“AITA For Giving The Silent Treatment After My GF’s Son Spilled In My Car?”
Whether it’s your grandmother’s vase or a brand new bike, you will likely try to make sure that it stays unscathed. As you should; possessions might not be the most important thing in the world, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have to take good care of them.
For this redditor, it was a new car—the first big item he had bought for himself—that he wanted to keep in good condition. That’s why he wouldn’t let his girlfriend and her son bring drinks or food into the car. And that one time they did, it ended in them getting the silent treatment from the driver.
Many people have something they cherish, whether because of its monetary or sentimental value
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This guy bought a new car and said that there will be no food in the vehicle, but the rule didn’t take long to be broken
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Big purchases often require saving up
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Some purchases are not easy to make, especially when they call for quite a large lump sum – after months, years, or decades of hard work and saving up, it might be scary to spend it all at once. That might be one of the reasons why we tend to care so much—sometimes arguably even a little too much—about the items we invest our money in.
In such cases, when big purchases require some saving up to do, they understandably don’t happen too often. A YouGov survey carried out in November last year found that fewer than a quarter of consumers feel that they will be in a position to make a big purchase in the year 2024. Data found that in regards to believing they will be able to make such purchases, men seem to be more optimistic than their female counterparts.
Needless to say, saving money is typically easier said than done. Even if you manage to set aside a certain amount of money in the beginning of the month, chances are, by the end of that month, you might have to dive right into your savings account to survive until payday comes.
The level of how successful people are with saving money unsurprisingly differs from person to person. According to a 2023 survey, roughly half of respondents in the US had a relatively positive view of their capabilities to spend less than they make. Nearly as many people, though, said that they wouldn’t be able to cover their expenses for 90 days if they lost their income. (Less than a third—31%, to be exact—reported that they could cover their expenses for six months or more were such a scenario to happen.) Unfortunately, as much as 33% admitted to having no savings at all.
We sometimes use possessions to signal to ourselves, and others, who we want to be and where we want to belong
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It’s clear that the things people consider worth spending their hard-earned money on also differ with each person; while some would rather spend it on a gadget that will never leave the bounds of their kitchen, others might want to invest in something that is more visible for those around them, like a watch or an expensive phone. That’s because, according to the editor of the British Psychological Society’s Research Digest with a PhD in Cognitive Neuroscience, Christian Jarrett, our possessions become extensions of the self.
“We use them to signal to ourselves, and others, who we want to be and where we want to belong,” he wrote in a piece for the British Psychological Society. The expert suggested that our relationship with possessions tends to change as we age; and by the time we reach adulthood, “our things embody our sense of self-hood and identity still further, becoming external receptacles for our memories, relationships and travels.”
Be it a house, a car or something else, the significance of what they represent—family time and road trips respectively, for example—together with the work people put in to afford them, tend to result in the owners being quite cautious about them. Not only that; according to Jarrett, “As our belongings accumulate, becoming more infused with our identities, so their preciousness increases.” That’s why it might not be that surprising that some people take extra good care of their things, and they don’t want them soiled with food; especially when that’s exactly what they ask others not to do.
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The majority of them didn’t think the man was a jerk in the situation
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The dude isn't TA, neither is the 9 year old child, but the mother certainly is. If you have a kid, you're responsible for it - especially when it is in someone else's car, who's been clear about the rules inside of it. The mother shouldn't have bought her kid a slushy, simple as that, and you can't tell me she didn't at least have the knowledge that a nine year old could likely not drink the entire thing at once, or never fall asleep at the car. She's at fault for this 100%.
I came here to say exactly that. You are right, however, he should have not given in so it's partly on him. She was in the hurry, he wasn't, and when given the ultimatum of leaving them there or sucking it up eh... I would have left them there. She doesn't respect him or his property even a little so he should take this opportunity to see her for what she is and find someone more caring and respectful of his feelings.
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The GF is an entitled brat and teaching her son to be one too. No excuse for this, she had zero respect for him and his property and he was giving her and her son a free ride to her mums as well. Why was he cleaning it? Her son, her mess, she should have been cleaning it and offering to pay to get all the residue out as well. Note to all new car owners though, SCOTCHGUARD any fabric seating and all carpeting, it's saved me heaps of heartache.
The dude isn't TA, neither is the 9 year old child, but the mother certainly is. If you have a kid, you're responsible for it - especially when it is in someone else's car, who's been clear about the rules inside of it. The mother shouldn't have bought her kid a slushy, simple as that, and you can't tell me she didn't at least have the knowledge that a nine year old could likely not drink the entire thing at once, or never fall asleep at the car. She's at fault for this 100%.
I came here to say exactly that. You are right, however, he should have not given in so it's partly on him. She was in the hurry, he wasn't, and when given the ultimatum of leaving them there or sucking it up eh... I would have left them there. She doesn't respect him or his property even a little so he should take this opportunity to see her for what she is and find someone more caring and respectful of his feelings.
Load More Replies... The GF is an entitled brat and teaching her son to be one too. No excuse for this, she had zero respect for him and his property and he was giving her and her son a free ride to her mums as well. Why was he cleaning it? Her son, her mess, she should have been cleaning it and offering to pay to get all the residue out as well. Note to all new car owners though, SCOTCHGUARD any fabric seating and all carpeting, it's saved me heaps of heartache.
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