Glad she broke up with him because my first thought was "Run. Run fast. Run far." Ladies, a man -or anyone really- tampering with your BC is NEVER okay. Imo that's a form of assault. You never, ever, ever tamper with someone's meds, whatever they may be. Ugh. This is so gross. I need a shower to wash this story off.

Speaking from experience, dump him, dump his family and be glad he didn't baby trap you. My violently abusive ex tried that to keep me from leaving him, he faked my bc with placebos and damaged the preventatives that I always made him use. After the police removed me, the pregnancy ended and I was free of him forever.

“My mom and I were talking and decided it’s the right time for you and I to have kids” is breakup territory on its own. He touched my medication is change your phone number level.

I was thinking: Run away and never return. Hopedully she is planning to do that.

I, as a man, say: leave him. This is not normal!

What was the thought process, "I can't find my contraception, let's have unprotected sex anyways?"

she should deff leave. something some men dont understand is birth control isnt just to stop pregnancy. ill even use myself as an example. i take the depo shot due to its strength. not bc i dont wanna get pregnant but bc my period and the horomones that come with it can trigger my epilepsy. i have a rare case where my epilepsy was dormant until puberty hit. so once a month id have seizures regardless of taking my meds or not. i was put on so many birth controls before the depo shot to make my horomones stable. im currently in the process of becoming 100% safe to have kids. if ur curious it is going very well so far. but ya my issue isnt the only kind. one of my friends has very painful and violent periods she is on the depo shot as well a since it stops periods for the most part. other women use it for horomone balancing or stabilizing. its not just to prevent pregnancy for some women. if the OP was in that category he could have accidently caused her medical issues. trying to trick someone into pregnancy is bad enough but if she was using it for more then birth control she couldve been in alot more trouble. i really hope she left him

That's rape, isnt it?

Next time he will be microwaving or otherwise rampering the meds directly. Dont do this.

Poor woman, to be betrayed by someone she loved, in such a vile way. Glad she dumped him. Pills can be thrown away - condoms pierced, which is why I always used to have the implant in before I married, and then until WE decided to have kids, and after 2, had another implant. Luckily, all contraceptives are free in the UK via your GP or health clinic, so I'm not sure how much it costs in other Countries, but yeah, I found the implant safest and free from sabotage.

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Oh, H**L to the NO!

Break up (major deal breaker) and send an open message to his family explaining why; he lied to them that she knew, so he knew they wouldn't buy into his tricking her. Maybe they'll watch him more closely or get him the professional help he needs, protecting his next potential victim.

This was back in 1980, just graduated high school. One day bf said I was too wild and that I needed to have a baby to calm me down, I thought he was joking. I moved from a basement to a regular apartment, I had my bc pills exactly where I knew they would be. BF claims they must have gotten lost in the move. Got pregnant in August had my son in May, 1981. He went to prison for being stupid and I moved out of state. Never seen him or his family ever again. If I wasn’t so naive and I knew then what I know now, I would have kicked him to the curb and never looked back.

Holy cow! I don't even know this woman but I want to have a face to face with the boyfriend and his mom and it wouldn't be nice at all! (I am a natural redhead and IYKYK). She needs to file a police report for theft, coercion, assault and reproductive abuse then get a restraining order against him and mom because you know they won't let sleeping dogs lie at this point. When she goes to get her stuff, she will need to not only have her dad with her but also a police officer in the event exbf tries something. Unbelievable!

I can't believe they had been dating so long and this is the first time he acted bat s**t crazy.

Breaking it off is the only thing that made sense. Glad you did.

Looks a bit late for his mother to abort *him*, next best thing you can do is run. If he sees no problem in sabotaging your anti concept one can only imagine the other things he considers acceptable

all those "nice" things he was doing was just a way to reel her in and baby trap her. deep down, he didn't care what she wanted or cared about her feelings. it was always all about him and what he could get from her. i'm glad she dropped him. ladies (and gentlemen), do not ever stay with a person like this. you deserve someone who truly cares about YOU. someone who loves to make YOU happy, all the time! not just when it's convenient, not just when it's a special day, not just when they want something in return. a person who loves you will always have your happiness on their mind. it should be something they don't even consciously think about. it just happens because they love you.

If she got him admitting to it on tape, would there be any legal grounds to have him charged with attempted bodily harm or similar?

She needs to get far away from him, or all of her life choices will be made by this guy and his mother.

Red flags as big as football fields

This is desperately sad. I'm glad she made the right choice but it must be so hard and hurtful still.

Thank heavens … I thought I was going to read on and find out he’d replaced your pills with duds ,you were pregnant and now ‘locked in’ to the relationship. It’ll be tough but as previous commenters have said…trust is gone. Walk away now. Will save you years of anguish in the future.

So real!

OP's 26 which is still within the prime fertility window but that window dwindles steadily over the next few years. She can't really afford to wait several years before getting married and trying to conceive. If she's so against having a child within a reasonable timeframe, she should've told her partner that from the start.