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“I Just Wanted Him To Wear Pants”: BF’s Wardrobe Choice Forces GF To Rethink Their Relationship
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“I Just Wanted Him To Wear Pants”: BF’s Wardrobe Choice Forces GF To Rethink Their Relationship

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Attending a funeral is never fun, whether it’s for a close family member or just an acquaintance. Funerals also have a certain etiquette guests need to adhere to. A memorial service or a funeral usually includes eulogies, readings, and music in honor of the deceased. There’s a special dress code too – usually something dark and modest.

But not all people might be aware of it. Certainly not this dude, who showed up at his girlfriend’s father’s funeral in basketball shorts. He said he didn’t have time to dress up, but the girlfriend only felt more disappointed and insulted. The grieving woman went online to vent, and many netizens justified her anger, saying such attire is not appropriate for funerals.

Most people know that when attending a funeral, you should dress appropriately

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This man showed up to his girlfriend’s father’s funeral looking like Adam Sandler – in basketball shorts

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The classic funeral attire is modest and comprises dark colors

When most of us think of funerals, we associate it with people wearing black. In most Western cultures, that’s usually the case. The basic funeral attire etiquette rules are the same for men and women: conservative. What are the classic principles of dressing for a funeral?

Men should wear black, navy, or dark grey suits, as the folks at Better Place Forests recommend. If a full co-ord is not an option, a dark-colored blazer and coordinated trousers should also be acceptable. However, when it comes to shirts, white is the most common option, but a soft blue or beige also works. What about a tie? It can bring more formality and is generally a good idea, but it shouldn’t be flashy. Either solid colors, subtle stripes, or patterns.

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Dresses and skirts for women are definitely acceptable, but they should be knee-length or longer. “It’s not so much about the length as it is about the overall feel of the ensemble,” the end-of-life company writes. For those who prefer pants, tailored trousers or slacks are the best choice. And when it comes to tops, think modest: either a button-down or a flowy blouse in a neutral color.

Both men and women should wear closed-toe shoes and tone it down with accessories. Definitely no flip-flops! A watch, a belt, and stud earrings are your best choice. And a handbag, if you need one, should be small and of a muted color.

“Why are clothes such a big deal at a funeral?” one might ask. Experts say that it’s about showing respect for the deceased and their loved ones. While many people like to express their individuality through fashion, a funeral may not be the best place for that. “The focus should be on choosing outfits that convey respect and reverence rather than drawing attention to oneself through bold or ostentatious attire,” according to Jonathan Hepner Funerals.

Other cultures have very different funeral attire traditions

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Black is the universal color of funerals in most of the Western world. However, wearing black to a funeral can be inappropriate in other cultures. In Hindu or Sikh funerals, white is the default color of attire. It symbolizes purity, oneness, eternal life, and peace. Sikhs celebrate the soul that will soon join the Supreme Being in their faith, Waheguru.

Similarly, in Hinduism, mourners also wear white to celebrate the fulfilling life of the departed. That’s especially true for the deceased who were elderly. White is the default color of attire for funerals because it symbolizes purity: the deceased person is now freed from the shackles of the material world.

Purple is the color of mourning in Thailand and Brazil. Widows wear purple in Thailand, while the other mourners wear black. And in Brazil, the color purple is associated with the suffering of Jesus Christ. That’s why people wear it together with black at funerals. “As the color has a sacred, devotional meaning, it can actually be considered offensive to wear purple if you are not attending a funeral,” Woodlawn Cemetery writes.

The color red has different meanings in different cultures. In South Africa, people wear it at funerals because it symbolizes the bloodshed during the Apartheid era. In China, on the contrary, it’s most inappropriate to wear red to a funeral. Red is the color of good luck and happiness in Chinese culture, and people usually wear it at weddings.

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The tradition of wearing black to a funeral comes from ancient times

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Today, we believe the tradition of wearing black to a funeral came from the Ancient Romans. Apparently, the family of the deceased would wear dark-colored togas (toga pulla) to funeral rites. That tradition went on into the Middle Ages. Dark purple was also worn by royalty and religious mourners.

Later in the period, members of the funerary procession wore black to stand out in the crowd. Still, it was mostly people of higher social standing and wealth. Because dark dyes were made using rare plants, such garments were expensive, so truly dark colors signified one’s financial situation.

Queen Victoria famously wore black after the death of her husband, Prince Albert, for 40 years. Historians claim that her mourning ritual solidified black as a mourning color in Britain and, by extension, in most of the Western world. She would wear black gowns, veils, and accessories like rings and brooches containing clippings of her deceased husband’s hair.

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Widowers and widows during Victorian times were told to wear black. Widows had to do it for a year or more, and widowers for three to six months. Widows even had to cover their faces for the first six months. These funeral mourning attire traditions carried over to Europe and, eventually, to the United States.

Most people were appalled at how the guy could be so inconsiderate toward his partner of 12 years

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Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my brother died, my cousin was fifteen. She came to the funeral in a jeans skirt, a nice blouse, and sandals. None of it was black. She was fifteen. She showed up, looked nice, and participated. I was proud of her. If a fifteen year old can do it, an adult surely can.

Mike m
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My aunt and grandfather recently passed away. Black was not even the most popular color ar the 'celebration of life' Like you said, it's about looking nice.

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Ritchat
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"If he'd wanted to, he would" 100%. When my grandma died, I had a long distance boyfriend. We were dating for just 2 months, the funeral was during the week, he didn't have a lot of money for train tickets and he never met my grandma. He showed up for me, fully suited. He knew I needed his support and he came although I didn't expect him to. If OP's partner cared, he would have made the effort. This half-assed attempt kind of makes me wonder if he's doing it on purpose to make OP break up with him.

Mixed Reality Portal
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought that too - or attention seeking... My date made the effort for me when I was going for surgery. He flew over unannounced and was waiting at the hospital the morning of my operation so I didn't go alone. He didn't have much money either but the effort he made was priceless. Like you say, it's not about money, it's about making the effort.

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Alexandra
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'It's fine-ish'. 'We have problems since 2020' 'Things get swept under the rug'. Why the heck are these people still together if one of them doesn't even want to make an effort to look presentable at the funeral of his partner's father?

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my brother died, my cousin was fifteen. She came to the funeral in a jeans skirt, a nice blouse, and sandals. None of it was black. She was fifteen. She showed up, looked nice, and participated. I was proud of her. If a fifteen year old can do it, an adult surely can.

Mike m
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My aunt and grandfather recently passed away. Black was not even the most popular color ar the 'celebration of life' Like you said, it's about looking nice.

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Ritchat
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"If he'd wanted to, he would" 100%. When my grandma died, I had a long distance boyfriend. We were dating for just 2 months, the funeral was during the week, he didn't have a lot of money for train tickets and he never met my grandma. He showed up for me, fully suited. He knew I needed his support and he came although I didn't expect him to. If OP's partner cared, he would have made the effort. This half-assed attempt kind of makes me wonder if he's doing it on purpose to make OP break up with him.

Mixed Reality Portal
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought that too - or attention seeking... My date made the effort for me when I was going for surgery. He flew over unannounced and was waiting at the hospital the morning of my operation so I didn't go alone. He didn't have much money either but the effort he made was priceless. Like you say, it's not about money, it's about making the effort.

Load More Replies...
Alexandra
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'It's fine-ish'. 'We have problems since 2020' 'Things get swept under the rug'. Why the heck are these people still together if one of them doesn't even want to make an effort to look presentable at the funeral of his partner's father?

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