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It happens to the best of us — parents, kids, college students, tenured professors, CEOs — and it happens to us all the time. Just because you have a successful career or a natural talent to achieve anything you want in life, it doesn’t mean you’re perfect. Because no one is immune to making mistakes. No one can avoid the occasional slip-ups. And no one is safe from messing up in life. It's a guarantee that cannot be escaped no matter how hard we try.

That's just the universe teaching us lessons over and over and over again until we finally listen. But in some unfortunate cases, they do tend to come in heavy and heartbreaking ways. "What’s the biggest mistake you’ve watched someone make in their personal life?" Redditor Ordinary-Ad5763 asked, and thousands of responses immediately started rolling in.

Below, we at Bored Panda have gathered some of the most honest, real, and painful stories from the thread, and they show that sometimes, the price for our errors is too high. Just to warn you, this thread may not be for the faintest of hearts. But turning a blind eye to these authentic accounts won't make life any brighter. So continue scrolling, upvote as you go, and if you're up for it, share your own experiences with us in the comments. Keep reading to also find our interview with psychologist Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., where we discuss how to best handle these situations on an emotional level.

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35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make My wife just had a c-section, and was complaining about a pain in her leg but never got it checked out. Two weeks later; Blood Clot.

October 13th will mark my third year without her.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women are often dismissed when they complain about pain especially after having a baby. Sadly this is common. Sending so much love to OP, can’t imagine what you’ve been going through.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make A good friend of mine threw away 15 years of military service because he didn’t want to take the COVID vaccine. 5 years from retirement and incredible healthcare for his wife and children all gone. He joined a religion recently and decided he wanted to get a religious exemption which was denied so he opted for an administrative discharge. The fool…

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    Tracy Wallick
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in the military, and it blows my mind that NOW of all times people are objecting to vaccines? After all the mandatory vaccines we had to get when we entered the military and throughout our service?

    Benita Valdez
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same thing with people in the medical field. You guys get all these vaccines for the job and now a new one comes out and it's the end of the world. Blows my mind.

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    Hutt'nKloas
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Best friend of mine refused the vaccine out of fear of side effects. I tried to reason with him with facts & statistical data. He died due to corona after 6 weeks of IC. Also the fool. 😢

    DumYum
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a friend in the military, who told me basically the moment you sign up, they own your body. You are given all the vaccines, exposed to chemicals and warfare hazards, and of course you can be in harm’s way.

    Luis Gomez
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People say they will die for their family but this guy here, ruining great healthcare to his family because he's afraid of a needle. Also what's up with military and police personnel not getting vaccinated? Are they all about protecting others?

    JessG
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, but those guys, the ones that are far right, don't believe those scientists that tell us that vaccines protect people. My question is, why are those guys, that actually serve the government as a job, say stuff like: "the government is trying to control us!! Don't believe them! Masks don't work!...etc"

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    Sheila Stamey
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now I'm a Christian and I have never understood this mentality. It's like standing in a busy road and complaining if you get run over. It even says not to do this in the Bible. Where are these people getting this from? Deut 6:16 and Matthew 4:7 old AND new testament. Admittedly,one is reference to the other.

    Pieter LeGrande
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not, but if God is supposed to have created man in His own image then that includes His brain. So why are they disrespecting their god by not using it.

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    Nicki
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard of! My husband did 22 years in the Marine Corps and the retirement pay and the excellent health care help us TREMENDOUSLY! That guy was an major idiot...🤦🏽‍♀️

    Tina Girard
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What boggles the mind on this one is that while you're in the military, you have to get a flu shot EVERY year. When you deploy or go overseas, they make sure you are up to date on several different vaccines. When you first join, you get a hella large number of shots. Ain't no difference with what was in the COVID vaccine.

    Whitefox
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know several people who left their good jobs because they wouldn't take the vaccine. They took all the others required for the position, but that was the hill they chose to quit on.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “The man can’t tell me what to do!” “Sir you are literally a foot soldier for the government.”

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had both vaccines and still ended up with covid TWICE! Lost my job second time because ‘stay home’ was no longer in place and i was too ill to go in. Dont care if u have the vaccine or not-obviously doesn’t make a difference. What does matter is protecting others from it!

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    Canadian Girl
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As the apparently lone conservative on BP, I think your friend has real guts. Especially in light of everything we now know about the covid vaccines (they don't prevent infection, transmission, severe illness or hospitalization and there is serious risk of adverse effects.)

