Woman Gets Revenge On Her School Bullies: “I Made It So They Won’t Ever Get A Job In Their Chosen Degree”
Unfortunately, Reddit user u/Salty_Ambassador8169 had to endure a group of bullies who would routinely target her at school when she was growing up.
They went above and beyond to make her life miserable, and now even after a few years have passed since their graduation, the woman still hasn’t made peace with it and is getting professional psychological help to leave those ugly experiences behind.
However, when she noticed what careers her tormentors had chosen, she decided that it was time to tell not only her therapist but the whole world about what they had been doing to her and released a public Facebook post.
Speaking to the subreddit r/TrueOffMyChest, she tried to make sense of the whole situation and her story is a vivid example of why there should be zero tolerance for bullying.
This woman grew up being viciously bullied at school
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And when she saw what career paths her tormentors had taken, she decided to tell everyone about the nasty stuff they did to her
Her story got noticed
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Unfortunately, cases like this one aren’t uncommon. Roughly one out of every five (20.2%) students say they’re being bullied.
A higher percentage of male than female students report being picked on physically (6% vs. 4%), whereas a higher percentage of female than male students report becoming the subject of rumors (18% vs. 9%) and being excluded from activities on purpose (7% vs. 4%).
And sadly, 41% of students who report being bullied at school think the bullying will happen again.
Kids are targeted everywhere. Bullied students report that it occurs in the following places: the hallway or stairwell at school (43%), inside the classroom (42%), in the cafeteria (27%), outside on school grounds (22%), online or by text (15%), in the bathroom or locker room (12%), and on the school bus (8%).
Still, just 46% of bullied students report notifying an adult at school about the incident.
The original poster (OP) gave more details on the situation
Bullying behavior is a serious problem among children and adolescents; it has short- and long-term effects not only on the victims but also the perpetrators, and even bystanders.
Kids who are bullied can go through physical, social, emotional, academic, and mental health issues, and are more likely to experience:
- Depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns, and loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy (these problems, as we saw from the Reddit post, may persist into adulthood as well);
- Health complaints;
- Decreased academic achievement—GPA and standardized test scores—and school participation. They are more likely to miss, skip, or drop out of school.
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Also, a very small number of bullied children might retaliate through extremely violent measures. In 12 of 15 school shooting cases in the 1990s, for example, the shooters had a history of being bullied. Kids who do the bullying, on the other hand, are more likely to:
- Abuse alcohol and other drugs in adolescence and as adults;
- Get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school;
- Engage in early sexual activity;
- Have criminal convictions and traffic citations as adults;
- Be abusive toward their romantic partners, spouses, or children as adults.
Kids who witness bullying are more likely to:
- Have increased use of tobacco, alcohol, or other drugs;
- Have increased mental health problems, including depression and anxiety;
- Miss or skip school.
So we certainly do need to be having a continuous discussion about what these kids are going through.
And people have been really supportive of her, saying that she must’ve helped many who are going through similar experiences
Some, however, think that the woman should let go of the past in order to move on with her life
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Might be controversial but I don't agree it's petty. Why should the bullies get to work in caring professions? The potential harm to patients isn't worth the risk of allowing it to happen and I'm glad she was stopped from getting the job. Apologising only when she wanted something... no. I was bullied. It matters and usually all too little is done to the perpetrators. Sorry, might be because I've been on the receiving end and so it skews my thinking but I'm with the OP.
And to the people saying the girls can change and deserve a chance - it's not like she's preventing any potential employers from deciding themselves to grant one of them that chance. All she's doing is putting the truth out there, people can choose what they want to do with it.
Load More Replies...This is whole thing (situation and responses) is a good example of context, impact and overall awareness. If you heard about this in a small bite (like Twitter), all you see is "bullied person gets revenge" and it's easy (depending on how cynical you are) to brush it off as "someone being petty" or "disproportionate retribution". Being able to read more of the details? Not petty. There are serious factors at play, including the fact that this isn't "bully lite" - this is full on causes-people-to-commit-suicide bullying. 10 years? A DECADE of severe bullying. In that DECADE sounds like they just got worse. And their chosen degrees are in fields that serve up vulnerable people to them? ARE YOU KIDDING? Add to that - the bullying is RECENT. This isn't some 10 year olds pulled her hair, and now everyone's 25... only 3 years passed since the incident(s)... meaning that WHILE they were getting that degree, they were FRESH off the bully train - if they ever stopped.
Imagine them at a mental care facility, we've all heard of them being yelled at, hit, or worse. These girls would be abusing their patients. 3 years is not enough to change. I'm glad she spoke up
Load More Replies...I'd say the real problem is the school and the parents. They should be paying the highest price for not taking care of kids.
IKR?!?! She said the school has their offenses well documented... but they did nothing about it?!?!
Load More Replies...If you feel strongly that this was an overreaction, then you were/are a bully and you know it. Bullies do not change. They do not grow and overcome, they just become better at not being noticed by the general public. They become abusive parents, tyrannical bosses, hateful friends, and felons. They are the friends and family members people refer to as "toxic." They feed their insecurities and jealousy with anger, violence, and hate and often they put themselves in professions where they are in charge of the weak and vulnerable because it's an endless supply of victims to feed on. Children who act as bullies NEVER grow up to be good, decent human beings. They may fool a good number of people but look just a little bit below the surface and you'll see the carnage in their wake. I applaud any scorched earth policy when it comes to bullies. They brought it 100% on themselves and deserve to live, fester, and suffer the muck of their own making
I can't believe that some people commented "Get over it, move on."
