“Come And Arrest Him”: Boomer Attacks A Dad Because Child Looks Nothing Like Him
InterviewSome people seem to always be interested in other people’s business, whether it’s someone they know or have just met.
For this redditor, it was a random woman in a homeware store who started talking to him about his daughter, asking if he was babysitting the child. When he said “she’s my daughter”, the woman could not believe him and started yelling for security, just because the little one didn’t look much like her father.
Bored Panda has reached out to the OP and he was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. Scroll down to find his thoughts in the text below.
Some individuals are keen on getting themselves involved in other people’s business
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An elderly woman couldn’t believe a child can look nothing like their parent, so she called security on this father
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Generational differences might be one of the possible causes for similar occurrences
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In a recent interview with Bored Panda, the OP shared that encounters like the one he described in the story don’t happen too often. “This is the first time it’s happened to this severity,” he said, adding that what upset him the most was the fact that if his wife wasn’t there, the situation could have turned out differently.
“[Baby boomers] seem to have some sort of vigilante complex,” the redditor noted. According to him, said generation doesn’t really have the capacity to accept change, while “younger generations welcome change, as change is progress”.
The difficulty accepting change might be related to the significant shift in, well… more or less everything in life, if we were to compare the periods of baby boomers in their youth and the life of young adults now. Take millennials, for instance; currently the largest generation there is (preceded closely by Gen Z and baby boomers respectively, based on 2022 data), they seem to have different views or goals from those of baby boomers.
According to the Pew Research Center, millennials are better-educated and less eager to get married or start a family young. In addition to that, they have reportedly brought more racial and ethnic diversity to society and more women into the workforce, as the females of the millennial generation—as well as their Generation X counterparts—“are more likely to participate in the nation’s workforce than prior generations”.
Many baby boomers have likely feared for the safety of their own children due to ‘stranger danger’ in the 1980s
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Another thing baby boomers and younger generations might not have in common, in addition to the differences in lifestyle and their environment, is the fear related to the so-called ‘stranger danger’. Possibly one of the reasons behind the baby boomers’ vigilante complex the OP mentioned, stranger danger was a phenomena based on heightened societal concern over the number of missing children in the US and the UK back in the 1980s.
According to research on the alarming phenomenon, before said time, stories about kids going missing would rarely make the national news, but that changed after the highly publicized coverage of a few cases between late 1970s and early 1980s. The research suggests that, “Increasing national media coverage and political attention fueled parental and societal concern about the possibility of an epidemic of missing kids”.
Chances are, having lived through the disturbing time herself, the woman in the OP’s story remained vigilant and concerned about children going missing. However, being fearful does not justify viewing every person with a child as a threat to said child or believing that every kid that does not look a lot like their parent isn’t actually theirs.
Fellow netizens shared their thoughts and discussed their own experiences in the comments
Yet another "Boomers are all bad" article. I think many of us have mentioned that this has become a slam against older people. I have seen similar behaviour in younger people but never once have I thought to tar them all with the same brush. Do better, Miglė Miliūtė, please.
Yeah - I'm not a boomer but I'm fed up with these stories. That sort of behaviour might be based in racism, but racism isn't limited to one specific generation.
Load More Replies...Did the lady think kidnappers bring strollers and then stop to browse in a hardware store when they kidnap?
My husband was questioned about our screaming toddler in his arms. She was well on the way to a full tantrum while at a shopping mall, so we agreed he take her for a walk to the car, and I would meet him there shortly. What's the problem with that? My husband and I are Caucasian and our daughter was adopted from China. Thankfully the "concerned" stranger accepted his explanation, but thinking about it afterwards he had no proof on him at all that he is her legal father. It's not like we have the adoption papers on us 24/7.
Here's a famous French song from 1961 which says that when you're an idiot, you're an idiot, regardless your age https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3iDZhZzdFI Stop generation-shaming
When you've earned the shame, you get to deal with it. Change your behavior and if "clutch the pearls" it was never ever you, reprimand your birth cohort because they never got the message. Lay into them why you're upset you get saddled with their bad behavior.
