“I Purposefully Spilled A Giant Glass Of Wine On My Mother At My Brother’s Wedding”
We all know not to cry over spilled milk, but apparently, we shouldn’t be crying over spilled red wine either! There’s nothing worse than having a huge wine stain on a white dress, but if you show up to someone else’s wedding wearing a bridal gown, you just might deserve that bright, red stain.
Below, you’ll find a story that was shared on the True Off My Chest subreddit by a sibling who was determined to make sure his mother did not ruin their brother’s wedding by any means necessary.
Having red wine spilled on their wedding dress might be many brides’ worst nightmare
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But after one mom showed up to her son’s wedding in a white gown, her younger child decided the dress needed a splash of color
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The mother-of-the-groom is expected to look her best at her son’s wedding as well
Seeing your child get married is an extremely special day for a parent too. It might be exciting, scary, emotional and overwhelming, but as a parent, you’re allowed to be part of the celebration. And as the mother-of-the-groom, one is expected to look her best too. But according to Chapelle Johnson at The Knot, it shouldn’t be too challenging to choose a gorgeous and appropriate look for your son’s wedding day. She explains that the groom’s mother should choose a look that suits the wedding theme, the season and the venue, and she might even want to coordinate with the bride’s mother.
“Elegant evening gowns, lace midi dresses and chic jumpsuits are all appropriate options for moms,” Johnson writes. “Formal weddings require an upscale dress or pantsuit, while the outfit can be more relaxed for a casual wedding. In general, the mother of the groom should wear something comfortable and flattering. Go for a look that shows off your style—there’s no reason you can’t wear an of-the-moment trend or your go-to silhouette.”
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The occasion is a special day for moms too, but they shouldn’t aim to steal attention
However, it is important for the mother-of-the-groom to have her look approved by the groom and bride-to-be as well. It can be nice to coordinate color schemes with the wedding party as well, as many photos will be taken during the event. And wearing white is always a no-go, unless the bride specifically approves the outfit. “Mother-of-the-groom dress etiquette encourages mothers to steer clear of wearing white or neutral hues, unless specifically approved by the bride, since they can look white on camera,” Johnson writes for The Knot. “These shades may look similar to the bride’s wedding dress, so it’s best to wear different colors to avoid any color mishaps.”
While seeing your son get married may be one of the most exciting days in some mom’s lives, it can also be extremely stressful for others. Seeing their baby commit to starting a new life with a woman, or man, they love can be difficult for some moms to accept. They might become jealous or try to have a heavy hand in the wedding planning process, but it’s important to remember that the day is more about the bride and groom than anyone else. Alice Prendergast at WeddingWire breaks down some mother-of-the-groom etiquette, noting that she should never try to overshadow the bride’s mom, act or dress like a bridesmaid, become too critical of the event or the newlyweds, or steal the spotlight with her outfit.
But no matter how difficult it can be to accept this new phase in your child’s life, it’s important to remember that they are doing this because it makes them happy. All parents want is the best for their children, and sometimes that means allowing them to move away from home, despite how much you’ll miss them, or marry the person they love with their whole heart, even if it makes you a little jealous. They will always love and care for their parents, but kids grow up and get married, and it’s much better for them to receive support from their parents in the process.
Brides and grooms simply want to know that they have their parents’ support on their wedding day
One woman who has experienced being the mother-of-the-groom is Kathy at A Delightsome Life blog. About her personal experience helping with her son’s wedding, Kathy says, “The most important lesson I’m learning is now there’ll be someone else more important in our son’s life. I will have to remember how I felt when I was a bride – how the relationship of my mother-in-law affected my confidence. There were some tough times. I want to be one who will welcome my new daughter and to respect her new position. I and my husband wish always to emulate a wonderful married relationship that all our children would want to follow. Marriage is a wonderful thing. Children are a blessing. It is even more of a blessing when they themselves marry and our family grows.”
It’s great that this groom’s sibling was watching out for them and was able to help preserve the day by putting their mother in her place, but it’s unfortunate that she felt the need to steal attention from his day in the first place. We’d love to hear your thoughts on this story in the comments below, pandas. Have you ever dealt with a challenging mother-of-the-groom or a wedding guest who felt the need to show up in a white bridal gown? Feel free to share, and then if you’re looking for another Bored Panda article featuring wedding day drama surrounding dresses, look no further than right here.
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Many amused readers applauded the brother for standing up to his mother
Petty. I like it. Also, cue the people who will say this is made up. The whole ‘and then everyone clapped’ comments. Whatever, but I actually find this plausible.
If op's mom treated him badly up until now, this might have been the excuse he needed to get back at her. Well done to op, I say.
Load More Replies...As much as I find it satisfying to read stories like this, please don't feel like you have to invite toxic, horrible people to your milestones just because they are related to you. You really don't have to! A lot of people will understand perfectly where you're coming from and not judge you! A real family is being there for each other, sometimes the people in it are related and sometimes they are not.
