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BF Is Fine With GF Working As Topless Maid To Pay For College, Dumps Her After Seeing Her In Uniform
Not everyone is fortunate enough to land their dream career. Some have to settle for any role as long as it gets their bills paid. And nobody should be judged for the kind of work they do provided that they are not forcing you to do the same thing. Because in the end, their basic needs are being met, so it’s their choice what kind of job they do.
Just like Reddit user, PerceptionFew2622, who worked as a topless maid and had already told her boyfriend about it. But 6 months later, when he saw her in uniform bottoms, he suddenly broke up!
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The poster of this story had a side hustle where she worked as a topless maid to pay for her graduation and not fall into debt
Image credits: freepik (not the actual photo)
She cleaned expensive houses of rich people wearing uniform bottoms, and there was some leering involved but she didn’t really mind it
Image credits: PerceptionFew2622
Image credits: freepik (not the actual photo)
Right on the second date, she told her boyfriend about her work, and even though he was skeptical in the beginning, he later said that he was fine with it
Image credits: PerceptionFew2622
Image credits: Mikhail Nilov (not the actual photo)
One day she had a dinner planned with her boyfriend and she came home late from work, but when she was changing into comfy clothes, he saw her in her uniform bottoms
Image credits: PerceptionFew2622
Image credits: Timur Weber (not the actual photo)
She felt that something in his face changed when he looked at her and then immediately broke up with her, leaving her in tears
Image credits: PerceptionFew2622
Over a call, when she asked him the reason, he said it was because of her job, then he went on to even shame her for it, completely breaking her heart
When the original poster (OP) went on a second date with her boyfriend, she told him that her side hustle was working as a topless maid to pay for semesters so she could graduate without debt. Well, he was a little skeptical about it, but later admitted that he was fine with it as long as it was not her life goal, which, of course, it wasn’t.
They were dating for six months and things were going really well for them, in fact, she felt that he was ‘the one’. But one night, the tables suddenly turned on their relationship. She had called him for dinner and as she came back from work, she took the coat off and he saw her in just her uniform bottoms.
She claimed that something changed in his face when he looked at her and he broke up with her there and then. OP was completely crushed by this, and any of us would be if we got dumped so suddenly, right? When he called her, she asked him the reason. He said it was because of the job.
This must have further added to her grief, but what was really upsetting was that he didn’t just judge her, he even shamed her because of her job. And then said, “You can’t even see this from my perspective, I actually loved you.” Wow, way to brutally break a person’s heart!
Well, she was already hurt and now also feeling confused, she sought advice online, asking Redditors whether she was in the wrong. And, like always, they didn’t disappoint, for they instantly came to her rescue, showering her with empathy and advice.
Image credits: Timur Weber (not the actual photo)
20% of all American adults with undergraduate degrees have outstanding student debt. And it has also been observed that “total student debt in the U.S. has nearly tripled in the past 15 years, from more than $619 billion in quarter one of 2008 to more than $1.77 trillion in quarter one of 2023. With this debt rising as average wages have fallen, many borrowers struggle to repay their student loans and are unable to pursue other life goals.”
If we look at the statistics, we can see that student loan debt can be quite high and it’s a massive challenge to pay it back. The poster was just trying to avoid being another student in debt paying away the other pleasures of life while also acquiring an education, just like the Redditors said.
They even mentioned that the boyfriend was not wrong for breaking up with her. After he saw her uniform bottoms, the complete impact of her job might have hit him and he might not be fine with it. However, he became the bad guy in the story after he shamed her for the job when he could’ve easily ended things. They said that the couple should’ve established boundaries to keep things healthy.
According to Psychology Today, “Healthy boundaries provide the freedom to express your needs and values while also honoring the needs and values of your partner. Setting boundaries is the essential antidote to codependency, a prerequisite for emotional well-being, and a learnable skill that determines the success and longevity of any relationship.”
It seems that what the Redditors highlighted was accurate. But sometimes, things just don’t work out, no matter what. Maybe, he wasn’t the right guy for the poster because, just like people said, he wouldn’t have shamed her and called her names if he truly loved her. Wouldn’t you agree? Also, if you were in a similar situation, what would you do? Let us know in the comments!
They said that she was not in the wrong, and it was fine for her boyfriend to change his mind about her work but he had no right to shame her for it
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Donkey boi 1 year ago
Not a lot to unpack here. Guy thinks he can handle something, finds out he can't, reacts badly. He's insecure.
SuperNovaToiletClog 1 year ago
Insecurity sucks. It really does. Makes you say and do stupid things. But that's not an excuse to treat someone poorly, especially someone who went out of their way to try and explain things BEFORE it became a problem.
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Bonesko 1 year ago (edited)
I'm actually considering this as a side job after reading this. I bust my a*s at my job and don't get paid as much as OP. And I get OP's boyfriend maybe not truly realizing what his girlfriend does. But calling her a sl*t, f**k that dude and good for her for paying off her loans and I hope she lives her best life
Ms.GB 1 year ago
Shoot if I were 15 years younger I might do it too and I can guarantee my husband would be okay with it if I was bringing home $1500 for a few hrs.
