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Sister Uses Blackmail To Prevent Her Brother From Proposing While Giving A Speech At Her Wedding
Blackmail might be the opposite of how one wishes to lead their relationships with family and friends. However, when a person gets put in a position by these very people where using certain sensitive information seems the only way of protecting what they feel is rightfully theirs, meaning their own wedding, blackmailing can be expected, even if quite damaging for a relationship. At least such was this Redditor‘s response when she faced her brother’s strange, but apparently not that uncommon plan to propose during her wedding ceremony without her consent.
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A sister asked her brother to make a speech at her wedding, but he decided to use it for proposing to his girlfriend
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The sister was disappointed and threatened to reveal to the guests that the couple were expecting a baby
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The brother was livid his sister knew about the baby from his fiancée and used it to threaten him and ruin his plans
Image credits: Timur Weber (not the actual photo)
A woman took it to Reddit when she asked her brother to make a speech at her wedding ceremony welcoming her husband into her family because her father passed away one year ago.
Her brother agreed to give a speech; however, he intended to use the speech for proposing to his girlfriend in public. This made the bride livid, and she threatened to let everyone know that his brother and his fiancée are expecting a baby if he proposed during the speech at her wedding.
The brother was livid his sister knew about the baby from his girlfriend and used it to threaten him, but the man ended up proposing in private and the woman’s wedding ceremony went off without a hitch.
When the woman came back from her honeymoon, the brother’s fiancée thanked her for preventing her brother from proposing during the wedding speech, but the brother remained sour for keeping him and his fiancée from having “a moment in the sun”.
The woman’s wedding went without a hitch, while her brother ended up proposing in private
Image credits: Ignatios Kourouvasilis (not the actual photo)
The brother was sour to his sister for not letting him have “a moment in the sun”, while his fiancée thanked her
In her article 6 Tips for Ending a Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships, Sharon Martin emphasized that the first step toward breaking the cycle of unhealthy behavior and creating healthier and more fulfilling relationships is recognizing the patterns of harmful behavior.
Martin noted that for people who experienced dysfunctional relationships while growing up and who do not know what a healthy relationship looks or feels like, it might be more challenging.
She listed some red flags, which included physical abuse as well as emotional abuse, like calling another person derogatory names, threatening, and dismissing one’s feelings.
Other signs of toxic behavior brought up by Martin were controlling behavior, as well as various forms of dishonesty like lying, cheating, stealing, and jealousy.
Martin noted that people tend to repeat unhealthy patterns even when they know such a relationship to be dysfunctional because it feels familiar to them and they know what to expect. Therefore she suggested addressing the painful and traumatic experiences with a therapist or improving one’s communication skills, emotional regulation, and ability to set boundaries with the help of various literature on the topic.
Redditors shared their takes on the situation
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Captain McSmoot 2 years ago
He has stereotypical, "not called but loving the job" youth pastor vibes. These guys eat up being in lime light and absolutely thrive off being the center of attention. You put a microphone in their hands in front of willing attendees who are already emotional and they'll artfully make themselves the center without many people seeing what just happened. Every laugh would be caused by them, every tear caused by them, and they'll even choose the perfect moment to pause, "gather their emotions" while trembling their voices calling just the right amount of tears to their eyes and push through to make the lasting effect one of true, heartfelt tears of joy while raising their glass. I was raised in church and thank God for that for so many reasons: one of which is to be able to spot a fraud a mile away.
Apatheist Account2 2 years ago
Do what I say, not what I do... typical of religions throughout the ages.
Hphizzle 2 years ago
“Odds are it will be premature like me.” Hahahaha! An eight pound premature baby.
Gardener of Weeden 2 years ago
My Grandmother's wisdom. the !st baby can be born at anytime, it is the 2nd that takes 9 months. My Aunt was a fully developed 5month birth, in 1915 LOL
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Dizzie D 2 years ago
I have come to the conclusion that one of , if not THE main reason people choose to announce things or propose at peoples birthdays and weddings is that they are total cheapskates and think 'woo hoo, I have a ready made party here with all the people I know, and I didn't have to pay a penny for the catering, venue, music, decorations etc, brilliant, I will use these other peoples day to 'share' the party' It's an awfully selfish thing to do and that's what I would say to someone ' right then, you announced your baby at my wedding, now fork out money for your share of ruining and sharing my day to celebrate' They are just mooching off people basically, who have spent a fortune on the event
Joe Reaves 2 years ago
They were't trying to have 'their moment in the sun', he was trying to steal yours.
solace in rage 2 years ago
There is a time and a place for everything. I've found as I got older that if someone tries to plan their time for the same as they know yours is set for, their place is at arm's length. There is no hinting with such people. Their nose has to be absolutely rubbed in it, they have to not just mouth the words, but understand that what they are doing is wrong, and that they will be excluded from future events if they are going to try to hijack them all the time.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 years ago
My parents got married when my father was 19 and my mom was 20. All their relatives thought Mom was pregnant. (I was born 20 years and 8 months after their wedding.) My father would laugh and say, "They all started counting the months... then counting the years... And they died still counting!!" I mean, is there a word for the total opposite of a shotgun wedding?!!