My daughter would agree, she's not inviting my mom to her wedding. At first I was hurt but reality my mom has always treated my daughter like an outsider. Than when my nephew raped my daughter my mom ran around telling the family she was asking for it. She set him up she's a wh**e etc.... My daughter forgave her and my mom still kept disrespecting her. My daughter had the 1st and only great grandchild. So my mom tries to act like she's sorry so my daughter will let her see my grandbaby.
Load More Replies...You'd think these MILs would by now have heard via internet that it's a bad thing TM to go to a wedding in white if you are not the bride. So.... stupid games/stupid prizes.
I'm sure she had heard of it. That's why the b***h did it.
Load More Replies...Every wedding should have an OHN Team. OHN stands for "Oh HELL No!" This team is well-trained in commando procedures used to discourage white-dress wearers, parents of uninvited/uncontrolled children, and cheap proposers from diverting attention from the bride and groom. For a reasonable price (hourly or flat rate), this team would arrive before the ceremony, ready for any trouble on the horizon. Weddings and receptions would go much more smoothly. Not to mention, be more entertaining, as the offenders are dealt with, publicly and swiftly. There should even be a separate photographer on hand, just to catch the confrontation and results on film, as a wedding gift. I would second this suggestion.
Someone that takes no B.S. that works alongside the wedding planner to deal with this s***.
Load More Replies...I see a lot of these "Mom showed up in a white dress for her son's wedding" letters to advice columnists, so it's probably not fake. It's such a creepy and incestuous thing to do.
It's Moms way to show the Bride she is still #1!!!
Load More Replies...Not petty, as such. Her behaviour is the classic narcissist. Everything has to be about HER - it doesn't matter whether the attention is good or bad, it just HAS to be about her. I'm very surprised that her children turned out to be reasonable people. Children raised by narcissists usually spend a lot of years in therapy, because narcissist mommies are the WORST!!!
https://www.boredpanda.com/server-spilled-gravy-wedding-mother-in-law/
https://www.boredpanda.com/going-bridezilla-spilled-wine-on-wedding-dress/
I'm waiting for a story where the bridal party surround the person in white and cover them in red wine Ides of March style.
Not saying it's real not saying it isn't real. The truth is we all know there's people out there who will literally poison their own kids for attention. So it's not that hard to believe that some "mother" who needs to be the center of attention would do this. Thousands of people get married a year not hard to believe a few of them have attention seeking family members.
Weddings are idiotic, but if you're going to attend one you should at least be respectful to the people throwing it. Wearing white to a wedding is so f'ed up it's used as a constant example of what not to do at a wedding. I honestly think that there should be a rule that if ushers see a woman coming in with a white dress they can turn them around.
And how come all men can be dressed up exactly the same as a groom?
Load More Replies...Is it just me, or does anyone find these stories are getting recycled here? I've read about 3 of these stories. Is pretending to trip and spill wine on a family member's dress a thing to do at weddings now?
It's not you. There are way too many of these worthless articles about the American controlling obsession with the colours of women's clothes at weddings.
Load More Replies...Is this a repeat post, i'm sure I read this or something so near to this not so long ago?
Yes, because of course it only ever happens once in a lifetime...
Load More Replies...2 years ago there was someone doing this at their sisters wedding. 5 months ago there was someone doing this at their friend's wedding. Either these three ladies are in sync or something is fishy.
Wearing white to a wedding as a "f**k you" seems pretty common, and the commenters ALWAYS say "trip and spill wine on them!" So it sounds like the suggestion was taken seriously. It's something I can see myself doing as well, but hopefully I won't have to.
Load More Replies...if anyone is worried about a guest doing this at their wedding, arm your bridal party/ushers/groomsmen with water pistols with red liquid in and have them run as "security"
Comment to ARedheadsRamblings - You are priceless! I hope they not only feed you well, but you have a never-empty beverage glass, and a packed meal to take home.
I love when kids don't let their parents get away with treating people like c**p.
This is epic. How many times have we heard of the mother trying to suck the attention from the bride? Like it's their chance at "royalty". Wearing white to a wedding, if you're not the bride, is just about the biggest faux pas you can make. The devious side of me thinks the "accidental" spilling of wine on mom was a great idea. Serves mom right.
Oh grow the hell up, what the hell are you spilling wine on peoples dresses for? If she wouldve billed you for it then you would try to say she was the one in the wrong, it takes nothing to kick someone out of a wedding.
Ig they couldve kicked her out but based on mother attitude leading up to said event i believe kicking her out wouldve cause a... how do i say... "nuclear explosion"
Load More Replies...Petty. I like it. Also, cue the people who will say this is made up. The whole ‘and then everyone clapped’ comments. Whatever, but I actually find this plausible.
If op's mom treated him badly up until now, this might have been the excuse he needed to get back at her. Well done to op, I say.