    Mary Loftus
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I checked in May of this year, the American citizenry are more vaccinated than those in the CDC and NIH! These are doctors that know exactly what's in the vaccines and THEY won't take the vaccine they created! Why?

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why aren't flu shots mandated? My husband who is retired never had to get one. Plus, why are Americans citizens MANDATED the vaccines YET, illegals are being OFFERED the vaccines? And don't tell me illegals aren't being OFFERED! Jen Psaki said that in one of her press briefings! OFFERED is take it or leave it! MANDATED means take it or else! Why the double standard? There is a polio outbreak in New York State. Why isn't the govt MANDATING polio vaccines?

    Tiffi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just don't understand this. When you join the military they mandate all kinds of vaccines for troop readiness. Why is covid vaccine the one they'll toss their careers away for? It's just baffling to me.

    Jovita A
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one is going to be granted religious exemption, due to the fact that they already accepted other vaccines...

    Anh Aline Vuo
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, at least he was being consistent with himself. Consistently stupid.

    Mora Chilis
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Idiot. Yet he had to get all the vaccines, including anthrax, smallpox, etc to be in the military.

    T. Unnamable
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the military you follow orders. Many are for your own good, some are good and some are bad. It is part of the life. Also, when he first joined up, as a volunteer, he was inoculated against many diseases otherwise he would have been rejected.

    Diane Herman
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But to join the service in the beginning you get a ton of shots.

    idrow1
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is stupid on a grand scale. What a fool. I wonder if he regrets it now.

    jmdirks
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my body my choice. Fauche got all the shots. still got covid.

    JMC5003
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But, even at his age, he did not die. Do you apply the same belief (my body, my choice) to women's bodies or are you one of the hypocrites who only say, "my body, my choice" when it suits you? Also, when it comes to communicable illnesses, your choice can kill others as you spread the illness you refused to prevent and/or minimize through immunization. Or is other people's health not your problem unless you're referring to a woman with an unwanted or life-threatening pregnancy?

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    Was he afraid of dying due to the blood cloths from the vaccine or heart disease? Family would still be compensated probably

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    Ironic, that many who state'"My Body-My Choice!", sing a different tune with an UNTESTED; NON-TRIALED Antigen injected so IF a reaction presents(blood clot/long Covid/and yes,Death), the Government has waived any prosecution for Big Pharm. Want the Vax;Get the Vax, but an individual who chooses NOT to Vax, isn't dangerous to those who choose to Vax. Social media is no substitute for accepted science.

    LH25
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funny you mention that social media isn't accepted science. Since accepted science says to get vaccinated. No, the vaccines are not "untested". My cousin who works for the FDA got her family vaccinated as soon as she could, I trust her on this. My doctors, who I literally have trusted with my life said to get them. Yes, there could be side effects. But there are also some pretty bad effects from getting COVID. And yes, those who don't get vaxed are dangerous to the rest of us.

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    Maybe the military made a big mistake in throwing away a 15 year veteran at a time when nobody worth recruiting wants anything to do with joining the woke joke that is the Mark Milleytary.

    Kales
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The military shoots you up with every vaccine possible, especially if you deploy. My parents were in for 20+ years and back in the day, they don't even KNOW what they were shot up with half the time. To make this 1 vaccine, with tons of data behind it, your hill to die after you've already let the military own your body is IDIOTIC and ignorant. He CHOSE to get out.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Have kids under the hope they'll fix their marriage.

    Children are not accessories

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    Whether it’s in our work environment or our relationships, every single one of us makes mistakes at some point. Life inevitably throws curveballs to give us valuable learning opportunities. They may hit us hard at first, but what matters more than any misstep or its magnitude is our response afterward.

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    To learn more about our tendency to make mistakes and how much of a toll they take on our emotional health, we reached out to Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., a psychologist and creator of Mental Drive. He started this well-being initiative to help people access the best-in-class psychological and performance tools to live healthier, more fulfilled, and successful lives.

    "We are social beings," Klapow told Bored Panda. "We are hardwired to seek acceptance. When we do things that put us at risk of rejection, the natural emotional response is one of embarrassment, fear, stress, and frustration. This is who we are at the deepest levels."

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make One of my best friends walked out on his wife and two kids because a girl at the gym and him were having a relationship.

