh 2 months ago (edited)
Ugh…I’m always so bewildered how little people understand how law works in the US or even EU/UK, for that matter. For example, all of the “call CPS & get them locked up” people when it comes to kids. It simply doesn’t work like that. Just as filing a civil suit isn’t as easy & 100% has a narrow scope of evidence. Meaning hard proof. Tort law doesn’t work with “he said/she said” & there’s no punitive or compensatory resulting in a situation like this. One often needs a “right to sue” for civil cases lest THEY be slapped with damages for frivolous lawsuits. This is a crime, which makes it a police/DA matter to enforce penal code. Also, many states have two-party consent law when involved recording audio. This is both criminal & civilian. So the idea of recording him to sue could give HIM grounds to sue whilst the recording couldn’t be considered in evidence against him. There was 1 avenue of outcome for OP: file a police report. Glad she did, but there’s still little evidence to pursue.
SuperNovaToiletClog 2 months ago
I sued a landlord for failing to make repairs in the US. My lawsuit met all the criteria according to my rights as a renter and they STILL counter sued me for malicious prosecution.
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Steve Sharpe 2 months ago
I have to say.. If he'd tried this in my house, with my wife, one of her/our friends, our regular friends, fami.. It wouldn't make any odds who he was filming, or how, or why. What I can tell you is that the police would be the absolute least of his problems, he'd have much more pressing issues to deal with. In fact he'd likely be praying and begging for the police to show up whilst there's enough of him left in one piece to make the arrest worthwhile...
smugdruggler 2 months ago
Damned right. The police would be interviewing him in the hospital. If he was lucky, he might regain the use of his hands, eventually.
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Schmebulock 2 months ago
What kind of "friend" is this guy? I think she needs to unfriend him and take a close look at who she calls a friend.
Kat 2 months ago
Unfortunately people that do these sort of things, don't always give off the proper creep vibes.
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Arabiata Arabiata 2 months ago
How could he leave his phone in your bedroom or bathroom? For peeping you, he must have left the phone there for days and relocate it secretly also not an easy task.
Dani D 2 months ago
Hello, I’m the woman from the story. We were home alone because he slept over. He was gonna give me a ride to work. He used the bathroom before I did and I found his phone pointing at the toilet. I gave it back to him because I was hoping he just left it there. Then he walked into our bedroom which was as weird because I’ve never seen him just walk into our room before. He knew I was about to get dressed. I found it propped up again once i went in there to change. Then he used “find my iPhone” to try and act like he didn’t know where he left his phone.
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Dani D 2 months ago
Hello y’all, I’m the woman from the story 👋🏽 Just an update for everyone: I gave police my statement and sent them the video of him apologizing. However he did not straight up admit what he did in the video so it wasn’t enough evidence to charge him. They told me they were gonna bring him in for questioning. I called days later for an update and they said they were going through with the charges and he will appear in court. I’m not sure if that means he admitted it or not. The lady on the phone did not have the details. They told me they will contact me in case they need me to appear in court. That’s the last I’ve heard !
OneWithRatsAndKefir 2 months ago
She… she stated she didn’t want to sue for the compensation, but because she didn’t want a ‘friend’ to go to jail at first or that she wasn’t sure if she had enough evidence that would result in jail time.
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Beak Hookage 2 months ago
You can bet your booty this creep isn't going to stop at "just" violating a woman's privacy like this. It's going to escalate, if it hasn't already.
BeesEelsAndPups 2 months ago
Even if he doesn't, this behavior is bad enough. What satisfaction could you possibly get from this that would be worth risking prison and ruining a friendship? Porn is free, go download it. You have some voyeurism fetish, I'm sure there's an OF model willing to make that work for you.
Load More Replies... Isobel Stevens 2 months ago
It starts like that... Dominique Pélicot, a French perv, is on trial for taking pictures and films of his sleeping wife being abused by dozens of men. He was caught by a security guard in a supermarket, he was taking pictures under women's skirts. And the police found out that he used to hide his phone in the bathroom while his grand daughters were using it. The trial is unbelievable. So ... Yes. Police report. Not a friend anymore (never been a friend actually).
Noname 2 months ago
His wife wasn't sleeping - - he drugged her and invited other men to rape her, for 20 years.
