How did the useless mum allow her children to play in their hosts bedroom when they already pissed on the hosts couch because they were unsupervised? Utterly feral minded family, they are suffering the consequences of their own failures to parent and behave like civilised adults in other people's homes. I do feel for the kids, they are undisciplined through clear neglect of their lazy mum who should have laid clear rules and kept them in her care and sight, especially on someone else's property. Dad is useless and just as lazy too, if he is not actively out job hunting, why did he not do his share to supervise and care for his kids? He is an entitled brat and now is paying the price.

MIL can pay for their housing. End of story.

MIL can take them even if they are on different coasts because BIL doesn't live anywhere now.

Sounds like they have no jobs. So why can't they move in with MIL? People move States and countries all the time. I saw the comment on MIL being poor - her son will just have to get a job. They can't expect OP to carry them financially forever.

MIL can take them. problem solved.

Suggestion: either you guys or MIL adopts the kids. BIL and SIL enter rehab. They'll be much more likely to act like adults once they're off the glass.

Gosh, it's a real mystery why they ever got evicted from their previous home. /s

MIL can take them.

NTA Your only mistake here is not recognizing a free loader. Once a free loader, always a free loader. Unfortunately, those habits don't ever seem to change. Especially when they couple up and to have kids. It also sounds as if their are other enablers involved. Some people will ALWAYS try to manipulate the soft hearted rather than take responsibility. You can't help the lazy. They have to hit rock bottom just like an addict. No matter what strides they make in the coming days, weeks, months; DO NOT OFFER ANYMORE ASSISTANCE. Or they will take everything they can again.

píss - fúcking - ássholes - just writing down the words BP chose to censor. Other than that, as Otis B Driftwood already said, boring post to begin with. There's so much more to AM I THE ÀSSHOLE (that's the title of the sub, BP, take it or leave it) than these shítty ones they choose.

NTA, not your kids and their parents didn't keep the apparent hellions under control. Being an a*****e would be not giving them a chance, well they basically took your hospitality and spit in your face, f**k em

I absolutely understand about the vase. I have things of my grandmother's that I would be devastated if someone broke. OP didn't make them homeless, they did that to themselves.

NTA of course! Why won’t MIL take these bums in?

People will tell you what to do without taking their own advice. if you're upset someone else won't take them in, you take them in.

there are homeless shelters for families the better ones even have social workers who could help them to learn to parent their kids better

Had this happen with an ex and her kids. Ended that relationship and told her she needed to find a place in a months time. See ya.

NTA but please, considering the young ages of the children YOU are contributing to the harm and delinquency of the minor children by knowing that they are living in a car and not in suitable accommodations. Please call the police who will help the family find a safe shelter that takes families. It is not safe nor legal to have children living in a car on the street. Sadly, if this is in the United States, it is becoming all too common but there are options for this family. As troublesome as the children are, remember THEY ARE CHILDREN.