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When you feel pain in your body, you go to see a doctor, and when you feel pain in your soul, you should go and see a therapist. But still, to this day, in some societies, people seeing therapists are looked down upon and not everyone is ready to face that judgement. Usually emotional pain is easier to ignore than physical pain, so when comparing the two of them, going to a therapist doesn’t seem that necessary.
There are other reasons why one wouldn’t choose going to therapy, so for now, these people can use internet resources to better their lives. Twitter user @uhprome has done just that and asked people to share their therapists’ advice so she doesn’t have to go.
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People were gladly sharing the lessons they had learnt in therapy, mostly about self-love and just general happiness. So Bored Panda sifted through the thread and picked some advice that might be useful. But remember that this does not replace a licensed therapist and if you’re struggling, it is best to seek out professional help.
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The Twitter thread has almost 2k responses and more than 400k likes. Apparently, @uhprome asked a question that a lot of people wanted to know the answer to.
It could be that some people can’t afford to go to a therapist, they don’t have time because of work, or because they are afraid of judgement. Whatever the reason is, people on Twitter really appreciated this thread and that made it seen by even more people.
This isn’t the first time that advice from therapists has been discussed in a Twitter thread. In another article by Bored Panda, we made a list of tweets in which people shared their best received advice so that people could get free therapy in a way. Of course, all of these pieces of advice can’t replace a session with a real human that is trained in that field, but it’s better than nothing and maybe it can make you care more about yourself, feel better, or see some situations in a different light.
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Josy Bannon 3 years ago
Yes you feel like you want to die, but actually its not because you don't want to live at all but don't want THIS life, just can't see the difference clearly enough right now to change your life and let go things, like you said.
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A survey conducted by the American Psychiatric Association revealed that Gen Z were more likely to have received treatment or gone to therapy (37%) compared to Millennials (35%), Gen X’ers (26%), Baby Boomers (22%), and the Silent Generation (15%).
It could be that the modern world causes more stress to young adults, so that is why they are more likely to seek professional help, but also because awareness of mental issues has grown and people have started to understand that they are not to be ignored. Furthermore, shining more light on mental health has made going to therapy less stigmatized and judged.
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Hopefully this thread helped someone and they found some tips that will be useful. Sometimes all we need is just the right words at the right moment and our life can change.
Don't forget to upvote the advice that you thought was the best and if you have anything to add to this list, comment what principles you live by that make you a happier and healthier person.
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Computernaut 3 years ago
Well, it kind of depends on how one defines "worth". It can mean a lot of thing when applied to a person.
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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
I long ago forbid myself to use the following words for myself: "damaged" or "broken". No. Scarred, sure. PTSD, absolutely. But if I am here, and functioning? I'm actually doing pretty well. Also, not everyone heals the same rate, so .... don't try to fit into some paradigm of "should be". We're not all gonna react the same to identical experiences. Not even identical twins always do.
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Kirsten Kerkhof 3 years ago
Fake it till you make it. And enjoy it when you've made it. I've been a teacher for 20+ years > the first five-six years I was absolutely faking it. But there comes a moment (if you haven't given up) when you are proficient. And heck, that feels goooooood!
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Susan Green 3 years ago
It took me years to learn this just because I didn’t want to seem confrontational. This would result in letting bad feelings eat me up inside. I’m glad I finally learned how to properly express myself, it’s so much healthier.
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Arctic Fox Lover 3 years ago
Sometimes you can't just do stuff that makes you happy because you have so much work :')
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El Dee 3 years ago
I have had so much problem with this over the years. People refusing to respect my decision, being stalked and being flat out ignored by exes who wouldn't accept they were indeed an ex. It's a terrible position to find yourself in and it's like being unable to escape a prison. People can delude themselves that they didn't hear it (you ending things) you didn't mean it, you're just being dramatic, we can work on it - think of the kids or that you 'aren't well' The last one is made worse if you've ever had depression or other mental health issue. They will use it to ignore your feelings and gaslight you..
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D. Pitbull 3 years ago
To quote Frank Herbert (Dune): " I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
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El Dee 3 years ago
So true! I heard something like this lately. Like it's not your job (ie solely your responsibility) to make someone's life happy, nor them yours. We must make ourselves happy. NB I don't mean we shouldn't try to cheer someone up or support them I just mean we cannot be totally dependent on someone for our sole source of happiness..
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Biana Vacker 3 years ago
If you don't have a good relationship with yourself, you won't be happy in a relationship with someone else
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PurpleUnicorn 3 years ago
I've lost count of the number of times I've spoken up, just to he disregarded. Can't seem to shake that cycle at all.
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Commander OwO 3 years ago
If you are jealous of someone because they have something that you don't, remember that they feel happiness, sadness, anger, helplessness and everything else you feel too. 9 times put of 10 they are insecure too.
