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Woman Bursts Into Tears After Revealing Her Diagnosis At Friend’s Bachelorette Party, Gets Fired As A Bridesmaid
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Woman Bursts Into Tears After Revealing Her Diagnosis At Friend’s Bachelorette Party, Gets Fired As A Bridesmaid

Woman Bursts Into Tears After Revealing Her Diagnosis At Friend's Bachelorette Party, Gets Fired As A BridesmaidWoman Gets Mad At Her Friend For 'Stealing The Spotlight' By Disclosing Her FAS Diagnosis At Her Bachelorette Party, Wants To Remove Her From Bridesmaids“I Didn’t Want To Have Her In My Wedding”: Bridesmaid Gets Fired From Her Duties After Revealing Her Diagnosis During Bachelorette Party“She Took Away An Important Moment From My Life”: Bride Fires Bridesmaid For Ruining Her Bachelorette, Rethinks Her Decision After Being Dragged OnlineBride Accuses Her Friend Of Trying To Overshadow Her At Her Bachelorette Party By Sharing Her Diagnosis, Wants To Fire Her As A BridesmaidBridesmaid Bursts Into Tears During Bachelorette Party Over Recent Diagnosis, So Bride Fires Her“She Took Away An Important Moment From My Life”: Bride Splits Opinions When She Fires Bridesmaid For Announcing Medical Diagnosis During Her BacheloretteBride Fires Bridesmaid For Stealing Her Spotlight At Bachelorette Party After She Cried About Her Diagnosis
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Some people have a perfect wedding in mind. After all, if it’s a once-in-a-lifetime experience, why not have everything be absolutely perfect, from the bachelorette party to the honeymoon? So it’s not surprising that this commitment to perfection can create a bit of drama and tension.

A bride-to-be shared a controversial decision she made, after firing a bridesmaid for “hijacking” her bachelorette party to tell everyone her diagnosis. On the surface, it does look like a pretty mean move, but she gave some context that split opinions. So read through, see the discussion in the comments, and decide for yourself.

Getting married is a special moment that most people would want to savor without distractions

Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

A bride asked the internet if she was in the wrong for firing a bridesmaid for deciding to announce her diagnosis at her bachelorette

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Talking about medical topics at a party can be an instant buzzkill

Despite many marriages not actually lasting, most people who choose to get married don’t plan to do it again. Naturally, if you plan for just one wedding, it has to be perfect. It’s also a time to celebrate and be celebrated by your friends and family, so naturally, OP felt like she was robbed of the limelight. What happened to the bridesmaid was ultimately sad, but her decision to suddenly and unexpectedly bring it up during a party was pretty misguided. Medical issues are rarely any fun, so regardless of what she ended up saying, the mood of the party was going to end up ruined.

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For those who aren’t familiar, fetal alcohol syndrome is a particularly cruel diagnosis, as it’s one a person can not have any control over. Fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs) are a result of a fetus being exposed to alcohol pre-birth. This condition, among others, is the reason mothers are told not to drink. Unfortunately, that doesn’t stop some, resulting in a number of possible issues for the unborn child. How badly the kid is affected will vary, but symptoms include poor coordination, low body weight, and sometimes difficulties studying. As the little “s” at the end of “FASDs” should tell you, this condition is a spectrum, where some people go undiagnosed for years, while others suffer constantly.

While we don’t know exactly what was going on in OP’s friend’s head and the extent of her condition, props to OP for not disclosing these details about her friend. While sharing the diagnosis during the party was questionable, firing her over it was what pushed many people to declare the bride a villain in the story. But, uncommonly for these sorts of stories, OP came back with an update. Instead of getting defensive, she seems to have embraced people’s criticism and worked it out with her friend. Often, when a person realizes that the internet sees them as a jerk, they cease posting and we never hear from them again. So it’s fortunate that this time there was a happy ending.

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OP gave some more context that readers needed to judge the situation fairly

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Some people thought both parties acted poorly

While a few sided with OP

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However, a number of commenters thought OP was absolutely at fault

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The bride did later post an update to the whole story

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Sami-Jo Ross
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad OP realized her mistake and talked it out with her friend. I hope the wedding is a wonderful one and the friend is able to get the help she needs.

CatLady
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your last sentence shows your compassionate heart, and it is the entire crux of this matter. The friend needs help. FASD is not curable, but there are a plethora of behavioural supports to help ease the harmful symptoms, help the patient maintain healthy relationships, and live a relatively functional life. One of my passion projects is to bring food to homeless encampments, and they are filled with folks with FASD whose families and friends couldn't handle their symptoms and gave up on them. The sooner this young woman accesses supports, the better future she will have.

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Lauren Caswell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Glad for the update. 23 & 24 is still young, but sounds like this woman is able to examine her own behaviours properly. Not just blind seeking of reassurance. A refreshing change.

Brenda
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so proud of OP for actually listening to and thinking about what others have commented about this situation. I don't think that I could have been so mature at her age. The fact that she not only listened, but examined her actions & feelings, was honest about how she felt & how she reacted, and then reached out to her friend.., I'm telling you, I'm thoroughly impressed by how she handled it all! I'm glad she will be there for her friend, she's going to need it. BRAVA, OP! BRAVA!

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Sami-Jo Ross
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad OP realized her mistake and talked it out with her friend. I hope the wedding is a wonderful one and the friend is able to get the help she needs.

CatLady
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your last sentence shows your compassionate heart, and it is the entire crux of this matter. The friend needs help. FASD is not curable, but there are a plethora of behavioural supports to help ease the harmful symptoms, help the patient maintain healthy relationships, and live a relatively functional life. One of my passion projects is to bring food to homeless encampments, and they are filled with folks with FASD whose families and friends couldn't handle their symptoms and gave up on them. The sooner this young woman accesses supports, the better future she will have.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Glad for the update. 23 & 24 is still young, but sounds like this woman is able to examine her own behaviours properly. Not just blind seeking of reassurance. A refreshing change.

Brenda
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so proud of OP for actually listening to and thinking about what others have commented about this situation. I don't think that I could have been so mature at her age. The fact that she not only listened, but examined her actions & feelings, was honest about how she felt & how she reacted, and then reached out to her friend.., I'm telling you, I'm thoroughly impressed by how she handled it all! I'm glad she will be there for her friend, she's going to need it. BRAVA, OP! BRAVA!

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