Person Appalled As GF’s Racist Parents Roast Their Restaurant And Tell Her To Get A “White Man”
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But Reddit user MakesS**tGood faced heat from their girlfriend’s racist parents when they said that everything, including garlic, was spicy at their Mexican restaurant. The original poster (OP) was dumbfounded as they had themselves customized the spice levels as per the girlfriend’s parents’ preference.
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The poster of this story is a non-binary Mexican-American who invited their white girlfriend’s parents to their Mexican restaurant
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They alerted the restaurant accordingly and were aware about which food items didn’t have any spice in them, as her parents’ spice tolerance was not too high
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The parents arrived 30 minutes late and didn’t apologize for it, but the poster also realized their transphobia after the father’s derogatory statement
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They also found the food spicy despite there being zero spice in it, then they started questioning the poster about their identity, while the father made intolerable comments
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The mom also refused to eat anything else after stating that she found the garlic in the food spicy while the dad said that he was not going to pay for it
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The father ordered a “gringo burger” at the Mexican restaurant and kept raving about how good it was
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The poster was dumbfounded as even the burger had garlic when initially they thought garlic was spicy
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Later, the elderly couple called their daughter and begged her to find a “white guy”, completely exposing their racism and homophobia
Today’s story throws a light on how a non-binary restaurant owner faced bigotry from their girlfriend’s racist parents. OP told us that they own a Mexican restaurant and invited their girlfriend, Emily’s, parents over there to meet for the first time. As they are white and OP is a Mexican-American, they alerted the restaurant staff about it and made every recipe to match the elderly couple’s spice preferences.
That sounds very thoughtful of OP, doesn’t it? Little did they know about the things that would unfold. First of all, the elderly couple was late by 30 minutes and didn’t even apologize for it. Her dad also made a transphobic comment about the beer and Emily was embarrassed by it. But things just kept escalating after that.
They started shooting questions about OP’s gender identity but the poster didn’t mind explaining it to them. Then her dad brought up how men have been beating women at the Olympics. The poster tried their best to explain the baseless rumors, but the father was of a firm opinion that it was all a “ploy to set back women’s rights”. It all sounds really infuriating, to be honest!
But the worst was yet to come, for things just unraveled after the food came. They found everything to be spicy, even the food items that didn’t have any spice in them. The father declared that he was not going to pay for this, which sounds ridiculous as it was OP’s restaurant and they had invited them.
The mother stated that she was disgusted at being offered such spicy food and claimed that it was the garlic in it that was too spicy for her. And she refused to eat anything else after that. OP was simply dumbfounded by this, as anyone would be.
Later their girlfriend told them that after going home, her parents called her and begged her to find a “white man”. Although she apologized to them, OP must’ve been annoyed by the blatant racism and homophobia and vented on Reddit.
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Netizens were outraged by the parents’ bigotry and they claimed that they had decided that the food was spicy before they even got to the restaurant. They said that the parents’ prejudice was so strong that no matter how mild the food was, they wouldn’t have cared about it, so there was nothing that OP could’ve done.
According to Verywell Mind, “When people hold prejudicial attitudes toward others, they tend to view everyone who fits into a certain group as being ‘all the same.’ They paint every individual who holds particular characteristics or beliefs with a very broad brush and fail to really look at each person as a unique individual.” Seems like that’s just what the couple did.
People online also mocked the couple for finding garlic spicy, and they stated that the couple didn’t understand the difference between spice and flavor. To get some culinary expertise, Bored Panda interviewed Sakshi Kulkarni, who’s a chef at the 5-star restaurant Soho House in Mumbai. Apart from Indian food, she also has experience cooking Mexican and Italian cuisine.
She said, “Every culture has a different type of spice tolerance. It is important to inform the guest beforehand about the spice level according to the dish being served.” In the poster’s situation, though, it seems that they were pretty considerate with the recipes for the couple’s spice levels.