Load More Replies...Are we doing this with Millenial and Gen X? If we get another "Gen X is lazy" Article can we all agree to report it en mass?
Load More Replies...Can we do better and please stop labeling and slamming entire generations?. Not everyone of a similar age, gender, religion, ethnicity, ect behaves or thinks the same way. It's called bias and is one of the reasons there are so many issues today.
Or we can just call out the generation of each of these attacks and see which generation gets the most hits
Load More Replies...Enough with the anti-boomer c**p. She's a jackass and an asshat, that's all that matters FFS. I guess the anti-boomer stuff has replaced the anti-American stuff though...
No it doesn't, if you can identify a problem you can correct said problem. It is a generational cultural behavior that is not see widely in other generations. Fix the problem
Load More Replies...You're named after the baby boom after ww2 get over it, you think gen x was thrilled you all called them pos lazy slackers for decades? Especially since in reality that was never true? Suck it up buttercup
Load More Replies...I'm a Jewish boomer who married a black girl, although she was more chocolate than black. Our beautiful daughter is a combination of the two of us. We are the generation that wholey accepted interracial marriage, and fought for equal rights. Maybe the first generation that passed The Civil Rights laws. Stop calling us racist. We did more than any other generation to promote equal rights, including the right to marry the person you loved, skin color be damned!
The mere fact that you HAD to be the "first" means the prevalent culture was contrary to your ideals. Meaning most of your generation was against such things, the zeitgeist for your generation was racism and other horrid s**t I am glad though, that you were above it and brave enough to change the following generation's views, my parents were also interracial.
Load More Replies...This is boomerphobia. Imagine that instead of boomer you use black or Latino. It would be a text embroidering racism
Now if only you'd do this on all the articles that call out millenials or Gen X...
Load More Replies...Are there really so many ignorant people who think that those of us born in the post WW2 years are unaware of mixed race marriages? Our generation BEGAN the 20th century trend. Go watch the wonderful film Guess Who's Coming to Dinner. Sure, racists abound but an entire generation is not the cause.
Ok people. I understand the Boomer hate, I really do, but not all of us are racist, self-centered a$$holes. Unfortunately, more than a few people I went to school with are like this. Honestly, I can't understand it, but I don't even try anymore. Don't judge us all, please.
Again oh no it's a Boomer, PLEASE We are not all the same, but that is all you read. Now as soon as they mention Boomer I don't bother reading, WHY BOTHER BOOMERS GET BLAMED AS ALL IN
Why were Millenails all blamed for destroying every industry?
Load More Replies...This kind of worthless divisive BS is so tedious. NEWSFLASH - Obnoxious racists come in all age groups. Would this be okay if it was a person of color and we said, "Typical black person"? No. This isn't okay either, though it's very popular right now. Just like race isn't a monolith, neither is age. All it really proves is prejudice, sadly, is well represented in every generation.
I've had similar things happen to me, though not to this extreme. But the comments or looks I get when I'm in public holding my kids hands sometimes is too much to bear. I'm white, my wife is latina, and my kids naturally look like her, with beautiful tanned skin, dark eyes and dark hair. People cannot comprehend I'm their dad, and want to be a hero all the time trying to interfere with me playing with my kids at a park or beach or whatever it is.
My husband is Italian, has medium brown hair, olive skin and brown eyes. My hair was strawberry blonde and I have brown eyes, but everyone in my family had blue eyes except my dad and my grandmother (his mom). Both of our sons have dark blonde hair and blue eyes. I have had the "joy" of explaining this to many people over the years who still look at me like I had an affair. Most people just don't understand genetics and how dominant and recessive genes work.
NO is a perfectly acceptable answer. OP really should have just said "NO" to the babysitting question, THEN gotten a manager for being harassed by this woman and been done with it. No commotion needed to be started.
