Are all of these people forever stuck in toddlerhood? Like, yelling and claiming something "isn't fair"? So not only is she the bride and the one who makes the rules, it is in no way the same wanting your baby in a few pictures to having a 4 year old run around the entire party.

Your wedding, your rules

Yet again, the YTAs are completely unhinged. Wow, the bride wanted her baby in her wedding photos! Who could have imagined?

The bride and groom can bring their children to the wedding, even if it is child free. Do you know what else the couple can do at their wedding that no one else is allowed to? Wear a white dress AND GET MARRIED. Are people really that stupid?

Get rid of her and NTA of course - it US your wedding, you decide who attends. Of course you want xour own chikd to be part of it - thst does not mean you have to tolerate other children Ranking around and wreaking havoc. You made it clean from the start they could not bting their children. And WTF is wrong with the YTAs??

Why would you want to bring a 4 yo to a wedding? Especially one with no provisions for kids. It's boring. It's all grown ups talking. The food is not what kids like. There's no one to play with. Why would you do this to your kid unless you just wanted to ruin someone else's day and you don't mind using your own child to do it?

(Snort), sure, bringing your infant to your own wedding for the photographs and then sending them home is exactly the same as a guest bringing their fully mobile 4 year old to someone else's "no children under 14" wedding. Oh, and you're spoiling your infant too.

I hate parents like that. Control your damn offspring.

Um, are you sure she's your friend? I'd have to end that. It was your wedding and you had your baby there for pictures. And for all the people saying YTA, they're most likely one that think it's all about them.

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Not sure how many times this needs to be said but having guests present isn't essential to a wedding. I'm willing to go further and say the married couple dictates who can show up without any consistent of rules or explanation. They could pretty much invite all 50 of their cats to the ceremony while not allowing your cat to come. Is it fair? no....is it insane? yeah.

I let my cousin's toddler twins come to my wedding, one of the bridesmaids ended up with a child's handprint on her light blue skirt... but we got off lucky! A year or so later, at their uncle's society wedding in the park, the twins decided to strip down and jump in the fountain!

I don't understand that when people get called out for something they double down and get belligerent. Instead of saying I am sorry, I will X Y Z to fix it. Also, just because you are louder doesn't mean you are right

I'm sorry, but I will never attend a child-free wedding, even if I am in the wedding party myself. For me, weddings are about family. I remember the last wedding I attended, where the little boy (I'm guessing three) in the suit and bow tie were a hit at the reception; and my coudin's wedding, where my niece (cousin's sister's daughter) shyly promised me that she,would say yes if I asked her to dance. Child-free weddings are entitled me-me-me bouts of narcissim. It is your tight, true, but that fon't make it right. Get over yourself. For the record, I am myself childless.

Her "friend" sounds unhinged and dumber than a brick. Sad she had kids.

OP needs to post “we’re breaking up, biatch!” on Reddit, cos those teens love wedding drama.

NTA, but don’t get why folks are so keen to attend weddings in the first place.

Some of the AITA stories make me feel like they write them for other reason. They know they are NTA but want to show the other person that it was their fault. Like this story. Come on…it’s her wedding and she feels she might be in the wrong for bringing her own child. Really? No one should feel bad for the decisions they make for their own special day. It’s my own opinion though.

i had a child free wedding. the only kids who were there was my 4 year old flower girl who while she does have a wild side she knows how to behave. her mom was also my maid of honor so she was super well behaved. the other was my nephew who was 9 and he was the ring bearer. sweet kid and loves the spotlight lol. he knows wen the spotlight is on him and wen it isnt and wen it is he becomes so energized its adorable. it was 16 and up bc the next youngest neice i had was 16 and since she is very mature for her age we made sure she was included. another little detail about my flower girl is wen she is comfortable she listens perfectly. she knew everyone in my bridal party bc she was included in everything except bachlorette party. most of the guests on my side knew her as well bc alot of my parents friends and family friends lived in the gated community we lived in my maid of honor included. she did run alot but never got in anyones way. she just wanted to say hi to everyone she knew and give them a hug. bc i got married in 2020 we werent allowed to have a dance floor but we did have a dj. she even asked my husband if hed dance with her. none of our guests who had young children brought them. we didnt mention it was 16 and older in our invites we just mentioned it to those with kids under 16 and all of them said they already got a babysitter anyways so we didnt really need to say anything anyways. all the kids were 5 and under and our friends just assumed lol. if it wasnt covid season wen we got married we wouldve been totally fine with ppl bringing their kids. we only wanted it child free so the kids werent at risk of getting covid since they were mostly toddlers. in the end no one got covid tho. however if a couple says child free wedding on the invite it should b respected. sure the couple brought their 11 month old but the OP even said it was for picture purposes and her child would b taken home to the babysitter. so its not unfair in the end. i always respect anything a couple says on their invite. whether child free or a dress code i always respect it cuz its their day and it should b the way they planned it. ill never understand all these posts about ppl going against wat the bride and groom want. ur going there to support ppl u care about so y do something that disrespects them. bridezillas r an exception to this bc bridezillas usually ask unreasonable demands or disrespect those who dont do wat they want. but the OP i dont think asking for a child free wedding is unreasonable. i mean like i mention with my friends they assumed it was child free before we even said anything. this rude guest claims shes the brides best friend. if she really was a best friend she wouldve respected the brides wishes.

It isn’t fair either that women were not allowed to wear white dresses to the wedding, but the bride made an exception for herself. Oh, wait…

The baby literally didn't stay?? I'd kind of understand calling the bride a hypocrite if the 11mo old stayed the whole time, but she was brought in for photos and then whisked back home. You can hardly fault the bride for wanting photos with her own child.

Maybe terms like "child-free wedding" are unhelpful in some cases. Just be clear that only people explicitly named on the invitation are invited. If you're allowing a 'plus one', then ask for a name for the invitation.

My cousin's wedding had a lot of children. They gave them instruments to play during the hymns, which gave them a focus and made them feel important. I've never actually been, or even been invited, to a child-free wedding. You invite a young couple with children, you expect them to come as a family. Maybe it's an American thing.

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Can we stop with the wedding themed aitas please , they're just dull

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YTA, to make a "child free" wedding and bring your own infant is you being hypocritical of your own rules, making them pointless. But the friend is also A-hole. No one in this story is in the right.