Op you do not need to make this a throwaway account. Let your husband see just how the whole reddit community think of him.

If MIL had immediately apologized and owned up to it I would have given her the benefit of the doubt but it seems like MIL was very focused on making this about her. Maybe she has some jealousy for OPs Mom. She also seems resentful of OPs grief.

Wow--how are people this insensitive? Her mom passed one year ago. That is not a long time. A child lost her parent. That hurts at any age, but she is still very young. My husband lost both of his parents when we were in our early 30s and it was rough. It isn't something you ever get over. And you certainly aren't over it within a year. Add to that the fact that she is pregnant--a milestone most people want to share with their mom. She's probably a little scared since it is her first pregnancy--and she probably really needs her mom. To say something so disgusting and then to add on by saying she should be over it by now and that her grief is a burden. It is terrible that her husband is taking his mom's side.

Mom died in 1993. A comment like your MIL's would still be extremely insensitive and cruel. Yes, old wounds heal, but cutting the old wound makes it bleed. Shame on MIL and your husband!

I love that she chose to name the kid after HER mother, and I hope the evil MIL takes it as the slap in the face she deserves.

Was the MIL *gloating* about outliving the OP's mother??

Awful, just awful. There’s a common theme with these stories that “overreacting” is treated like a capitol crime. I’ve noticed this trend in real life too. When you say something hurtful, there is a chance you will get a big reaction. It doesn’t cancel out the hurt. APOLOGIZE. None of this fake apologizing, then taking it back like MIL did.

Fffuuuuuuuuccccckkkkk ttttthhhhhhaaaaattt biiiiiiiiiiiittttttttch! My mom died when I was 14 (two days after my birthday actually) and even though it's been decades, it still makes me sad. I have a daughter who is almost 18 and kind of looks like my mom. I often think about how much my mom would have loved her and that she missed out on having her as a grandma. If my MIL had said something like that (no way she ever would and my wife would never stand for that)... without an immediate full-throated apology, I doubt I would ever forgive her. The last thing I would ever say to her is "Well, I guess she doesn't have any grandmothers."

I hope she doesn't go back. Rosie is a lovely name for a single mum to give to honour her own lovely mum.

"yes, ha ha, that will be even funnier when you die, because then we dont have to deal with you.. WHAT.. ITS A J O K E..!! "

MIL is major AH. Grief takes time. Some people adapt to a a loss more quickly than others. It has been many, many years since I lost the last of my loved ones, and sometimes, after a decade or more, something acts like a trigger and my heart breaks again. A year is not a long time when you've lost someone as important as your mother. If your husband is not on board with what you're feeling, if he's supporting his mom, than they both need some help. And MIL being afraid that you'll name your daughter after your mom? When that is a wonderful tribute? I see red flags all over the place.

I lost my mom in sept this year. Fast a too soon even though she was 84. Still grieving and it's surreal to not have her around. Now I'm past the age of having kids but still think this mil is way too self centered. Maybe ask how she handled the loss of her mother. How it felt to her an how hurt inside she had been an if it's ok to just think someone else could get over it. To claim to be the ill boy grandmother an basically claiming the kid is named after her is really rude. I mean unless op had said she was naming the baby that then maybe it's both the grand mother's names for her. Idk. But that husband needs to put his wife an her baby first over the parents in this mess. Loss is painful. I didn't grieve my dad he was a pos. But my mom was my best friend an only friend. Over my sister an brother I don't think I'll grieve another as I am her.

'Overreacting' as in more than usual, being in mourning and pregnant, not as in more than appropriate. Such a sad story, this one.

There is a small part of me that feels some sort of empathy for the boy here - he didn't have a positive male role model growing up, mum has always been everything to him, and he's perhaps inadvertently got himself in to a situation that he's no idea how to handle and isn't mentally equipped to deal with. That said, he's not the one with a baby growing inside him, and it isn't *that* hard to figure out. I had zero "parental influence" from either side (but if you happen to know who either one of them is, tell them I said hi) and I am a long way from being a "perfect" husband of father - but if Mrs Sharpe says something you don't like, even if it's entirely wrong and unjustified, you'll sit there and tell her thank you for giving you so much attention - and if you don't agree that she's correct and you're an idiot for even thinking otherwise, I will improve your attitude in the blink of an eye. Even if she says the sky is green and the grass is blue I'll back her 100%, because what else is she meant to do.. phone her husband to stick up for her instead? The boy needs to make his mind up no matter how difficult it might be forr him - and if you've put a ring on her finger, your name on her ID, and a baby inside her you're way past the point where you're feelings come first.