Folks also commented on how the father ordered a “gringo burger” at a Mexican restaurant and even OP was weirded out by this. Sakshi explained that balancing authenticity with local preferences can be tough at times. However, it’s a crucial part of attracting local customers. But, if the food is not appreciated, even if it’s good, just because of prejudice, it can be quite insulting. OP’s annoyance at being insulted is quite understandable.
When we asked Sakshi about how her restaurant deals with unhappy customers, she said, “We first understand what problem they found with a food item and make changes accordingly. But if a customer has decided that they are not going to like the food, there’s not much a chef or even the restaurant owner can do about it.”
Looks like what the Redditors said about how OP couldn’t have done anything is quite true. Because people sick with racism and homophobia often fail to see reason. Wouldn’t you agree? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
The Redditors empathized with the poster and claimed that the couple had decided that the food was spicy even before they came to the restaurant
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"Come on Alice. Let's leave this den of sin, watch Fox News on the couch, and drink a quart of ranch dressing."
Nah, ranch is too spicy for them 😂
Load More Replies...I am nearly80 year old, and therefore earlier than a "boomer", and my children are in their fifties. I'm afraid I take mild offence at classing all older people as "boomers". Also I have never in my life had any racial hatred or dislike for anyone, I am just so interested in people from a different lifestyle, and love to learn. My parents were, I found out in college when I was dating a Kenyan Indian, quite racist. I have never understood racism, but I do object to the ageism that lumps all us older people together.
I love that Bob's bigoted boycott against Budweiser caused him to order a Modelo. Both brands are owned by the same company, AB InBev.
That is not totally correct. In the US InBev is not legally allowed to have any level of ownership in Modelo, it is owned by Constellation Brands, and there are all sorts of legal things to prevent InBev from making any profit off the US division. It was the only way they were legally allowed to purchase it, bc the US DOJ filed an anti-trust suit to prevent Modelo's purchase. This was the agreement made with the US govt. So, in the US, it is separate from InBev in every capacity.
Load More Replies..." I don´t drink beer that doesn´t know what a woman is" What does that even mean? And OP: Why are you offering a burger in your restaurant if you are that surprised that somebody actually ordered it?
I assume he's referring to when Bud Light put an image of a trans person on their cans and all their redneck, republican customers got all bent out of shape. And I agree about the burger. They put it on the menu and then are dumbfounded when someone orders it?
Load More Replies...Am I the only one who sees the irony in OP complaining about the parents being bigoted (which they are), but then says "Boomers don't have logic"? It brings to mind that old phrase about pots and kettles.
The saddest part is that this attitude has somehow permeated as the “white” thing/how to act white. I’m white, but was adopted at birth into a Mexican family. I grew up eating spicy foods and I love them. (Salsa verde on pork is probably my favorite.) My mother, who has become weirdly ashamed of “being a Mexican” over the course of my life, has been bleaching her hair blond since before I was born, used to wear colored contacts, and has, over years, started to “tolerate” spicy food less and less. (She had no problems in my childhood and loved it.) But for some reason, she perceives that white people “don’t like” Mexican spice, so she’s started to pretend? lie to herself? that she doesn’t like it. Maybe tastes can change (I know you can RAISE your spicy tolerance) but it seems so weird to me, who was raised as a Mexican, to watch my mom become more and more like Emily’s parents.
You can, sadly, lose your tolerance to spicy as well. When I was younger, if my food didn't make me feel like I'd drunk lava then it wasn't spicy enough. Over my 30s my tolerance started tanking, and these days anything stronger than a thai red curry has me in pain for a few days.
Load More Replies...Downvoted and stopped reading after the "Boomers don't have logic" dig. Grow up and stop stereotyping people YOU don't like it when people do it to you, and neither do we.
I stopped reading because this sounds like fan-fic. 1) I doubt the parents are Boomers with a kid in their twenties. 2) I can't imagine a person in a relationship like that would bring their bigoted, ignorant family to their SO's ethnic restaurant. I didn't get far, but did they tell them off and everybody clap?
What did it for me is the comment about the burger. This is OPs restaurant. They have a hand in creating the menu. THEY are the ones that put a burger on the menu, but then they're judging someone for ordering it? Or as they say, "it's strange." Clearly they know it isn't that strange if it was worth putting on their menu. You wouldn't include a menu item you didn't expect people to actually order. This is fiction.