Some people are just stupid and crazy. It's not a generational thing. Quit pitting people and generations against each other. All generations can learn something positive from each generation.
Brown eyes are the dominant gene, so I'm surprised the daughter didn't inherit that but anything can happen. My aunts have blonde hair and brown eyes.
Indeed, but eye inheritance is more complex than a simple dominant vs recessive. For examples, green and hazel. One of my kids is blonde with brown eyes. The other has nearly black hair and grey/hazel eyes. Full sibs of dark haired parents, one with brown eyes and the other with brown/amber/green eyes. But a grandparent on each side has blue. Fun to see how any some-day kids may come up.
Load More Replies...I got the opposite of this when I was much younger. I'm a complete WASP and I'd take my friend Thandi (Zulu) with me places (I was 9 years older than her but I'd babysit her sometimes - BTW this was very unusual during apartheid) and people would ask me if she was my daughter! Which would mean I'd have given birth to her when I was NINE (and no, I didn't look older than my age). Honestly.
The mother of my children had a child before them, but I accepted her as my own since she was 10 months ... my slight fear was having anybody think that she was "napped" while in my custody ... thankfully, nothing has happened ... I live in NYC so blended families tend to be accepted, but I can't imagine what this parent went through ...
My sister looks nothing like me, white fair skin, light brown almost blonde straight hair. I have dark curly hair, darker skin, hair and eyes. We each look exactly like a family member though. My grandma is white and my grandfather was black so there's a lot of mixes. Also my cousins that are 1/2 Asian look like they're only Black. We know that's not the case, because my uncle was there during his wife's births.
Why not think it’s “conservatives “ who are the problem? They’re the ones who’d like to roll back Loving, and integration, right to marry etc. Maybe it’s no Boomers but conservative boomers?
Sounds like racism, a few years ago i remember watching the news about a romani woman with a blonde blue Eyed child. They took the child from her and claimed she must have kidnapped her cause there was no way that she could have a blonde child. It was all over the news, as it turned out the child was left to her by her relative who went to another country to work. No kidnapping there, people just assumed the worst cause of prejudice.
Remember Bored Panda people, in the US, Loving versus Virginia (which struck down state laws banning interracial marriage) was only passed in 1967 (so 57 years old) and in many states it took several more years to be put into effect, so that's why a lot of boomers have issues with this. Inter-racial marriage was illegal for lots of their lives!
It doesn't even have to be an inter-racial marriage. My aunt is Caucasian with hazel eyes, brown hair and skin that while white, tans easily. Her husband is blond with blue eyes and will turn into crispy treat. My aunt's kids were asked in front of her (!!!) by their teacher why it's always the nanny picking them up. They immigrated to a Nordic country. It's just that the husband blends in while my aunt doesn't.
Load More Replies...Okay Bored Panda, you need to start bleeping out ALL slurs, not just a couple of them. The "B" word, is every bit as hateful as the "N" and "R" words. And to the writer, Migle Miliute, keep your bigoted stories to yourself, they have no place here. Ageism is every bit as evil as racism and sexism.
That's funny. You are funny. Ever considered being a commedian? "Boomer is the same as slurs that were used while beating people to death and depriving them of rights. Of course let's ignore that Boomer only started being used as an insult after several years straight of news sites publishing "Millennial are destroying everything." " You really are funny.
Load More Replies...Yet another "Boomers are all bad" article. I think many of us have mentioned that this has become a slam against older people. I have seen similar behaviour in younger people but never once have I thought to tar them all with the same brush. Do better, Miglė Miliūtė, please.
Yeah - I'm not a boomer but I'm fed up with these stories. That sort of behaviour might be based in racism, but racism isn't limited to one specific generation.
Load More Replies...Did the lady think kidnappers bring strollers and then stop to browse in a hardware store when they kidnap?