    As it actually turned out, she was just being friendly and chatting to him. No relationship, no mutual decision to be together, nothing. He misunderstood polite friendliness for flirting, and destroyed his own family for it.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make One of my students was offered a 95% scholarship to Juilliard. They turned it down because they felt a 95% scholarship was a slap to the face, and instead decided not to go to school. Last I heard they weren’t playing, and were working minimum wage, but talking about how good they used to be.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Single mother of 3 living in poverty. Gave her parents her $6000 tax refund to hold onto because she didn't want her abusive ex to convince her to split it with him.

    Parents spent it all in weeks.

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    The psychologist pointed out that when we make a mistake, it can be hard initially to accept it. "We may know intellectually that we have made an error but emotionally, we are triggered to figure out how to make that mistake not be a reality."

    Some of the most common tactics we use to justify our actions are generating reasons why the mistake isn’t actually a mistake, reducing the magnitude of the mistake down to its smallest existence, and blaming the error on the action of others rather than ourselves. "All done to shield the reality that we have done something wrong."

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    #7

    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Let go of a girl close to their wedding because of his idea of what a wife should be like. Lives in deep regret now as she married his friend & they’re really happy whilst he has never found anyone else.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Having a 3rd kid, when you can barely afford the first two in order to "save" the marriage.

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    DEW
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope the child is loved and not treated like a burden. We had a third child. My two kids were 8 and 10. He was very planned. What we didn't count on was him having a liver disease called Biliary Atresia. Then when he got older he was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 6. Fought the school because they wanted him out of their school. We don't know how long we have him for but he's going to be 20 yrs. old in January!!

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Cheating with someone in your company who’s about to get married despite having two kids and a wife of your own **cough Ned**

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    Air Conditioner
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was like this sounds familiar then read "ned" lmao, Becky and Eugene should be able to just drink wine and say whatever they want to

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    As you can see from the examples in this list, sometimes living with our errors can be extremely hard. Not only do they damage our pride and self-confidence, but they can also turn into downright personal disasters and the biggest regrets we carry through life.

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    When asked what kind of toll these errors in judgment have on well-being, Klapow explained their impact on our mental state often depends on how we regard the mistake. "The interpretation can literally change the emotional impact of that mistake," he told us. "If we see mistakes as a chance to learn something, to gain insight, to have a way to do things differently next time, then the mistake has a far less negative impact."

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make My uncle got himself a mistress. Lent her $10,000 he never got back and lost his job defending her at work. Wife served him divorce papers short afterwards. He gave up his house to his wife. So he ended up jobless and homeless, sleeping on our couch at the ripe age of 60.

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    Caro Caro
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A very expensive mistake. I wanted to use the F word instead of mistake but it's too early here and the sun is out :)

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make My high school philosophy teacher cheated on his wife with my classmate. His daughter was in the year below us. She transferred schools out of embarrassment when her dad finally left the family to pursue a relationship with the 18-year old. Yuck.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Grandma eventually losing several hundred thousand on the stock market based on astrology. This was in 2007...

    cellocaster , Josh Rangel Report

    Well, we’ve heard a million times that every mistake is a lesson to be learned: they are "a portal to learning, growth, and mastery." It's safe to say that facing our blunders is hard and often scary, but making them can be beneficial. It all depends on the perspective.

    The healthiest way to tackle mistakes, as Klapow mentioned, is to look at our behaviors whenever we stumble and fall, take notes, and accept this learning opportunity. If we take action and make sure we’re not constantly beating ourselves up about it, we come out as stronger and more resilient human beings.

    But how often do we see them as growing experiences? While this varies from person to person, some people refuse to accept reality and get tangled in their failures, unable to continue with their lives.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Friend retired with a full pension 15 years ago.

    At the time he kept bragging about how he was starting a business with some random guy he knew. He legit said, "He's the idea guy. I have the savings and the good credit score."

    Took out a huge loan, bought a bunch of expensive equipment.

    Shocker: business folded within 6 months, "partner" vanished with all the equipment.

    And now this guy, who should be enjoying his golden years, will be working retail until he drops.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Must be my disabled brother who fell for an internet scam. He met a woman online, she lived in a different continent but he was certain she was the love of his life. Spent over a year chatting and e-mailing her, and helping her with money from time to time. Very fishy stuff, but he refused to listen to my scepticism. It ended when he had saved up enough money to go visit her. He went, came back 2 days later and refused to ever admit what had happened. Went to his grave without ever talking about it.

    Second place goes to my father who cheered him on. He wasn't sure wether it was a scam or not, but he thought it was nice that my brother had hopes and dreams.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Dump all of their savings ($30k or so) into random crypto at the height of the market. They were trying to get more money to put towards a house but lost a majority of it when things crashed. When their significant other found out they left.

