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Pregnant Sister Plans Her Gender Reveal On Woman’s Wedding Weekend, Gets Uninvited
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Pregnant Sister Plans Her Gender Reveal On Woman’s Wedding Weekend, Gets Uninvited

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Those who enjoyed the hit TV show FRIENDS likely remember the episode when Rachel stole Monica’s “thunder.” It was when she momentarily reignited her romance with Ross during Monica’s engagement announcement, sparking a feud that took a while to resolve. 

As you’re about to read, such a situation can be as unpleasant in real life. A bride-to-be felt her sister stole her spotlight by announcing a pregnancy and wanting the baby shower on the same weekend as the wedding. 

The author was upset and uninvited her sister, which caused everyone except her fiancé to side with her. The family drama urged her to ask the internet if she had overreacted. 

Scroll down for the full story and our short conversation with marriage and family therapist Dr. Ilene Cohen, who shared her insights on sibling dynamics.

Some women take it personally when someone tries to steal their spotlight during their big day

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The story’s author went through this stressful situation with her younger sister right before her wedding

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She wasn’t pleased when her sibling wanted to throw a baby shower during her wedding weekend

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The woman snapped and uninvited her sister to the ceremony, causing some pre-wedding family drama

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Rivalries are part of the typical sibling dynamics

On paper, it’s easier to blame the author’s younger sister for supposedly trying to steal the spotlight. However, according to Dr. Cohen, their situation is a typical rivalry part of the sibling dynamic. 

As she told Bored Panda, younger siblings tend to be more outgoing and seek out more attention. 

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“If over the years this is acceptable in the family, the youngest just thinks it’s normal to receive the attention and get their way,” she said. 

If the younger sister is, indeed, used to getting her way, she may not understand why her actions caused tension. Unfortunately, it escalated into a full-blown drama that may have tarnished the family’s supposedly joyous occasion. 

In such a scenario, Dr. Cohen points to possible unresolved long-standing issues between the sisters, and favoritism could be one of them. Their mother took sides, which likely made the author feel worse.  

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Honesty and vulnerability can help resolve sibling conflicts

Revoking a wedding invitation is pretty much a declaration of conflict, something no one needs ahead of their big day. The author could’ve avoided tensions by communicating her message with sincerity and vulnerability, especially if she believes she is within reason. 

“Just because the situation is viewed differently by different people doesn’t mean you should back down or give in,” Dr. Cohen said. 

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The bride-to-be may be on the right track in putting her foot down and wanting her special day to be solely about her and her husband. That is understandable. However, she could’ve expressed her sentiments in a way that would draw the line without stoking the fire.

“If you express your boundaries and needs without an attack the less likely a person will get defensive,” says Dr. Cohen. 

What do you think, readers? Was the author out of line with her decision? Or was the younger sister in the wrong for wanting to share the spotlight? 

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Many commenters sided with the author

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While a few thought she took it a little too far

Pregnant Sister Plans Her Gender Reveal On Woman’s Wedding Weekend, Gets Uninvited

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The Phantom Stranger
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife's best friend and maid of honor was pregnant with her first child during our wedding. We only figured it out because we noticed she wasn't drinking at the reception (not showing yet). She only admitted it when questioned, and said, "I didn't want to take away from your big day." That is normal human behavior--not trying to shoehorn your announcement into someone else's event.

Traveling Lady Railfan
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"pregnancy hormones can make people act differently"... Okay, then what was her excuse all the rest of the times? Ugh. Narcissist

Aelin Wildfire
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Besides, she wasn't pregnant when OP made the announcement, or anytime before the last 3 months' worth of prep....

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The Phantom Stranger
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife's best friend and maid of honor was pregnant with her first child during our wedding. We only figured it out because we noticed she wasn't drinking at the reception (not showing yet). She only admitted it when questioned, and said, "I didn't want to take away from your big day." That is normal human behavior--not trying to shoehorn your announcement into someone else's event.

Traveling Lady Railfan
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"pregnancy hormones can make people act differently"... Okay, then what was her excuse all the rest of the times? Ugh. Narcissist

Aelin Wildfire
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Besides, she wasn't pregnant when OP made the announcement, or anytime before the last 3 months' worth of prep....

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