Bill Shamblin 3 years ago
Some of the best advice I was told, “Fun is not optional.” Sounded like insanity at the time — I didn’t think I deserved to have fun, let alone being alive. But over time it’s sunk in — whomever you are — you deserve to have joy in your life.
Benji Fleenor 3 years ago
My best advice my therapist gave me, always make your bed when you wake up. You start your day by completing something and it leads to you being able to keep that mindset.
Al Jones 3 years ago
It's also something small but positive to go back to, even if you end up having a day that wasn't so good.
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Al-Anon had the best advice. LOVE FROM A SAFE DISTANCE. We can't fix 'em. We can't change 'em. We can't be near 'em, either.
Kristy Nelson 3 years ago
Just because there are others who have been through worse, doesn't mean you haven't been through things too.
Logic and Reason 3 years ago
If you can; go to a therapist (obviously only if you think you need one). Online tips like this can be helpful but they’re not even close to replacing a trained professional.
Jo Davies 3 years ago
Record yourself, using a tape recorder or app on phone. Just like you were talking to someone. When your state of mind shifts, either good or bad, listen to it again. It helps clarify your feelings and as we sound different to ourselves, you are more willing to provide a solution.
Eagle Girl 2 years ago
Every sect offers free counseling, even if you are not of denomination.
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Lolabean 3 years ago
Best advice I was ever told by a therapist was "self care is not selfish". I.e. putting yourself first and looking after yourself isn't a selfish thing, it's a necessary thing. It's taken me a long time to get to grips with this one, and I still don't 100% do it all the time. But I'm no longer scared to look after me and I what I want in life. My own mantra for a while was "you can't have a baby if you're dead" - so I've always longed for a baby and family of my own (and I'm now just a few weeks from having my baby), but battled with suicidal thoughts in the past. That little reminder helped! I'm in a far better place in life now, in a healthier relationship, I know my worth, and my mental health has improved no end.
Fannie Rivet 3 years ago
Yesterday, I told my mother (who survived three cancers): "Stop telling yourself that what you went through isn't a big deal or isn't that bad because other people have it worse than you did. It is a big thing, and telling yourself it's not is not healthy. It was bad, it was terrible, and you're better now. You went through it and you survived."
Pagliaccio2 3 years ago
I dunno. Most of this "therapist advice" sounds just like the happy and meaningless phrases you find into those candies.
Commander OwO 3 years ago
If you are jealous of someone because they have something that you don't, remember that they feel happiness, sadness, anger, helplessness and everything else you feel too. 9 times put of 10 they are insecure too.
Bill Shamblin 3 years ago
Some of the best advice I was told, “Fun is not optional.” Sounded like insanity at the time — I didn’t think I deserved to have fun, let alone being alive. But over time it’s sunk in — whomever you are — you deserve to have joy in your life.
Benji Fleenor 3 years ago
My best advice my therapist gave me, always make your bed when you wake up. You start your day by completing something and it leads to you being able to keep that mindset.
Al Jones 3 years ago
It's also something small but positive to go back to, even if you end up having a day that wasn't so good.
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Al-Anon had the best advice. LOVE FROM A SAFE DISTANCE. We can't fix 'em. We can't change 'em. We can't be near 'em, either.
Kristy Nelson 3 years ago
Just because there are others who have been through worse, doesn't mean you haven't been through things too.
Logic and Reason 3 years ago
If you can; go to a therapist (obviously only if you think you need one). Online tips like this can be helpful but they’re not even close to replacing a trained professional.
Jo Davies 3 years ago
Record yourself, using a tape recorder or app on phone. Just like you were talking to someone. When your state of mind shifts, either good or bad, listen to it again. It helps clarify your feelings and as we sound different to ourselves, you are more willing to provide a solution.
Eagle Girl 2 years ago
Every sect offers free counseling, even if you are not of denomination.
Load More Replies... Lolabean 3 years ago
Best advice I was ever told by a therapist was "self care is not selfish". I.e. putting yourself first and looking after yourself isn't a selfish thing, it's a necessary thing. It's taken me a long time to get to grips with this one, and I still don't 100% do it all the time. But I'm no longer scared to look after me and I what I want in life. My own mantra for a while was "you can't have a baby if you're dead" - so I've always longed for a baby and family of my own (and I'm now just a few weeks from having my baby), but battled with suicidal thoughts in the past. That little reminder helped! I'm in a far better place in life now, in a healthier relationship, I know my worth, and my mental health has improved no end.
Fannie Rivet 3 years ago
Yesterday, I told my mother (who survived three cancers): "Stop telling yourself that what you went through isn't a big deal or isn't that bad because other people have it worse than you did. It is a big thing, and telling yourself it's not is not healthy. It was bad, it was terrible, and you're better now. You went through it and you survived."
Pagliaccio2 3 years ago
I dunno. Most of this "therapist advice" sounds just like the happy and meaningless phrases you find into those candies.
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