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    "If we continually make mistakes, don’t see them as a learning opportunity, or are in a position where we are not able to ever succeed, our self-confidence takes a significant beating," Klapow added. To move forward from this emotional state, the creator of Mental Drive offered these suggestions:

    • Find meaning in the mistake from a learning perspective
    • Recognize and remind yourself that perfection is not how people live or grow
    • Evaluate the mistakes relative to other mistakes you have made so that each mistake is not seen as "the worst", and learn that mistakes are frequent and not always catastrophic.
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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make My friend chose to have a child with a man who had cheated on her multiple times, while still in high school.

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    I don't know what changed him exactly, but he started calling himself an alpha male, and questioning any activity, clothing choice, type of car, career path, drink, etc as alpha or not. He bulked up and got large muscles but also still carries a beer gut. He tries to have his shirt off whenever possible, but it doesn't work for his body type.

    The constant seeking for assurances that something is alpha or not got tiring, or being told something someone was doing is beta behavior when I didn't have any interest or care made me stop hanging out.

    Of course, he now calls me a beta for not being alpha enough to hang out with him.

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    I watched my friend throw an engineering career with Boeing away because he decided to smoke a bowl to celebrate getting the job. It was a military contract.

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    But this does beg the question, can hearing about the blunders others made help us avoid the same mistakes in our personal lives? "Because mistakes have an automatic and deep emotional impact, we have a tendency to think that we are the only ones who make them," the psychologist said.

    "Seeing other people in the same situation making the same mistakes helps us to reality test, helps us feel not as bad or alone in the mistake, and often helps us see someone else taking a mistaken action that we then can learn not to take when a similar situation arises," Klapow concluded.

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    Used to work security at a concert venue. Big enough place to require a couple cops outside the front door for insurance purposes. Had to ask someone to leave for drinking underage. He got mouthy on the way out and started to fight me. Was near the front door and the cops jumped in to help. He punched the cop and his nose bled. Went from a “hey man, don’t drink underage in here next time you come back” to a Felony.

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    idrow1
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is it getting stupider out there or do we just have a clearer window into it now?

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    Falling into the Qanon hole and isolating themselves from everyone they loved.

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    Vorknkx
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    QAnon is basically the last refuge for desperate losers that haven't achieved anything in life. It gives them a fake sense of "superiority" through the belief that they possess some top-secret knowledge about some hidden war taking place between Trump and some nebulous evil elite. It's all poorly written fan fiction, of course...

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    #21

    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Watching them become less themselves because of the person they are with.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make A guy in his mid 50s always worked under the table. Never filed a tax return. Didn't understand that he wouldn't qualify for social security. When I showed him the requirements on the [ssa.gov](https://ssa.gov) website, I thought he was going to cry.

    mrmitchs , Romain Dancre Report

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Buy an apartment with a person they dated for less than 6 months.

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    Garry Cowan
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Married my wife after knowing her around 6 months that was 7 years ago and now I've went from a drug addicted homeless guy sleeping under bridges to having a beautiful wife a lovely house and a great job I even have a savings account with more money than I could ever have dreamt of....I am so grateful for the day I met her

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    I have two:

    1. Took a loan out to go on a European vacation.
    2. Took a loan out to pay for rent. Now this one is bad because it wasn’t because they needed a place to live, it’s that they wanted a really nice place to live and they have a so called “ certain standard of living”. They could have afforded a nice small house here to rent but instead she wanted a gigantic house in a wealthier neighborhood to rent.

    It’s the same person.

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    #25

    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make My brother ran for public office without having an agenda. He had no leadership qualifications, background in position, or support from anyone in the community. His took out a 10K personal loan to finance his political run and held one fundraiser where most of the attendees were family and couldn't vote for him. He lost badly, coming in last behind four other candidates. It took him years to pay back the loan and refill his savings, which he completely drained to pay for signage and flyers. Saddest of all, the printer misspelled his name on both items, so any remnant is a harsh reminder of how badly things went.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Waste their entire inheritance on drugs.

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    Bleep Bloop
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a lot less agency involved in this choice compared to others -- if any. Addiction sucks :(

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    Family friend quit their government job after 23 years, 2 years before qualifying for a pension. They did it just because they wanted a change.

    They withdrew their pension contributions and bought a investment property at the absolute worst time.

    Now they are jobless and struggling to keep up with the overhead. Everyone advised against it and they still did it.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make My sister owned a home with her husband and first child.