My husband was questioned about our screaming toddler in his arms. She was well on the way to a full tantrum while at a shopping mall, so we agreed he take her for a walk to the car, and I would meet him there shortly. What's the problem with that? My husband and I are Caucasian and our daughter was adopted from China. Thankfully the "concerned" stranger accepted his explanation, but thinking about it afterwards he had no proof on him at all that he is her legal father. It's not like we have the adoption papers on us 24/7.
Here's a famous French song from 1961 which says that when you're an idiot, you're an idiot, regardless your age https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3iDZhZzdFI Stop generation-shaming
When you've earned the shame, you get to deal with it. Change your behavior and if "clutch the pearls" it was never ever you, reprimand your birth cohort because they never got the message. Lay into them why you're upset you get saddled with their bad behavior.
Load More Replies...Are we doing this with Millenial and Gen X? If we get another "Gen X is lazy" Article can we all agree to report it en mass?
Load More Replies...Can we do better and please stop labeling and slamming entire generations?. Not everyone of a similar age, gender, religion, ethnicity, ect behaves or thinks the same way. It's called bias and is one of the reasons there are so many issues today.
Or we can just call out the generation of each of these attacks and see which generation gets the most hits
Load More Replies...Enough with the anti-boomer c**p. She's a jackass and an asshat, that's all that matters FFS. I guess the anti-boomer stuff has replaced the anti-American stuff though...
No it doesn't, if you can identify a problem you can correct said problem. It is a generational cultural behavior that is not see widely in other generations. Fix the problem
Load More Replies...You're named after the baby boom after ww2 get over it, you think gen x was thrilled you all called them pos lazy slackers for decades? Especially since in reality that was never true? Suck it up buttercup
Load More Replies...I'm a Jewish boomer who married a black girl, although she was more chocolate than black. Our beautiful daughter is a combination of the two of us. We are the generation that wholey accepted interracial marriage, and fought for equal rights. Maybe the first generation that passed The Civil Rights laws. Stop calling us racist. We did more than any other generation to promote equal rights, including the right to marry the person you loved, skin color be damned!
The mere fact that you HAD to be the "first" means the prevalent culture was contrary to your ideals. Meaning most of your generation was against such things, the zeitgeist for your generation was racism and other horrid s**t I am glad though, that you were above it and brave enough to change the following generation's views, my parents were also interracial.
Load More Replies...This is boomerphobia. Imagine that instead of boomer you use black or Latino. It would be a text embroidering racism
Now if only you'd do this on all the articles that call out millenials or Gen X...
Load More Replies...Are there really so many ignorant people who think that those of us born in the post WW2 years are unaware of mixed race marriages? Our generation BEGAN the 20th century trend. Go watch the wonderful film Guess Who's Coming to Dinner. Sure, racists abound but an entire generation is not the cause.
Ok people. I understand the Boomer hate, I really do, but not all of us are racist, self-centered a$$holes. Unfortunately, more than a few people I went to school with are like this. Honestly, I can't understand it, but I don't even try anymore. Don't judge us all, please.
Again oh no it's a Boomer, PLEASE We are not all the same, but that is all you read. Now as soon as they mention Boomer I don't bother reading, WHY BOTHER BOOMERS GET BLAMED AS ALL IN
Why were Millenails all blamed for destroying every industry?
Load More Replies...This kind of worthless divisive BS is so tedious. NEWSFLASH - Obnoxious racists come in all age groups. Would this be okay if it was a person of color and we said, "Typical black person"? No. This isn't okay either, though it's very popular right now. Just like race isn't a monolith, neither is age. All it really proves is prejudice, sadly, is well represented in every generation.
I've had similar things happen to me, though not to this extreme. But the comments or looks I get when I'm in public holding my kids hands sometimes is too much to bear. I'm white, my wife is latina, and my kids naturally look like her, with beautiful tanned skin, dark eyes and dark hair. People cannot comprehend I'm their dad, and want to be a hero all the time trying to interfere with me playing with my kids at a park or beach or whatever it is.
