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“AITA For Uninviting My Mom From My Wedding?”: Bride Doesn’t Want Her Disabled Sister At Her Wedding, Causing Massive Rift In Family
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“AITA For Uninviting My Mom From My Wedding?”: Bride Doesn’t Want Her Disabled Sister At Her Wedding, Causing Massive Rift In Family

“AITA For Uninviting My Mom From My Wedding?”: Bride Doesn’t Want Her Disabled Sister At Her Wedding, Causing Massive Rift In FamilyMom Gives Her Daughter An Ultimatum, Either She Invites Her Disabled Sister To Her Wedding Or She Doesn't Go At AllMom Refuses To Go To Daughter's Wedding Unless Her Disabled Sister Is Invited As WellWoman Wants To Ban Her Sister Who Had A Brain Injury From Her Wedding So She Doesn't Bride Gets Called A “Selfish Brat” For Not Wanting Her Sister To Attend Her Wedding, Disinvites Mom As WellFamily And Friends Turn On Bride For Uninviting Her Disabled Sister From Her Wedding, The Internet’s Opinion Is Mixed“I Just Want My Perfect Day”: Person Is Not Willing To Invite Their Sibling To Their Wedding, Ends Up Uninviting Their Mother, Too“AITA For Uninviting My Mom From My Wedding, She Kept Insisting I Invite My Sister”Bride Doesn't Want To Lose Attention To Her Sister Who's Been In A Car Accident, Refuses To Invite Her To Wedding“I Just Want Mom To Be There For Me For One Day”: Bride Called Selfish For Uninviting Disabled Sister From Her Wedding
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A wedding is typically a significant event not only for the happy couple but for their families as well. However, at the end of the day, it’s up to the soon-to-be-wed to decide if the family’s invited.

The redditor u/No-Magazine8763 recently told the AITA community about having to uninvite her mother from the celebration. Even though she admitted wanting her mom to be there, the latter didn’t agree with the OP’s decision not to invite her sister, which led to the parent not being allowed to participate herself. Scroll down to find the full story below.

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    Working out the guestlist for the wedding can be quite a headache

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    This person decided not to invite her sister to the wedding, which led to uninviting her mother as well

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    Coming up with the guest list is not easy, but it should always include those closest to the happy couple

    Working out the wedding guest list can be more challenging than it seems. Sometimes there are just too many people you want to have by your side on the big day; other times, you might be expected to invite those you actually don’t. Most of those who’ve planned a wedding have likely thought about whether they should invite their aunt they haven’t spoken to in eight years or that long-lost cousin they haven’t seen in ages.

    California-based wedding planner Chanda Daniels pointed out in Bride Magazine that “Creating a guest list is stressful because of all the obligations couples feel they have to meet, like inviting family members they aren’t really connected to, folks from work, their parents’ friends—the list continues”. A fellow planner from New York suggested that the happy couple should only invite people they love and consider close, and would be excited to see on the big day.

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    According to The Knot’s Real Weddings Study, 117 was the average number of people attending a wedding in 2022. Such a number indicates that wedding size has seemingly returned to the pre-covid times, as there is a noticeable increase from the year 2020, for instance. (The Knot pointed out that it went from 131 guests in 2019, to 66 in 2020, and 105 in 2021.)

    Based on the 2022 survey, more than half of the happy couples—52%, to be exact—wanted to commemorate the day with a big celebration, inviting over a hundred guests. Roughly a third sent out invitations for somewhere between 51 and 100 people, while 14% of those surveyed had 50 or less names on their guest list.

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    The size of the wedding varies depending on numerous factors, the price typically being one of them

    The Knot also suggested that the number of invited guests seemingly varies depending on the generations the soon-to-be-wed represent. Based on the survey’s data, the younger the couple, the bigger the party: Gen X tends to invite roughly 90 guests, millennials aim for an average of 116, while Gen Z celebrates with 135 attendees.

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    The number of people on the guestlist depends on numerous factors, and it’s likely safe to assume that the price is one of them. According to The Knot, back in 2021, the cost per person was as high as $266, arguably making some people think twice about inviting that long-lost cousin. CNBC pointed out that wedding-related expenses stand in the way of Gen Z and millennials’ financial goals—48% and 46% of them respectively believe so.

    Even though money affects representatives of both of the aforementioned generations, millennials seem to be less thrilled about the prospect of marriage. According to Pew Research Center’s data, roughly 33% of them live with a spouse and a child compared to 40% of Gen X at a corresponding age.

    No matter the generation, planning a wedding requires jumping through quite a few hoops. Statista revealed that in addition to the financial matters, guest list decisions and family politics or pleasing family members are among the top headaches of wedding planning as well. The OP seemingly had to deal with them as well, which led to a fight with her mother and the latter being uninvited from the wedding—a decision members of the AITA community had varying opinions about.

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    The OP provided more details in the comments

    The situation split the online community into two camps, quite a few people believed the OP was being a jerk

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    Others sided with the soon-to-be-wed, saying they weren’t in the wrong here

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    R Dennis
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My perfect day involves having the people I care about together. OP's perfect day is all attention and all eyes on me... good luck to her future spouse - maintain separate finances.

    Potato
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is there even a spouse? Except for it being implied, I couldn't tell! "*my* day" "attention on *me*".

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    lenka
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah... you almost had me up until you added the extra comments. Particularly when you talk about how beautiful she is, and then say "also that means she would have to be in all the photos". You are excluding your disable sister because you don't want her to be prettier and have any more attention than you. YTA

    Wendy Me
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It amazes me that people put so much emphasis on their ideal, perfect wedding. They spend thousands of dollars and hurt the people they profess to love just to get the perfect pictures and be the center of attention for one day. Some people really are shallow and narcissistic.

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    R Dennis
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My perfect day involves having the people I care about together. OP's perfect day is all attention and all eyes on me... good luck to her future spouse - maintain separate finances.

    Potato
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is there even a spouse? Except for it being implied, I couldn't tell! "*my* day" "attention on *me*".

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    lenka
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah... you almost had me up until you added the extra comments. Particularly when you talk about how beautiful she is, and then say "also that means she would have to be in all the photos". You are excluding your disable sister because you don't want her to be prettier and have any more attention than you. YTA

    Wendy Me
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It amazes me that people put so much emphasis on their ideal, perfect wedding. They spend thousands of dollars and hurt the people they profess to love just to get the perfect pictures and be the center of attention for one day. Some people really are shallow and narcissistic.

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