Parents need to remember they are naming living, breathing people and not accessories or toys. Your children will grow up, they will have their own personalities and opinions and they will have to put up the consequences of your stupid naming practices. My dad has a golden rule for naming dogs and I think it works for people too. "Don't name them something you'll feel stupid yelling down the street." Pity even that doesn't seem to work for the Tragedeigh crowd, though.

We broke my husband's family naming tradition - if we had followed it, my son's first and middle names would be Hayre Prickett! There was no way that was happening, and honestly people need to choose carefully, because names DO in fact help shape personalities.

Keep the peace by giving in to what will be a core part of your child’s identity? Hell no. OP’s parents can keep the peace by accepting their son and DIL’s decision to name their baby a totally normal name. (Also, OP said there’s nothing that can make the name “July” better but “Jules” is an obvious option to me)

Parents can suck. Tradition is what we call habits that can't be justified on rational or ethical grounds, or are downright disjustified by ever progressing knowledge, but in order to keep them regardless, we include them into a set of sacred stupidities we aren't to question, label it as "Tradition" and there we go, at times, forcing a tube down the throat of a goose to make them sick because even sicker people consider their broken, oversized liver to be delicious, and at times, we call our kids stupid names indicating something about them. I guess "Incontinencia" or "Gono-Roger", still, aren't among anyone's favourites...

Why do other family members Think they have a say in naming the child. I mean what makes them think it's ok to tell the parents ok this is the name YOU HAVE YO USE, KISS MY A*S TWICE, No YOU do not have a right. He or She is Not your child you are not the Parent. So Bite Me that should end it

Your parents should've named you boys Huey, Dewey, and Louie. Already had April, May, and June. Nta

Naming a child a month of the year is just silliness. Just do your own thing.

I would have announced, soon before the birth, that my family would be naming their child after a month... from, say, the ancient Assyrian calendar, or better yet, the Klingon one. Let them lose their damn minds for a month or two and a regular name wouldn't seem so bad.

Is this even real?

There are wackos, and this family

At this point, completely disowing your family is the correct thing to do!

Start calling your mum Chicken Seasoning, or something equally ridiculous at every opportunity. Tell her it's a new tradition.

I've never understood the unwillingness to be direct because you'll bow to pressure. People should just say what needs to be said and have the confidence in their choices.

Calling someone stupid If he/she is stupid, is not an insult. It is a statement.

Does no one in this family know you can legally change names? Alex should change his name to his birth month if he likes the tradition so much. July should have changed his name once he reached 18. Yes it costs money, but it's a lower cost than going through life with a name you dislike. Especially if there's negative connotations with it due to bullying.

Surprised he got a job named December. His CV must've been laughable before ever getting to the qualifications. Parents are insane to me kids like they're just a joke instead of a person.

Not exactly the main takeaway here, but "nothing to do about July?" Jule? (Like Big Jule in Guys and Dolls) Jules? Or reverse engineer the name the month comes from and go by Julius.

"Our child, our choice. This is their name...period. Get over yourselves; we're not going to hear any more on the topic. If you bring it up again you won't have to worry about our baby's name because you'll never see them."

you control access to The Baby!!

There's always a YTA in the wild who thinks that calling someone who wants their grandchild bullied for life mad is a bad thing.

I sat by a girl in math in high school that wanted to name her child Richard Edward. i asked her why she would voluntarily call her own child D**k Ed

The fact that five generations did this with no compromise, like adapting the names (Octavian, Augustus, Julie,) or adding in new options (Winter, Summer, Thor, Fria,) speaks volumes to their commitment to this tradition. The fact that he didn't consider these options speaks volumes to his rejection of the tradition. They're wrong for trying to pressure him, and he's wrong for insulting them instead of just reminding them that he hates his name and was bullied for it.

I knew a family that named their sons (they had no daughters) for their birth months, but they were a bit more creative(?) about it. The ones I knew were Augustus, Junius, Julio, Octavius, and Donald (no idea why he got away with that). Mind you, they received these names back in the 1920s and 30s.

Sister's name is either April, May, or June. Of course she thinks OP should continue with the tradition. Like she's ever been bullied with names like December, July or October. 🙄

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My husband's dad was named *weird name* Century because the name had been in the family for 100 years. He went by his initials. My husband and his brother were named David and Steven. Broke that stupid tradition with a vengeance!

Well, when you bring a new soul to this world, you have a responsibility to do what you think best for them. Traditions are definitely good candidate to be broken for the well being of the new generation. And of all months name, the "-ber" ones are the most stupid to give: they literally mean 7th month (SEPTember), 8th month (OCTOber) , 9th month (NOV-ember) and 10th month (DECember) in the roman calendar (who only had 10 months till July and August were added and renamed after Julius Caesar's death, in his honor. Tobias is a great first name, because you like this name.

First of all, your son has another parent who also has a saying in the baby's name. Second, traditions are not laws, so you have the right to break any tradition you consider idiotic. Third, your mother is delusional, and she is sulking like a five year old. It's her own problem. Honestly, if she's stopped talking to you for such a stupid reason, I wouldn't make the slightest effort to get in contact with her. The kid is your and your wife's son. Give him the name YOU want. F**k people!

Parents need to apologize and accept the name before they spend anymore time with the baby. Also, let them know that if they ever call your son October, they will lose access to your child.