Load More Replies...The OP seems as bigoted as the father.... "Boomers don't have logic", doesn't understand why anyone would order a burger at a Mexican restaurant "no judgement" (while judging and it was on the menu). I call ETA.
If the couple are 28 years old each, their parents are probably "Generation X" rather than "Boomers."
Not necessarily. My grandma had my mom when all her other kids were upper teens(gma was 40ish) whereas my mom had me when she was 17
Load More Replies...Why do some people collect bs like this as if it Pokemons? Notice how racism and homophobia goes hand in hand. Why is that? What is the link? Lack of the concept of "live and let live?" Want to control and things to be simple? Stupid people that cannot understand complexity so they surrender themselves to simple rules that make sense? By that reasoning it would be just an emerging pattern in low IQ humans. But there are people who are not blessed with intelligence that are not a******s. So it cant be that. Sometimes trauma can be the cause of wanting simplified rules... I don't get it. If someone has an explanation why the unhinged phobias and extremism go hand in hand help me out.
I give them that they are entitled to their beliefs and can say anything they want in private. But flagrantly misbehaving like that because their adult child is with someone with characteristics they don't like is the epitome of tw@td0m. Can't even put on their game face and be civil for the sake of their own child. I can only hope they see a bald eagle and salute it long enough to drive their car into a lake. Them's some real 'Muricans, right there.
Load More Replies...This will probably be unpopular but OP's letter is dripping in bigotry. If the goal was tolerance, this was 180 degree off base. "Boomers" "white people" "intolerance of spicy preferences is weird", "It's weird to get a burger at a mexican place, despite the fact that my mexican place has burgers on the menu." I'd go with ESH here.
I can understand your annoyance at most of this, but "white" people? Am I the only white person who thinks that "white" is an acceptable term for white people? I don't use "Caucasian", because there is an area of Asia known as the Caucasus and there are folks who live there.
Load More Replies...OP complains that the Father ordered a Gringo burger, but OP created the menu and named the burger themself. Also, Gringo is a racist term for Whites. Clearly OP enjoyed pushing the envelop to make them uncomfortable and was looking for an excuse to find fault. (Why offer a lengthy explanation of NB?) Newsflash: Fathers will (almost) always find reasons not to like their daughter's suitors. OP seemed to have no interest in making a positive impression on her parents, as most people do if they really like someone.
He had a burger on the menu and was kinda annoyed that people order it? Make it make sense, please. The parents were idiots, no doubt. But that burger thing made no sense to me.
I wish younger folks would cut out that "Boomer" s**t. it gotten tired. Repetitive. Unimaginative. Boring.
If boomers weren't like that, younger people wouldn't be calling them out on it. Either fix yourselves or live with it.
Load More Replies...To be fair, some people just don't like Mexican food. When I take my students to Mexican restaurants, there's usually one or two who order burgers or chicken nuggets because they don't enjoy Mexican cuisine. I don't think that was the case here, though.
The best burger I've ever eaten was in Mexico. They didn't know the English word for the meat but 'like horse, but not horse, much smaller', lead me to think deer. I really should have learned some Spanish before I went.
What area of Mexico was it? I’m white af but was adopted into a Mexican family at birth and I have a lot of relatives in various parts of Mexico. Depending on the location, it could have been goat or possibly pronghorn antelope, both of which are commonly eaten. The only reason why I think maybe not deer is that deer meat is very low in fat, so it’s hard to form and cook a patty with its meat XD (Donkey/burro is actually consumed commonly in South America, too, actually, but it’s not as common in Mexico.)