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Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 1 year ago
The OP is fooling herself that its not sexual. But that doesnt mean she should be called names for doing a job, and especially not after being broken up with it. That was just mean.
Ace 1 year ago
It's not sexual from her side. No contact, no innuendo, no pretence. And we have no reason to think her clients are masturbating while watching her clean around them. What they do later is their own business.
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JasonK 1 year ago
The bf was definitely a jerk, there was no need to be vitriolic. However, can we not normalize rich people paying girls to clean their house topless? People saying it's not sexual, it's just a job, etc. It's a free country and all, but most men would not want other men to pay to see their gf/wife topless.
Ouss Ben Aziza 1 year ago
Bro exactly this! And it is beyond men and women... if you wanna F an old person sure go ahead but if you are young adult and being exploited to get ahead in life that fued up... I know guys who did that. Got themselves sugar mommies to pay for basic needs in life. It is sex slavery that is what it is!
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somnomania (she/her, queer) 1 year ago
--unless she asks you to! consensual dirty talk is a thing.
Load More Replies... Ouss Ben Aziza 1 year ago
The bf is an idiot. I agree with her sentiment. That ios obvious. One thing here makes me super uncomfortable. Why does a young adult basically a kid feel the need sell their body in order to pay for college? Here is what i think about sex work. IT SHOULD NEVER FEEL LIKE AN OBLIGATION. If it is.. If you are FORCED to do it to put food on the table or to get educated. Then it is sex slavery in my mind. An unhinged concept that i cant support. if you have a job and a secure lifeand then do it as a "side hustle" then yeh!!! It makes sense you are not forced. But by FU*K sex work to pay for college.... NO! No human should have to do that! What kind of.... Uhh this is making me too angry. Not just uncomfortable. Knowing that millions of people do this... Not of passion but OUT OF NECESSITY! Fills me with vitriol...
somnomania (she/her, queer) 1 year ago
i understand where you're coming from, but she chose the job to pay for college. she could just as easily have picked waitressing or some more mundane job; no one forced her to take this job. she's comfortable enough with her body that the job works well for her, and pays well enough that she's not having to work multiple jobs just to break even every semester. good for her! if you want to be mad about something, be mad about how expensive schooling is, and the fact that it's necessary for people to work AND go to school at the same time just so they don't drown in debt.
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FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
He's not worth your time. It sucks to find that out, but better now than down the road.
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
NTA- NTA at all. I would think he'd be more upset if you were in a club doing something like this but this is not that kind of job. Besides you were upfront about it. You didn't keep it a secret from him. HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS GETTING INTO FROM THE BEGINNING!!!! If he couldn't accept it then he should have said so. A switch in his head would not have flipped all of the sudden. Is he that insecure that he believes that there's something more than cleaning going on? That's pathetic and a him problem, not a you problem. What he said to you is cruel and disgusting. You're working! You're paying for your education and school is extremely stressful and expensive. On top of that, you're avoiding debt. That's hard to accomplish along with school. Don't worry about this idiot. It's his loss. Be glad you found out now what a douchebag he really is. If he comes back and apologized and tries to win you back, DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK! With behavior like this, he is not an acceptable person to even consider. Judgmental, snotty ppl can pound sand.
Sunny Day 1 year ago
I usually clean house while nekkid. Why ruin clothes with harsh chemicals when skin is so easy to wash? I will admit that the washer is damn cold on the boobs when removing the last of the wet clothes.
Fussy1 1 year ago
I'm a bit vertically challenged, it's damn cold on the ta-tas regardless if I'm removing the first garment or the last!!
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Susie Elle 1 year ago (edited)
I gotta admit, you do you OP, but personally I find it so extremely strange that this is a thing. I'm not surprised, but I feel so weird that there are people who want to hire a girl for this and that there are women who will do this for money. I'm not a prude, I'm not religious and I don't mean to judge the person, I just kind of have a 'what have we come to?' feeling. I can't even explain why, so I guess I'm just being a hypocrite. That said, this is 100% a sexual service, which is okay, but OP needs to start being real with what it is that she's doing. In any case, she doesn't deserve being called names and I'm sure there's lots of men out there who are fine with her doing this work.
Rosie Hamilton 1 year ago
Is it that it feels like, why does our society value education so little that it's out of the reach of some people and they end up needing to do something like this? People perceive these kinds of things as harmless. For the most part, that's pretty much true. However, it perpetuates the idea in some mens minds that women are sexual objects that they can pay for and some men will devalue women on that basis (we all know that this problem is still rife). I don't have a problem with sex work, in itself, I'm no prude either. I dislike that these things will encourage certain groups of people to devalue others - whoever they are and whatever they do.
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 1 year ago
Not a lot to unpack here. Guy thinks he can handle something, finds out he can't, reacts badly. He's insecure.
SuperNovaToiletClog 1 year ago
Insecurity sucks. It really does. Makes you say and do stupid things. But that's not an excuse to treat someone poorly, especially someone who went out of their way to try and explain things BEFORE it became a problem.