    Her father-in-law convinced them that if they sold their house and became live-in caretakers for some old relative of his that he would leave his supposedly nice house in Austin to them. They'd get to live rent free at this house, it would be theirs outright when he dies, and they'd be set.



    So they sell their house, move to Austin where they don't have jobs and move in with this guy. And it's absolute chaos. Guy is constantly watching porn on the living room tv with their toddler around, doing inappropriate old guy stuff, telling them what they can and cannot do in the house and when they can come and go. It's a freaking nightmare.



    They end up leaving the house, and getting their own place. They also eventually moved to another state for a few years and came back. They've never been able to buy another house since housing prices have gone way up and they didn't have enough equity on their other house that they sold, so they've been bouncing from [bad] apartment to [bad] apartment ever since.

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    btaglln
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well ... I'm sorry but it seems like they didn't really know the guy so it was a dangerous decision

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    #29

    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Being passive and just letting everything happen to him.

    He wasn't sure if he wanted kids or not, but his girlfriend did, so they had sex without condoms. She got pregnant, with **twins**. He looks absolutely miserable.

    Similar things happened to him involving housing. His family convinced him to put the parent's mortgage in his name. Things got messy.

    Don't just let things happen to you.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make A buddy that live with me for a while got a car he couldn’t afford because he was obsessed with image. Stopped making payments, tried to part out the car and report as stolen since he had the bright idea that would bring more money than just giving it back to the bank. Then got into check fraud, which landed him in jail. Been in and out of the system ever since, from stories I hear.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Taking out unfathomable loans for their business on top of taking out unfathomable loans out for a wedding.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make My friend failed psych evals to join the Army, once he got around that exception he was kicked out within a year. He robbed the corner store less than a mile from his house. He was in full SWAT gear with a tactical mask. Everyone knew exactly who it was, there were 8 calls to Crime Stoppers identifying him. He was arrested within 3 hours of the crime with the still loaded pistol in his car. If he had used a fake gun, or an unloaded pistol he would have gotten 1/2 or 1/4 the prison sentence. He went from being in the ARMY to prison in less than a month.

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    Vorknkx
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No wonder he failed that psych eval. It's good to know these things actually work.

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    I have a cheapskate uncle that spent his life saving into a junk bond, compounding the interest, putting all his income in and living like an absolute beggar, even as he became a millionaire. You might be thinking to yourself "nothing wrong with frugality". No it is more than that, he used to come to my parent's house, spend the entire day eating our food, and not leaving before my mother packed him more food for the week for free(my mom's fault for not setting harder boundaries too).

    Anyway after all that, the sum hit 1.2 mill or so and then the junk bond went bust, and he lost all his money at 70 years of age. The man was making around 10k a month at the height of it, and spending at most 300$ a month.

    Remember to invest in your relationships and your goodwill folks!

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Friend worked hard to gain the credentials to advance his career to his goals. It took four months for him to get busted having an affair with a subordinate and he lost all he worked for and ended up losing his license.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men, this is what happens when you let you “little brain” make stupid decisions for you.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make My brother was getting scouted by Northeastern colleges to play football after playing remarkably well in high school….

    He dropped out of high school 6 months before he graduated….

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    #36

    Retiring early (mid 50s) with not enough money saved up to last more than 20 years.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My father retired 10 years early and was determined to live off of $10,000 a year with his young wife. They moved at least 5 times in 10 years, including to the other side of the country. I have no idea what their situation is now.

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    A guy I grew up with got a $250,000 settlement from a car accident that resulted in his moms death. Kid was 19 when it happened. In ONE year he spent all of it. Constantly had 20 criminals staying in his house, got a lot of it stolen, spent a lot on drugs, bought a lawn business that went under because he hired his lazy criminal friends. Last time I saw him he looked homeless and was sitting outside the corner store by my moms house. He deserved every bit of it, a year before this happened he broke into my parents house and stole all my moms jewelry.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kennyb321 I'm so sorry about your mom's jewelry. Was she able to find any of it? Did he go to a p**n shop or did he just give to other's to sell/p**n? My heart hurts for your mom. I hope she gets if not all then most of it back. I know she had to of had some sentimental piece's that can never be replaced even if it was only $5.00. Bless her heart.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make Watched a friend make €1.2M from a crypto coin of a €2000 investment and holding it all the way down to €50.000 over a month time while rage gambling the last 50K on a casino

    He did however buy a baller gaming computer from it during the GPU crisis so he still ended up in profit from this trade, although he is now severely gambling addict and lost another +/- 50K trying to get it back this year.

