Heartbroken GF Feels She Should Remove Her Sleeve Tattoo After BF Keeps Telling Her To Cover It Up
Tattoos are an artistic way to express yourself and immortalize your love for something. Some folks get inked with meaningful designs, and others opt for cool patterns they like. Whatever the motivation behind getting tattoos, it’s up to the person getting inked to pick what they want or don’t want on their body.
Unfortunately, certain people dislike body art so much that they judge those who choose to get inked. This is what happened to a woman whose boyfriend made a big fuss about her new tattoo sleeve.
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Even though it’s becoming more popular to get inked, there is still a lot of stigma associated with tattoos
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The poster shared that she recently got a sleeve tattoo of a design she really liked and had wanted for a while, but her boyfriend hated it and thought it was “too much”
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He kept fussing over what other people would think of her ink and suggested that she cover it up when at work or when they went out together
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Even though the woman explained that it was her body and her choice, her boyfriend kept insisting the tattoo would make people question her character
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The poster felt extremely frustrated and hurt by the man’s comments and wondered if she should get her ink removed, but also didn’t want to hide a part of herself just to please him
This story is extremely heartbreaking because the woman was excited and in love with her tattoo up until her boyfriend began making comments about it. It was a design she had wanted for a while because of the meaning she had associated with it. She also added that it wasn’t offensive or inappropriate in any way.
Around 69% of tattooed adults who get inked do it to honor or remember someone, and many also state that it’s their way of making a statement about their beliefs. It just goes to show that tattoos are one of the many ways people choose to express themselves, and it shouldn’t be viewed as a bad thing.
But the woman’s boyfriend had a huge problem with her sleeve design. He was way more concerned about other people’s opinions than the joy it brought to his girlfriend. He also turned his problem with the tattoo into a concern for her and made her feel bad about her decision.
One of his biggest concerns was about her work possibly having a problem with the piece. Although this was a legitimate concern in the past with workplaces banning tattoos or forcing tattooed workers to cover up, the poster mentioned that her job had no issue with her design.
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Not only did the woman’s partner have so many objections to her tattoo, but he also began attacking her character over it. He possibly felt insecure about the attention she would get for her tattoo sleeve. It also seemed like he was projecting his own thoughts onto her and voicing opinions that he had previously kept hidden.
According to Sarah Huff, “having a tattoo is never an indicator of intelligence, worth, or value.” Just because a person decides to get inked doesn’t mean they’re promiscuous or dumb. It’s merely a way for folks to showcase things they love and find meaning in.
When the woman shared her experience and revealed how the guy’s opinions had pushed her to her breaking point, netizens flooded the comments in support. They urged her not to remove her tattoo but to remove her rude boyfriend from her life.
Later, the poster responded to the commenters, saying: “I will leave him, especially after what he said to me. It’s the last straw.” So, hopefully the only thing she got removed was her pushy partner and not her beautiful artwork.
People were shocked by the boyfriend’s comments and said that he was a walking red flag
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The post is from 6 days ago. She may have dumped him already, as she said she would.
Load More Replies...Lose the boyfriend and keep the tat! Seriously, I ran into something similar. I have wanted a tattoo for a long time, (F58) my boyfriend said he wouldn't date a woman with tatts. I had the opportunity to get a dog I had wanted and he said no to the dog as well. A few months later, he kicked me to the curb. No reason given. With in a couple months I had my tat and my dog. (This was in 2019) I have not regretted my decision on my tatt or the dog and wish I hadn't wasted so much time on a narrow minded control freak.
Today it's a tattoo. Tomorrow it may be a dress or an outfit. Down the road it may be the way he thinks you acted or looked at someone. He's judging your choice and projecting it on "other people." He's insecure and has no respect for you or your autonomy. It's all about him and his warped ideas. Like you, I have a tat or two and it makes me feel good. It has nothing to do with my SO (although he likes it.) Your BF can either put his big boy pants and respect you as an adult who can make her own choices or you can move on and find someone more worthy of your time.
The post is from 6 days ago. She may have dumped him already, as she said she would.
Load More Replies...Lose the boyfriend and keep the tat! Seriously, I ran into something similar. I have wanted a tattoo for a long time, (F58) my boyfriend said he wouldn't date a woman with tatts. I had the opportunity to get a dog I had wanted and he said no to the dog as well. A few months later, he kicked me to the curb. No reason given. With in a couple months I had my tat and my dog. (This was in 2019) I have not regretted my decision on my tatt or the dog and wish I hadn't wasted so much time on a narrow minded control freak.
Today it's a tattoo. Tomorrow it may be a dress or an outfit. Down the road it may be the way he thinks you acted or looked at someone. He's judging your choice and projecting it on "other people." He's insecure and has no respect for you or your autonomy. It's all about him and his warped ideas. Like you, I have a tat or two and it makes me feel good. It has nothing to do with my SO (although he likes it.) Your BF can either put his big boy pants and respect you as an adult who can make her own choices or you can move on and find someone more worthy of your time.
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