Load More Replies... Bonesko 1 year ago (edited)
I'm actually considering this as a side job after reading this. I bust my a*s at my job and don't get paid as much as OP. And I get OP's boyfriend maybe not truly realizing what his girlfriend does. But calling her a sl*t, f**k that dude and good for her for paying off her loans and I hope she lives her best life
Ms.GB 1 year ago
Shoot if I were 15 years younger I might do it too and I can guarantee my husband would be okay with it if I was bringing home $1500 for a few hrs.
Load More Replies... Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 1 year ago
The OP is fooling herself that its not sexual. But that doesnt mean she should be called names for doing a job, and especially not after being broken up with it. That was just mean.
Ace 1 year ago
It's not sexual from her side. No contact, no innuendo, no pretence. And we have no reason to think her clients are masturbating while watching her clean around them. What they do later is their own business.
Load More Replies... JasonK 1 year ago
The bf was definitely a jerk, there was no need to be vitriolic. However, can we not normalize rich people paying girls to clean their house topless? People saying it's not sexual, it's just a job, etc. It's a free country and all, but most men would not want other men to pay to see their gf/wife topless.
Ouss Ben Aziza 1 year ago
Bro exactly this! And it is beyond men and women... if you wanna F an old person sure go ahead but if you are young adult and being exploited to get ahead in life that fued up... I know guys who did that. Got themselves sugar mommies to pay for basic needs in life. It is sex slavery that is what it is!
Load More Replies... somnomania (she/her, queer) 1 year ago
--unless she asks you to! consensual dirty talk is a thing.
Load More Replies... Ouss Ben Aziza 1 year ago
The bf is an idiot. I agree with her sentiment. That ios obvious. One thing here makes me super uncomfortable. Why does a young adult basically a kid feel the need sell their body in order to pay for college? Here is what i think about sex work. IT SHOULD NEVER FEEL LIKE AN OBLIGATION. If it is.. If you are FORCED to do it to put food on the table or to get educated. Then it is sex slavery in my mind. An unhinged concept that i cant support. if you have a job and a secure lifeand then do it as a "side hustle" then yeh!!! It makes sense you are not forced. But by FU*K sex work to pay for college.... NO! No human should have to do that! What kind of.... Uhh this is making me too angry. Not just uncomfortable. Knowing that millions of people do this... Not of passion but OUT OF NECESSITY! Fills me with vitriol...
somnomania (she/her, queer) 1 year ago
i understand where you're coming from, but she chose the job to pay for college. she could just as easily have picked waitressing or some more mundane job; no one forced her to take this job. she's comfortable enough with her body that the job works well for her, and pays well enough that she's not having to work multiple jobs just to break even every semester. good for her! if you want to be mad about something, be mad about how expensive schooling is, and the fact that it's necessary for people to work AND go to school at the same time just so they don't drown in debt.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
He's not worth your time. It sucks to find that out, but better now than down the road.
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
NTA- NTA at all. I would think he'd be more upset if you were in a club doing something like this but this is not that kind of job. Besides you were upfront about it. You didn't keep it a secret from him. HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS GETTING INTO FROM THE BEGINNING!!!! If he couldn't accept it then he should have said so. A switch in his head would not have flipped all of the sudden. Is he that insecure that he believes that there's something more than cleaning going on? That's pathetic and a him problem, not a you problem. What he said to you is cruel and disgusting. You're working! You're paying for your education and school is extremely stressful and expensive. On top of that, you're avoiding debt. That's hard to accomplish along with school. Don't worry about this idiot. It's his loss. Be glad you found out now what a douchebag he really is. If he comes back and apologized and tries to win you back, DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK! With behavior like this, he is not an acceptable person to even consider. Judgmental, snotty ppl can pound sand.
Sunny Day 1 year ago
I usually clean house while nekkid. Why ruin clothes with harsh chemicals when skin is so easy to wash? I will admit that the washer is damn cold on the boobs when removing the last of the wet clothes.
Fussy1 1 year ago
I'm a bit vertically challenged, it's damn cold on the ta-tas regardless if I'm removing the first garment or the last!!
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 1 year ago (edited)
I gotta admit, you do you OP, but personally I find it so extremely strange that this is a thing. I'm not surprised, but I feel so weird that there are people who want to hire a girl for this and that there are women who will do this for money. I'm not a prude, I'm not religious and I don't mean to judge the person, I just kind of have a 'what have we come to?' feeling. I can't even explain why, so I guess I'm just being a hypocrite. That said, this is 100% a sexual service, which is okay, but OP needs to start being real with what it is that she's doing. In any case, she doesn't deserve being called names and I'm sure there's lots of men out there who are fine with her doing this work.
Rosie Hamilton 1 year ago
Is it that it feels like, why does our society value education so little that it's out of the reach of some people and they end up needing to do something like this? People perceive these kinds of things as harmless. For the most part, that's pretty much true. However, it perpetuates the idea in some mens minds that women are sexual objects that they can pay for and some men will devalue women on that basis (we all know that this problem is still rife). I don't have a problem with sex work, in itself, I'm no prude either. I dislike that these things will encourage certain groups of people to devalue others - whoever they are and whatever they do.
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