Am I the only person who would feel awkward buying 2 Valentine's cake pops on a date and eating them both...if you are on a date and someone buys 2 heart cake pops who wouldn't assume that the second is for the date...I bet even the barista was like wtf?

This needs a bit more context: Did he only ask what she wanted to drink and decided that the cake pops looked good and brought them back and did then not share = Not the way to do it! Did he ask her what she wanted to drink AND eat and she just wanted a drink = her fault but still not good style by him, especially it being TWO when there aer TWO persons. Either way I think it doesn't matter what gender they are, it would have been bad style the other way around, too.

Some of the latter comments missed the point. Forget that it's a date, sharing is something you learn as a child. It's about being polite, putting the other at ease. If the dude paid for the drinks (which seems to be implied), then why not get a cake pop to share? It's sweet. If he didn't pay for her drink, then it's still a nice thing to do for someone else. Also, why two? If he'd just gotten 1 cake pop, that's one thing - he could suggest she get one. But he specifically got a number that is shareable. Do you think that this was a test? If so, what was the point?

Honestly I don’t even know how someone can do this, I’d be awkward as hell of I bought two Valentine’s Day cake pops, then ate them in front of the date. Also this isnt just a man vs woman thing, but it is just bad manners if you ask someone what they wanted to drink, then came back with food only for you. It being a date just makes it worse.

No matter the person's gender, buying TWO heart shaped cake pops on a date and then eating them both is rude. Now if you had offered to get them something and they declined, that's a different story

Why people are bringing gender to this debate? It's still unacceptable if a woman does that. Would any decent person with manners would go on a date, order 2 heart-shaped cake, at eat it alone? Even if she had refused food, he could have ordered sth else more single-appropriate for himself instead of said item. Was he that starving and desperate for cake pops that he decided to forgo etiquette, or he simply doesn't care what she would think of him?

i want that cake pop :'(

Not necessarily a "red flag" that he is a bad person, or even selfish, but a "red flag" that he doesn't instinctively stop to think about others. Be careful about attacking him, he might be a jerk, or he might be on the autism spectrum and this sort of thing doesn't even cross his mind. It will have to be a "learned" skill

This has nothing to do with gender. It's rude to eat in front of your companions without offering. I thought everyone learned that when they were little children.

This isn't a date thing, or a man/woman thing, this is just courtesy. Remember your teacher saying don't chew gum if you didn't bring enough for everybody? It is just polite to ask if they want one/want to share.

Even when its just with a friend. Even if they said they didn't want any. If I bought two, offer the second one anyway. That's just kindergarten learned etiquette. It goes double for a date, where you are actually trying to impress someone.

Maybe it was a test. To see how she would react? I remember seeing how people reacted to women posting tests they did on their first dates, to see if they wanted to invest more time in someone. Or maybe he's just a d**k. Who knows.

I'm sorry but what happened to talking about it?? I do not read any suggestion to discuss this at the moment itself and maybe have a good laugh about it. I would like to hear the guy too before forming an opinion.

I wonder if the two treats were meant to be shared, but then the OP did or said something unaddressed in her post and cause the man to say in effect to himself "eff her, that crack just cost you desert." Two sides to every story, so need to hear his before joining the lynchmob.

People generally try to be on their best behaviour on the first date. So it's a little odd to not offer one of the pops or ask if he should get an extra one while he's at the counter. That warrants at least a raised eyebrow. (And yes, I've paid on dates)

I agree with Ayra. There isn't enough context, if food was offered as well as coffee and she said no to the food. His actions are acceptable if not ideal, she should have said 'are you sure you wouldn't like one of these?'. If no food was offered, and came bearing food and didn't offer, that's a no no! I'm not a person that shares* and even I understand that! *For context, I will share individual items if normally sold separately but I will not share anything if it comes a pack or part of my meal.

oh man lol, so much fragility. someone needs to sit these real men down and explain to them they are really just little boys

"If he's like 23, he just hasn't learned yet" What? I really hope that should have read "2 or 3" because those are roughly the ages you should have learned sharing.