Woman Cancels Thanksgiving After 20 Years Of Hosting After SIL’s Special Dietary Demands
Thanksgiving is famous for football, food, and family feuds. However, one woman got a taste of the latter two while she was still preparing for the holiday.
In a post on the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk?]’, she explained that, just like each year, her sister-in-law demanded a separate meal due to her ever-changing dietary choices.
The woman tried to reason with her and searched for solutions that wouldn’t require her to put in additional effort in the kitchen (after all, she was already going to host the entire family), but it quickly blew into what her husband called “ridiculous high school drama.”
Continue scrolling to read her story, which serves as a reminder that sometimes your relatives can push you to the very limit.
This woman got a text from her sister-in-law, asking her to make a separate Thanksgiving meal to accommodate her fertility diet
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But she refused and the two of them got into a fight
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Certain foods can increase your fertility, but someone who is hosting the entire family for Thanksgiving has a lot on their plate
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While there aren’t any magic foods for getting pregnant, making the right dietary choices and including a healthy amount of physical activity in your daily life can make a difference in your probability of becoming fertile if you are experiencing problems with ovulation.
One study by the Harvard School of Public Health, which comprised nearly 18,000 women, discovered a higher incidence of ovulatory disorder in those who consumed more trans fats, sugar from carbohydrates, and animal proteins. On the other hand, those who consumed more iron, fiber, and protein from vegetables had a higher fertility diet score.
Also, “studies have shown that consuming a certain quantity of monounsaturated fats during the IVF cycle increased the success rate by three and a half times, as opposed to women who don’t eat good plant-based fats during that period,” says Alisa Vitti, integrative nutritionist and author of WomanCode: Perfect Your Cycle, Amplify Your Fertility, Supercharge Your Sex Drive, and Become a Power Source. These include avocados, nuts, and some oils (like olive oil, peanut oil, and canola oil).
There are things people who are trying to conceive should ignore, too. For example, if you’re having continued trouble, your doctor may suggest limiting dairy.
“We’re being exposed to dairy in mass quantities that’s more hormonally-driven, meaning the production of cow dairy has become very chemically manipulated,” Vitti explains. “These excess hormones may disrupt the conversation that the brain is trying to have with the endocrine system, particularly your ovaries.”
However, it can be overwhelming for someone to devise a menu that’s suitable for everyone coming over.
Thanksgiving, despite its questionable history and racist origins, is actually meant to be quite pleasant.
It’s an occasion when you’re supposed to put your worries aside, spend time with your loved ones, and focus on your blessings.
So if you have additional requests for the host, maybe you could offer them help in organizing the whole thing as well?
Most of the people who read the story said its author did nothing wrong
But some had other thoughts
This AITA post is from November 2020. Most people had other things on their mind back then.
I have to admit that I was well into the post before I noticed that fact. This particular post is old enough to have cobwebs.
Load More Replies...I'm always amused by the phrase "cancelled Thanksgiving" or "cancelled Christmas" because you don't really cancel it. It still happens. It's just someone usually choosing not to be pressured into doing something unreasonable or that they aren't comfortable with in the name of the holiday. Someone cancelled your Thanksgiving? Make your own! Go out to a restaurant and tip extremely well. Don't depend on others to always make/break your celebration. I love having Thanksgiving with my cousins, but honestly the best Thanksgiving we've had in years was during COVID, when it was just me and my husband, and we made our own traditional dinner and ate outside on our deck. It was awesome.
My favorite part of getting married and starting my own family was making my own holidays and traditions. My sister texted on Easter and wasn't doing anything at all since she wasn't going to my parents. She has been married since 2016. I said "you know you can make your own holidays right? Just you and your husband. You can do anything you want to make it a special day for you. Make your own tradition" and she says "wow I never thought of that" and I felt so sorry for her that she is so closed into my family's control still she doesn't even realize she can make her own holidays. I hope she does from now on
Load More Replies...Uhmmm, idk a lot about special diets for IVF but I am POSITIVE one meal is not going to impact her fertility. If she is so concerned, she should bring her own. I have been vegetarian for over 20 years, I bring my own mushroom gravy and am EXTREMELY thankful that my aunt puts some stuffing on the side before she adds turkey. Like WOW! So thoughtful! I don't understand these people and their childish demands. People like that are probably not a joy to be around in the first place and then they DEMAND things from the host? Just tacky.
Because my aunt knows stuffing is my favorite! I don't need tofurky. Sometimes I'll bring some for me and my son but we're not going die w out it. Plenty of options that don't have meat. ALSO, when I host Thanksgiving I make a damn turkey! I make my niece do the dirty work, ie digging out the neck and innards. I buy a fresh turkey from a local farm. People need to settle tf down.
Load More Replies...This AITA post is from November 2020. Most people had other things on their mind back then.
I have to admit that I was well into the post before I noticed that fact. This particular post is old enough to have cobwebs.
Load More Replies...I'm always amused by the phrase "cancelled Thanksgiving" or "cancelled Christmas" because you don't really cancel it. It still happens. It's just someone usually choosing not to be pressured into doing something unreasonable or that they aren't comfortable with in the name of the holiday. Someone cancelled your Thanksgiving? Make your own! Go out to a restaurant and tip extremely well. Don't depend on others to always make/break your celebration. I love having Thanksgiving with my cousins, but honestly the best Thanksgiving we've had in years was during COVID, when it was just me and my husband, and we made our own traditional dinner and ate outside on our deck. It was awesome.
My favorite part of getting married and starting my own family was making my own holidays and traditions. My sister texted on Easter and wasn't doing anything at all since she wasn't going to my parents. She has been married since 2016. I said "you know you can make your own holidays right? Just you and your husband. You can do anything you want to make it a special day for you. Make your own tradition" and she says "wow I never thought of that" and I felt so sorry for her that she is so closed into my family's control still she doesn't even realize she can make her own holidays. I hope she does from now on
Load More Replies...Uhmmm, idk a lot about special diets for IVF but I am POSITIVE one meal is not going to impact her fertility. If she is so concerned, she should bring her own. I have been vegetarian for over 20 years, I bring my own mushroom gravy and am EXTREMELY thankful that my aunt puts some stuffing on the side before she adds turkey. Like WOW! So thoughtful! I don't understand these people and their childish demands. People like that are probably not a joy to be around in the first place and then they DEMAND things from the host? Just tacky.
Because my aunt knows stuffing is my favorite! I don't need tofurky. Sometimes I'll bring some for me and my son but we're not going die w out it. Plenty of options that don't have meat. ALSO, when I host Thanksgiving I make a damn turkey! I make my niece do the dirty work, ie digging out the neck and innards. I buy a fresh turkey from a local farm. People need to settle tf down.
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