Load More Replies...They were just looking for (or inventing) reasons not to like you. And their lateness, rudeness and combative attitude was an attempt to sabotage this first "meet the parents" dinner in the hopes that their daughter would get into a fight with you, and date a white man's man. So you know that they're total a******s, but in regard to your question, I have a problem with spiciness. But spice is not always what you think it is. I have an actual allergy to Black pepper. I get physically ill. One of the warning signs is a burning on my tongue, down my esophagus, in my stomach, it feels like my digestive tract has been lit on fire. It's only pepper. The kind of pepper that you would grind into the food or put on the table. Not spicy pepper. But to me, it has the same effect. Ginger and garlic, they have a little bit of a feel on your tongue, some people think that's spicy. Some people think vinegar is spicy. It's not spice, it's just "non bland", but some people can't tell the difference.
He think they are transphobic, but right after he insulted all boomers... I guess people are always happy to normalise the hate when they agree with the idea, they just don't like it when they are the one targeted by stereotypical hate.
Coming from one of those types of white families: yes any flavour will be considered spicy. Racism is probably a factor as 🙄
I'm going to start this by saying that ageism is a thing and it's not cool. People are people, and I don't like ignorant people lumping me with douchebag Gen X'ers just because of my age. Get real here. Now that that is off my chest, those parents are a couple of @$$holes, plain and simple. F3ck them and their bigoted actions. Emily may be a decent human being (though for me, a cynical misanthrope, the jury would be out for a while), but I would see no reason to ever deal with those c\/nts ever again. All people have to do is be nice, even if they disagree, but apparently that's too f3cking hard for some members of the species.
The parents are horrid!!! No question! But in defense of Boomers, one here!!! We are a straight, white couple, married over 40 years! We proudly display the Gay Pride/Trans flag, The BLM flag, as well as others!! We are strong allies in our community, business owners who do as much as possible to promote awareness, acceptance and inclusion of all and to discourage hate. Please don't put all Boomers in the same clueless, haters category. Many of us are here for you!! ♡♡♡
It's not getting any better from there. I dated an American woman, and her parents were liberals and liked to believe they weren't racist. But the stuff they said to me was so condescending. "Oh, so you have toilets in your country?" No, we just s**t on our hands and use it to make soup. "Isn't it nice you can't keep your house so clean. Did you learn that recently?" Yeah, back in my country we lived with the pigs and goats. So dumb
There is nothing spicy about garlic, or most Mexican food, unless said food is ordered spicy intentionally. (Which I do; I adore spicy food-- give me extra gojuchang, hot sauce, hot peppers, scorch my mouth and throat if you want me to praise your cooking and you claim it's spicy.) Claiming that standard guacomole or normal mild enchilladas are spicy is nothing but racism and blatantly asinine behavior.
"Come on Alice. Let's leave this den of sin, watch Fox News on the couch, and drink a quart of ranch dressing."
Nah, ranch is too spicy for them 😂
Load More Replies...I am nearly80 year old, and therefore earlier than a "boomer", and my children are in their fifties. I'm afraid I take mild offence at classing all older people as "boomers". Also I have never in my life had any racial hatred or dislike for anyone, I am just so interested in people from a different lifestyle, and love to learn. My parents were, I found out in college when I was dating a Kenyan Indian, quite racist. I have never understood racism, but I do object to the ageism that lumps all us older people together.
I love that Bob's bigoted boycott against Budweiser caused him to order a Modelo. Both brands are owned by the same company, AB InBev.
That is not totally correct. In the US InBev is not legally allowed to have any level of ownership in Modelo, it is owned by Constellation Brands, and there are all sorts of legal things to prevent InBev from making any profit off the US division. It was the only way they were legally allowed to purchase it, bc the US DOJ filed an anti-trust suit to prevent Modelo's purchase. This was the agreement made with the US govt. So, in the US, it is separate from InBev in every capacity.
Load More Replies..." I don´t drink beer that doesn´t know what a woman is" What does that even mean? And OP: Why are you offering a burger in your restaurant if you are that surprised that somebody actually ordered it?
I assume he's referring to when Bud Light put an image of a trans person on their cans and all their redneck, republican customers got all bent out of shape. And I agree about the burger. They put it on the menu and then are dumbfounded when someone orders it?
Load More Replies...Am I the only one who sees the irony in OP complaining about the parents being bigoted (which they are), but then says "Boomers don't have logic"? It brings to mind that old phrase about pots and kettles.