Load More Replies... The Phantom Stranger 2 months ago
I used to think the whole concept of "incels" was just a bunch of made-up pop culture nonsense, but when I see stories like this, or the one a few weeks ago about idiots trying to take up skirt shots of Shakira while she was performing at a nightclub, it really makes me question the future of humanity. Even during my h******t teenage years, I can't imagine thinking this kind of behavior would be acceptable. Glad OP is pursuing this with the police--even if no charges are filed, at least this guy will end up being publicly outed as a creep.
Rayne OfSalt 2 months ago
Incels are very real and are extremely dangerous to women, mate. Andrew Tate is Prime Incel No.1, Elmo Muskrat is another. Some of the worst mass shootings in the US, as well as uncountable femicides and the physical/sexual assaults of women have been done at the hands of incels.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 2 months ago
Even if nothing moves forward this time, the complaint will be on file. He has done this before and will do it again. It will be easier next time if there's already been a complaint. There's a good chance he has complaints already on file, and that will help your case.
Pencil McGovern 2 months ago
Absolutely. Worst case at the moment is that they don't press charges. But months or years from now, when another victim comes forward, OP's police report may help her immeasurably. It's 100% worth doing.
Load More Replies... ॐBoyGanesh 2 months ago (edited)
Ugh…I’m always so bewildered how little people understand how law works in the US or even EU/UK, for that matter. For example, all of the “call CPS & get them locked up” people when it comes to kids. It simply doesn’t work like that. Just as filing a civil suit isn’t as easy & 100% has a narrow scope of evidence. Meaning hard proof. Tort law doesn’t work with “he said/she said” & there’s no punitive or compensatory resulting in a situation like this. One often needs a “right to sue” for civil cases lest THEY be slapped with damages for frivolous lawsuits. This is a crime, which makes it a police/DA matter to enforce penal code. Also, many states have two-party consent law when involved recording audio. This is both criminal & civilian. So the idea of recording him to sue could give HIM grounds to sue whilst the recording couldn’t be considered in evidence against him. There was 1 avenue of outcome for OP: file a police report. Glad she did, but there’s still little evidence to pursue.
SuperNovaToiletClog 2 months ago
I sued a landlord for failing to make repairs in the US. My lawsuit met all the criteria according to my rights as a renter and they STILL counter sued me for malicious prosecution.
Load More Replies... Steve Sharpe 2 months ago
I have to say.. If he'd tried this in my house, with my wife, one of her/our friends, our regular friends, fami.. It wouldn't make any odds who he was filming, or how, or why. What I can tell you is that the police would be the absolute least of his problems, he'd have much more pressing issues to deal with. In fact he'd likely be praying and begging for the police to show up whilst there's enough of him left in one piece to make the arrest worthwhile...
smugdruggler 2 months ago
Damned right. The police would be interviewing him in the hospital. If he was lucky, he might regain the use of his hands, eventually.
Load More Replies... Schmebulock 2 months ago
What kind of "friend" is this guy? I think she needs to unfriend him and take a close look at who she calls a friend.
Kat 2 months ago
Unfortunately people that do these sort of things, don't always give off the proper creep vibes.
Load More Replies... Arabiata Arabiata 2 months ago
How could he leave his phone in your bedroom or bathroom? For peeping you, he must have left the phone there for days and relocate it secretly also not an easy task.
Dani D 2 months ago
Hello, I’m the woman from the story. We were home alone because he slept over. He was gonna give me a ride to work. He used the bathroom before I did and I found his phone pointing at the toilet. I gave it back to him because I was hoping he just left it there. Then he walked into our bedroom which was as weird because I’ve never seen him just walk into our room before. He knew I was about to get dressed. I found it propped up again once i went in there to change. Then he used “find my iPhone” to try and act like he didn’t know where he left his phone.
Load More Replies... Dani D 2 months ago
Hello y’all, I’m the woman from the story 👋🏽 Just an update for everyone: I gave police my statement and sent them the video of him apologizing. However he did not straight up admit what he did in the video so it wasn’t enough evidence to charge him. They told me they were gonna bring him in for questioning. I called days later for an update and they said they were going through with the charges and he will appear in court. I’m not sure if that means he admitted it or not. The lady on the phone did not have the details. They told me they will contact me in case they need me to appear in court. That’s the last I’ve heard !
OneWithRatsAndKefir 2 months ago
She… she stated she didn’t want to sue for the compensation, but because she didn’t want a ‘friend’ to go to jail at first or that she wasn’t sure if she had enough evidence that would result in jail time.
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