My husband is Italian, has medium brown hair, olive skin and brown eyes. My hair was strawberry blonde and I have brown eyes, but everyone in my family had blue eyes except my dad and my grandmother (his mom). Both of our sons have dark blonde hair and blue eyes. I have had the "joy" of explaining this to many people over the years who still look at me like I had an affair. Most people just don't understand genetics and how dominant and recessive genes work.
NO is a perfectly acceptable answer. OP really should have just said "NO" to the babysitting question, THEN gotten a manager for being harassed by this woman and been done with it. No commotion needed to be started.
Some people are just stupid and crazy. It's not a generational thing. Quit pitting people and generations against each other. All generations can learn something positive from each generation.
Brown eyes are the dominant gene, so I'm surprised the daughter didn't inherit that but anything can happen. My aunts have blonde hair and brown eyes.
Indeed, but eye inheritance is more complex than a simple dominant vs recessive. For examples, green and hazel. One of my kids is blonde with brown eyes. The other has nearly black hair and grey/hazel eyes. Full sibs of dark haired parents, one with brown eyes and the other with brown/amber/green eyes. But a grandparent on each side has blue. Fun to see how any some-day kids may come up.
Load More Replies...I got the opposite of this when I was much younger. I'm a complete WASP and I'd take my friend Thandi (Zulu) with me places (I was 9 years older than her but I'd babysit her sometimes - BTW this was very unusual during apartheid) and people would ask me if she was my daughter! Which would mean I'd have given birth to her when I was NINE (and no, I didn't look older than my age). Honestly.
The mother of my children had a child before them, but I accepted her as my own since she was 10 months ... my slight fear was having anybody think that she was "napped" while in my custody ... thankfully, nothing has happened ... I live in NYC so blended families tend to be accepted, but I can't imagine what this parent went through ...
My sister looks nothing like me, white fair skin, light brown almost blonde straight hair. I have dark curly hair, darker skin, hair and eyes. We each look exactly like a family member though. My grandma is white and my grandfather was black so there's a lot of mixes. Also my cousins that are 1/2 Asian look like they're only Black. We know that's not the case, because my uncle was there during his wife's births.
Why not think it’s “conservatives “ who are the problem? They’re the ones who’d like to roll back Loving, and integration, right to marry etc. Maybe it’s no Boomers but conservative boomers?
Sounds like racism, a few years ago i remember watching the news about a romani woman with a blonde blue Eyed child. They took the child from her and claimed she must have kidnapped her cause there was no way that she could have a blonde child. It was all over the news, as it turned out the child was left to her by her relative who went to another country to work. No kidnapping there, people just assumed the worst cause of prejudice.
Remember Bored Panda people, in the US, Loving versus Virginia (which struck down state laws banning interracial marriage) was only passed in 1967 (so 57 years old) and in many states it took several more years to be put into effect, so that's why a lot of boomers have issues with this. Inter-racial marriage was illegal for lots of their lives!
It doesn't even have to be an inter-racial marriage. My aunt is Caucasian with hazel eyes, brown hair and skin that while white, tans easily. Her husband is blond with blue eyes and will turn into crispy treat. My aunt's kids were asked in front of her (!!!) by their teacher why it's always the nanny picking them up. They immigrated to a Nordic country. It's just that the husband blends in while my aunt doesn't.
Load More Replies...Okay Bored Panda, you need to start bleeping out ALL slurs, not just a couple of them. The "B" word, is every bit as hateful as the "N" and "R" words. And to the writer, Migle Miliute, keep your bigoted stories to yourself, they have no place here. Ageism is every bit as evil as racism and sexism.
That's funny. You are funny. Ever considered being a commedian? "Boomer is the same as slurs that were used while beating people to death and depriving them of rights. Of course let's ignore that Boomer only started being used as an insult after several years straight of news sites publishing "Millennial are destroying everything." " You really are funny.
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