The saddest part is that this attitude has somehow permeated as the “white” thing/how to act white. I’m white, but was adopted at birth into a Mexican family. I grew up eating spicy foods and I love them. (Salsa verde on pork is probably my favorite.) My mother, who has become weirdly ashamed of “being a Mexican” over the course of my life, has been bleaching her hair blond since before I was born, used to wear colored contacts, and has, over years, started to “tolerate” spicy food less and less. (She had no problems in my childhood and loved it.) But for some reason, she perceives that white people “don’t like” Mexican spice, so she’s started to pretend? lie to herself? that she doesn’t like it. Maybe tastes can change (I know you can RAISE your spicy tolerance) but it seems so weird to me, who was raised as a Mexican, to watch my mom become more and more like Emily’s parents.
You can, sadly, lose your tolerance to spicy as well. When I was younger, if my food didn't make me feel like I'd drunk lava then it wasn't spicy enough. Over my 30s my tolerance started tanking, and these days anything stronger than a thai red curry has me in pain for a few days.
Load More Replies...Downvoted and stopped reading after the "Boomers don't have logic" dig. Grow up and stop stereotyping people YOU don't like it when people do it to you, and neither do we.
I stopped reading because this sounds like fan-fic. 1) I doubt the parents are Boomers with a kid in their twenties. 2) I can't imagine a person in a relationship like that would bring their bigoted, ignorant family to their SO's ethnic restaurant. I didn't get far, but did they tell them off and everybody clap?
What did it for me is the comment about the burger. This is OPs restaurant. They have a hand in creating the menu. THEY are the ones that put a burger on the menu, but then they're judging someone for ordering it? Or as they say, "it's strange." Clearly they know it isn't that strange if it was worth putting on their menu. You wouldn't include a menu item you didn't expect people to actually order. This is fiction.
Load More Replies...The OP seems as bigoted as the father.... "Boomers don't have logic", doesn't understand why anyone would order a burger at a Mexican restaurant "no judgement" (while judging and it was on the menu). I call ETA.
If the couple are 28 years old each, their parents are probably "Generation X" rather than "Boomers."
Not necessarily. My grandma had my mom when all her other kids were upper teens(gma was 40ish) whereas my mom had me when she was 17
Load More Replies...Why do some people collect bs like this as if it Pokemons? Notice how racism and homophobia goes hand in hand. Why is that? What is the link? Lack of the concept of "live and let live?" Want to control and things to be simple? Stupid people that cannot understand complexity so they surrender themselves to simple rules that make sense? By that reasoning it would be just an emerging pattern in low IQ humans. But there are people who are not blessed with intelligence that are not a******s. So it cant be that. Sometimes trauma can be the cause of wanting simplified rules... I don't get it. If someone has an explanation why the unhinged phobias and extremism go hand in hand help me out.
I give them that they are entitled to their beliefs and can say anything they want in private. But flagrantly misbehaving like that because their adult child is with someone with characteristics they don't like is the epitome of tw@td0m. Can't even put on their game face and be civil for the sake of their own child. I can only hope they see a bald eagle and salute it long enough to drive their car into a lake. Them's some real 'Muricans, right there.
Load More Replies...This will probably be unpopular but OP's letter is dripping in bigotry. If the goal was tolerance, this was 180 degree off base. "Boomers" "white people" "intolerance of spicy preferences is weird", "It's weird to get a burger at a mexican place, despite the fact that my mexican place has burgers on the menu." I'd go with ESH here.
I can understand your annoyance at most of this, but "white" people? Am I the only white person who thinks that "white" is an acceptable term for white people? I don't use "Caucasian", because there is an area of Asia known as the Caucasus and there are folks who live there.
Load More Replies...OP complains that the Father ordered a Gringo burger, but OP created the menu and named the burger themself. Also, Gringo is a racist term for Whites. Clearly OP enjoyed pushing the envelop to make them uncomfortable and was looking for an excuse to find fault. (Why offer a lengthy explanation of NB?) Newsflash: Fathers will (almost) always find reasons not to like their daughter's suitors. OP seemed to have no interest in making a positive impression on her parents, as most people do if they really like someone.