Vladimíra Matejová 2 years ago
I got married at 27 and still some ppl were asking if I was pregnant. Ppl are weird
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JayWantsACat 2 years ago
Oh, look, another religious hypocrite. My ex-g/f's parent made her "perfect" sister get married ASAP after she got pregnant so they wouldn't look bad to their church. These are the types of people judging and forcing others to adhere to their beliefs... beliefs they can't even stop from breaking themselves. I can't stand people like this.
Holy Shimmering Sheeps541t 2 years ago
My brain was playing duelling banjos as I was reading this.
- 2 years ago (edited)
About the OP's extortion: it sounded over-the-top, but may have been necessary here. "he said I was petty to keep him and Sara from having a moment in the sun" - it sounds as if he wanted the attention from more people than a yes from his future wife. A good thing he dropped his original plan: two women would have been writing to complain about him.
WindySwede 2 years ago
Not at all, it's for the bride and groom. Don't have white clothes, don't propose, don't announce babies on other weddings.. Especially if they made a baby without marriage, wich was against their beliefs. Not that I care about that, but if you are a pastor and preach celibacy? But do it anyway your self?
Load More Replies... Captain McSmoot 2 years ago
He has stereotypical, "not called but loving the job" youth pastor vibes. These guys eat up being in lime light and absolutely thrive off being the center of attention. You put a microphone in their hands in front of willing attendees who are already emotional and they'll artfully make themselves the center without many people seeing what just happened. Every laugh would be caused by them, every tear caused by them, and they'll even choose the perfect moment to pause, "gather their emotions" while trembling their voices calling just the right amount of tears to their eyes and push through to make the lasting effect one of true, heartfelt tears of joy while raising their glass. I was raised in church and thank God for that for so many reasons: one of which is to be able to spot a fraud a mile away.
Apatheist Account2 2 years ago
Do what I say, not what I do... typical of religions throughout the ages.
Hphizzle 2 years ago
“Odds are it will be premature like me.” Hahahaha! An eight pound premature baby.
Gardener of Weeden 2 years ago
My Grandmother's wisdom. the !st baby can be born at anytime, it is the 2nd that takes 9 months. My Aunt was a fully developed 5month birth, in 1915 LOL
Load More Replies... Dizzie D 2 years ago
I have come to the conclusion that one of , if not THE main reason people choose to announce things or propose at peoples birthdays and weddings is that they are total cheapskates and think 'woo hoo, I have a ready made party here with all the people I know, and I didn't have to pay a penny for the catering, venue, music, decorations etc, brilliant, I will use these other peoples day to 'share' the party' It's an awfully selfish thing to do and that's what I would say to someone ' right then, you announced your baby at my wedding, now fork out money for your share of ruining and sharing my day to celebrate' They are just mooching off people basically, who have spent a fortune on the event
Joe Reaves 2 years ago
They were't trying to have 'their moment in the sun', he was trying to steal yours.
solace in rage 2 years ago
There is a time and a place for everything. I've found as I got older that if someone tries to plan their time for the same as they know yours is set for, their place is at arm's length. There is no hinting with such people. Their nose has to be absolutely rubbed in it, they have to not just mouth the words, but understand that what they are doing is wrong, and that they will be excluded from future events if they are going to try to hijack them all the time.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 years ago
My parents got married when my father was 19 and my mom was 20. All their relatives thought Mom was pregnant. (I was born 20 years and 8 months after their wedding.) My father would laugh and say, "They all started counting the months... then counting the years... And they died still counting!!" I mean, is there a word for the total opposite of a shotgun wedding?!!
Vladimíra Matejová 2 years ago
I got married at 27 and still some ppl were asking if I was pregnant. Ppl are weird
Load More Replies... JayWantsACat 2 years ago
Oh, look, another religious hypocrite. My ex-g/f's parent made her "perfect" sister get married ASAP after she got pregnant so they wouldn't look bad to their church. These are the types of people judging and forcing others to adhere to their beliefs... beliefs they can't even stop from breaking themselves. I can't stand people like this.
Holy Shimmering Sheeps541t 2 years ago
My brain was playing duelling banjos as I was reading this.
- 2 years ago (edited)
About the OP's extortion: it sounded over-the-top, but may have been necessary here. "he said I was petty to keep him and Sara from having a moment in the sun" - it sounds as if he wanted the attention from more people than a yes from his future wife. A good thing he dropped his original plan: two women would have been writing to complain about him.
WindySwede 2 years ago
Not at all, it's for the bride and groom. Don't have white clothes, don't propose, don't announce babies on other weddings.. Especially if they made a baby without marriage, wich was against their beliefs. Not that I care about that, but if you are a pastor and preach celibacy? But do it anyway your self?
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