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    Monday
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would have cashed out the moment the coin started dipping in value....I'd much rather lose "potential earnings" than lose my actual money.

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    When my grandmother died, my grandfather has about 15,000 dollars left over to live off of until he could no longer afford his house. My cousin heard that Grandpa had money, so he would ask Grandpa for “gas money” all the time, then go and blow it on drugs.

    Over the course of one year, he convinced granpa to give him 12,000 of the 15,000 that Grandpa had left. Once Grandpa realized what was going on, he stopped giving my cousin money, and because he could no longer pay his dealers, he got beat half to death and then dumped on the side of the road. If someone hadn’t found him in time, he might not be here anymore.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's not a grandpa problem, that's a cousin problem, taking advantage of old people

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    A family member is notoriously awful at financial decisions and is obsessed with get rich quick schemes. He's the best example of why rich parents should never, ever give a 20 year old kid everything he could want. His formative years taught him that money was easy come, easy go and he never learned the value of researching before you buy or saving money.

    He bought crypto miners AFTER cyphers changed and it only cost him far more money to run them than he could ever make off of them. He was given a condo and a house and sold both for less than he could have gotten had he been patient.

    After each property sale, he went on a spending spree, buying a side-by-side, a toy hauler, and all the toys to go in it.

    He once traded in 3 vehicles for one used vehicle, still financed $30k, and the engine s**t out within the first year he had it. He spent $25k on a 25 year old Hummer that needed everything in it replaced. It needed new tires, transmission before he could even drive it down the road. It likely cost him close to $40-50k before he traded it in on another terrible deal for a different used vehicle that also died in him within two years.

    He once bought 13 acres of land that turned out to be a literal swamp in protected marsh lands. He thought he was going to farm the land and be a homesteader despite having never worked on a farm. He scoured RedFin looking for homes with 10+ acres that were also $300k. He bought the first one that met both criteria despite family warning him against that property. He registered it as a homestead and in doing so painted himself into a corner real-estate wise because that state has a stipulation that grant money used for a down payment on a homestead could not be sold for 2-3 years after purchasing it. He hates working and kept getting fired, the house nearly went into foreclosure. Had to sell all the toys and the toy hauler to avoid foreclosure.

    I also need to add that he moved out there first and got an apartment so he and his wife could look for homes later. In less than a month, he bought the house without even consulting his wife who angrily cried when she saw the awful place for the first time. (Built I'm the 70's, NO UPDATES.) He told her they'd build additions onto the house, thinking they were only $10k to add a room. She has to pack up a 4 bedroom house and move cross country with two little kids while this a*****e bought the first swamp someone fleeced him into.

    His latest magic trick involved investing nearly $100,000 of his $300,000 inheritance in crypto a year ago. Big, astronomic oof. Poof, it disappeared. So did the free money from his family after the passing of his grandmother who doled out all of her wealth to her kids.

    Their family of 4 is currently living out of an RV. No idea what happened to the rest of the money, but I imagine it's gone.

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    35 People Share The Dumbest And Most Expensive Mistakes They've Seen Others Make I watched a wasted guy throw 2K on a single roulette number, lose it, withdraw 5K more, and put it on the same number and lose it and then stare at the table. All while on a cruise ship. Then I went and had an old fashioned and it was wonderful.

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    Chich
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm fortunate in that I never did understand the appeal of gambling.

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    Baby trapping a married man. Man moved his family to another country. Now a single mother with no child support.

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    #43

    My dad quit an $80,000 a year job in solidarity with his department after the department was dissolved and they were all given notice. My dad would have still had a job at that same salary but he felt loyal to his work family so he gave notice.

    So, my parents used up all their savings, lost their house and went into bankruptcy, I guess for the principle of the thing?

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Standing up for principles even if it affects others can take courage. Those protesting against hair-covering in Iran - protesting in some countries can be dangerous for your famimly. Where to draw the line? I hope life will find a way so your parents can live without worries, AND a clean conscience.

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    #44

    Hoarding. I have a friend who jammed her condo so full of useless s**t she bought and bought and bought. The pace is 1500 sq ft but she only has about 6 sq ft of space to live. It's frightening.

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    Little Wonder
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hoarding isn't really a decision people make, it's a recognised mental disorder than can be treated with time and patience.

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    #45

    Have a child with someone who fights them on their parenting style- also cheated on my friend who was 8 months pregnant. They just got married too.

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    #46

    Neglecting their health.

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