Guy Freaks Out Over GF’s Gross Conversation With Her Mom, Regrets It But She’s Not Having It
Mothers and daughters tend to form close relationships. They confide in each other, share honest advice, and provide support whenever they need it. The strong bond was also confirmed by research, with the reason being that they share the same understanding and empathy that other relationships lack.
Redditor Blooming_Onion5904 has a close bond with her mother too. They have no off-limits topics and share recommendations about anything and everything. One evening, while staying at her parents’ house, she was chatting away with her mom without noticing where the conversation was going. However, her boyfriend in the next room did and became majorly grossed out by it, which the girlfriend had none of.
Some daughters and mothers are fortunate to have a close relationship
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However, this guy found his girlfriend’s and her mother’s relationship too close and weird, which led him to cause a scene
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96% of moms get along well with their daughters
A study researching mother-daughter relationships found that 96% of moms get along well with their daughters, 86% talk about many topics, and 90% spend a lot of time together. Meanwhile, 90% of daughters believe their mothers listen to them, and 88% report that their opinions are respected.
The data also showed that the majority of them ask each other for advice, mostly about daily and social affairs, relationship issues, health, and the future. The most common activities they reported doing together were having supper, watching television, going to stores, or visiting friends.
In fact, research has revealed that the mother-daughter relationship is the strongest of all parent-child bonds. Experts explain that while connections between parents and children are based on love, they aren’t always as strong in the empathy department.
It was found that the part of the brain that regulates emotions is more similar between mothers and daughters than any other pairing.
This means that mothers are more likely to understand their daughters when they’re faced with a problem than anyone else, as they can better imagine themselves in their shoes. The finding also explains why they often butt heads too, after all, the same sides of the magnet push each other away.
48% wish they would be closer to their mothers than they are
While others maintain close bonds with their mothers throughout their lives, there are also those (48%) who wish they would be closer to them than they are. Experts note that these feelings are very real and not uncommon. Therefore, it’s crucial to acknowledge and validate these emotions.
“It’s important to hold space for all types of relationships with moms because even those who harbor anger, resentment, or sadness towards their mothers often also yearn for the particular and irreplaceable bond between a mother and child,” says Rachel Goldberg, LMFT, the founder of Rachel Goldberg Therapy.
One of the reasons that children remain more distant from their mothers is because of their differing personalities. “Differing personalities mean any diverging traits or temperaments that impact the ability to connect,” Erisa M. Preston, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist, says.
Any unresolved resentment can also be a big part of it. Past conflicts, misunderstandings, or unmet expectations can create distance or anger toward the parent. Even one too-critical comment on a child’s appearance can leave them negatively reacting to any remarks about how they look in adulthood.
For those who aren’t as close to their birth parent as they’d like to be, experts advise keeping in mind that they’re not alone. “Not everybody has a close or healthy relationship with their mom or their child, whether because of things beyond their control or because of boundaries they have chosen to make and enforce,” says Dr. Preston. “This can be quite painful for people longing for a closer or more fulfilling relationship.”
For others who have a strong bond with their mom, it’s best not to take it for granted and continue growing the relationship by showing respect, understanding, and cherishing the moments together (just like the author of this story).
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Sounds like normal women speaking about medical issues, no red flags regardless of the relationship - he however showed you who he was, believe him - emotional reaction/guys wouldn't normally speak like? meh, he had 30 mins to process and contextualise but decided to call your mum something quite abhorrent.
Yes, it is normal to speak about these issues between friends and family. It is about health and it is important for us, women or uterus-having persons, to share knowledge and experience. It is not like they were talking about kinky stuff that the boyfriend may not want to share.
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If I were in her position, I would initially doubt my knee jerk reaction because I didn’t think it through fully before saying it. But her gut reaction was correct as soon as he called her mom a predator. He’s got a lot of growing up to do, there were so many other healthy ways for him to handle his reaction to the conversation.
I wish I had this kind of close relationship with my mom growing up. It would have made our lives much better. It's too late now, but I made sure that my daughters know that they can come to me for anything and have a better relationship with them. It's still a work in progress, but we'll get there
I'm AFAB and I wish I could have this relationship with my mom now. But she talks about bizarrely sexual things with me (i.e. s**t about her sexual relationship with my dad, asking me inappropriate questions about my ex boyfriend b/c we were sexually active and I told her because I needed her there in case something happened [spoiler alert: it did]) and it's reached the point where I feel uncomfortable asking her about ANYTHING related to "downstairs" because I'm worried it will get weird and inappropriate. Yes, I've asked her to stop, but she doesn't seem to see anything wrong with it. (Ironically, she flipped out when she found out my best friend of over 4 years were talking about people we're attracted to like normal teenagers.)
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Sounds like normal women speaking about medical issues, no red flags regardless of the relationship - he however showed you who he was, believe him - emotional reaction/guys wouldn't normally speak like? meh, he had 30 mins to process and contextualise but decided to call your mum something quite abhorrent.
Yes, it is normal to speak about these issues between friends and family. It is about health and it is important for us, women or uterus-having persons, to share knowledge and experience. It is not like they were talking about kinky stuff that the boyfriend may not want to share.
Load More Replies... If I were in her position, I would initially doubt my knee jerk reaction because I didn’t think it through fully before saying it. But her gut reaction was correct as soon as he called her mom a predator. He’s got a lot of growing up to do, there were so many other healthy ways for him to handle his reaction to the conversation.
I wish I had this kind of close relationship with my mom growing up. It would have made our lives much better. It's too late now, but I made sure that my daughters know that they can come to me for anything and have a better relationship with them. It's still a work in progress, but we'll get there
I'm AFAB and I wish I could have this relationship with my mom now. But she talks about bizarrely sexual things with me (i.e. s**t about her sexual relationship with my dad, asking me inappropriate questions about my ex boyfriend b/c we were sexually active and I told her because I needed her there in case something happened [spoiler alert: it did]) and it's reached the point where I feel uncomfortable asking her about ANYTHING related to "downstairs" because I'm worried it will get weird and inappropriate. Yes, I've asked her to stop, but she doesn't seem to see anything wrong with it. (Ironically, she flipped out when she found out my best friend of over 4 years were talking about people we're attracted to like normal teenagers.)
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