Op you do not need to make this a throwaway account. Let your husband see just how the whole reddit community think of him.

If MIL had immediately apologized and owned up to it I would have given her the benefit of the doubt but it seems like MIL was very focused on making this about her. Maybe she has some jealousy for OPs Mom. She also seems resentful of OPs grief.

Yeah that's not just a MIL problem. That's a husband problem OP's got too, and a massive one. You'd think a man regularly on reddit would have seen other posts like this and learn that wives will almost invariably leave husbands who act like this.

Wow--how are people this insensitive? Her mom passed one year ago. That is not a long time. A child lost her parent. That hurts at any age, but she is still very young. My husband lost both of his parents when we were in our early 30s and it was rough. It isn't something you ever get over. And you certainly aren't over it within a year. Add to that the fact that she is pregnant--a milestone most people want to share with their mom. She's probably a little scared since it is her first pregnancy--and she probably really needs her mom. To say something so disgusting and then to add on by saying she should be over it by now and that her grief is a burden. It is terrible that her husband is taking his mom's side.

Mom died in 1993. A comment like your MIL's would still be extremely insensitive and cruel. Yes, old wounds heal, but cutting the old wound makes it bleed. Shame on MIL and your husband!

Was the MIL *gloating* about outliving the OP's mother??

Awful, just awful. There’s a common theme with these stories that “overreacting” is treated like a capitol crime. I’ve noticed this trend in real life too. When you say something hurtful, there is a chance you will get a big reaction. It doesn’t cancel out the hurt. APOLOGIZE. None of this fake apologizing, then taking it back like MIL did.

I can't begin to imagine what it would be like after a year. My wife has been gone for just two weeks...

That Monster-in-Law is a nasty piece of work. The sad part? The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree. That biatch knew full well that what she said wasn't a joke. Judging by the ensuing, awkward silence that followed, so did everyone else, even that walking excelsior posing as a husband. In OP'S shoes, I would have reacted the same way. She was right in staying with her friend; otherwise, Mother and Son most likely would have tag-teamed her and demanded that she apologize for "overreacting." OP should contact a lawyer and serve that "man" divorce papers, having him communicate through attorneys only. Oh, and as the piece de résistance, inform him that neither he nor his mother will be allowed in the hospital when it's time to give birth, the baby's name is now Rosie, and she will be seeking full custody, with extremely limited visitation rights.

An unpopular view but she's not wrong, she is the only grandmother, the daughter will grow up knowing only one grandmother as painful as it is it's not worth falling out over. I might not like the comment I might feel it's insensitive but I wouldn't allow it to cause issues I certainly would not need to run to social media to validate what is an overreaction

I could have been swayed to be on MIL side right up until she doubled down and didn't fall on herself apologizing for saying something so incredibly stupid and hurtful. Makes me think MIL hadn't misspoke, but was in fact saying what she really felt. That b!tch would never be alone with my child.

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Please someone tell me she divorced that waste of sperm and ovum.

It is a deeply hurtful "joke". I would explain to your husband that the difference between this and the popular "favourite niece (because only niece, haha)" jokes is that NO ONE DIED for the niece to be an only niece. Just in case he truly didn't understand, and that's why the rest of society is so horrified.

There is a small part of me that feels some sort of empathy for the boy here - he didn't have a positive male role model growing up, mum has always been everything to him, and he's perhaps inadvertently got himself in to a situation that he's no idea how to handle and isn't mentally equipped to deal with. That said, he's not the one with a baby growing inside him, and it isn't *that* hard to figure out. I had zero "parental influence" from either side (but if you happen to know who either one of them is, tell them I said hi) and I am a long way from being a "perfect" husband of father - but if Mrs Sharpe says something you don't like, even if it's entirely wrong and unjustified, you'll sit there and tell her thank you for giving you so much attention - and if you don't agree that she's correct and you're an idiot for even thinking otherwise, I will improve your attitude in the blink of an eye. Even if she says the sky is green and the grass is blue I'll back her 100%, because what else is she meant to do.. phone her husband to stick up for her instead? The boy needs to make his mind up no matter how difficult it might be forr him - and if you've put a ring on her finger, your name on her ID, and a baby inside her you're way past the point where you're feelings come first.