Tampering with birth control makes any sex under those conditions non-consensual. There is a word for that.

If that was me he'd have needed an ambulance to go with the handcuffs.

Although there is no ban on abortion nation-wide in the USA, I'm afraid this kind of thing will happen more often since women now have less recourse to abortion. This guy's attitude fits the trend of men (although women must have voted for a ban on abortion aswell) taking away a woman's right to her own body. Just a thought: isn't that also part of the definition of being a slave?

I feel bad for someone who feels they need to ask if they're TA in this situation. Like holy f**k obviously not. Geez.

So… if a crime does not succeed, then there was no crime, right? Hmm… I think they should release all those people who are in jail for attemped murder then. After all, they did not kill anyone.

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#1 These poll questions are ridiculous. #2 His actions are criminal

To clarify, he tried to mess with her birth control pills by....microwaving a foil packet?

So they're telling you you should take him back, because his attempt at manipulating your medication was unsuccessful by him being stupid? That's quite somewhere! That's really far beyond, and then some, and then some, and some more! They're nuts, the whole bunch of them are. Is that enough of an attempt to hurt somebody to place a restraining order? I'd look into such, and if possible, apply such and enforce with everything on hand, on call, on earth.

Make a formal complaint, even without being able to prove internet to rape, tampering with meds is illegal. It's unlikely anything will come ifnit, but it will make it easier for future potential partners to validate any concerns they have or press charges if they need to. At the very least he deserves a criminal record

Tampering aside, they were together for two years and he didn't know what kind of bc she was on? And what other meds she was taking?

Did the guy really put pill blisters with aluminium foil in the microwave and what did he think that would do to the medication? Idiot. I don't even know if I believe this.

The fact that her giant cane corso dog never liked him says it all.

HIs family thinks she should just get over it because his attempt at sabotage failed. And she's the AH for leaving him. lmao

I'd tell him and the family that if they keep this b******t up, I'm reporting him for tampering with medication. If they double down, then report him.

This is abuse, plain and simple. It's called reproductive abuse, in addition to medical abuse. Forms of sexual and physical abuse. It's unlikely its the only signs of abuse, they can be subtle at first

Here is a response to friends and his family members: "You know we broke up because of you." They most likely will answer "What have I got to do with your relationship?" "Exactly".

even if she doesn't want to bother with pressing charges for herself, she should for the women he will meet in the future. if he doesn't face legal consequences then he will try this again with the next woman, or something worse. he needs consequences and a criminal record so he either learns his lesson or comes with a warning label.

The dog didn't like him. Enough said.

RUN far away from this man and his family. The whole situation is unthinkable and truly twisted.

So obviously the man is an AH for trying to tamper with OP's birth control. But she also needs to sort out the pills he *did* tamper with. Because those things aren't developed to withstand being microwaved any more than birth control is.

Fake

It was the boyfriend’s intention to tamper with the birth control pills but he ended up tampering with the 💩 pills by microwaving them. He should be forced to take them and feel every second of discomfort. Also, OP should get a restraining order against BF

He tried to sabotage OP’s life work. Insecure, controlling psychopath

I'd be filing sexual assault charges and whatever else would stick for tampering with medicines. I'd publicly tell everyone what he did, makes sure every woman would know.

Making Mac and cheese in a microwave? Weird. Anyway he should be arrested for a trying to sabotage her birth control and for possibly wrecking the efficacy of her ‘s**t’ pills. She was right to get rid and his family, albeit having only heard his version, are as bad as he is. She has the right to choose her life and lifestyle and not be railroaded into his. Lucky escape.

I'll start off by saying that she should have called the police and had him charged with whatever would stick, and a punch in the face would have been appropriate as well. What is true, though, is that if a female academic wants a child, grad school is probably the best time, BUT (a big one) only if they have partner who's willing to help. I feel that the OP's decision not to have a child was because she knew (consciously or not) that having a child with this PoS was a bad idea. I wouldn't be surprised if it turns out that he had been toxic the entire two years. Everything she wrote tells me that she wasn't comfortable in the relationship, but was probably being gaslit and manipulated to stay. I don't say that lightly, but the fact that she is more angry than sad is a good indicator.

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I think this is another fake story. I’ve never seen any pills packaged like birth control.