He had a burger on the menu and was kinda annoyed that people order it? Make it make sense, please. The parents were idiots, no doubt. But that burger thing made no sense to me.
I wish younger folks would cut out that "Boomer" s**t. it gotten tired. Repetitive. Unimaginative. Boring.
If boomers weren't like that, younger people wouldn't be calling them out on it. Either fix yourselves or live with it.
Load More Replies...To be fair, some people just don't like Mexican food. When I take my students to Mexican restaurants, there's usually one or two who order burgers or chicken nuggets because they don't enjoy Mexican cuisine. I don't think that was the case here, though.
The best burger I've ever eaten was in Mexico. They didn't know the English word for the meat but 'like horse, but not horse, much smaller', lead me to think deer. I really should have learned some Spanish before I went.
What area of Mexico was it? I’m white af but was adopted into a Mexican family at birth and I have a lot of relatives in various parts of Mexico. Depending on the location, it could have been goat or possibly pronghorn antelope, both of which are commonly eaten. The only reason why I think maybe not deer is that deer meat is very low in fat, so it’s hard to form and cook a patty with its meat XD (Donkey/burro is actually consumed commonly in South America, too, actually, but it’s not as common in Mexico.)
Load More Replies...They were just looking for (or inventing) reasons not to like you. And their lateness, rudeness and combative attitude was an attempt to sabotage this first "meet the parents" dinner in the hopes that their daughter would get into a fight with you, and date a white man's man. So you know that they're total a******s, but in regard to your question, I have a problem with spiciness. But spice is not always what you think it is. I have an actual allergy to Black pepper. I get physically ill. One of the warning signs is a burning on my tongue, down my esophagus, in my stomach, it feels like my digestive tract has been lit on fire. It's only pepper. The kind of pepper that you would grind into the food or put on the table. Not spicy pepper. But to me, it has the same effect. Ginger and garlic, they have a little bit of a feel on your tongue, some people think that's spicy. Some people think vinegar is spicy. It's not spice, it's just "non bland", but some people can't tell the difference.
He think they are transphobic, but right after he insulted all boomers... I guess people are always happy to normalise the hate when they agree with the idea, they just don't like it when they are the one targeted by stereotypical hate.
Coming from one of those types of white families: yes any flavour will be considered spicy. Racism is probably a factor as 🙄
I'm going to start this by saying that ageism is a thing and it's not cool. People are people, and I don't like ignorant people lumping me with douchebag Gen X'ers just because of my age. Get real here. Now that that is off my chest, those parents are a couple of @$$holes, plain and simple. F3ck them and their bigoted actions. Emily may be a decent human being (though for me, a cynical misanthrope, the jury would be out for a while), but I would see no reason to ever deal with those c\/nts ever again. All people have to do is be nice, even if they disagree, but apparently that's too f3cking hard for some members of the species.
The parents are horrid!!! No question! But in defense of Boomers, one here!!! We are a straight, white couple, married over 40 years! We proudly display the Gay Pride/Trans flag, The BLM flag, as well as others!! We are strong allies in our community, business owners who do as much as possible to promote awareness, acceptance and inclusion of all and to discourage hate. Please don't put all Boomers in the same clueless, haters category. Many of us are here for you!! ♡♡♡
It's not getting any better from there. I dated an American woman, and her parents were liberals and liked to believe they weren't racist. But the stuff they said to me was so condescending. "Oh, so you have toilets in your country?" No, we just s**t on our hands and use it to make soup. "Isn't it nice you can't keep your house so clean. Did you learn that recently?" Yeah, back in my country we lived with the pigs and goats. So dumb
There is nothing spicy about garlic, or most Mexican food, unless said food is ordered spicy intentionally. (Which I do; I adore spicy food-- give me extra gojuchang, hot sauce, hot peppers, scorch my mouth and throat if you want me to praise your cooking and you claim it's spicy.) Claiming that standard guacomole or normal mild enchilladas are spicy is nothing but racism and blatantly asinine behavior.
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