Load More Replies...I also suffer from depression since I was bullied at school. Years of therapy and antidepressants can't cure what this classmate did to me. I am glad this woman got back at her former classmate
Experienced exactly what you say and describe Eileen. Bullying is as damaging as abuse by parents. Unbelievably painful and I still have the occasional nightmare decades later
Load More Replies...I work in mental and behavioral health. And there is a saying that should be professionally applied. “If you haven’t sought therapy for your own problems, you probably shouldn’t be working with others on theirs”. I’ve been a patient, and have had a pretty damaging encounter with a provider who did not follow this rule. I for one, am all for the above bullies not being employed in mental health until they complete their own growing.
Good for the OP and f**k them ! S****y people need to learn consequences.
I got bullied in highschool... 20/25 years ago. And STILL I cant really get over it. Just the idea of ever seeing those people again makes my skin crawl. I was near the school a month ago for a farmers market. Even knowing it is an entire new building (they build a new school over the old one that was torn down.. should have been there when they took it down) it still got to me. I never come near that place ever again, just to full of bad memories.
Good! F*ck them. Of course people grow up and change but that doesn’t excuse what they did. If you bully other people you are an a*****e. Period. They are not allowed to just go on with their lives just like that. Life doesn’t work like that. They have to make things right first. I know this sounds bitter but I absolutely do not care.
I wholeheartedly agree. Telling OP to just move on and get over it is so unfair to her, especially since she became encumbered by mental illnesses because of what the bullies did to her for a decade and she might have to live with it for the rest of her life. Whatever negative things that happens to the bullies are none of my concern. They should reap what they sow. :)
Load More Replies...Might be controversial but I don't agree it's petty. Why should the bullies get to work in caring professions? The potential harm to patients isn't worth the risk of allowing it to happen and I'm glad she was stopped from getting the job. Apologising only when she wanted something... no. I was bullied. It matters and usually all too little is done to the perpetrators. Sorry, might be because I've been on the receiving end and so it skews my thinking but I'm with the OP.
And to the people saying the girls can change and deserve a chance - it's not like she's preventing any potential employers from deciding themselves to grant one of them that chance. All she's doing is putting the truth out there, people can choose what they want to do with it.
Load More Replies...This is whole thing (situation and responses) is a good example of context, impact and overall awareness. If you heard about this in a small bite (like Twitter), all you see is "bullied person gets revenge" and it's easy (depending on how cynical you are) to brush it off as "someone being petty" or "disproportionate retribution". Being able to read more of the details? Not petty. There are serious factors at play, including the fact that this isn't "bully lite" - this is full on causes-people-to-commit-suicide bullying. 10 years? A DECADE of severe bullying. In that DECADE sounds like they just got worse. And their chosen degrees are in fields that serve up vulnerable people to them? ARE YOU KIDDING? Add to that - the bullying is RECENT. This isn't some 10 year olds pulled her hair, and now everyone's 25... only 3 years passed since the incident(s)... meaning that WHILE they were getting that degree, they were FRESH off the bully train - if they ever stopped.
Imagine them at a mental care facility, we've all heard of them being yelled at, hit, or worse. These girls would be abusing their patients. 3 years is not enough to change. I'm glad she spoke up
Load More Replies...I'd say the real problem is the school and the parents. They should be paying the highest price for not taking care of kids.
IKR?!?! She said the school has their offenses well documented... but they did nothing about it?!?!
Load More Replies...If you feel strongly that this was an overreaction, then you were/are a bully and you know it. Bullies do not change. They do not grow and overcome, they just become better at not being noticed by the general public. They become abusive parents, tyrannical bosses, hateful friends, and felons. They are the friends and family members people refer to as "toxic." They feed their insecurities and jealousy with anger, violence, and hate and often they put themselves in professions where they are in charge of the weak and vulnerable because it's an endless supply of victims to feed on. Children who act as bullies NEVER grow up to be good, decent human beings. They may fool a good number of people but look just a little bit below the surface and you'll see the carnage in their wake. I applaud any scorched earth policy when it comes to bullies. They brought it 100% on themselves and deserve to live, fester, and suffer the muck of their own making
I can't believe that some people commented "Get over it, move on."
Load More Replies...I also suffer from depression since I was bullied at school. Years of therapy and antidepressants can't cure what this classmate did to me. I am glad this woman got back at her former classmate
Experienced exactly what you say and describe Eileen. Bullying is as damaging as abuse by parents. Unbelievably painful and I still have the occasional nightmare decades later
Load More Replies...I work in mental and behavioral health. And there is a saying that should be professionally applied. “If you haven’t sought therapy for your own problems, you probably shouldn’t be working with others on theirs”. I’ve been a patient, and have had a pretty damaging encounter with a provider who did not follow this rule. I for one, am all for the above bullies not being employed in mental health until they complete their own growing.
Good for the OP and f**k them ! S****y people need to learn consequences.
I got bullied in highschool... 20/25 years ago. And STILL I cant really get over it. Just the idea of ever seeing those people again makes my skin crawl. I was near the school a month ago for a farmers market. Even knowing it is an entire new building (they build a new school over the old one that was torn down.. should have been there when they took it down) it still got to me. I never come near that place ever again, just to full of bad memories.
Good! F*ck them. Of course people grow up and change but that doesn’t excuse what they did. If you bully other people you are an a*****e. Period. They are not allowed to just go on with their lives just like that. Life doesn’t work like that. They have to make things right first. I know this sounds bitter but I absolutely do not care.
I wholeheartedly agree. Telling OP to just move on and get over it is so unfair to her, especially since she became encumbered by mental illnesses because of what the bullies did to her for a decade and she might have to live with it for the rest of her life. Whatever negative things that happens to the bullies are none of my concern. They should reap what they sow. :)
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