I'm so glad it looks like everyone agreed that's a complete "get the hell out of there" answer. Even if she was the healthiest woman in the world it does not make it okay for somebody to hold you underwater (especially while struggling??) I really hope she took everybody's advice and left. I don't think most men understand how terrifying it is to women when they just casually talk about how much stronger they are, and how they could totally overpower you at any point. Then this man goes and one ups it by showing her literally how much stronger he is, and just how easy it would be to kill her.

The near drowning reminds me of what I read once: if someone chokes their partner, there's a good chance they'll eventually kill them.

This will only escalade. She is isolated with an abuser. Run, then seek therapy as she needs to have healthy enforcing of bounaries.

Pun unintended, but bf was testing the waters, to see how easy it would be to dominate, terrorise, and eventually end his intended victim. OP needs to vacate that relationship last week. Get to a battered women's shelter, a hotel, or go home to her family, but GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE!! That isn't love; it's a preview of the upcoming feature: her ultimate demise.

He is toying with her like a cat would with a mouse. So, he got her all alone, without anyone nearby to help her. His competitive questions escalating to dangerous "games". She cannot just leave this man, she has to go with a plan. This is the kind of guy that will kill her when he finds her leaving.

When I was in college, a classmate blurted out mid lecture, “I wonder what it would be like to r*pe a woman?” Being a woman, I was terrified. I reported him to the school. The school reported him to the local police. The police did nothing. A few months later, the same kid open gunfire on a crowd killing several people, including a child, and shot then Congresswoman Gabby Giffords almost point blank in the head. I know shoving someone under water is not the same as making disturbing comments, but the point I’m about to make applies to both. If someone says or does something that terrifies you, there’s a reason. Don’t take their words or actions lightly. Get as far away from them as quickly as possible and tell someone you’re scared.

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This happened to me when I was about 12/13. The whole school was having a day out and some of us could choose to go the local swimming pools. Anyway, I panicked and kicked that guy in the ballz then and had it happen again now, I would have beaten him bloody! Like no-stopping-me-bloody..That girl needs to leave before she gets seriously injured, or worse.

Oh please girl, leave and don't look back!

Even without the medical condition, he is beyond toxic. Either he enjoys controlling or hurting her, or he really meant it the way he said, which means he's like a psychopath or something who doesn't feel empathy, if he doesn't understand how scary and damaging his actions were. In both cases she needs to get away.

WTF Get the hell out of there. Some specifics on what religions and what country she is from and in now would be interesting.

Not sure about the point of view of that third picture...anyway, never surprise someone who has a heart condition. Never.

Leave and then call the police and press charges! Then there will be a record WHEN he does this to someone else (and he surely will) hopefully he can be stoped before he goes all the way through with it, but it’s pretty much certain that one day he will kill someone, if he’s not stopped or if he doesn’t seek SERIOUS assistance/therapy!

This guy is a psychopath

"Ugh, you don't even make it *difficult* to murder you. Put in some effort, babe. It's tough love, you need to hear it, I will murder you. You're welcome, geez!" is a novel defense

He is angry with you for defending yourself. He could have killed you. You need to leave now. Next time he is at work, pack everything that is yours and leave. Contact your family and see if they can help you financially to get away from him.

I don't see anything in this relationship or these people that is not totally wrong.

She should leave and on her way out, stop by the police department to let them know what happened. That way, when he murders his next girlfriend, the cops will see there's a pattern of behavior.

"I can't always defend myself successfully from everything". Your parter should be the person who wants to keep you safe NOT someone you need protection from. I don't care if he's driving like an a*s to scare you or literally trying to kill you like here. If someone does this they're not the one

Does he also tear off butterflies' wings and laugh? Set cats' tails on fire and blame them for scratching him? He's a psycho & she should run fast & far. ..... She should also report him for assault/attempted murder and get a restraining order.

He's testing her to see how much abuse he can get away with. This is just the start.

Once more, in the words of the late Bray Wyatt (1 Yr Anniversary of leaving us, sadly): RUN!!!

Good god, smash something heavy over his head and RUN!!

Is there some way to reach out to this woman and offer her actual support and help to leave this jerk and to provide her with a friend group that will keep her safe?

OP is my age and I can't imagine how scary that was.. I really really really hope she's able to get out of there safely. Especially with a heart condition, in my eyes what he did was attempted murder because he KNEW of her heart condition.