Load More Replies...As much as I find it satisfying to read stories like this, please don't feel like you have to invite toxic, horrible people to your milestones just because they are related to you. You really don't have to! A lot of people will understand perfectly where you're coming from and not judge you! A real family is being there for each other, sometimes the people in it are related and sometimes they are not.
My daughter would agree, she's not inviting my mom to her wedding. At first I was hurt but reality my mom has always treated my daughter like an outsider. Than when my nephew raped my daughter my mom ran around telling the family she was asking for it. She set him up she's a wh**e etc.... My daughter forgave her and my mom still kept disrespecting her. My daughter had the 1st and only great grandchild. So my mom tries to act like she's sorry so my daughter will let her see my grandbaby.
Load More Replies...You'd think these MILs would by now have heard via internet that it's a bad thing TM to go to a wedding in white if you are not the bride. So.... stupid games/stupid prizes.
I'm sure she had heard of it. That's why the b***h did it.
Load More Replies...Every wedding should have an OHN Team. OHN stands for "Oh HELL No!" This team is well-trained in commando procedures used to discourage white-dress wearers, parents of uninvited/uncontrolled children, and cheap proposers from diverting attention from the bride and groom. For a reasonable price (hourly or flat rate), this team would arrive before the ceremony, ready for any trouble on the horizon. Weddings and receptions would go much more smoothly. Not to mention, be more entertaining, as the offenders are dealt with, publicly and swiftly. There should even be a separate photographer on hand, just to catch the confrontation and results on film, as a wedding gift. I would second this suggestion.
Someone that takes no B.S. that works alongside the wedding planner to deal with this s***.
Load More Replies...I see a lot of these "Mom showed up in a white dress for her son's wedding" letters to advice columnists, so it's probably not fake. It's such a creepy and incestuous thing to do.
It's Moms way to show the Bride she is still #1!!!
Load More Replies...Not petty, as such. Her behaviour is the classic narcissist. Everything has to be about HER - it doesn't matter whether the attention is good or bad, it just HAS to be about her. I'm very surprised that her children turned out to be reasonable people. Children raised by narcissists usually spend a lot of years in therapy, because narcissist mommies are the WORST!!!
https://www.boredpanda.com/server-spilled-gravy-wedding-mother-in-law/
https://www.boredpanda.com/going-bridezilla-spilled-wine-on-wedding-dress/
I'm waiting for a story where the bridal party surround the person in white and cover them in red wine Ides of March style.
Not saying it's real not saying it isn't real. The truth is we all know there's people out there who will literally poison their own kids for attention. So it's not that hard to believe that some "mother" who needs to be the center of attention would do this. Thousands of people get married a year not hard to believe a few of them have attention seeking family members.
Weddings are idiotic, but if you're going to attend one you should at least be respectful to the people throwing it. Wearing white to a wedding is so f'ed up it's used as a constant example of what not to do at a wedding. I honestly think that there should be a rule that if ushers see a woman coming in with a white dress they can turn them around.
And how come all men can be dressed up exactly the same as a groom?
Load More Replies...Is it just me, or does anyone find these stories are getting recycled here? I've read about 3 of these stories. Is pretending to trip and spill wine on a family member's dress a thing to do at weddings now?
It's not you. There are way too many of these worthless articles about the American controlling obsession with the colours of women's clothes at weddings.
Load More Replies...Is this a repeat post, i'm sure I read this or something so near to this not so long ago?
Yes, because of course it only ever happens once in a lifetime...
Load More Replies...2 years ago there was someone doing this at their sisters wedding. 5 months ago there was someone doing this at their friend's wedding. Either these three ladies are in sync or something is fishy.
Wearing white to a wedding as a "f**k you" seems pretty common, and the commenters ALWAYS say "trip and spill wine on them!" So it sounds like the suggestion was taken seriously. It's something I can see myself doing as well, but hopefully I won't have to.
Load More Replies...if anyone is worried about a guest doing this at their wedding, arm your bridal party/ushers/groomsmen with water pistols with red liquid in and have them run as "security"
Comment to ARedheadsRamblings - You are priceless! I hope they not only feed you well, but you have a never-empty beverage glass, and a packed meal to take home.
I love when kids don't let their parents get away with treating people like c**p.
This is epic. How many times have we heard of the mother trying to suck the attention from the bride? Like it's their chance at "royalty". Wearing white to a wedding, if you're not the bride, is just about the biggest faux pas you can make. The devious side of me thinks the "accidental" spilling of wine on mom was a great idea. Serves mom right.
Oh grow the hell up, what the hell are you spilling wine on peoples dresses for? If she wouldve billed you for it then you would try to say she was the one in the wrong, it takes nothing to kick someone out of a wedding.
Ig they couldve kicked her out but based on mother attitude leading up to said event i believe kicking her out wouldve cause a... how do i say... "nuclear explosion"
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